How should I manage multiple women?

KarmaKollectiv · 2024-10-17T05:08:44+00:00

3 is the magic number. Any more than that and it gets too hard to keep moving forward without messing up details and stories. Also keep a journal.

pitterpatter-96 · 2024-10-17T03:37:58+00:00

You can’t juggle 8 girls simultaneously. Especially if they find out.. it will hurt you long term. Learn how to screen for what you want. It’s a good problem to have. They want you to have options but if she sees your phone blowing up on a constant basis by 7 different girls it will hurt you more. Be honest, be vulnerable, and narrow it down lmao

corbyns_lawyer · 2024-10-17T04:15:09+00:00

Eight is just too many.
Ethically it should all be honest, but even if not, you will struggle to do this with a smaller number.
Don't tell any of them that "we're exclusive" and see the next few months (at most) as a whittling down process.

You can't realistically maintain a harem of 8, you are not some bronze age potentate.

You will have to cut it down by at least half, soon.

Otherwise you will lose them all in a spectacular bust up.

mkkpt · 2024-10-17T06:05:29+00:00

Yes, first world problems. It gets emotionally, physically and financially draining though. If you're young you can keep it up for a while, ~ 6 months before it feels more like "work." Gotta clock in and message girl #7, don't forget to message #4 for a date, #5 needs a check-in to ask her about her work presentation..."

I wrote notes about the women you're seeing in small pad that fits in a pocket. Check it multiple times a day. Check your chat history log that you research prior to seeing them or talking too deeply. E.g. one of the girls calls you, you keep the conversation general while you rapidly scroll through your chat history. Give yourself that ~20mins of research / remembering before you see her. You will need ~ 20mins after a date / meetup to write down a few things that happened, that you might want to remember for next time. "Favourite flowers are red roses."

Set reminders for tasks you need to do. Check your pad daily for tasks you need to assign. You'll need birthdays in there, major events, small things they say ("I love Singer XYZ" and you notice they're coming by). You'll need to add some to a calendar.

Make sure you have a calendar on days and dates you're seeing someone. It's bad if you double book. You can have two or three dates on a day, but expect it to be a bit frenetic. I found that I would be cancelling dates later on if things were getting hot and steamy. Or you're laying in bed cuddling and you're thinking "I gotta get ready again to see Girl 5, it's 20mins to drop her off, 20mins back, gotta shower, get ready, clean up a bit, girl 3 is 30mins away.... etc." You need to keep track of your time, you might have to be a bit ruthless sometimes. Downside is you're not as in the moment enjoying things. I'd recommend trying to stick to one girl a day. Roster of 4 girls is much more managable. You need to be regularly going out on dates with new girls to replace girls that are sub-par, flakey, or you're not that interested in.

I prefer to turn off notifications when you're out on a date. "ohhh is that one of your other girls?" It's not necessarily a bad thing, but just pulls things out of the moment a bit.

I was up front with everyone. "I like you, you're XYZ characteristics, I like XYZ things we have. I want to date you non-exclusively. You can see other guys, I can see other girls. We'll see how things go over the next two months and we'll make further plans from there. I'm happy to talk about things, my feelings or plans for you whenever you want, you can ask me any question and I'll be honest with you - even if you don't like it." Some girls were not interested, which is fine. It's not worth the drama of leading girls on. Honesty is the best policy and if you're coming with good intentions, fair, empathetic, she feels safe/good/comfortable around you, and you are 100% in the moment with her when are with her. It might feel a bit weird for some girls, it might be new for them, but they'll give it a go if you're being a good guy to her. Generally girls will not ask, but sometimes they do. Sometimes they ask about the other girls. I tell them as much information as they ask, don't ramble and tell them everything, just the specifics. Double check if they really want to know? "happy to tell you, do you really want to know?"

If you're dating multiple girls you have to have a strong frame. You can't be changing your personality to suit everyone, it's not possible. You run things by your rule book, you're fair and empathetic. You can't lie, or hide. You don't have the energy or memory to do that.

Ohhh memory. It's hard to recall what you've talked about with different girls. You would tell the same story to someone and mid-story "ohh shit, I've got her mixed up I already told her this story" and you got to transition out to something else haha. Be prepared for that.

Make sure you have condoms, lube, etc.

You need to generally keep on top of your personal hygiene, your room is clean, your clothes are good, etc.

It's a struggle to find time to have to yourself to be a well-rounded person. I found it a struggle to have hobbies for myself. You may have to schedule "days off" where it's no dates, just doing things for yourself, hanging out with friends and family. Your schedule is so full, you need to prioritise your physical and mental health.

There's a lot to do and you can do it. However it's a large undertaking and you need to be ready to be doing 110%. Expect some nights with little sleep, sore penis and you've still got to bring the magic and be fully in the moment. It's not glamorous or easy or makes you feel like "the man."

I found 4 girl roster the most manageable. You will generally prefer to talk to certain girls more than others. Some girls will flake. Keep the high quality girls around. You have to keep running the wheel, always going on dates, so set time aside for that. I don't think it's sustainable, as your life is geared towards your rotations and I found my mental and physical health would be sacrificed. I wasn't willing to make that sacrifice for too long.

