One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 16 Progress Report (1 number)

Rawaqy · 2020-06-13T13:44:47+00:00

If I do this in my small city's park, I'll be known as the park's creep within a week

tamedfox25 · 2020-06-13T14:46:33+00:00

Congrats on having the courage to put this to practice.

But as a woman to a man...having a stranger come up to me while I’m on the phone and then proceeding to say hi and then waiting around until I look up is a huge nuisance. I would try to steer clear of woman who are clearly giving signals to NOT engage.

Granted everyone is on their phone all the time but I would still look out for any type of openness in the body language or stance. This may help you in doing less but having a higher success rate

learniy · 2020-06-13T13:24:42+00:00

I like this idea of cold approaches, and it's great that you think of it as a number game and don't get to attached. Keep up the game, and would love to hear about any further developments.

doezitzmatter · 2020-06-13T13:22:49+00:00

Congratulation 🎉 your efforts are showing results you finally got the number from a girl.

Tugend9 · 2020-06-13T13:46:41+00:00

Love these kind of stories! Putting in the work and tracking how you’re doing. Easiest way to get anything done 🙌🏼

FlatDistance5 · 2020-06-13T13:33:20+00:00

I love it man the more sets you go through the more positive results your going to get.

BallsOfSteeeeel · 2020-06-13T15:37:45+00:00

Great job getting out there and being a man and going for it! Advice questions: does she know why you wanted her number? What are you guys going to do? When are you going to hang out? Do you know when she’s free/where she lives? How are you going to open her on text And lead into the date?

Some things to keep in mind. Getting numbers is better than not getting numbers. But you really want to have a reason or plan or better understanding of the logistical situation unless you are going to have to regame her all over again. Which I think is harder because you can only see words and not her reactions. And I suck at gaming over text lol.

But good shit! Keep up the good work. Keep going out there and going for it and you will succeed. Feel free to ask any other specific questions that you get stuck on!

Thomas200389 · 2020-06-13T18:22:08+00:00

Good job but maybe not tell a girl “ they look Interesting” and instead say something else.

Hanan019 · 2020-06-13T20:36:22+00:00

From Feb 2018 to December 2019 I approached an average of 3 women per day. I got rejected a lot but ended up fucking 18 different girls in that time span. It started out as a 30 day approach challenge and I just extended it. I pretty much told the girl what I liked about her and wanted to find out who she was. Right now I'm focused on getting my shit together no just for women but overall so I can have a better life. I'm 40 years old and that approaching women experience was something I needed to do in my life because my experiences with women before that was few and far between. I made a lot of cringe worthy mistakes yet always went back to the drawing board listening to RSD, Coach Corey Wayne and Alpha Male Strategies. Now that I'm done with approaching women I'm more into people like Stephiscold, Rom Wills, Darius M, Alexander Grace. Every mans journey is different. I don't think I will approach women like that again but it was unconventional and I learned so much about myself and women. Now I want women to approach me.

On top of that I started a daily journal in Feb 2018 documenting my results for each approach, sometimes not all because I would go out and approach like 20 women in a day. Some days I will not approach because of other circumstances. It was scary for me but I feel like the experiences made be better.

I feel like the best thing that came out of this was my journal. I still write in my journal almost every day documenting my thoughts, ideas, goals...etc. It is one of the best ways I feel I am able to learn about myself. Good luck man, you will make mistakes and you will feel fucking stupid at times but you are taking action trying to improve yourself. I felt like I never learned anything about women until I started putting myself in front of real women. That's when the lessons internalized for me. Every man is different so cold approaching may not be for everyone. Personally I needed to go through it.

relentless_pma · 2020-06-13T14:11:34+00:00

Congratz with the number. Tbh I like to read your longer reports, but I understand it takes a lot of time

2020-06-13T21:19:37+00:00

Good stuff man. You're interactions aren't the smoothest yet but you have more balls than 99% of this subreddit and eventually it will pay off. Only thing I have to say is make sure you reflect on your cold approaches and what you did right and what you could improve. Not saying you aren't doing that though.

I know beautiful girls who have told me they will give any guy with the balls to approach them a chance, so one day you will find one of those.

Now that you are learning to handle rejection, start having some fun with it and trying new things and acting like you are a suave, cool motherfucker. Remember you're a badass just for trying to do something most men won't.

Hanan019 · 2020-06-13T22:45:17+00:00

Dude, you impress me with your brave and consistency. Can you at least tell us some tricks or affirmations? Big respect for you!

Dominus-Prime- · 2020-06-13T14:46:04+00:00

I like what you are doing as far as not over thinking and just going for it.

I’ll give a quick tip for use: don’t ask for a woman’s number. In fact, don’t ask a woman for anything. Give her your number. If you wanna get really trick, get an electronic business card from Amazon. Designed for businesspeople but it can be used for approaching. It’s basically a profile on a card and you take the card and tap it to their phone and your info is instantly displayed for them.

I’ll give you another tip: inform the girls as honestly as you can as to why you chose to approach them. Hint: Because they have an interesting look is not being honest

FlatDistance5 · 2020-06-13T13:28:51+00:00

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febgeekymom · 2020-06-13T13:55:33+00:00

I think it's time I gave you a relationship book to read: Love and Respect, by Dr. Eggert? It's a world famous book (to my knowledge). This will guide you on what to do once you catch one.

training4wizardry · 2020-06-13T15:05:45+00:00

6 interactions today, 16 days straight, EXCELLENT.

