How do i get sexual without being creepy/weird/offensive?

1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v · 2017-03-06T17:27:11+00:00

You just need to learn to flirt and physically escalate. Its easy.

Flirting

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C_dUqlMkFx8 TrippAdvice How to Flirt over TXT

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jmEcPPJMtH0 Tripp Advice Flirting – Verbally and Physically

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LP9zilOUGZ8 Tripp Advice How to Flirt with a Girl

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7c9FhfCtE7M Todd Valentine How to Flirt

Physically Escalating

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RLY2yVPh1fo TrippAdvice How to touch for the first time

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IoBDe8gr0VQ Tripp Advice How to touch a girl before you kiss her

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wa9j9ZcJGRw Tripp Advice How to go from talking to kissing

swissarm · 2017-03-06T23:13:31+00:00

If you're the world's greatest flirt, someone at some point in time will still call you creepy. You just need to accept it. Girls overuse that word all the time to lower your worth as a man. Often the difference between creepy and smooth is how direct you came across combined with how attracted she was to you from the start.

RagaTanha · 2017-03-06T19:39:08+00:00

Practice. You need to be a creepy weirdo for a while before you get a feel for where the line is.

mrlooolz · 2017-03-06T17:03:32+00:00

Women decide if she will sleep with yoi pretty quick. All you have to do is make a witty conversation. If you open communication, you are half way there. Then you flirt. A gentle touch on the arm. Make her laugh. Flirting will get her to reveal if she's interested.

Be Charming. Complement a specific thing. Any physical trait.

You have gorgeous brown eyes.

I bet you say that to all the girls.

This is a shit test. They want to see if you can handle your shit and stand your ground. You reply.

Yes i do, but you give me a reason to not forget you.

Just shows that you have been with other people and you are not scared.

It will automatically become sexual.

zen_light · 2017-03-06T19:07:01+00:00

regardless of what you do or say, some girls will find you creepy, unless you are so careful with what you say that you have the personality of a potato. And you do not want that. Thing is, there is some stuck up girl that would find even James Bond creepy. You cannot go around wishing everyone to like you all the time. You do your thing, say the jokes you want to say, because it is the way you say it, not what you actually say.

Saying something "creepy" or sexual with confidence is what the game is all about. Hold that gaze, don't you dare look away. speak slowly, take your time... you can talk about the weather and make it sexual if you speak slowly

Check this guy out. Sexual tension at its best https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5BHVl2Xnzvc

BaronVonNrx · 2017-03-06T21:10:14+00:00

Be attractive and confident. the other day I was on a business trip. I had been at a boring bar got drunk and was waiting for the light rail.

A girl across the tracks asked me how my night was. Well this got my attention she was probably a 6. Anyway, I told her I was drunk as fuck and that she has really nice tits.

I then walked across the tracks to her said she was super cute and started putting my hands on her.

She immediately invited me to smoke pot at her apartment. Simple as that. Be attractive and confident.

Big_TX · 2017-03-06T17:27:38+00:00

look up "physical escalation", "verbal escalation" and "push pull".

And apply advice for day game for the day and night game for night

tramplemestilsken · 2017-03-06T17:06:40+00:00

read some books on body language. It's all about escalation, and then backing off if she gives you negative responses. Creepiness is generally pursuing even after there is a clear lack of reciprocation. But simply striking up a conversation or asking someone to dance with you is not creepy, unless you keep pursuing or are a dick to people who reject you.

llamabro · 2017-03-07T05:49:38+00:00

Females call it creepy when an unattractive male flirts with them.

Therefore, it's nothing to care about.

EDIT: Spelling and grammar.

Paranoidexboyfriend · 2017-03-06T19:08:44+00:00

The difference between being sexual and being creepy is by being responsive and tuned in to her verbal and nonverbals cues (what you would call ioi's). You test the waters a bit with some flirtatious jokes and light touching and if she's into it turn up the heat a little. The main way dudes end up looking creepy is when they keep throwing sexual attention at a girl that has clearly shown she is not interested.

psyocal · 2017-03-06T20:09:37+00:00

Keep doing the club thing. It will come with practice. It's easier in more intimate/less loud settings.

Once you stop worrying about being creepy is the day you'll get it.

recyclablebanthas · 2017-03-07T04:05:54+00:00

I usually practice at clubs (some people dont recommend it).

Do what you like. If you like dancing, go to a club. If you don't, don't go there. There are plenty of other ways to meet girls.

Just don't mistake the club as a place where you strike up verbal conversations with girls. It's the place to practice all the indirect tools in your arsenal. Eye contact, facial expressions, dancing, body language, etc. Basically, verbal is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to social interactions so the club allows you to focus on a huge chunk of game without having to worry about something to say right away.

Ive never found my self to be flirting with a girl like really sexually.

What do you consider flirting?

What do you consider sexual?

I ask because people often have distorted and/or incorrect views of what this is. People often create unrealistic expectations for themselves about what they need to be and do, in order to flirt and "be sexual."

When really, it's not rocket science.

How do i spark up the sex part and start giving her thoughts and making her horny?

In a way, YOU don't. What you do is handle yourself. Build up your confidence. Handle yourself comfortably around her and in her space. Pay attention to her feedback, because all of this is a two-way conversation. It's not: Guy does something, girl reacts. It's a constant circle.

I dont want to come of as creepy though.

Then pay attention to the girl. The reason guys are thought of as creepy is because they push too hard without paying attention to the feedback the girls are giving. Or they don't push at all and then come out of nowhere and again, push too hard.

I think its a sticking point for me that i dont sexualise conversations...

NO. It's not a sticking point. This is one of the biggest myths among newbies that simply will not die at Seddit.

You. don't. need. to sexualize. conversations.

