The 3 Second rule and why its so important to follow it.

CrankRED · 2013-11-02T11:06:44+00:00

he who hesitates masturbates

randomperson32 · 2013-11-02T11:20:34+00:00

Wait.. can you clarify what it is exactly?

2013-11-02T11:26:58+00:00

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schotastic · 2013-11-02T14:13:47+00:00

Jumping up off your ass in three seconds shocks your brain into what I call "Purpose-mode" which is essentially the mode in which your brain is working in the now, in the moment, at its peak. Primal Survival.

Psychologists have a term for this. It's called a locomotion regulatory mode, as opposed to an assessment regulatory mode. A locomotion mindset is where you pursue your focal goal (meeting people) singlemindedly, not letting alternative goals (self-protection) and motives distract you. Locomotion is a mindset for getting things done without considering alternative goals.

On the other hand, you enter an assessment mindset when you evaluate the focal goal (meeting people) alongside alternative goals (protecting self-esteem and cherished beliefs, avoiding anxiety and negative emotions, etc). These alternative goals can hijack your executive and action systems, steering you away from the focal goal of meeting people. Assessment is a mindset for thinking about possibilities without committing to anything specific.

Ideally, you want to be able to switch from locomotion to assessment mindsets in a balanced way. However, when you're out of your comfort zone, you're more likely to stick with an assessment mindset; locomotion and "just doing it" can leave you too vulnerable. There's a turn of phrase for being stuck in an assessment mindset--analysis paralysis. It's no wonder, then, that people on here encourage a rigid locomotion mindset for beginners, for whom it's probably more adaptive anyway. Upon developing a greater "expertise," it may pay off to flexibly shift between locomotion to assessment mindsets.

Vaginuh · 2013-11-02T16:46:37+00:00

For the first time in my life I did the 3 second rule yesterday with an HB8. Well, it was more like 15 seconds but I did it. Went up to her and talked like I knew her my whole life. To my absolute astonishment it worked. Did the handshake introduction and just...talked. Found out she was cool but not the girl for me so now I know instead of feeling like I 'lost out'. It was so out of my comfort zone it was ridiculous but I DID IT! I have to say, the feeling is infectious. I will be nervous NO MORE!

Rockshu · 2013-11-02T13:48:53+00:00

This 3 second rule is pretty amazing, not just for seduction now that I think about it. Everytime you're just procrastinating or just bumming around and an idea pops up in your mind or you need to do something you should act on it right away before your mind has the time to tell you 'nahh let's not do that you can't do it anyway' or 'I'll just do that later' or something like that. Everyone knows what I'm talking about. It will make you get shit done.

jnasty2009 · 2013-11-02T10:50:58+00:00

No man wants to be a pussy,I now follow the three second rule

2013-11-02T12:23:55+00:00

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MCMXChris · 2013-11-02T17:11:00+00:00

My 3 second rule is "try to last longer than 3 seconds when the opportunity presents itself"

Ohuma · 2013-11-02T22:12:20+00:00

What is the 3 second rule

Banana_Slut · 2013-11-02T23:56:08+00:00

What is the 3 second rule?

teklaking · 2013-11-02T22:56:22+00:00

Can you explain the three second rule for those of us who don't know it?

ArchangellePussyrape · 2013-11-03T07:19:21+00:00

What the fuck is the 3 second rule?

Herr_Lich · 2013-11-03T17:15:43+00:00

This is probably a stupid question. But what the fuck do you say? You obviously don't have time to think, that's the point. So you say hi, introduce yourself, and then what? "How are you doing tonight?" Isn't this going to be weird as fuck?

I'm not doubting the effectiveness of the idea. I believe you when you say it works and your arguments make sense. But... what do you say? Do you use canned lines?

2013-11-02T12:31:18+00:00

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TheAsianDefender · 2013-11-02T14:19:37+00:00

I generally think this is a pretty good rule to follow, but what about when you need to take a moment to analyze if they're actually attractive or not? I've approached some girls that've looked like models from far away, then the Mona Lisa up close.

vinpocetine · 2013-11-02T17:18:50+00:00

I find that I break the 3 second rule a lot. But in a weird way it still helps with my AA. I think to myself: "You fucked up, you're now over thinking your approach. Life's too short, you need to man-up and walk over to her". And I inevitably end up approaching her.

Jake_STi-RA · 2013-11-02T21:52:43+00:00

This is for people that have severe AA.

ThrowawayPUA · 2013-11-02T22:52:46+00:00

There is personal power to be gained merely by becoming a person who can and will use the 3 Second Rule. You must be prepared to jump into action at any moment. You won't necessarily have time to think up an opener, so you better have a few strategies ready to use at any moment, and the wits to understand which one will work. These are all skills you develop by using the 3 Second Rule, you get better at it, the more you use it.

But more than that, by using the 3 Second Rule, you become a person who will shut down his internal dialogue and take action despite the self-doubt and fear your mind will generate. If you consider any approach, your mind will give you an infinite supply of reasons why you should not approach. And they are all true, for you, at that moment. You should believe them. And then you should act anyway. If you act within 3 seconds, you do not give yourself an opportunity to analyze these thoughts. You sense their presence, acknowledge their validity, and then move past them, into action.

Fibonacci35813 · 2013-11-02T23:22:34+00:00

Interesting. I've always thought of it like this.

People know if you look at them - whether implicitly or explicitly. So if a girl walks in and you look at her and then look away, look at her then look away....and then finally walk up to her; she knows that you weren't confident enough to go right up right away.

GerManson · 2013-11-03T01:25:07+00:00

so, basically this rule is... approach everything that moves?

a confident man will approach when he wants to.

Civilizedgorilla · 2013-11-03T04:09:08+00:00

I'm sorry, this might sound really stupid, but can you explain exactly what the 3 second rule is?

rondeline · 2013-11-02T20:27:43+00:00

Too bad that it's not actually a practical rule, but nevertheless, it's a good idea to attempt to follow it. It's more like a guideline, when possible.

anonisme1 · 2013-11-02T19:56:46+00:00

Crimith · 2013-11-03T04:01:09+00:00

What is the 3 second rule?

CornstarXXX · 2013-11-02T19:27:54+00:00

He who waits procrastirbates.

cookiecasanova86 · 2022-08-05T02:24:11+00:00

What an utter crock of shit!

Title	The 3 Second rule and why its so important to follow it.
Author	Banana_Slut
Upvotes	551
Comments	73
Date	November 2, 2013 9:24 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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