I've been hesitating making this post, because I don't know how it will be received, but I have been thinking about it a little and I think there may be something here. So...

Last week, I was in Vegas for a few days of debauchery and went to a strip club with a couple of buddies (Treasures, if anybody is wondering). Now this place probably had over 100 strippers while there was probably only 50 guys there (kind of the ratio most girls see at a bar, a 2:1 ratio of guys to girls). During the 2 or 3 hours I was there, I was probably approached by over 30 girls (maybe around a girl every 10 minutes). Finally, the shoe was on the other foot, women approaching me!!! But the sad thing is, it started to get annoying, super annoying. Why? Because I was approached in exactly the same way by almost every single girl.

Now bear with me. I knew all of these girls had an agenda- to get my money (don't we have an agenda when we approach girls?). And I did end up getting a few lapdances, so how did I decide on which girls to give my precious $$$ to? I may be in the minority here, but it wasn't based on looks or physique (although it did factor into the equation a little, but it wasn't a major deciding factor). I realized it came down to who "seduced" me the best. So who failed?

  1. If she was low energy. I was having way too much fun with my buds to be dragged down by some boring girl. -Next

  2. If I smelled an agenda on the girl, as in she was just interested in my money, she was automatically dismissed (I felt no connection to her, I was just a paycheck). NEXT

  3. If she opened me like every other girl there did, (hey, where are you from? hey, what are you guys celebrating tonight? hey, how long are you in town for?) BORING! NEXT

  4. If she commented on my shirt (I was wearing a tuxedo t-shirt because I'm fancy, but I like to party). Every girl commented on my shirt. They each said the same thing. Clones of each other. BORING.

So the girls that I got dances from? They didn't approach me like all of the other girls. They were actually pretty interesting/funny. They were engaging in conversation (but not too much, not boring). They were good with physical contact (it was subtle, I almost didn't notice them touching me. I felt good, but didn't really know why until I realized they were slightly touching my arm or leg. SEE: kino). They kept a sexual vibe, but it wasn't overbearing. It seemed like they were actually connecting with me (I''m in my early 30's, I'm not naive enough to think strippers actually want me, but they charmed me none the less).

So, although I do expect to get a lot of funny responses to this post, it was actually an enlightening experience. It definitely helped me better understand how attraction works and why we make the decisions that we do. I definitely will apply what I learned and use it to modify/ learn from my own approaches.

Lessons learned:

  1. Differentiate myself from all the other guys in the bar. Accentuate what make me different/unique.

  2. Don't underestimate the power of kino.

  3. Maintain a sexual vibe, but make sure it is subtle. Don't be a walking billboard advertising my agenda.

  4. Focus on building rapport and comfort.

  5. Escalate and close when her buying temperature is high.

That all being said, I also got a dance from a girl that offered to stroke my cock in the corner. But I'm guessing the Apocalypse Opener is probably more effective when girls use it on guys. But maybe I'm wrong....