"OK DUDE" that's funny, I have gotton worse!

The days that you just grind it out are pefectly fine. And you kept going through thick and thin, this is key. Your emotional strength and consistency are ON POINT.

I like where febgeekymom is going as far as breaking out of this one style of thought only (london day game), and I like how you are mixing up venues.

Ok your parks hits, you need to start adding props:

a.) for reals start carrying a guitar on your back (in a hard case case preferably, get a cheap one from wherever) if they ask you to play say you just broke two strings and heading out to change them

b.) carry a poetry book with a lilac flower or peice of art (whatever) something colorful on the cover, OR a huge book on astrology but just have it so they can casually see it, don't bring it up.

Poetry offer to read them your favorite, whatever something anything.

Astrology, the bigger the better with stars and moons on the cover but don't bring it up, let them ask about it. lmao!

c.) offer to walk someone's dog, someone that lives near you, this one may seem like work and cheezy but get over it it would work for you right now.

I would go with a.) personally.

Moral: you need to give them a reason you are in the park that makes their imagination go. The park is one of the best places for this.

Actually, you can use a.) and b.) almost anywhere, but definately a park. Heck, make it real start teaching yourself guitar in the park. Start learning poetry in the park, why not.

Interaction 5: spaghetti girl

Along the lines of observing people (a la febgeekymom), feel free to observe/look at the people you are approaching for a sec. Like, what are they doing. What is being expressed on thier face. What social calibre are they projecting. Dark colors, loose fitting all covered up? Clothes super tight? Classy, preppy, showing off, not showing off, trying to look smart, in gym clothes where a gym is nowhere in sight, in a dress, are they looking "hot", are they trying-to-look-hot but they are-not-very-hot, are they not-trying-to-look-hot but they are-definately-hot. The more you observe the more you will make some changes based on the situation they present.

Sexy girl in a spaghetti dress: you will have to meet her at her energy level and go from there. Just tuck that thought in your head for now--

Keep working on good eye contact.

GREAT JOB KEEP GOING !!

medtinder · 2020-06-13T22:40:52+00:00

This is SO creepy, please stop

ghostwitch123 · 2020-06-13T18:30:39+00:00

This is really really interesting. I like to share some of my experience and how I approach not girls but anyone. Instead of starting with regular compliments u can start with curious compliments like wow, I really like the design of your dress. Looks very artistic. She: hehe thank u. You: where did u get it from? She: bla bla bla. You: oh that’s nice! Is it like fully cotton? It looks really comfortable She: oh yeah it’s bla bla bla You: wow that’s really good. Maybe I can gift this to my friend. She will love it hahaha. Btw what’s ur name? She: hahaha Ashley You: my name is John. U got a really beautiful name I will tell u that hahaha She: oh hahaha thank u ( talk about present and also show off a little about urself )

U see what’s going on here right? U complimented her dress but u r just curious about it instead of putting her on the center of attraction. U r just simply curious and subtly u r complimenting her too. Think of friendly normal conversation as meat and flirt as fat. Try to get 70% meat 30% fat. Hope this helps to your journey. There are lot of other stuffs here, can’t write all of them then it will be a book 😅. But slowly u will figure it out by just observing her answer and u can even tell if she have bf or not interested without even asking. And also congratulations on picking up the courage and doing the cold approach 😁

2020-06-13T13:34:05+00:00

Keep it up.

-Andy

Lagstravaganza · 2020-06-13T16:55:57+00:00

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Lagstravaganza · 2020-06-13T21:12:54+00:00

as a woman this reads really creepy to me. leave strangers in public alone.

RapTVCalifornia · 2020-06-13T20:01:34+00:00

Great stuff bro keep uodating

solarflare_hot · 2020-06-13T20:16:22+00:00

i think cold approaches are like numbers game, chances are 1 of 10 may give you her number. However you have to be really good looking, well dressed up and groomed .you can pretty much approach a girl and say anything and it will work

yourmajestythegreat8 · 2020-06-13T22:16:52+00:00

What’s sayonara?

youarecuti · 2020-06-14T07:35:00+00:00

Is the sayonara saying just a thought in your mind or an expression to us or do you actually say it to the girls also? If the latter then I personally think it's not the best way to tell someone goodbye after getting rejected. Not the word sayonara itself but the usage in that context unless you live in Japan.

old_pjsallday · 2020-06-29T20:07:07+00:00

Do you guys actually thinks this works?

formulaNoFap · 2020-06-14T02:26:11+00:00

Good job man, ignore all the losers with no balls who call you a 'creep.' Keep approaching and reflecting and you'll improve.

Konstanti9 · 2020-06-13T18:18:35+00:00

So by your logic DM approaching on Instagram is creppy and unifective, but approaching like interrupting a woman's day with the Casanova vibe is not?

Title	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 16 Progress Report (1 number)
Author	Hanan019
Upvotes	315
Comments	114
Date	June 13, 2020 11:55 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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