what makes a man seductive?

Swissmiss214 · 2022-10-27T11:43:53+00:00

Good mental health, good hygiene, funny and socially competent, lifting, and confidence to escalate when appropriate.

Also knowing non neediness, whilst straying away from narcissism, (ie, the honestly model) as in not being reactive but proactive in conversations, whilst not being a cocky dickhead (takes practice very hard).

Security in one's self. Own ur flaws like a mfer. Be sad if ur sad. Be happy when ur happy. Dont try to cover up your emotions (Just be comfortable in your own skin)

The take it or leave it mentality. You have to pretend you dont have the incessant biological urge to cum in her box.

ArbitraryBaker · 2022-10-27T14:05:15+00:00

Unfortunately symmetrical facial features, a well toned body and a deep voice can often be some of the more important determinants. If you don’t have those, then grooming, hygiene (including smell), apparel, posture, and confidence can go a long way.

Timing and escalation are super important. She will be more receptive if she has an increased heart rate and lowered inhibitions. This is why teasing is so important, because it introduces the element of fear and anticipation. Be unpredictable.

caesarfecit · 2022-10-27T15:50:29+00:00

Courage and persistence.

Remember the lesson of Boomhauer.

Even if you have literally nothing else going for you, so long as you're willing to step up and play the masculine role in an interaction with a woman, sooner or later you'll find someone who will meet you halfway.

Everything else is just optimizing the return on your investment, but courage and persistence are the irreplaceable elements.

But here are the honorable mentions, in order:

Non-neediness
Empathy
Presence of mind/grace under pressure
Conscientiousness
Charisma

Informal-Line-7179 · 2022-10-27T15:35:55+00:00

As others have said, it’s always more than words, but when it comes to attraction i feel like the women i know are interested in men who can verbally play on their desired level. For example, i have some geekier friends where the guy is sweeter with what he says, quieter, and has a lot of dirty jokes about games they like that make her smile. I have other friends who enjoy more action and less talking so they go long distance hiking and biking and then joke with each other about the absurdity and stupid things that happen along the way. My bf is extraordinarily verbally clever and playful, both physically and mentally which is what i find really fun. On our first date He tested the waters of what kind of jokes and topics i was into while chatting, then tested some physical minor boundaries to see if i was interested or not opposed, and we found a fit! I have another friend who is highly anxious and intelligent, and her man issuper similar, they both set off each other’s anxiety, but also know how to help each other calm down because they understand how it feels. they have super fast paced and somewhat bickering banter, with moments of calm and jokes )(mostly from the guy) to reset.

In essence i feel like most people want to be around people they can relate to and make them smile. If you feel happy and comfortable with someone, you can escalate things sexually far easier. Adding in confident body language, good looks/hygiene, and a sexy voice, doesn’t hurt either :)

ArtichokeInButter · 2022-10-27T15:35:44+00:00

The brain is the largest sex organ. Texts to show the person you care. Ask them questions about their career, education, childhood. Dive deeper than “ hi”. Don’t jump into sex talk. A million men do that and if it isn’t a turn off, women can find hotter men to sext and fantasize about. Leave people wanting more. Maybe text a cool story, but you have to go because of your imaginary boss.

In person, read the cues. Women are not playing hard to get, they are wanting courtesy and seduction. Seduction is the anticipation… not a sloppy kiss and two tit squeezes as foreplay. Foreplay should last 30 minutes. Kiss the neck, don’t dive into oral immediately.

And, don’t conquer women. You need to refocus.

modidlee · 2022-10-27T14:08:17+00:00

He knows how to raise sexual tension with his voice, not just his words. I've had women I'm talking to on the phone tell me to repeat certain words because they say it sounds "sexy" the way I say it. And had another girl masturbate and orgasm from my voice on the phone while I was just telling her about my day. I didn't even know what she was doing until she let out that loud gasp and moan. The tone of your voice is what sexually arouses women most of the time. You really don't even have to say anything sexual.

skyman583 · 2022-10-27T17:04:30+00:00

Confidence, assertiveness,humor and a dash of mystery.

