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garlopf · 2022-08-13T20:08:36+00:00

If you are 21 and a girl that like guys then you don't need to flirt and attract men. Just go to a bar in an ok dress , sitt down and smile.

grindforthegold · 2022-08-13T20:11:25+00:00

download dating apps and just exist

1Peachman · 2022-08-13T20:26:14+00:00

Have hygiene. Dress in a manner that attracts people not that blatantly objectifies you. Smile to people. Be comforting but also do not be a pushover.

Puzzled_Nail_1962 · 2022-08-13T20:39:24+00:00

Not sure if serious, but you're good. If you're attractive and have a nice body, as you say, that's all you need. Sign up on a dating app or just go to a bar or club, you will be approached.

As for flirting, you'll pick it up, takes practice like everything.

imivani · 2022-08-13T23:36:13+00:00

Exist

Sure-Wish3240 · 2022-08-14T04:39:47+00:00

Men are clueless. They do not understand body language. If you wanna know a guy better, just ask If he has a girlfriend, and then inform him that you would like to know him better.

Girls understand body language, and call tell a guy wants her from miles away. Do not be nice to such guys, be honest. If you want him, enjoy the ride. If you dont want him, at the first opportunity, tell him so in direct terms.

When i was 21y old a girl kind of liked me. She had many chances to tell me so and never did. I would gladly date her, but never invited her out because i saw her as out of my league. Years later our friends told me she had a crush on me.

Many girls said no to my feelings or desires. I never felt bad about the ones that said no directly. I hold grudges on the ones that friendzoned me for months, or worst, went into dozens of "dates" without kissing and asking me to pay the dinner.

Life isnt fair and our hearts make It even worst. Just say what goes in your heart.

No-Mix6669 · 2022-08-14T03:09:35+00:00

While I do appreciate everyone letting me know that I can just get men because I’m attractive I was also hoping for a few tips on how to capture attention other than the basic winking, smiling, twirling my hair

Just wondering what can I do other than that

Hot_Experience5899 · 2022-08-14T02:03:27+00:00

I'll be your boyfriend right here right now, let's do it😁

inline6throwaway · 2022-08-14T02:33:07+00:00

If you're considered fairly attractive, then you don't have to really "make" guys come to you. For the guys that you want..... be particularly nice, friendly, and receptive to them

charmbean · 2022-08-14T01:38:58+00:00

May I have your photo firstly?

Fate-in-haze · 2022-08-13T18:45:46+00:00

I typically recommend good books to people who ask for dating advice because these days there are good ones out there, for men I usually recommend Models because its just that good, for women I would recommend The new rules of attraction by Arden Leigh.

Mysterious_Rain_6495 · 2022-08-14T05:11:56+00:00

Man smiling is important you be surprise how many girls don’t get approached because they seem like they have a attitude before you walk up on them

coinmaster_ · 2022-08-14T10:34:49+00:00

Don't worry, having 2 X chromosomes already puts you miles ahead

CometAzur42069 · 2022-08-14T00:48:32+00:00

Lol i feel for you. There wont be an issue attracting men, but you’ll have to learn how to filter and find the ones you want to be with

TheMrShmoove · 2022-08-14T05:58:14+00:00

You don’t have to do anything but hair and makeup. You’re the bug trap, the bugs will just come to you.

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-08-14T00:53:11+00:00

Talk about anything sexual

AqueousBeats · 2022-08-14T03:25:12+00:00

You don’t have to do anything lmao

Distinct_Face_5796 · 2022-08-14T05:07:26+00:00

I am right here if you are cute. Lol.

zapadz · 2022-08-13T21:24:53+00:00

Are you male or female?

learnbyrepetition · 2022-08-14T02:52:57+00:00

Honestly if you’re a 21 years old attractive woman, just wait and it’ll just happen.

CaptainBishopLBP · 2022-08-14T05:08:03+00:00

So, I'll say this. You want to seem approachable, but you also don't want to be approachable to 'everybody'. I think before worrying about attracting men, you need to figure out the type of man / relationship you'd want to have. Identify characteristics in your partner that are important to you. Once you have that, then it's a lot simpler to keep an eye out for those things when going through your day and interacting with members of the opposite sex. You don't have to worry about trying to hard flirting. Giving guys attention automatically makes us feel like you're interested and we have a chance.

kaygee_zero · 2022-08-14T07:39:46+00:00

Just say "Hi!".

liltoronto · 2022-08-14T09:11:31+00:00

Hey, I’d honestly suggest complimenting them on their outfit. You could just say “I like your shoes”. Its inviting them to escalate a conversation with you with out you “approaching them” :)

SalamanderNo3872 · 2022-08-14T12:17:29+00:00

If you are attractive men will approach you. I would say just ne nice and easy to talk to. Be approachable. I personally like a woman who is fun and outgoing and not full of herself. In a world full of mean people be kind and you will stand out.. kindness goes a long way.

If you are in a bar and a guy catches your eye smile and show your interested. Your a woman.. use your natural feminine ability.. Go places that men with common interests as you hang out.

CptHoytUdall · 2022-08-14T12:52:07+00:00

I'm going to assume you're wanting more than a casual hook up.

Attraction for men is initially ~90% visual. Looks play a huge role; thats just the way we are built (don't shoot the messenger). You need to you use your looks to project that you have your shit together; that there is something inside box besides the pretty wrapping on the outside.

You need to show you bring something to the relationship. You can't be one to expect a man to provide for everything, but only have sex to offer in return.

Show that you have your own life and hobbies; that you're not going to be a crazy psycho stalker.

Appropriate_Low_1988 · 2022-08-14T13:04:54+00:00

It’s not so much about attracting men for women, it’s about attracting the right man.

OP, do you feel confident? If so, that’s half the battle. As far as the rest, just have good hygiene and try to have a good flow for the conversation.

The rest should come naturally. I’m sorry if that’s not enough help.

TorTheGasman · 2022-08-14T13:13:08+00:00

Might have been mentioned here already, but check out Matthew Hussey's videos on YouTube. Lots of advice both on flirting and safe and healthy dating for women

thinker_952 · 2022-08-14T15:01:39+00:00

No need for that.......It doesn't even matter how you look or do you have communicational skills or not because this country is full of desperate guys and the will keep coming to you!!

V-Future · 2022-08-14T17:37:28+00:00

Just create sexual tension, don't judge him and stop trying to look like a saint.

epimpstyle · 2022-08-14T18:39:34+00:00

Nice troll :-)

WanyCaleb · 2022-08-15T07:17:05+00:00

but I’m considered fairly attractive and do have a nice body

Well, ok then. In that case, just be social with guys and interact with them. Wearing certain clothing help but otherwise, shouldn't be that hard for you. Just breath lol.

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