My wife is asking for part of my retirement as part of the settlement... I have approximately $250k in my 401k, she has approximately $150k.

We are in the process of selling the house and we should both walk away with $60k once the dust clears on that which my plan, after a year, is to buy a house and this 60k would go a long way in getting me to my 20% goal.

My question is, if she is asking for $50k out my retirement, should I give it to her and how does that work on transferring money out of a retirement 401k account? or should I offer her $50k out of my share of the house?

what pisses me off is that part of the payoff we are having to do is $35k that is left on her student loan from her doctorate that she went back to school for during our marriage...