How to stop feeling inferior around beautiful women?

TeachMePersuasion · 2025-04-18T14:58:58+00:00

Get used to being around beautiful women. Fashion photographers, regardless of sexuality, feel zero stress around hot girls. They're very used to them.

Jironasaurus · 2025-04-18T15:12:07+00:00

That would be something that requires conscientious work on your beliefs and mentality. So it's therapy you need to go through, self administered or not.

Doppelgen · 2025-04-18T15:13:53+00:00

That's a good question because I have no idea how I overcame that.

I could tell you the obvious: they are just normal people like any other. At the end of the day, all of them go the toilet take a shit just like you, there's nothing specially supernatural about them.

The sooner you see and treat them like anyone else, the sooner you are going to succeed.

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-04-18T17:45:24+00:00

One thing I could think of is you’d have a relationship with an extremely hot woman, or even just befriend her.

You’d see that most of them are superficial aka hollow in the inside, and got nothing to offer but their looks or body. Tbh this applies to extremely good looking guys, too. The fucked up part is just with this privilege, they could get so far in life. I’ve seen with my own eyes how they got wealth and a good career just by their looks.

So OP is on the one side of the spectrum where he’s put them on the pedestal. But there are also people on the other extreme side (like incels or femcels) who treat and look at very beautiful men and women condescendingly. I’d say with a healthy dose of perception, you’d be in the middle of the spectrum.

Chiiiicckkeeennn · 2025-04-18T14:58:43+00:00

Love yourself

norwegiandoggo · 2025-04-18T18:01:50+00:00

You feel inferior to them, because when it comes to social status - you are.

To stop feeling inferior to them, you would have to have higher social status than them.

Humans have a keen sense of social status and that status hierarchy. If you are lower than others - you will feel it. If you are higher than others you will feel that too. It's built in. We are all keenly aware of our place in the tribe.

This doesn't mean you are inferior as a human being. It doesn't mean you have less value. It just means that on the social status "stat" of your main character, your score is lower than theirs. You might be better than them in other areas, but when it comes to social status you're currently below them.

You can't fake this. Want to no longer feel inferior? Then you have to up your social status to the point it surpasses their social status. And that's often challenging because hot women tend to have very high social status.

bonkwodny · 2025-04-18T15:13:54+00:00

You need to find out by experience that they are actually nice people and they are just like you. Find hot friends and be just friends with them. They don't have much male friends who don't want to have sex with them. They will appreciate to have male friend who is friends with them without side intentions. If they ask if you want to have sex with them, it is usually a test. Just say no and that you want to be just friends. If they really want to have sex with you, they will be pushing into it, then just resist for a while and then you can surrend if you want. Just show then that sex is not your intention.

ZEN-AF_Official · 2025-04-18T19:17:19+00:00

It takes a while to get used to it. I'm attractive but had ugly duckling syndrome so I'm still insecure AF.

I had a big glowup last year and it felt like I freaky Friday'd into the body of a celebrity or something. The amount of attention I got was insane and the quality of women that would stare at me and approach me to hit on me felt like an outerbody experience because they seemed so insanely out of my league... but they weren't... they were literally the ones checking me out and approaching me to shoot their shot with me... but it still took a long time to accept that I was in their league now.

They probably had glowups at some point too and are also insecure and nervous around attractive people. I fake James bond level confidence when this happens now but I'm still like "wtf.... how is SHE into me... tons of girls find me attractive and check me out all the time... but HER!?? NO WAY"

Just last week I had lost my winter weight so I was looking good again and getting attention and I saw a group of 3 girls that looked like European super models... like scary AF intimidating level hot. And I assumed they were goddesses light years out of my league... but then I walked past them later and the hottest one locked eyes with me and we smirked and eye fucked each other

coolwater85 · 2025-04-18T19:45:32+00:00

This is kind of a silly exercise, but it can be a very effective method to overcoming this.

You need to realize that those women have their own insecurities and self-doubt. There is something about them that when the look in a mirror, they think to themselves “Ugh… I hate the way my neck looks,” or “My ears are too big,” or “I wish my butt wasn’t so flat,” etc.

You can also realize they are just a regular person like you. They smell bad after working out. They have bad diarrhea sometimes. They have said and done embarrassing things many times in their life. There’s no reason to put them on a higher level than you.

Dandys3107 · 2025-04-19T09:41:20+00:00

Women care very much about presenting themselves as good as possible, to potentially attract the best possible partner. Also, you are probably soaked with a common social dogma that tend to glorify and idealize women. Try to spend more time with women like human with a human, get into situations, activities and topics that will touch their personal dimension and limitations. If you can get through all these artificial, well-known social formulas, you will realize they are not that different from you. You seem to already have some good sexual attraction cards, maybe you were also conditioned to keep your self-esteem too humble for no reason?

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-04-18T16:42:42+00:00

Picture her without makeup, remember that they fart and poop just like you. They're human.

pitterpatter-96 · 2025-04-18T20:10:57+00:00

Take them off the pedestal. We are all on the same level of being a person in and around one another. None better than the other. I was in Miami and the hotness of women there compared to the city I live in put it in perspective for me. Allowed me to approach more and be more confident about where I am.

I ask myself would I like to be around her rather than would she like me enough to stay and talk to me.

Maleficent-Can3347 · 2025-04-19T18:13:57+00:00

Do you feel that all the advice you are getting, all the books you are reading, all the videos you are watching have no effect?

No_Design_6844 · 2025-04-19T18:39:00+00:00

Find any activity that women enjoy, and check it out yourself. Then engage with them. Not in a creepy way- but in a friendly way you would with any of your friends or family.

everydayguy_ · 2025-04-20T04:34:21+00:00

As my self esteem has fluctuated in all different directions during the years, the best I ever felt around women , attractive ones in particular, is when I felt best about myself. When I was productive, making strides in life, namely career or personal goals.

I came to realise that it really didn’t matter what women thought of me. Women still found me attractive even when my personal life was a mess, but I just didn’t want to be around them and couldn’t interact with them optimally. It has less to do with how attractive women think you are, and more to do with how attractive that guy in the mirror thinks you are.

The more competent and confident you feel about yourself and your life, the less of a fuck you give about hot women’s opinions. They’re just human beings who look nice. They piss, shit and have ups and downs just like you do. Do we really need to glorify them and treat them like they are holier than thou? We’re brainwashed to be intimidated by beautiful women from a young age by what we see in mainstream media. I could write a whole essay about it but at the end of the day they’re just humans and you shouldn’t be basing your worth off of what these women with make up and a nice outfit think of you

Significant-Rice-231 · 2025-04-29T02:24:47+00:00

Get your anxiety under control

Interesting_Gas_3211 · 2025-04-18T15:42:45+00:00

Imagine her taking a hot steaming poop

KoleSekor · 2025-04-18T16:25:38+00:00

Why do you feel inferior to beautiful women? That's where I'd start.

Title	How to stop feeling inferior around beautiful women?
Author	icxcnika1
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Date	April 18, 2025 2:52 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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