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Sokalb · 2021-10-28T03:02:08+00:00

Adding “need to be there for a friend that was dumped” to the list of excuses I’ve heard ✍️✍️✍️

green632965 · 2021-10-28T03:07:05+00:00

Ngl her excuse was bs. She probably got cold feet, nervous, or found something better to do.

Source: a guy whose date used the same excuse to leave our meet early

letsgetrandy · 2021-10-28T01:30:09+00:00

Your best bet is to chill the fuck out!

Reality is that she probably made up the story about her friend's breakup because she had other plans come up... but you're not in a relationship with this girl -- in fact you don't even know her! -- so it's perfectly normal.

Just continue to show interest, as she is doing, and make a date happen later.

ty2fly69 · 2021-10-28T01:18:01+00:00

If you think she has low interest then she probably does. Put yourself in her shoes. A girl is trying so hard to hang out with you. You know you could have her. You’re probably not very interested or attracted in to that girl anymore. Instead you want the one you know would be a challenge. That is why you are attracted to this girl, and why she probably is not attracted to you. You can still flip this around though it’s never over

Keanuisawesome69 · 2021-10-28T06:11:14+00:00

Chad called her over lol

savedtaway · 2021-10-28T06:39:30+00:00

half of these replies are horrible lol. also, please stop obsessing over a stranger. just wait until she asks you to do something, or just tell her that since she canceled, she has to plan going out next. if she doesn't ask u to do anything in a month time then u have ur answer lol

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-10-28T02:33:25+00:00

STOP TEXTING WITH WOMEN FOR HOURS, DAYS AND WEEKS. REPEAT THIS TO YOURSELF DAILY:

I MUST NOT TEXT

TEXTING IS THE ATTRACTION KILLER

TEXTING IS THE LITTLE DEATH THAT BRINGS TOTAL BOREDOM

I WILL FACE THE UNANSWERED TEXT

I WILL READ IT AND LEAVE IT ON READ UNTIL THE URGE TO REPLY HAS PASSED THROUGH ME AND OVER ME

AND WHEN IT HAS PASSED, I WILL TURN MY PHONE OFF

WHEN THE URGE HAS GONE, I WILL GO OUT AND HAVE AN INTERESTING LIFE

nofapHER0 · 2021-10-28T06:21:06+00:00

I feel like you’re too invested. You shouldn’t even be making this post. Just give less fucks and talk to some other girls. She’s not gonna stop talking to others for you either.

burncushlikewood · 2021-10-28T05:08:56+00:00

Don't you just hate flakey women? on to the next one partner, don't force it, don't get oneitis, she'll be begging you to come back when you meet a new girl, abundance mentality, when I hooked up with girls I just hit and quit, unless you find a special woman then you start a relationship

sonofsonofsailor · 2021-10-28T06:26:34+00:00

Lol This literally just happened to me except she said her good friend had lost a friend today so she had to be there for her and she asked for a rain check.

I said no worries and told her to just let me know when she wants to reschedule.

Girls can be flakes and it's annoying, but it is what it is. I think the only thing left to do is to stop giving her attention. She was the one who cancelled so she needs to make an effort to reschedule.

alaxoskl4 · 2021-10-28T07:05:08+00:00

Try to not see her snapchats and you'll be surprised how she'll react when she's not getting the attention that she needs from you. If she have others (for sure), she'll not reach you, otherwise this girl will take you out, I wouldn't take her tho.

Edit: "her best friend just got DUMPED by her boyfriend and needed to cancel to be there for her best friend." That's BS. You shouldn't have tried to reschedule the appointment, it was her who canceled, not you. She should have reschedule.

affinitypaw · 2021-10-28T03:59:20+00:00

https://youtu.be/tvpDLpCf1jU

Read your post and replies. I feel you'd benefit from this video.

It kinds ends at the 19 minute mark. Feel free to listen to it while walking at 1.5x speed or some such

tldr abandonment issues

the-dan-man · 2021-10-28T09:10:35+00:00

Women are flaky as fuck these days for dates. I've had several bail on me lately. Such a waste of time setting them up. Frustrating really. I wish they wouldn't waste my time.

