How to impress a guy on first date?

Therocksays2020 · 2021-05-10T16:59:01+00:00

Just seem interested in him. Lots of eye contact. Had a girl grab my arm on a first date recently that was a huge turn on.

MrNobody___ · 2021-05-10T18:38:38+00:00

Be authentic.

Sometimes trying to impress the other person will backfire.

It's bad if you're answering everything with only one word.

NewTubeReview · 2021-05-10T17:58:30+00:00

Be a woman and turn your fucking phone off. Ask some questions about himself. It doesn't take much.

Alpha-Charlie-Romeo · 2021-05-10T19:34:01+00:00

Be a little bit straight forward and tell him that you're a bit awkward and apologise if you're not good at holding the conversation. It might help break the ice with him, but at the very least he won't think you're not interested just because the convo went dry.

Nervous giggle is cute. So that's fine.

Just be engaged. Think of questions to ask him about himself. Tell him about something you did recently that you found fun. Eye contact is important, I've been on countless dates where the woman spent all her time staring at her food, at other people, at her phone and so on. Basically they were looking everywhere but at me which really really sucked.

As for conversations, go into detail a lot when he asks you questions. Otherwise it'll make him feel like he's just quizzing you. So for example if he asks where you live, don't just tell him the name of the place; describe it. Mention something that it's famous for. Tell him your favourite spot there. Something you like about it, where you went to school and so on.

At the end of the date, if you enjoyed yourself. Tell him that. That'd be great.

Oh and avoid the phone.

lefthandedaf · 2021-05-10T18:12:59+00:00

I’ll be honest. Look as hot as possible is priority number one. It’s literally 80% of the equation. All remaining tips: eye contact, give a compliment to stroke his ego, laugh at his dumb jokes, and be sweet/nice. That would do it for me. Giggling is very cute btw!

donelgringo · 2021-05-10T18:45:54+00:00

Giggling isn't bad at all. If the guys into you he'll take it from there.

Jamesdoink · 2021-05-10T17:23:52+00:00

All good things come in time

VulturekingZ · 2021-05-10T22:50:18+00:00

Pay for the date

Medical_Reflection · 2021-05-10T17:47:45+00:00

Show him one of your skills. Eg. My ex was a really good hula hooper and I met her at a hoop jam in a park. Was impressed by her hooping skills and we hit it off.

xxslaying · 2021-05-10T19:10:58+00:00

Ig be really engaged in the conversation with body language and eye contact and wear something hot

gamedwarf24 · 2021-05-10T20:34:30+00:00

I like to remember an episode of Big Mouth, which I'm paraphrasing, "Just do what you like to do normally and bring them along." In the same sense of conversation, just talk about the things you like, for example Mortal Kombat action figures, and then ask him if he likes anything like that. People like to talk about themselves, so asking them questions, like how many siblings do they have, what do they aspire to be, do they have any cool vacation stories. You can google a million topics to bring up, but the best results will come from topics that appeal to you and your own heart. Basically, project yourself, and the right people will be attracted to it.

Bigdaddy_V1 · 2021-05-10T23:06:48+00:00

Ok I’m not here to judge u or give u instructions as what to do or not do, because u already know the answer. But I’ll suggest u work on urself and ur mindset if u feel as u stated above then there’s insecurities, these insecurities will stay with u even if u impress him later down the road he’ll feel them too and that’ll take a toll on ur relationship. So take care of urself deal with them insecurities

2021-05-10T23:38:40+00:00

All you have to do is care. Sounds like you’re already ready!

tastyscottchegg · 2021-05-10T18:21:06+00:00

Hey. I am by no means a dating expert but comments on here seem a little aggressive so hopefully I can help a little lol...

Try not to stress too much (I’m sure you’ve heard this a million times) but he probably feels exactly the same as you! Try and have fun, ask about his interests/what he does or try and get some fun stories out of him. If he’s polite/interested then I’m sure he’ll ask the same :) This should be more about whether he is right for you, rather than whether you are right for him

I often try and imagine how they’re feeling instead of focusing on how awkward/nervous I’m feeling, which does give me a bit of confidence and helps me forget how nervous I am.

Goes without saying but please don’t use your phone unless you absolutely have to, nothing worse than someone treating a phone like it’s more interesting than a face-to-face conversation

Hope this helps!

PM-ME-YOUR-STOMACH · 2021-05-14T23:39:39+00:00

Do your best to make it seem like you’re interested in HIM, and NOT what he can do for you. Basically make it seem like you love the fact you’re on a date with him instead of where the date is, how much it’s gonna cost, or any of that shit.

charlottehans · 2021-05-10T21:12:43+00:00

Sleep with him and be good at it.

Smile, be social, stand out, be attractive

X-Centric · 2021-05-10T20:59:30+00:00

How much do you want to impress him on this first date? You think you might be very compatible for a relationship? You could write a letter explaining how it feels to be around him or share time, but who knows, might scare him off if it's just the first date.

aerial_coitus · 2021-05-10T19:49:29+00:00

Be nice.

AmmoTuff182 · 2021-05-10T20:42:15+00:00

I always like when a girl asks questions about me. Makes me feel like they’re equally as interested. Also be pleasant, polite, and nice to be around and he’ll notice!!

