You don't need more techniques or information... You've to grow a SPINE. No way around it.

epimpstyle · 2026-04-04T17:28:52+00:00

It’s hilarious how people oversimplify things and then cut off the explanation exactly where it gets important. Everyone in this field knows that what you say after "hi" is what actually counts, not the "hi" itself... and guess what? That’s exactly the piece of information that’s missing.

Affectionate_Boss657 · 2026-04-04T17:33:55+00:00

I have said so many hi to so many but still nothing is happening, invited out also

Matter_Still · 2026-04-05T09:07:34+00:00

You can have the fearlessness of a Navy Seal. If you don’t have much of interest to say after “Hi”, being all “spine” won’t help you.

themajinhercule · 2026-04-04T17:55:53+00:00

That exactly how I feel after spending time here. Just...Jesus Christ guys, gorw a pair of balls and talk. You'll at least be seen as friendly.

Cause you know who they're fucking? The guys that talk to them.

Certain_Process_7657 · 2026-04-04T18:31:09+00:00

Yes but also be realistic with who you cold approach. She should be in the same general range in terms of age and attractiveness level

Key-Proud · 2026-04-04T22:21:40+00:00

I'll add to OPs posts. You need to take actions and get reference experiences.

- You are what you repeat.

In the seduction journey there are check points (when seducing a girl or guy). These check points are where you don't have control of the outcome. These check points are when anxiety kicks in and you repeat what you trained. Will you run away? or will your be paralyzed and cause awkward moments? Will you say something witty?

- When you are starting out ... it is good to notice how you behave when you are at these check points. Are you looking for IOIs? Do you run away? Do you run out of things to say? So the next time it happens you plan on an action of what to do instead of going to the default action of making awkward moments. Then repeat until you internalize the new habit.

- That feeling of not having control of the outcome is what cause people to do nothing at all.

- One particular check point is approaching the girl and saying "Hi" ... Another check point is going for the kiss ... Another is going for the phone number ... another check point is leading for the lay.

Each check points need reference experiences. To get reference experiences is to put yourself out there and take action. The correct action.

- Then once you take action .... show you will Live on from a rejection (not taking, IF the rejection happens, personal or being butt hurt about it).

That is the true definition of being "outcome independent" ... you will still try (even try more than most) but still know your will live on IF a rejection happens ... if you can convey that to a girl (or guy) they will be massively attracted to you because you will be different from others..... who gets butt hurt easily.

The more action you take the more reference experience you get the more out come independent you become ...

That is seduction

becomesharp · 2026-04-06T20:30:26+00:00

Everyone in the comments arguing against your point is precisely why the vast vast majority of men will never succeed at cold approach. Because getting over fear is the first step and is the barrier to entry for almost everyone.

EveningBeginning3922 · 2026-04-04T17:56:10+00:00

Yes you are right flirt practise and some kind of trying romance or a bit cooler or funier mix just that it try again till u find

tattooedpanhead · 2026-04-04T19:02:31+00:00

Once you loose the fear of being rejected the fear of her losing interest. You almost don't even need to approach any more.

Ok-Orange7146 · 2026-04-04T19:40:59+00:00

Great post. We all need to hear this. We need to grow some balls and do it

Warm-Fun5226 · 2026-04-04T21:02:46+00:00

Well that definite is the first step, just not the only step. Once you get the confidence and build up to go talk to a girl you already made it past the hard part most don’t get to, but now you still have to be able to convert the initial spark into a calm and flirt conversation, it’s completely possible and the more you do it once you have a “spine” in your words the better you get at it. My best advice is trying the app shawty to actually improve approaches and stay consistent with growing your strengths and now I’m pretty much able to approach anyone

WebNew9978 · 2026-04-05T07:15:48+00:00

Overthinking is a part of who I am. Not to mention every time I had guts and approached it ended badly.

Optimal_Prune_953 · 2026-04-05T14:52:00+00:00

I get very angry when people say all it takes is saying Hi because if that's all it took, then communities like this would not exist

vtribal · 2026-04-05T19:33:09+00:00

most of the time growing a spine is just being willing to walk away. and not give time to a woman who doesnt appear to like you

andreidanilo · 2026-04-04T21:05:43+00:00

True, plenty of guys complain they get no play but I guarantee if they got out of their comfort zone and approached, irl or online, they'd find someone quicker than they'd think...

MongooseKitchen2507 · 2026-04-04T16:57:49+00:00

Indeed, this is so true specially in cases of Inc*st. So many heat already gets developed between bro - sis, mom- son,in fact in many cases moms gets bit open and gives signals but sons are so scared, even a slight requests with action,.like boobs sucking, neck kiss, can make her totally uncontrollable and surrender fully.

Title	You don't need more techniques or information... You've to grow a SPINE. No way around it.
Author	wilhelmtherealm
Upvotes	134
Comments	56
Date	April 4, 2026 4:42 PM UTC (4 months ago)
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