FYI - If you find an amazing girl while running this, don't be afraid to drop the other girls and be exclusive. This should be serving you and them. You'll be a great guy to date and they are welcome to leave whenever they want. Amazing girls are rare and they deserve your full attention and efforts.

Practical-Macaroon38 · 2024-10-17T03:52:49+00:00

Don’t swallow more than you can chew or you’ll choke.

You do you but if you’re conflicted over how it’s affecting your time or work, then you need to cut back on some of these women.

Subtract 1 per week & go from there.

So for any eliminations, your first vote will be to obviously keep the ones that you find the most attractive & enjoy sex with the most.

After that, if you’re narrowing it down some more, then I’d consider eliminating the ones that seem the most emotionally needy.

So unless you enjoy having your phone being constantly blown up with random calls from the same girl (it gets boring very fast, trust me), I’d do them a favor & cut them loose.

In the beginning, things are great with these type of women, especially with the love-bombing (which can really stroke your ego) but eventually they’ll start becoming way too demanding & will seek commitment. That’s when you need to let it go.

Blitted_Master · 2024-10-17T03:59:09+00:00

Set up dates/meetups with all of them interested and see which one(s) you actually like and hit it off with. Go from there.

Electronic_d0cter · 2024-10-17T04:15:32+00:00

Are you trying to have relationships with all these women or just seeing where it goes?

I'd say pick 3, this is impossible to have time for if you live a good life and I can't imagine it's fun either

SithLordJediMaster · 2024-10-17T07:44:57+00:00

You should watch John Tucker Must Die.

They'll all team up. Put Estrogen in your protein powder before your basket ball game where you will start crying when the coach yells at you.

ovnf · 2024-10-17T09:11:10+00:00

Talk less. You will be more attractive and don’t mess up

jackothebast · 2024-10-17T08:18:53+00:00

Feed all the conversations into a chat bot and automate responses. Different bots for different girls. Put in your schedule and get it to set the dates up when you're free.

KarmicPlaneswalker · 2024-10-17T09:24:21+00:00

Spreadsheet.

Had a buddy in college do it exactly like that and had little to no issue keeping his schedules straight.

Historical-Case9201 · 2024-10-17T11:49:28+00:00

Too much, stick with juggling 3

Longjumping_Act9758 · 2024-10-17T06:18:49+00:00

Don't women do this all the time?

Dwerg1 · 2024-10-17T08:25:50+00:00

Sounds exhausting. If it's exhausting then what's the point? You should cut down to a number you can manage and actually enjoy without spending too much effort keeping things straight.

It's not a competition to have the most women simultaneously. I'm assuming since you managed to get 8 into your rotation at the same time you're pretty attractive and can easily get more. So if you keep 3 and one drops off it shouldn't be hard to find another to replace her if you want to continue to have 3 in your rotation.

Jealous-Respond107 · 2024-10-17T11:11:56+00:00

I have been in a similar situation, I'd go on the dates but be very open about what you are looking for ie not committal casual fun. Invariably not all the dates will go well or have enough of a spark so you can whittle down the list as such. Main thing is to be honest about your intentions and remember,more isn't necessarily better.

RichtheLionheart · 2024-10-17T16:25:23+00:00

Honestly, I’m pleasantly surprised that so many people in this Sub do not encourage the “player” lifestyle but rather encourage the confidence and game to get women, which will ultimately lead to a real relationship.

Juggling 8 women at the same time is stupid. Figure out which ones vibe with you the most and also show the most interest in you, and go out with them. You’ll be able to tell pretty quickly who you like the most after meeting them. If you can’t, then honestly that’s a you problem. I’ve been on too many dates and the amount of women I feel any sort of meaningful connection with is quite small. So if you’re feeling the vibes with 8 random girls, then I hate to say it but what you’re looking for in a woman is likely shallow because people with depth will not connect with everyone.

tacoman0077 · 2024-10-17T21:29:55+00:00

https://youtu.be/V9owHXPPe_Q?si=aZl7LRytI34AI03i

You’re welcome 😘

InstructionAbject763 · 2024-10-18T04:46:01+00:00

8?

Better wear a condom, get tested and move to a state where abortion is legal

Playful_Dot_537 · 2024-10-19T18:57:40+00:00

“Sir this is an Eagles song.”

luroot · 2024-10-17T05:00:47+00:00

Geez, how good-looking and tall are you, bruh?

MrParallelogramUser · 2024-10-17T10:34:54+00:00

It doesn’t sound to me like you really in ow what you want. And no, you are never going to be able to date 8 women at a time.

Sporty_guyy · 2024-10-17T10:59:58+00:00

Why are you juggling all of them 😂. Figure out from whom you can get what you want and narrow them down .

Title	How should I manage multiple women?
Author	UDAMAN123
Upvotes	11
Comments	35
Date	October 17, 2024 3:32 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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