How to purposefully date for sex?

norwegiandoggo · 2025-02-14T18:10:05+00:00

Actions speak louder than words. It’s best to just try to have sex with them.

If you invite them home on a first date and physically escalate: they will understand that you want sex. Women aren't dumb.

The problem with making this an overt verbal discussion before reaching the bedroom is that it can feel over-committal. Women always want a way out in case they feel turned off or unsafe. That's why asking for casual sex, or making that known verbally early on, can lead to cold feet. They don't want to agree to sex prematurely. They don't know if they can trust you yet. They don't know what you smell like. They don't know if you brought condoms. Etc. Etc.

You can have the sex-discussion once you're already in the bedroom making out. Then you can slow it down, talk about what you're looking for and so on.

TripleDigitNomad · 2025-02-14T21:09:16+00:00

You gotta give off fuckboy vibes. Be overly flirtatious via text and in person. Invite her over to your place to share some wine instead of going out to a restaurant or something.

Glacier_Sama · 2025-02-14T17:30:14+00:00

In my opinion, the best way is to be a 'boyfriend material' fuckboy.

The guy who just wants to fuck, but makes women feel so good in his presence that they will let him use them for sex.

I like to take them on a date, be very flirtatious, also do some 'gentleman' things, but also be forward by touching waist, ass, breasts and kissing while still out on the date.

Be very cool, like a guy who they can see themselves in a relationship with, but also sprinkle in the fuckboy. "I'm a liiiiitle bit of a player😉". "I have to be honest, I like to date lots of girls and sometimes have multiple girlfriends" "Let's go back to my/your place... Why?.. So I can fuck the shit out of you duh😉"

All of this while opening doors, paying for first date, talking very little about myself and allowing her to talk about herself the entire time while asking deeper questions to get her to tell me even her darkest secrets.

Take her home and Fuck her twice and cuddle and then you got a fuck buddy.

Theres also the easier route of skipping the romantics, getting on tinder and straight up telling girls to come over TONIGHT. Tell them you're gonna fuck their brains out on your couch.

Same thing with cold approach. Flirt, then same day date, take her home, fuck. Call her the next day and tell her to come over again.

You can be straight up and tell them you want to fuck, but I like to do this and make it a little more fun by being an emotionally engaging fuck buddy. They will try to push for relationships, but just remind them that you're a reallllly bad guy and a player and you WILL cheat so let's just enjoy this for now😊

him_dunkin · 2025-02-14T18:39:38+00:00

Just keep it normal.. a date every other week on weekdays try to pull up with liquor or substances and just vibe. Women love having casual sex with guys who don’t make it about sex to obvious and can be cool about it: women are a lot cooler about things than we think

Electrical_Formal755 · 2025-02-14T19:15:01+00:00

https://mindful-masculinity.org/2024/06/11/9-step-first-date-same-day-lay-guide-planning-texting-and-escalating/

wrote a same day lay guide- but it has limitations as a lot of women don't want sex on the first date and sometimes this can lead to lmr and flaking so be aware of that- certain women do like f boys others do not so it really varies on the type of women you date as a lot of women have different ideologies and opinions regarding sex.

Maple_Mercury_Men · 2025-02-15T03:33:19+00:00

A better question would be, why do you need purpose, to have sex? All your ancestors for half a million years had sex without having conscious thought, or a sense of intention, so you should be able to do the same. Leave your brain at home, and let your body go out and approach women. Hopefully some women you come across have also left their brains at home, and are doing what you are doing.

Crate224 · 2025-02-14T17:25:26+00:00

Dawg that’s not how it works lmao. You have to play the game to get what you want at the end of the day. Seduction is making people fall into your spell into getting what you want. If you act in a way that shows you only want sex from them it may never work because seduction fails when the victim catches on to your plans and tactics. I’m 23 years old and I’ve gotten the most sex from girls when I did not let them know that was my only objective. The girls who knew it was my objective did not give in. Ive had girls begging to have sex with me because of my mixed signals and uncertainty of what I wanted with them and it would frustrate them to where they would throw themselves at me. I was 20 fucking 2 girls back to back in the same day lmao and none of them knew my intentions right off the bat. What had happened is that I played too much into my intentions when I got what I wanted and they got mad because they started to want a relationship instead of just being fuck buddies.

