What to do when women walk off during dates?

SPOCK_IS_THAT_YOU · 2014-07-25T08:23:57+00:00

Sounds like you are playing the tease bit way too hard. I don't know any guy that has had a girl walk out on them nor do I know a girl that's walked out on a guy. I'll put money on it those girls are walking away from you to get away from you and not to flirt or to be chased. I believe the problem is way deeper than teasing or your game. You don't like to "lose" to women or chasing them is emasculating? Really? And the whole I'm never talking to you again bit you get is nothing I've even gotten when playing the chasing game. That's a girls way of saying your a huge asshole and fuck off(spoken from experience).

jdb050 · 2014-07-25T07:10:16+00:00

Doing aggressive teasing requires you to be able to counterbalance it with charm, otherwise you come off as someone who can dish it out but cant take it.

Now, I don't chase women and even though I know it's a joke it straight up pisses me off. I feel like me running after her is emasculating or something. So finally, on the last date, I stood there for about two seconds, turned 180 degrees and went home (I needed to go to the gym anyway).

Congratulations, you cut short a date because you cant take a joke.

KlausFenrir · 2014-07-25T06:58:20+00:00

Stop making fun of them. You're probably going too overboard on your jokes. If it happens once, it's probably their sense of humor. Five or six times? You're fucking up.

ThePUA_Baddie · 2014-07-25T05:13:41+00:00

So on your dates it's common for the girls to just completely walk off home right in the middle of it? That's strange

MediumHandsome · 2014-07-25T07:54:54+00:00

Stay where you are and when she comes back, ask "Excuse me miss, have you seen my date? She's about your height and she's a little slow in the head so she tends to wander..."

puaCurveBall · 2014-07-25T07:56:14+00:00

I can't recall that ever happening, you should really re-calibrate your approach if you are seeing this.

The problem comes from how you are treating them, not the women.

moonsuga · 2014-07-25T15:18:29+00:00

you're doing something wrong if they are walking off like that bro. ease up on the teasing

JaNOMaly · 2014-07-25T15:24:25+00:00

what makes you think they are trying to get yo to follow?

You're teasing needs to be two fold push and pull. If all you do is push, eventually ya they are gonna leave and they aren't going to want to come back.

2014-07-25T14:21:08+00:00

Most likely scenario is you have problems reading social cues and don't realize that you are genuinely angering the women you are with with your "teasing" and they are just walking off midway through your date because they are angry and insulted by you.

If they're walking off in a flirty, giggly, interested way, they'll come back on their own. Women don't walk out on men who they are having fun with, especially if it's 1 on 1 and there is no real immediate competition for their interests (in a nightclub there are distractions/other guys everywhere, on a walking date not so much).

The solution is to not chase and wait for her to come back. Just relax if you're seated, look at the people around you with a smile, etc, or if you're walking continue on as before with a smile. If she doesn't come back quickly (within 60 seconds) she is not playfully walking off as part of the mating game, she is just walking off because you insulted her with your "teasing".

niczar · 2014-07-25T10:08:33+00:00

Never had that happen to me. You must be doing something really wrong or not picking up cues or something.

takatori · 2014-07-25T10:24:40+00:00

WTF is wrong with you that women are walking off? Did you take the idea of "negging" too far to heart and spend your time insulting them? Telling stories about those times you were a complete asshole in an attempt to look alpha?

Seriously man you're doing something seriously off base if this is even an issue to think about in the first place.

elbarbaro2 · 2014-07-25T11:55:52+00:00

yeah man, sounds like you're some huge intimidating dude who's scaring the shit out of them and making them uncomfortable...they sound afraid to not play along and then are finally bailing but being nice about it so you don't rape them, or worse... that's the vibe I get

omarm1984 · 2014-07-25T11:39:59+00:00

I've never heard of a woman do a false take away. You are teasing them way too much. Learn to see when you might be crossing the line and calibeate yourself. Also you have to balance the teasing with charm and comfort building.

Tekjensen · 2014-07-25T14:02:19+00:00

well if you don't want to be emasculated by a joke you started you have only one option. You must not chase her done, knock her down and drag her back to your cave.

IpickupGrandmothers · 2014-07-25T15:54:23+00:00

Now, I don't chase women and even though I know it's a joke it straight up pisses me off. I feel like me running after her is emasculating or something.

You're getting pissed over nothing. Running after her isn't emasculating. You're actually emasculating yourself because you're the one generating those feelings. She's not causing those emotions in you. You are.

Confident men aren't afraid to make themselves vulnerable. It doesn't meant to be a doormat, but protecting your ego means insecurity. Confident men are willing to put themselves out their and let their ego get hurt.

It irks you to "lose" to a woman? In this context, it doesn't sound like confidence. It sounds like you're being uptight. Relax! Keep it lighthearted. She's just joking around, you should too!

m_in_china · 2014-07-25T08:06:46+00:00

Are u dating Chinese girls because they do this thing called sajiao where they act like spoiled babies in order to attract a mate

chaldeanrefuge · 2014-07-25T22:15:59+00:00

As a man she wants you to take charge at the moment of the walk-off and instead of doing that, you're showing your own insecurities and lowering your value in front of her.

Also, you initiated what led up to the walk off. Why would you be upset when it actually happens? You're teasing her, she's teasing you back, you're supposed to keep it going so it gets sexual at this point.

alex0919 · 2014-07-25T12:17:52+00:00

She's playing a crude social game with you of turning her back, just sit there and look distracted and bored, even when she comes back, she will be chasing for your attention.

Title	What to do when women walk off during dates?
Author	nedshepherd
Upvotes	13
Comments	40
Date	July 25, 2014 4:54 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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