Can’t dance, and won’t do it

Biscuitsbrxh · 2024-11-28T02:46:45+00:00

Dancing is supposed to be about having fun. If you aren’t good at it and it’s not fun then yeah

PlainPeanutButter · 2024-11-28T05:27:42+00:00

I can’t dance.

People tell me “no one cares or is paying attention” but people literally single me out.

The other night I caught a chick trying to record me secretly twice. I only know because the flash came on and she ran away. Twice.

I told her “you’re mad creepy and I bet if I was recording you, you would have a big problem with it”

Embarrassing? Yeah. But at least I’m not the person recording people on the dance floor 😂😂

DungusIII · 2024-11-28T02:39:01+00:00

I've never understood how a man dances in clubs or at the bar. I just kind of like bounce up and down and sway my shoulders to the beat but I feel ridiculous haha. Plus you don't want to be the guy whipping out professional moves either.

OThinkingDungeons · 2024-11-28T05:43:44+00:00

Dancing is one of the manliest things a guy can do. How many activities can you do, where women approach YOU, want to spend time with you and press their bodies into yours willingly? I find it ridiculous that men who make fun of dancing, are the ones standing in a circle with other men, holding beers trying to be cool.

I couldn't dance but went to classes and suffered until I could (dance), not only will you meet many other women, but you'll build your confidence up around them.

LizzoBathwater · 2024-11-28T06:07:58+00:00

I didn’t know how to dance for the longest time, and i still danced and made out with plenty of girls in clubs. You’re not supposed to do anything crazy, it’s not dancing with the stars.

Just make eye contact or get her attention. Reach your hand towards her. If she takes it, raise her hand over her head and give her a spin. Then grab hands and step or groove on the spot to the 4 beat rhythm (99% of club music has a 1-2-3-4 beat). Then spin her around again as before, but only halfway, stopping when your behind her. Now you’re grinding. Don’t go crazy here, after a while spin her around to face you. By this point she is down to kiss very likely. Look into her eyes. If her eye contact is strong, you’re in. Go for the kiss.

Just don’t get too lost in the kissing to forget to get her number.

Longjumping_Act9758 · 2024-11-28T02:33:27+00:00

That's why I'm always chilling at the bar.

Perfect--Carpet · 2024-11-28T03:32:28+00:00

I am too self-conscious to dance lol. It's like a robot dancing

redspikedog · 2024-11-28T07:57:31+00:00

Dance the Donald Trump. It's funny.

theasianplayboy · 2024-11-28T03:18:53+00:00

Taking intro to hip hop so you understand rhythm and can look semi-cool and not out of place and then salsa to learn sexual escalation. No need to be an expert but it’s useful for isolation and sexual escalation.

Also women unconsciously judge your sexual ability by your rhythm and ability to dance.

HomelessMilkman · 2024-11-28T10:34:42+00:00

It's an exercise in 'getting out of your head'.

You don't 'lose value' because it's not contained in a vacuum. The self-consciousness, the hesitation, the judgment, comparison, etc. that you have for moving your body is the same you have when approaching, speaking, escalating and so on. It's indicative that you didn't have 'value' in the first place.

It's hard to believe that you're outgoing, expressive, fun and engaging but the 'line' where that stops is doing that through actions. It all merges together, it's all an 'expression of yourself' and again, it's more indicative of not feeling comfortable putting yourself out there.

BasuraBoiii · 2024-11-28T04:52:45+00:00

It ain’t that serious bro. Move your hips n shoulders like a boxer would. step to the beat w ur feet n do some joker shit w ur arms n hands n let ur head bop. It works for me. Don’t be a lame the best girls like to have fun n shake ass. Get out of your comfort zone you’re missing out

Constant-Activity621 · 2024-11-28T06:14:15+00:00

I read it somewhere that people are very conscious of other judgement have this issue. Just close your eyes and try in you bedroom for starting. You will see change immediately on how body moves without being stiff.

miyass_miyass · 2024-11-28T07:13:30+00:00

Dancing can be a lot of fun but being good at it isn't strictly necessary for success in night game and is largely irrelevant to day game. You're fine — just go out and commit to doing your approaches. If you can't approach yet do AA-beating exercises.

mentosbum · 2024-11-28T10:24:20+00:00

Since I can’t give a lot of advice on dancing for men, but I suggest being confident and having fun really. When I dance , I just forget about everything and dance! XD u can also take dancing class if ur interested. If u don’t want to, that’s absolutely fine!

Trip_seize · 2024-11-28T10:37:51+00:00

My aunt taught me to dance on a basic level when I was four years old. She knew...

martini-meow · 2024-11-29T01:01:11+00:00

Aside/related, dancing may be THE best way to boost mental health:

https://x.com/erikphoel/status/1760338273153568956

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2024-11-29T08:12:48+00:00

I can naturally dance because I was surrounded by people who could. Never trained just can do it.

RoseTinted64 · 2024-11-29T11:17:42+00:00

Take a dance class. Dance floor game has given me some of the best memories.

Foreverseeking47 · 2024-11-28T02:32:40+00:00

Ok don't then

TheRealJamesHoffa · 2024-11-28T09:24:26+00:00

Literally just stop giving a fuck and move to the beat. It doesn’t matter if you’re good or not, confidence is what attracts other people not dance skills. I’ve seen try hards on the dance floor and they’re either just way too bombastic and intimidating or girls can’t really keep up with them. They can scare the hoes away for lack of a better term. Like you can actually do stupid shit on the dance floor and people will fuck with it if you’re smiling and having a good time. Good music helps too.

I had a cute ass girl approach me and then kiss me just the other night for doing just this and I’m not even that good looking just an average guy, I work out but I’m also overweight. Like I’m telling you I’m used to people just ignoring me, especially really pretty women. It really caught me off guard tbh because I’m not someone who typically has a ton of success with girls, especially in clubs. It’s really not something I’m used to. I thought she was going for a hug at first, but she kinda leaned her head back and made it clear she wanted to kiss me instead of just a hug. So it’s not even like I had to go out of my way. Women are just attracted to good energy.

The key is I wasn’t paying attention to or giving a fuck about anyone else unless they were vibing with me. Had other guys come up and dance with me as well. She came outta nowhere and made up an excuse to talk to me first, probably after seeing me have a good time with other people. I think she was standing near me for a while with her friends so she must have been observing, but I wasn’t being creepy by looking at her and just standing around for mad long if that makes sense, like a lot of dudes do.

Title	Can’t dance, and won’t do it
Author	thai-rhone
Upvotes	30
Comments	56
Date	November 28, 2024 2:25 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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