7inchesonastik · 2025-02-15T01:24:13+00:00

If your goal is to have both quality and quantity when it comes to having sex with women, the most effective approach is to feign interest in a long-term relationship. This is the classic f*ckboy strategy, and it works remarkably well. The issue, however, is that it’s incredibly unethical, and I can’t understand how anyone could consistently do this and still feel good about themselves.

SuperCat2023 · 2025-02-14T17:37:07+00:00

Just say you're looking for something casual and that will do the trick, for a short period at least..

TractorLoving · 2025-02-14T23:39:45+00:00

What you must do, is flail around on the floor like a fish on the floor of a fishing boat. This high intensity movement will surely attract many women who are wanting sexual contact

bmcapers · 2025-02-15T10:48:21+00:00

One should be fun and openly communicate intention. It may take time to build this, but ultimately it’s about being clear with what you want and being respectful at the same time - in a fun and trusting way - because you want the same level of respect back.

UnwardedBush · 2025-02-15T22:22:34+00:00

Mode one.

Virgotalent68 · 2025-02-20T14:47:03+00:00

Save your money. Get on a plane and fly to Cartagena or Punta Cana. Stay in a nice hotel and enjoy the local women for a portion of what you will spend dating in the USA.

SithLordJediMaster · 2025-02-15T04:25:17+00:00

If you’re looking to date with the clear intention of having a sexual relationship rather than a traditional romantic one, it’s important to be honest, respectful, and aware of boundaries. Here are some key steps to approach this intentionally:

1. Be Honest & Upfront

• Make your intentions clear early on—whether through dating profiles, conversations, or direct communication.

• Avoid misleading anyone into thinking you want a serious relationship if you don’t.

2. Choose the Right Platforms

• Some dating apps (like Tinder, Feeld, or Pure) cater more to casual relationships than others.

• Look for people with similar goals in their profiles.

3. Respect & Enthusiastic Consent

• Clear and ongoing communication is key. Both partners should feel comfortable and enthusiastic.

• Respect boundaries, and never pressure anyone.

4. Develop Social & Sexual Confidence

• Being comfortable in your skin and confident in expressing your desires makes things easier.

• Good hygiene, grooming, and body language go a long way.

5. Be Discreet & Safe

• Prioritize safety by meeting in public places initially.

• Practice safe sex and discuss sexual health openly.

6. Keep It Drama-Free

• Be clear about emotional expectations.

• If feelings change, communicate openly to avoid misunderstandings.

Would you like tips on crafting a dating profile for this approach?

- ChatGPT

horsestud6969 · 2025-02-15T00:38:36+00:00

How to purposefully date for sex?

Hi, i want to know how to set my intention clear in a subtle way that i am only interested in sex whether in texting or when i first meet new women in real life? What are the signals that i should give off?

sneekeefahk_ · 2025-02-15T07:29:01+00:00

Just tell them you only want a physical thing. All these advices you're getting about being emotionally involved and treating her like a gf - you'd be manipulating her then. You wouldn't be honest. Your words should be matching your actions. If you treat her like a gf, but tell her you don't want a relationship, you'd confuse her. You'll get what you want, but not in an honest way. Don't treat them like a gf if you don't want a relationship

sneekeefahk_ · 2025-02-15T07:36:04+00:00

Are most guys on this sub below the age of 25?..

OkAdvertising1937 · 2025-02-14T17:21:54+00:00

Lmao my friend is trying to do he same thing, that is what I hate most about him

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-02-14T23:45:18+00:00

Unfortunately telling girls you only want sex is going to put off a lot of girls. Kinda sucks because you want to be honest. But if your honest girls reject it. So what do you do!

Title	How to purposefully date for sex?
Author	BZN55
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Date	February 14, 2025 5:15 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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