Hot waitress.

nevertextgoodnight · 2022-04-22T01:49:47+00:00

I'll share a story, take it how you will

I left my # on a napkin with the receipt

I was by myself when I dined, and just told her a little bit of why I was there after a crazy night (I was hung over if not still drunk)

I was the only person there at the time so her attention was pretty open

She texted me within the next couple hours after I left

EZ4U2H8 · 2022-04-22T09:25:48+00:00

I’ll say again what everyone else has said. Service workers like your waitress are literally paid to be nice to you. So many guys misinterpret this and hit on those women to the point it becomes downright annoying to them. Go hit on women in bars or clubs, y’know, places where they actually go to be hit on. Don’t corner some poor woman at her job where she cant get away from you or turn you down without feeling awkward/uncomfortable.

That said, if you really have to do it, try doing it in a subtle non-threatening way. Like leaving a simple message with your number on the receipt/cheque. If you dont hear anything back, then there’s your answer. Always remember she doesn’t owe you anything, and if she does reject you, leave it at that. Persistence isnt charming, its creepy and it’s stalker behaviour.

EagleEyeWaterBoy · 2022-04-22T01:56:22+00:00

nice try, Charlie!

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-04-22T01:26:39+00:00

You’re wasting your time. Her job is to be nice to customers. She gets hit on constantly to the point that it’s annoying.

neverknowwhatsnext · 2022-04-22T00:36:42+00:00

Don't. Be respectful. Just ask her if she would like to get some dessert or coffee, etc.

Too many try flirting with waitresses. Makes their job annoying.

They have to be nice to everyone to get tips.

Impressive_Sport_713 · 2022-04-22T00:43:20+00:00

Pretty sure you past 5 or so hot girls this week while out doing errands. If you can't hit on those you got no right hitting on service wokers paid to be nice to you. Where they can't run away from you

This has been answered too many times already

mrmaskfawkes · 2022-04-22T04:57:08+00:00

Okay former waiter here. Listen she is living off tips. You want her to practically blow you. Leave a high as shit tip say it's not a mistake then ask her if you can have her number. That is the way to get to 50%. Yes 50% chance of her considering you for a momment of getting her real number.. Waitresses literally will flirt, show off titty meat, smile, compliment you, we are hoes looking for a trick. Waitresses literally work in an industry required for being able to be nice to complete assholes. I can also say, don't date a waitress, lol.

Half of them have boyfriends, kids or as gay as a 2 dollar bill. Also tons of ex cons, baby daddies. All that. Resturants are a haven for drama and assholes. Trust me she maybe hot but unless she's in college making extra cash, run!. Trust me waiting tables is like being a pick up artist. You want more tables, alway look better than you should, be attractive (yes literally got better tips after going to the gym), be smooth as hell and if you fail? Pft wait 10 minutes you'll get another chance walking in the door. You aren't the seducer here. You're the mark.

Honest stuff from a former waiter. Good luck.

Maxoncillo · 2022-04-22T03:28:36+00:00

She is just doing her work. Maybe let a good tip and your number in a napkin if you're feeling adventurous, but yeh, no one wants to be dealing with shit while working.

ikarus_1242 · 2022-04-22T03:00:38+00:00

Ask her what her favorite meal is in the restaurant and order two. Then ask her when her next break is.

Pikappucinno · 2022-04-22T06:39:58+00:00

Ask her politely, let her know that she catches your eye and you want to know her genuinely. If she responds well, then mazeltov!, if not you should not be sad, the point is you shoot your shot. Don't listen to people telling you not to do it. Do it as simple as possible, the result will show itself. Nobody knows shit about anything or anyone.

ksmith11011 · 2022-04-22T10:08:14+00:00

My girlfriend insists that it’s ok for men to hit on service workers. She said she was frustrated with me that I never did because that’s how we met. She worked at a gas station right next to my work and she said she flirted with me every day but I never took the hint. I had the same thought as most of Reddit, she was paid to be nice to me.

Other friends who are women that work in service have also said they want men to ask them out while they’re working. I’ve always objected and they look at me like I’m crazy.

ghettygreensili · 2022-04-22T07:43:32+00:00

Dude, don't fucking hit on your waitress.

new-throwaway-2020 · 2022-04-22T12:55:40+00:00

I used to be interested in waitresses and want to flirt with them, but I gave up on that a while ago.

I stopped for several reasons. The biggest reason is the social awkwardness/negativity of it. On one side, so many people think it’s not a good idea. Look at how many people just here in the comments oppose it. On the other hand, the setting implies that at least a handful of people will be near, so talking to her in such a way could be awkward. She’s also just doing her job. By default, she’s not looking to be interested in someone there. Even in the 1 in 10 or 100 that is actually interested in the customer flirting with them, still a bit awkward because of the work setting.

This goes not just for waitresses but really just anyone working in general. Don’t flirt with working people/people you met at their place of work while you’re a customer.