Juliomorales6969 · 2021-05-10T21:41:20+00:00

Straight answer with no bullshit: just be yourself,talk, don't wait for him to talk, find common things to talk about, don't be coy and be straight up. I'd be happy in a date with a woman with all this.

rafr256 · 2021-05-10T22:04:35+00:00

Keep giggling! Guys like girls that laugh at everything. It’s cute and makes us feel funny

Placated_Venom · 2021-05-10T22:46:40+00:00

This is a big one, don't force him to start and lead all the conversations nothing kills a good mood more for a guy than feeling like he's talking to a person with the vocabulary and social skills of a brick wall.

Dragonian_Royalty963 · 2021-05-10T23:31:58+00:00

Initiate physical contact so he is comfortable doing it, reciprocate his energy and advances (if he isn’t being a total retard and is somewhat smooth about it) so he feels comfortable escalating, make him feel like he can trust you and that it is safe to be vulnerable, make him feel like you’re genuinely interested in him and are not judgemental, be sweet and affectionate, let him lead but help him if it seems like he’s struggling (reminders that you are comfortable with him and like his vibe), preen while making strong eye contact, reassure him when he seems hesitant, and be open and spontaneous. Most guys have a huge subconscious fear of being creepy or coming on too strong so we hold back. It’s usually not a lack of confidence but a worry of being labeled as something negative. If you do all of this you will have made a lasting impression because most girls are honestly kind of boring and immature expecting them guy to do all the work. Be a woman not a girl. Be the feminine compliment to his masculine energy. Make him feel like a man*** This is super key. He will remember how masculine he felt around you

Watercrown123 · 2021-05-11T00:03:17+00:00

Personally, my interest starts with whether or not a girl is attractive so that’s basically the lowest level bar to clear, but if he’s on a date with you chances are you cleared it.

Secondly I really need someone who’s intelligent and shows it... but that’s very much a me thing so your mileage may vary.

Try to be truly interested in anything he properly enjoys, like if he loves working on cars (and for the example let’s assume you don’t even if you do) then try to get him into a zone where he feels free to just rant on about cars for half an hour. That’ll really make him feel like you care because you didn’t just brush his interests off because they aren’t stereotypically girly or something and on top of that he was able to talk about something he loves with you.

Otherwise, like others have said, be as feminine as you can be. Truthfully us guys are going to have trouble identifying what that actually means but it really is true that a properly feminine girl who makes us feel like a man will win our hearts pretty quickly.

As a final other thing, touch is pretty important, especially these days when lots of men are paranoid about sexual assault allegations. If you initiate the touch then it’ll be way easier and potentially less stressful for him to touch you and for the chemistry to start.

SenorTonto · 2021-05-11T00:08:04+00:00

Just be able to hold a convo and show genuine interest in him with your questions and overall presence. Don't hold back. The rest is on him

Medicine_Adventurous · 2021-05-11T00:11:14+00:00

Be hot and as long as you’re not absurdly annoying then you can literally do or say whatever you want and men will worry about how to impress you

2021-05-11T04:41:08+00:00

Have a piece of paper in your pocket or on your phone with a few questions or just topics of conversations and if you feel awkward or you're running out of things to talk about just go to the toilet take some deep breathes and check what you have written. Chances are it will go smoothly and you won't even need it. Good luck 🥰 x

socozyinhere · 2021-05-11T07:00:42+00:00

Try to connect with what’s import to his heart. Works for men and women.

soldierchrome · 2021-05-11T12:13:18+00:00

Be original, that’s the most attractive thing ever.

Aliebaba99 · 2021-05-11T13:00:57+00:00

Laughing at jokes and just asking questions and answering his questions gets you a long way. Maybe 'accidently' grab his arm or hand as someone pointed out already too.

_JasonX_ · 2021-05-11T15:36:18+00:00

Well, you a woman want to put some effort in? You're an absolute legend

SnooHesitations4922 · 2021-05-11T19:10:24+00:00

You are a woman, therefore u are allowed to be awkward and giggle for no reason, it dont turn us off or anything, in fact it's the opposite, these to us are a big signal u are interested. Compliments work really well on men too, in fact we always have to fish for more😅 Use the word "sexy" and we will start striking different poses to see if we are even sexier🤣

snatchedmuffintop · 2021-05-11T19:51:35+00:00

Why don’t you focus on being yourself and deciding if he is the right fit for you. Things will click naturally. Dating should be fun.

Sunshine_4_Pickles · 2021-05-12T00:21:51+00:00

You want a relationship with a man? Act like a woman.

Conversation tips for women:

Show that you can add to his life by making the conversation fun for him. Be playful if you can.
Avoid one-word answers like the plague. Give him several sentence responses so he has choices in how to respond.
Don't talk over him. Stop talking if he interrupts you.
Show interest and emotion in the conversation.

More dating tips for awkward women:

Show that you're happy to let him be the man.
Go along with his ideas and don't act dominant.
Many men are likely afraid to touch you, help them out and initiate innocent touching when you feel the time is right. That means touch his forearms or shoulders to start with.
Don't stare into his eyes until there's strong sexual tension, it's seen as a challenge. If you lock eyes with him, demure after a second or two. No longer applies once you're horny enough.
Smile and laugh.

Remember, men don't want you to act like a man. Throw away 100% of the dating advice from the media or friends. If you're fit, fun, cooperative, and submissive, that's enough.

alone_forgotten_dead · 2021-05-12T20:04:42+00:00

Be yourself. Really.

Title	How to impress a guy on first date?
Author	charlottehans
Upvotes	34
Comments	59
Date	May 10, 2021 4:30 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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