If looksmaxxing is correct, then women are far shallower than they admit, and romance is mostly a polite fiction draped over brute selection. “Love at first sight” is just lust with better PR. Personality, kindness, humor, loyalty — all of it matters only after a man passes the visual filter. And if that is true, then the incels were at least partly right: genetics is destiny. Face, height, frame, hairline, bone structure — these are not surface details, but the blueprint of a man’s romantic future. And once you admit that, the darker question follows: if they were right about that, what else were they right about? About mating markets? About desirability being brutally unequal? About society lying to men while rewarding the same traits over and over?

But if looksmaxxing is wrong, then the problem is worse, because it means the rot is not in nature but in society. It means modern life has become so warped that ordinary men and women can no longer form bonds properly. Apps turn people into products, work drains the energy needed for intimacy, community has collapsed, third places are dead, and courtship has been replaced by algorithms and endless comparison. In that case, the male loneliness crisis is not just a story about sad men whining online. It is evidence that society is manufacturing alienated, anxious, under-socialized men at scale — men who are not doomed by genetics, but deformed by the conditions around them into becoming romantically inert, socially awkward, and, yes, structurally unfuckable.

In other words: if looksmaxxing is right, then love is uglier than we thought or not real at all. If looksmaxxing is wrong, then society is even sicker than the blackpillers think: it is systematically destroying the conditions that make love, desire, and pair-bonding possible, then blaming men for failing inside the wreckage. Either women are selecting men through a cold logic they deny, or modern civilization is producing broken, disconnected people and calling it progress. Either way, something has gone badly wrong. The only real question is which nightmare is worse.

Personally, I think the Looksmaxers have a lot of good points going on (at least from what I have seen in my own life). As a fugly dude, I understand the reality of the female gaze and how quickly it can destroy a man. But as a humanist, I have to believe that people can better themselves.