This is a fundamental mindset that a lot of guys forget or don't even internalize (especially younger guys) but I truly believe it's essential if you want to succeed with women on any level. It's basically the understanding that if you don't fuck her, someone else will. Point blank, end of story. It may not be today, it may not be this week, may not even be this month, but eventually the woman you want will be caught up in love/lust with another man (or even woman). Many guys will plug their ears to this but I think this is just fundamental, no bullshit, old school game. This is probably the game your father (or even grandfather, if you're Gen Z) had.

I think us as a guys are so used to scarcity in sex and romance that we even forget that what the world is like for a woman of average attractiveness or higher. Since women are naturally the more passive sex, eventually she will meet someone who has the nerve/gall/kahunas/daring to penetrate her bubble (literally). These are usually guys who naturally have game, are confident, have had years of female reinforcement, or just don't give a shit. These guys tend to come in all stripes but naturally, most of these guys are the guys they that would fuck a woman silly and not call her back.

I know/knew several guys like this and it was all a game to them. Some of them even classify as sex addicts. One guy I know fits this description. On the surface, he looks like he has it all together. He's built, he has a an attractive face, but he has serious mental illnesses and is a bonafide pornography addict since at least 12 years old. He sexualizes every single woman he meets. Now multiply these guys by x1000 and you know that these are some of the men women come into contact with on a semi-frequent basis. Would you want your sister/cousin/family friend meeting one of these guys? They will by default because a good guy like you decided not to step up.

Also think about this: here in the States and the West, we are coming out of a 1 year+ long quarantine. 2020 was a year of complete madness. No one alive has experienced anything like it. Most women (people) have spent the year locked inside staring at a phone/computer screen inside an apartment or studio feeling a combination of dread, fear, longing, etc. An entire summer was pretty much lost. Many people didn't see friends or loved ones for long stretches of time. There was no travel or it was limited. Bad news was pouring in constantly. It was inescapable.

Now, restrictions are lifting in many places. Finally, we are at the end of a long, hard tunnel. Summer is here. People want to get out. People want to be active. People want to connect. People want to travel. People want to party. People want to celebrate LIFE. And with all that comes the possibility of romance/sex. Imagine being a woman who doesn't have a boyfriend and hasn't had sexual contact for a year plus. You're at a party and a guy comes up to you. He exudes confidence, he is masculine, he is funny, he is charming. Oh, and he makes you feel good. Would you want to have sex with him? Or at the very least get to know him better and be...closer to him?

I'll close with this. I'm 29 years old. At this point in my life, I've been with so many different and amazing women, especially living in California. I never used to be like this. I've been scared of girls. I've been a "simp" before it came into fashion. I've been a "beta". I've been the guy who was in a girls' room "studying" and didn't make a move because I thought she was out of my league. I was called "beautiful" by a woman and driven back to our dorms by that same woman late at night with her asking me "so what are your plans for tonight". She was exactly my type....and I threw it in the toilet. For what? For what?

So I know what it's like. I know what it's like to fuck up. I know what it's like to feel shitty about yourself. I've seen all the girls that I crushed on get into relationships, get engaged, get married. About half of them are guys that quite frankly don't have much going for them. And I thought that I wasn't good enough.

You need to realize that if you don't make a move, somebody else will. And quite frankly, they may not even be that much better than you. Get out there. Stop hesitating. Stop doubting yourself.

EDIT: It seems that different people are receiving this different ways. The main point I'm trying to make is this: all roads (eventually) lead to sex. That is the "end destination" of many relationships. At some level, you as a man connecting with women will lead to sex. It doesn't have to happen on the first encounter or even the first month but you should realize that is the engine driving the attraction.

You may not be "the type of guy who goes after that". That's fine. But you don't get into a relationship with a woman just wanting to be "friends". There is an undertone of romantic lust there (and there should be). Realize that if you don't do it, someone else eventually will. And that "someone else" may not be as a nice a guy as you.