Can you? If you know what you're doing, sure. But it's far from necessary and it can increase the difficulty curve to introduce sexual topics to conversation before you've actually had sex. You can talk about sex all day, but if you can't comfortably escalate physically, then you're done.

Meanwhile, it's possible to physically escalate without bringing up anything even moderately sexual. Physical escalation is the point.

natephant · 2017-03-06T18:58:04+00:00

I find it's usually best if you say something perverted immediately. If you go from 'respectful' to all the sudden being sexual, that's when it usually comes off as creepy.

This is especially true for social media. I can't tell you the number of friend requests women send me after leaving some type of horrible comment on a mutual friends post.

bones_and_love · 2017-03-07T05:47:09+00:00

There's a whole bunch of mumbojumbo in here (IMO) about ignoring it, forging forward, following this advice, following that advice. This advice happens to work but for the wrong reasons. I'll get to what I mean by that after I explain the real fix.

It's not good news. There is no diet pill to make you lose that fat. The fix is hard work and continued experience. You have to be the person that can flirt in order to flirt. But wait, you also have to flirt to become the person that can flirt. It's the old conundrum, but at the crux of it, you have to truly be a certain person before it starts working, because all your subconscious behaviors [like body language], conscious decisions [like what you say, how you dress], etc. all combine together instantly when someone meets you to imply you are one person or another. And if you are behaving in a way that is different than the implication, people will feel uncomfortable and put off by you. Unfortunately, if you are not a flirt and are trying to flirt... you are stuck in between a rock and a hard place. You can either be who you are and never flirt with anyone or begin the process of learning to flirt while giving people some lightweight feelings that something is off since you are not being who you actually are. It'd be like a hobo trying to sell a multimillion dollar deal to investors. You've gotta be the business pro wearing the suit with the charisma to do that, not the guy wearing junky clothes and a missing tooth.

So most advice in this domain is practical in the sense that it happens to work eventually. Most of it is geared toward getting you to keep attempting until you actually learn and actually become who you want to be. You got all sorts of advice that promotes 1 thing: Continued trying and ignoring the failures. You got the number's game shit, the fake it till you make it shit, the it happens to everyone shit, the try these fixed routines until you develop your own sensibilities shit, the be confident shit (which is directly describing this situation, what they mean by be confident is be the person whose behavior is congruent with their look and that cannot be done by following advice. It has to be done by internal transformations of your own mindset and that feeding into how you carry yourself, dress yourself, and behave). The only real advice here is keep practicing and failing. Keep thinking on it and improving. Keep folding your new thoughts into your new image as you buy new clothes and express yourself differently. You have to actively participate in that transformation, and it will take time. It's not easy. It's like wanting big muscles. No two ways about it -- hit the fucking gym if you want do lose fat / get muscles. No diet pill. Similarly, talk to women and flirt if you want to learn to flirt, no secret unlocking combination exists. Yeah, there are steroids that can help in the muscle/fat analogy just like meth or cocaine can help you become more charismatic temporarily, but you need to develop these muscles in a sustainable way. Get to it, get working. Complaining is a good thing. It means you're already doing the right things by doing the wrong ones. It's like someone saying their muscles are sore and they still can't lift that much weight. You'll figure it out, gl.

AccMonkey · 2017-03-06T19:55:28+00:00

You don't. You have to use your humor without a filter to get a girl. And to get a girl you have to be rejected by 10 girls. But eleventh will love your humor.

Btw, I recently found out that humor is a sigh of good genes. Thats one reason why girls like men with good sense of humor.

2017-03-06T22:25:36+00:00

You escalate phisically.

2017-03-07T00:25:42+00:00

Women who frequent clubs must be part-time strippers or cam girls. Because majority I talk to that are dressed for the part are so jaded that you talk to them it's like they just got out of a 10-yr marriage with an abusive husband even though they are only 20-25. Maybe hang around venues where the women can go 5 or 10 minutes without talking about guys or penis

ronconcoca · 2017-03-07T02:26:29+00:00

Step one...

wadester007 · 2017-03-07T04:30:08+00:00

TryingGTG · 2017-03-07T06:57:59+00:00

60 years years of challenge has some really good stuff on this

2017-03-07T09:46:48+00:00

It's all about your intentions! If you approach her with the intention to bang her, then you're very likely to be perceived as creepy. If you approach with the intention of figuring out if you'd want to bang her, you'll likely fare much better. Neediness plays a big part. A needy guy is more likely to be perceived as creepy than a guy that just doesn't give a damn. You need to be honest to yourself in your intentions.

2017-03-07T12:46:20+00:00

You gotta have th balls to experiment. I've found that when being honest, bypassing any agenda to hook up, like "damn nice legs" is a good start. Or "dang you got that ass." But only if it's sincere cuz they know what they got going on and can tell if you're being real or not. Literally 100% of the time i was being honest I've gotten good reactions and 100% of the time I was trying to flatter them when I didn't truly believe what I was saying, it was awkward and I came off creepy.

GainzdalfTheWhey · 2017-03-07T13:35:03+00:00

Get attractive lol

Mouthpiece · 2017-03-07T14:03:24+00:00

What does "creepy" mean to you? And why do you think it's important to avoid it?

2017-03-07T15:17:23+00:00

Be good looking

locotx · 2017-03-07T02:06:49+00:00

It won't matter how you say it . . .if she's not into you, whatever you say dealing with sex will be creepy/weird/offensive.

"I wanna take you home and sex you up good you up for that?" if she doesn't find you attractive, then that's creepy.

"I wanna take you home and sex you up good you up for that?", if she does find you attractive, she'll blush, act shocked and smile.

Same phrase, same words . . . different outcomes based on her acceptance.

townofonett · 2017-03-06T22:14:04+00:00

be hot and tall

Title	How do i get sexual without being creepy/weird/offensive?
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