Admirable-Unit811 · 2022-10-27T19:04:33+00:00

Almost all women are attracted to confident funny men. Especially if theyre also sweet and strong in every sense of the word. Boys get jealous men do not, boys try and control women men do not, boys need reassurance men do not, boys get taken care of men take care of you! I think that sums it up. Get a good job, workout, read and take a dance class or something be well rounded fun to be around etc. I hookup with a lot of women just because i can dance and am funny.

norwegiandoggo · 2022-10-27T13:24:43+00:00

Seductive or attractive? Those are very different things. To be attractive is about embodying certain qualities most women find attractive. Like looking good, being intelligent, good career etc.

Being seductive is something else. That is about your social skills in terms of sparking romantic or sexual interest. That is more about how you speak and act. You might call this your "flirting" / convincing skills.

Are there mental triggers to conquer women? ... Ok so first off, you don't "conquer" women. They are not land to be taken, they are human beings. Stop thinking about it like a one-sided getting of what you want, without a care in the world about she wants. Romance and sex is supposed to be mutually beneficial. Not some use and abuse situation. Conquering is the wrong word.

You can increase your chances with the ladies by being / becoming attractive and getting good at flirting and convincing. But there are no guaranteed methods that work all the time

Admirable-Unit811 · 2022-10-27T19:33:48+00:00

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Fluffy_Risk9955 · 2022-10-27T17:08:02+00:00

It’s 90% mindset and the ability to deliver results.

Wazzock_PP · 2022-10-27T19:56:02+00:00

It comes down to being able to flirt and show your value.

Davidle3 · 2022-10-27T22:12:29+00:00

Attraction definitely has to be there and….there is the paradox of being not attached to the outcome….most guys are attached to the outcome and so they will fail….its not really about the words….it’s about congruency….you have to say act and feel the way you want to come off and again…..most people are not congruent so if you can be what most people can’t be it works….and with the non attachment the outcome isn’t important….but guys try to fake that and it comes off as non congruent ….the action will speak louder then the words….if your not together then no words are going to work for you because she’s going to see that your not displaying the right things and so she’s going to say that guy gives me a weird vibe….= your done.

sexonthebeachnow · 2022-10-27T18:46:52+00:00

High EQ, confidence and just being yourself has worked very well.

DrinksAreOnTheHouse · 2022-10-27T19:12:49+00:00

We know what they are. genuinely exhibiting them is the challenge

rwalsh138 · 2022-10-27T19:54:50+00:00

Being comfortable in your own skin and not being swayed to change. Women respect this a lot.

below298 · 2022-10-27T20:05:03+00:00

It’s portraying masculinity. Extroverted, Confident, Smooth, Funny etc.

It’s rare for men to naturally be that way unless they are putting on a show just for the woman / peacocking

Entire_Egg_4119 · 2022-10-27T21:23:17+00:00

Read “the game”

Cleanturns · 2022-10-28T02:06:17+00:00

The gift of gab, a magnetic personality and a heart of rock 'n' roll.

ODBeef · 2022-10-28T02:15:46+00:00

Maybe don’t say that you want to conquer us, weirdo.

ReadWriteReddit33 · 2022-10-28T03:32:51+00:00

Offer to take out the garbage, help with household chores, be handy, cook her a meal every once in awhile, don’t be clingy, have confidence but don’t be arrogant about it, find genuine things to compliment her on, don’t turn into another thing for her to take care of, be a masculine (i.e., don’t wear more eyeliner than she does). Panties will drop faster than you can bat an eye. You’re welcome.

2022-10-27T13:42:54+00:00

Good looks, wealth and health

pancakebirdpowder74 · 2022-10-27T15:25:14+00:00

Being well-groomed, funny, sociable, well-dressed... Having confidence and a sense of self-value is a huge one for me too.

I breathe easier knowing the man I'm crushing on now doesn't need me constantly as a crutch after being a second mom for my last boyfriend for years.