Neverendinglove1986 · 2021-10-28T03:43:17+00:00

Ghost

Narcan9 · 2021-10-28T05:53:36+00:00

You shouldn't say "that's ok we can reschedule". You should say something like "that's rude" or "that's not cool".

Erase or block her snapchat so she can't keep simping you with stupid shit.

Dbest9 · 2021-10-28T06:05:52+00:00

Be bold and call her. Phone her mate. Talk talk and ask her out on something simple and fun without any pressure

Sewage2003 · 2021-10-28T04:05:57+00:00

Snapchat photos of you out with other people including attractive women. Be doing fun things like going to sporting events, concerts, art openings, whatever you can afford and is in your location.

Then let’s see who needs to be there for someone on a night you have a date scheduled.

the_root_of_all_evol · 2021-10-28T06:59:00+00:00

Give her another opportunity to hang out with you, the excuse might be genuine or covering for a reason that’s more embarrassing. Ask her one more time in my (humble) female opinion.

SandtheB · 2021-10-28T05:44:13+00:00

If she said yes then you can probably get another yes at a later time. As for this case, start to pull away and live your life, talk to other girls, and stop thinking about her so much. You can still flurt with her over text you just should do it about 50% - 20% as much as you did before, and spend all that other time on your hobbies or with your friends or talking to other girls.

FaithInStrangers94 · 2021-10-28T06:12:12+00:00

Have you tried turning her off an on again?

OmarCartera · 2021-10-28T07:25:09+00:00

ghosting is for animals, never do this shit

gucciwillis · 2021-10-28T07:25:35+00:00

Hm snapchat game is a whole different thing. I’m young so i know it well but basically you need to talk to tons of girls at the same time and sometimes it’s gonna be face pics but then it ends up that you’re both bored on the same night and you can have a shag. It’s just about patience

doomer_692001 · 2021-10-28T07:43:16+00:00

Say this : if you don't show up, then you're not going to hear from me again. Value yourself mAh brothah

Chrisanova_NY · 2021-10-28T08:37:06+00:00

You're getting strung along.

There's ultimately some resource value you have to her -- free attention, food, booze, clothes, car rides, etc...

MOVE ON.

No_Acanthisitta5052 · 2021-10-28T08:52:15+00:00

Did you text her too much? Probably.

theyeetingbro · 2021-10-28T09:12:10+00:00

Yoo build a bit more connection, get flirty and tease her! You may not even need to take her to an actual date or whatever you had planned. After you feel she's replying positively and there is good sexual tension you can escalate straight away and be like let's go for a drive tonight/ tomorrow whatever.

For someone who's showing low-key interest, it just takes a bit of time to get them used to you and open up. Then you ask more questions about her then redirect the conversation towards sex in a playful, teasing manner. Of course open up about yourself too.

jakeperalta11 · 2021-10-28T09:28:17+00:00

The funny thing is she still Snapchat’s me selfies all day (mirror selfies, casual selfies).

keep up with the streaks huh

TheStrouseShow · 2021-10-28T09:33:19+00:00

Sorry man, this was an excuse. Move on. I can’t think of any one of my closest girlfriends that have been dumped that wanted or expected me to drop my plans to “be there for them”.

Let’s say I had a date that night, I would say to my dumped friend: “hey babe, I’m so so sorry. How about I come over tomorrow and we -insert some feel better plan here-“

Low_Fondant9911 · 2021-10-28T09:44:52+00:00

You realize she can snap you and other people, correct? Not to be an ass, man. She is not interested and unless you either get way more handsome or learn how to charm tf out of her, then it is time to move on.

Kinkyfxcker · 2021-10-28T10:06:47+00:00

With my experience, if she wanted to continue talking to you and make something out of it, she would habe recommended a second option like “ hey sorry my best friend needs me, but if you are free nex friday at 8 pm I would love to go on a date and grab dinner with you, sorry I couldn’t make it today” something like that that shows she wants more out of it, tbh I would move on and talk to other women. She MAY be keeping you as a second option or last resort.

TheKillerNut · 2021-10-28T10:07:49+00:00

Make new plans if she cancels again then ghost her. No point in talking to her after that. You need to determine if she even wants a relationship now if you haven't already. Good luck.

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