Woujo · 2022-04-22T13:56:09+00:00

Dont bother people at work

2022-04-22T04:13:17+00:00

You don’t flirt when tips are on the line, unless you are trying to get a better tip. She is also probably so busy and tired that she’ll just get rid of your number

Shot-Passage-2544 · 2022-04-22T09:27:26+00:00

Just ask her out and take whatever response you get graciously.

You’re a human being. There’s nothing to be ashamed of in being interested in someone

Chi-Cam · 2022-04-22T04:48:28+00:00

Don’t listen to everyone telling you to not do it. For every failed attempt there is a success story. Let Reddit tell you, you can’t hit on women anywhere but clubs. As long as you understand that she doesn’t owe you anything, just be yourself and if the vibe is right, go for it. There is nothing wrong with taking a shot. This isn’t even just for the waitress, there are probably plenty of girls you’ll see around, shoot your shot at them too if you feel you can.

voodoo_popcorn · 2022-04-22T12:40:40+00:00

r/serverlife

SparklyNoodle · 2022-04-22T13:06:10+00:00

As a former waitress, there were a few times I was disappointed men DIDN’T leave me their number. If they would have left their number on the check with a fat tip, I would never have been mad about it. It removes the pressure of having to say yes or no on the spot, and puts the ball in her court to actually use the number.

Economy_Training_797 · 2022-04-22T18:11:35+00:00

There was a girl that worked at a local convenient store who I thought was hot.

She was nice to everyone, but I still gave her my number.

We have now been married for 3 years.

Automatic_Photo_9785 · 2022-04-22T19:45:58+00:00

I've worked at Hooters for 4 years, and even the single girls will come back and roast customer's who hit on them to us cooks. Very rarely does it actually work, you'd have to be positive she's hitting on you first.

twitch_tv_nonex495 · 2022-04-23T00:46:14+00:00

I have relationships with a girl who was working as barista in coffee house. She was so nice to me, but I thought she is just doing her work. I ve started to visit this coffee house like 1-3 times per week because I needed to take my younger brothers and sister to courses located near this house. And every time she was super nice to me, smiling a lot and was doing some special things she didnt do to anyone else by her own will. Some of that things I knew only few months later after we was already in relationships. For example: - she made custom tea for me with orange instead lemon - she applied her employer’s discounts to my order without even telling me(she secretly gave her meal to my small brother and sister).she told me about it only few years later, lol.

All that time I thought its just very good service. I ve started to feel positive energy towards me, and asked if she want to have a walk in town after work. That’s how its started.

I’ve practicing pickup for a year almost fulltime, when my relationships was on pause - got a lot of experience with different women.

And for me it doesnt matter where you see women. If you have right image, that fits this women, choose right resources and right actions - you can always pull girl to date.

Good image in general: - intriguing - safe - amusive/emotive - able to create positive sometimes negative emotions in other people - original - healty/sexy

The first thing is to create right image of yourself. After this use available resources and take right actions to move this girl to next step.

Create high interest in yourself from girl that having date with you > risk of losing her job

FishyBricky · 2022-04-22T11:29:11+00:00

If she likes you or thinks you’re cute, she will give you her number. Don’t ever ask out a waiter or bartender. They are working a terrible job already and getting hit on just makes it worse.

Thijs1239635 · 2022-04-22T08:03:37+00:00

No, from a guy who works in the restaurant industry. There literally paid to be nice.

unclesteve_12 · 2022-04-22T07:32:41+00:00

Literally.. just be super straight forward.

Go in for dinner again. Be sure to share name and be comfortable. Bust her balls and get her to laugh and be comfortable. Get her to wanna hang at the table a little longer.

Then. Not while she is going for the check.. because that’s what a pussy would do. while it’s at the height of when it’s vibing.. just say:

“I would love to take you to dinner... not here.”

Hold eye contact confidently. Not creepy.

Wait for her response. If it’s positive. Ask for her number. If it’s unsure - make fun of it.. aka, if she says, really?... say something like. “Well I was gonna ask the waiter over there, but he doesn’t have you’re hair” or .. shit. You get the point. Be in the moment and make a joke,.. because she is testing you.

If she responds negatively or has a boyfriend. Just be cool with it and tell her to stop muckin around and get back to work.

If you’re not willing to be outside of social norms, then you’re not ever going to get a girl in a spot that isn’t normal to get a girl.

This approach works generally - basically every situation.