TubaTrumpetTriangle · 2022-10-27T19:08:21+00:00

Sorry for format I'm on mobile

Decisiveness but Open-minded

Intentional(only do things they truly mean)

Comprehensive + Understanding

Respectful but honest

Pensive

Intelligent, Knowledgeable in areas I lack + motivated to learn

Independent but Supportive (has own life and isn't clingy but recognises they must be emotionally supportive if needed)

Funny

Communicative and thoughtful (proactive when solving issues in relationship)

Accountability, willing to fix any mistakes made

Makes me feel heard, safe + accepted

Remembers random details you tell them + notices the little things (BIG POINTS if the person you're interested in loves meaningful conversation)

Equal investment in communication

Not putting your SO on a pedestal

Shared values + thinking

Says they'll do Smth then follows through - reliable + Keeps to commitments

Asks their partners how they are when they seem upset instead of assuming everything is okay always

LOYAL, no wandering eyes + no looking for next best thing + comparing your partner to others

Secure in themselves - don't need validation from multiple girls

Open to trying new things, unafraid of failure

Ambitious (don't sit around doing nothing, have a passion - which they can potentially share! )

Prizes friendship in commited relationship

Continually self improving + self aware

Don't take your partner for granted

Admirable-Unit811 · 2022-10-27T19:18:07+00:00

I will say this. I am considered good looking. I have had many multiples of gorgeous women tell me this in different ways over and over again so its pretty well established that i am very good looking. Guys like me have no game. We wait for our not as good looking friends to bring a woman into the group then we slowly and very subtlety work our way in to her pants and heart. I do not get laid often. The reasons are mainly i am extremely picky, dont socialize and women dont aggressively hit on me. I get a lot of stares or looks and big grins like, oh he's really cute! I have friends that are below average looking that pull 10x more tang than me. Its because its a numbers game eventually some confused insecure hottie will fall in your lap lol. And these guys are outgoing and confident or at least appear so.

freddymerckx · 2022-10-27T15:00:01+00:00

Generally, money.

dick_head4life · 2022-10-27T12:30:57+00:00

Be attractive

Ericoftheeast · 2022-10-27T21:28:41+00:00

The ability to provide. Provide financial stability, provide protection, and emotionally supportive.

Surface level probably you're clothing style, eye contact, height and weight.

On another note, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You can't be "beautiful" for everyone. And that's ok. You don't find everyone beautiful. And that's also ok.

Kennymacdougall · 2022-10-27T12:05:15+00:00

Looking like a Chad or Tyrone. Nuff said.

Kevs-442 · 2022-10-27T14:44:45+00:00

Money. Nothing else will make a woman as interested in you has having a lot of money.

Nassimdhippone · 2022-10-27T16:01:44+00:00

Luck in the genetic pool

jackedsoon · 2022-10-27T16:06:40+00:00

Looks, behaviour/body language and confidence

freddymerckx · 2022-10-27T17:01:29+00:00

You got that right.

Scottishdutchess · 2022-10-27T18:27:00+00:00

Subtleties

Particular_Visual531 · 2022-10-27T20:32:52+00:00

The attributes of seduction are simple: be strong and healthy, be funny and teasing, be confident in yourself, be original, be social comfortable and genuinely nice but assertive and unafraid during stress or danger, and relax and know with absolute certainty that the woman standing in front of you is not the last women you're going to be with.

burncushlikewood · 2022-10-27T21:29:02+00:00

Being attractive, not just sexually but through your speech and social skills, that's what you need to be successful you have to have social skills, and understanding female psychology

Snoo_51862 · 2022-10-27T21:35:15+00:00

Guess “who” is uttering those words play huge role rather than what those words are. 50 shades of Grey would be a thriller movie if the guy (Mr. Grey) is a Pizza Delivery guy.

Striking-Panic3120 · 2022-10-27T22:15:27+00:00

They don’t use Reddit

Striking-Panic3120 · 2022-10-27T22:17:39+00:00

They don’t use Reddit

FIVE_6_MAFIA · 2022-10-27T22:25:59+00:00

Whatever the woman is attracted to

Additional_Breath651 · 2022-10-28T03:43:54+00:00

Smells nice works big time.

InfinityRelia · 2022-10-28T04:14:52+00:00

Being tall blue eyed and white 😂

Title	what makes a man seductive?
Author	Pleasant-Release-780
Upvotes	112
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Date	October 27, 2022 11:04 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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