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Speedsloth123 · 2021-07-22T00:08:48+00:00

It's not that indifference is attractive, it's that desperation is unattractive. Big distinction.

ImeanNoHarm521 · 2021-07-21T17:50:28+00:00

In short, being real gets you laid.

Dontfeedthelocals · 2021-07-21T17:59:04+00:00

don't get "being okay" and "indifference" confused with being condescending and stuck up, though.

there's a huge difference between being respectful of a girl's boundaries and looking at her like she's below you.

unless she's already invested and has a history with a guy, a woman's emotional intuition is too high to get caught up in any immature games a guy might play to pretend like he's not interested in an attempt to attract her.

YamammyX · 2021-07-22T01:24:04+00:00

i mean tbf, taking it from the woman's perspective, how annoying would it be if you had to deal with the fact that some dude's gonna have an emotional breakdown or go psycho if you don't feel the same way? Not to mention there's nothing more annoying to me than people not being clear with their intentions in ANY relationship. This is why those fake videos baiting gold diggers are so popular. Nice guys acting nice for sex and not just to be nice is basically the guy equivalent of a gold digger acting nice just to get a hold of someone's money.

The most progress I ever made in learning seduction is when I just made it a goal to interact with a 5 or so girls everyday while being perfectly clear that I was there to meet a hookup partner/FWB. After a while you stop caring if each individual interaction goes well because you're interacting with new girls everyday. Tbh I also stopped caring as much when I treated each interaction as an opportunity to learn and get better at interactions.

Mq200 · 2021-07-21T15:24:27+00:00

Height, jaw, nice eyes and being eloquent and playful comes pretty close though.

DivorcedConfused · 2021-07-21T22:18:06+00:00

This has actually been my strategy in dating post divorce and it has been amazing. I let the women I meet know that I am in no way ready for a relationship and that I can be a good friend, lover or both and that’s all. I don’t lie. I don’t get jealous. I don’t judge. I don’t put pressure. I have a great time with them. When on a date I give them my entire attention. Women open up to me about all kinds of things and I treat them well. I always take them out on dates (dinner, drinks, dancing, trips). I make sure that if we have sex that they leave satisfied and feeling sexy. Women often catch feelings but I hold steady and let them down easy and usually they come back for more.

plaze6288 · 2021-07-22T00:06:38+00:00

I totally agree. Some of my friends that are the biggest dicks get women but it's because they're radically honest like you said.

You never hear them say that they like something because they think it'll make them be cool or anything like that they're 100% who they are and confident in that at all times.

Women can read that and they 100% fuck with it

Smartdumbguy4 · 2021-07-21T13:46:21+00:00

Women are like cats. Try to pet them or give them too much attention they will bit you. Ignore them and they will rub up against you.

turdddit · 2021-07-22T00:53:06+00:00

Here is by far the best article ever written on Radical Honesty. It can change your life. I practice it 99.9% of the time.

https://www.esquire.com/news-politics/a26792/honesty0707/

No-Expression7100 · 2021-07-22T02:17:51+00:00

I personally don't think anything is more attractive than when you know your person truly just wants you and no one else. In the case where someone might try and dissuade them from you, they stand up for you with little to no temptation.

appleandpeanut · 2021-07-21T16:28:02+00:00

Those Chad skits are so gd funny

In real life, I’d never be interested in Chad but the radical honesty and confidence thing is totally right.

Be a radically real and genuine person, and that will be one wildly attractive trait

phillypiston · 2021-07-22T01:16:13+00:00

A friend's female ex was Ivy-league graduate, full-on feminist, had a passion for battered women, etc. The relationship was off and on for a 6+ years.

After the third or so breakup, he started being a little more distant, a more "take it or leave it" attitude. He wasn't mean but wasn't going to pursue her since things had "ended" before; Her attraction to him increased ten-fold. That is when I became a true-believer in the real nature of male-female relationships.

r3art · 2021-07-21T17:36:45+00:00

You basically redpilled yourself

Personal-Brain428 · 2021-07-22T09:53:44+00:00

So be direct

But yesterday everyone was taking shots at the guy who posted a field report with his direct openers and saying to go indirect and that you shouldn't show intent etc

This place changes it's tune everyday. It's so funny

But do you know why? It's The same reason 'coaches' all disagree on every single thing related to game. The reason? It doesn't fukking matter lol. If she thinks you're hot, everything will work. Direct, indirect, flirting, pushpull lines etc. And if she doesn't think you're hot, nothing will work

Armybert · 2021-07-22T00:00:06+00:00

This is not a documentary, it’s fiction and shouldn’t be mistaken for the truth

thelambofdeth · 2021-07-21T17:14:38+00:00

Don't watch SNL, it sucks

Dontfeedthelocals · 2021-07-21T23:25:23+00:00

I've been rereading Models and this is basically it. Non-needyness (indifference) and vulnerability (radical honesty)

burncushlikewood · 2021-07-22T01:58:16+00:00

The term Chad became popular in Chicago in 2013, but yea a Chad is an alpha male who gets girls, and alpha male is someone who is confident in their abilities that maintains an abundance mentality, this mindset women pick up on fast. Speaking of 2013 I made many mistakes in not capitalizing in the opportunities I had with the opposite sex, always take the bang cause that open door may close one day. Also an alpha male has many partners and realizes he has much to offer to the opposite sex, and absolutely dominates in life, whether work, school, sports etc. Get in the gym and work on your game, nothing is more of a turn for a woman than a preselected male, or a man who is wealthy

sadhak_x0 · 2021-07-22T07:16:39+00:00

The most successful men I've seen are dishonest with women. It's their confidence that makes you feel they're being themselves. They're not.

2021-07-22T00:04:30+00:00

This is fact

Far-Personality63 · 2021-07-21T18:44:00+00:00

Call me Chad!

HammertonMili · 2021-07-22T03:32:09+00:00

You know, beyond all these seduction posts and all, that is actually a very good stoic practice. Being okay with everything regardless of the outcome builds good calmer self as you take away the root of all suffering, your expectations

surfmobster · 2021-07-22T04:21:57+00:00

Makes sense most “nice guys” are not that nice.

iAM_A_NiceGuy · 2021-07-22T11:34:42+00:00

Indifference works while dating, try it in a relationship your girl will get a new ‘friend’.

thegreyone3000 · 2021-07-22T12:15:44+00:00

Hang on, tldr: so you’re saying you’ve gained a new insight based on fiction? 🤔

My argument: is SNL not fiction? It’s scripted isn’t it? Like other TV shows? I dunno I’ve never watched that garbage but yeah, what ever 🤷🏻‍♂️

fapsober · 2021-07-22T13:20:19+00:00

I think the right word for that is to be equanimous. Its something I adapted trough 4 years dedicated meditation and mindfulness. Im now in a new situation where I met new people and girls which I didnt do often in the past. But even with my inexperience, Im pretty chill and equanimous in the most situations. I approached the first girl since maybe 3 years a few days ago and Im very inexperienced with them, but there was just a slightly feeling of nervousness in my body, my mind was relaxed and in the moment, so the conversation flowed naturally and I was able to hold eye contact and a deep slow voice. Its was a very beautiful and profound experience to notice this.

There might me still a little thought here and there to resist something, but it sticks only for a few seconds or minutes. So if I was in a awkward moment, after one minute its just the past and not the reality anymore.

This showed me, that meditation is key for a happy life with less suffering. And you are not seeking validation from women anymore. its not that I dont want to have sex anymore, I want just to experience the flow between masculine and feminine energy with a girl I like. And if not, Im okay with it and still feeling good.

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