It’s confident. Casual. And there is no downside. At all.

kona1160 · 2022-04-22T09:58:12+00:00

You don't, she is at work and has to be nice, it's not a fair environment. At most leave her your number

voodoo_popcorn · 2022-04-22T12:39:32+00:00

Even if tyou are attractive I'm working. It's my job to make you like me. I promise you, this will not work. We all hate this.

new-throwaway-2020 · 2022-04-22T12:57:49+00:00

It also seems like 90-99% of waitresses are already taken, so that’s another reason to stop. Even for that 1-10% that aren’t taken, you know damn well that they’re being hit on by other customers and even coworkers, so it’s not gonna happen

day_dreamer9711 · 2022-04-22T14:50:38+00:00

Grab her by the pussy

hagakurejunkie · 2022-04-22T20:43:31+00:00

She's a waitress, not a slave man. I was a bartender for years, trust me; plenty of waitresses met their boyfriends who came into the restaurant.

HOWEVER;

Just don't be a weirdo. Leave your number on the customer copy of the check with a "You're cute, call me sometime - (your name and number)"

If she's in, she'll text you, if she's not, she won't. Waitresses are pretty upfront and slightly more aggressive than non-service industry girls.

If you don't hear from her, don't return for at least a month and don't mention it again. She may have been involved in something that is on the tail end when you first gave her your number but it could be over a month later and if she sees you, she may reconsider if you're a chill normal guy.

Shanbaceball · 2022-04-22T16:05:46+00:00

Leave her alone. Shes just doing her job. Do you know how many guys make passes at hot girls everyday!

Dark_Nation88 · 2022-04-22T04:12:27+00:00

Yeah she has a lot of customers to attend who are probably thinking the same as you.

But, you might try leaving your number with a tip when you leave. Make sure to leave a note. Personally I would also enphasize on telling her that if she is not interested, that is cool and that you'll pretend that nothing happened. But if she called you, great! 😃👌

daring_innovator · 2022-04-22T05:45:48+00:00

You could if you want to but It’s gonna be selfish because again she’s at work. However you could negate that by tipping her good then shoot your shot sometimes they’ll hyu because of the audacity.

Suzuki56 · 2022-04-22T09:37:59+00:00

I've seen it work, not very often though. If you're gonna do it, just leave your number on the receipt and make sure you tip well (more than 20%).

Leon_The_Greek123 · 2022-04-22T10:07:41+00:00

I had a similar experience. I didn't leave my number but we had a nice vibe going when I ordered a steak with fries. Maybe next time.

MomsSpecialFriend · 2022-04-22T12:05:08+00:00

Leave your number. Don’t ask for hers it makes things awkward because you still want a tip. I give out a bad number because it makes me feel put on the spot, just leave the number behind please!

diegggs94 · 2022-04-22T12:43:47+00:00

Tip 25-30% or more if you do lol

poly_nerdy_panda · 2022-04-22T12:56:11+00:00

know how to get into high-end clubs maybe? so you can offer her that? I worked as a bartender forever ago... hot waitresses rarely get hit on by sober dudes, I think the only thing that really changed is instagram which might make it harder to connect with anyone

black_wadada · 2022-04-22T14:08:23+00:00

Currently in the same boat, only that she showed interest first, and we've been keeping in touch. She even invited me over to hers before my vacation came to an abrupt end You never know,sometimes things do go well

redditor4206903 · 2022-04-22T15:29:48+00:00

Give her a thousand dollar tip.

eviethegoddess · 2022-04-22T15:51:59+00:00

Every woman is different, but if I were waitressing and you wanted to hit on me I’d prefer you just leave your number on the receipt or napkin instead of flirting with me as I’m working - because that might make you uncomfortable. Leaving your number puts the ball in the woman’s court - if she’s interested she can text you, and then you all can flirt. Instead of her just putting up with it because she has to be nice at work.

freddymerckx · 2022-04-22T15:53:18+00:00

Do not.

lvl6charmander · 2022-04-22T18:56:24+00:00

The fact you say waitress and not server tells me you’ve never been in the industry. It’s her job to be nice.

putcoolusernamehere · 2022-04-22T19:35:08+00:00

I personally don't hit on service people or workers because it feels incongruent with abundance mentality. Why bother someone who's being paid to be nice to you and could be put into major awkward professional situations by your advances when you can go hit on millions of women not in that situation?

I also think media way over glorifies the idea of "picking up the cute barista." Why does a barista, who's not very developed in her career get to be the most desirable woman out there to men? What's she done to deserve that? Why don't they glorify attempting to date successful and more self actualized women? Service people are just the low hanging fruit desperate men go after because they're easy to access and they're being nice to get money.

That being said, if she's really your type, it wouldn't hurt to leave your number on the receipt and see where things goes. Just don't put her in an uncomfortable situation.

humptyone · 2022-04-22T20:24:26+00:00

Just dont be creepy. Dont do it when shes busy. Tip well. Remember, she is at work, and is out there busting her butt

Sandvicheater · 2022-04-22T22:07:06+00:00

Hit on her outside of work. That's the true test on whether or not she's just flirting with you for bigger tips or she's actually interested in you.

Title	Hot waitress.
Author	Different_Breath7502
Upvotes	91
Comments	77
Date	April 22, 2022 12:32 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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