Decided not to escalate (in the name of science).

 

IOIs below are in the approx order they FIRST happened. You can see how much clearer the IOIs got as I ignored the prior/subtler ones. I'm sharing because guys are REALLY fucking stupid (I was too, before I studied this stuff). I bet many of you will relate to these and realise you missed many opportunities. I hope some will learn from this post.

 

Women will rarely say "FUCK ME YOU IDIOT" but they will help you (with IOIs). If you fail to escalate long enough though, they lose interest (either because you're a loser who doesn't understand women (women want to FEEL heard and understood) OR they FEEL rejected because YOU didn't make a move therefore you're obviously not attracted to her).

 

Don't try this at home.

 

  • She agreed to meet (at my apartment). We'd met once before (socially - and nothing romantic).
  • I took the lead early. When she arrived, I strode into my room and sat on my bed. She followed.
  • She asked a lot of questions about me
  • She maintianed strong eye contact
  • She complimented me ("so smart/funny/interesting" etc)
  • She laughed a lot at my stupid jokes
  • She played with her hair
  • She exposed her neck
  • She pouted her lips
  • She slowly stroked herself (arm, neck, shoulder then later her thigh, stomach)
  • She shuffled/repositioned herself regularly, "accidentally" ending up a bit too close
  • She "accidentally" bumped into me (arm, elbow, shoulder and later her thigh, ass and breasts)
  • She touched me when I said something funny
  • She playfully "hit me" when I said something controversial
  • She moved into positions that gave me an excellent view of her breasts, ass, legs
  • She asked what I look for in women
  • She asked about women I'd been with
  • She subtly played with her clothing (shirt, bra, pants) giving me glimpses of what lay beneath
  • She looked at my lips/eyes/lips
  • She stopped "bumping" into me and instead, would adjust her position and leave something resting on me (foot, thigh, elbow, breasts), just for a moment
  • She gently rubbed her foot against my foot, just for a moment
  • She begain playing with her stomach and as she did, slowly lifted her shirt, exposing her stomach, then began playing with her pants and panties
  • She rolled over and pinned one of my arms against my bed, my open hand inches from her vagina and did not roll back for about 20 seconds
  • She asked what I'm into sexually
  • She looked repeatedly at my penis
  • She told me what she was into sexually
  • She positioned herself closer and closer

 

Never, ever, EVER let things get this far without making a move (because 99% of the time, they won't get this far. She'll lose interest/feel rejected if you don't escalate).

 

I was lucky. I am awesome, my life is awesome, I am confident as hell (and I don't hide any of this) and I've studied attraction so much that I was able to simultaneously seduce her while rejecting her (ignoring IOIs). It could easily have gone the other way (I expected it to actually) but I have lots of options with women so no big deal.