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[–]BedazzledSwashbuckleFDS Newbie 155 points156 points157 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
I saw a set of posts on Facebook over the weekend, in which a man was pointing out that men associate women/female partners with pleasure. They do not associate women or hetero relationship with *responsibility.* What that means is that when they do end up in a relationship with a woman, all the parts of that woman that don't bring him pleasure (or even worse, that create responsibilities for him) are seen as a bug, a flaw ... and when they don't go away, he assumes the woman is the problem. Instead of adjusting his flawed expectations, he then goes out and seeks another woman, again assuming this will be a source of pleasure and nothing but pleasure. When she, too, brings responsibilities, obligations, and even moments of non-pleasure, he will again assume she is flawed.
These flawed (and non-human) expectations of female humans are behind men feeling entitled to cheat (one of the few female-male interactions in which solely pleasure is forefront, and most or all responsibilities are non-existent / delayed), weaponized incompetence with housework/children, and failing to stay with sick partners.
It's also behind abuser-think - when men attempt to colonize a female body for their own sexu@l use, while acting as colonizers do and attempting to remove / suppress the native inhabitant of that body until it/she can no longer impose boundaries or shape their interactions.
TLDR: when i see rants like this OP, I see another man who only associates "real women" with pleasure. He doesn't see women as 3-dimensional human beings with whom complex, multi-layered relationships are possible.
[–]Catz10000FDS Newbie[S] 81 points82 points83 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I honestly (as a woman and a counselor) am seeing that men do not have empathy beyond their own skulls. That's why women are appliances to so many.
Thank you for your excellent point!
[–]BedazzledSwashbuckleFDS Newbie 50 points51 points52 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
That's an absolutely terrifying insight. I wonder where and why it happens. I know, in raising sons, they're intensely empathetic as small children. Something, somewhere, clicks off in the teens .... I wish there were more studies on when male empathetic capacity declines and why.
[–]The_Oracle_of_DelphiFDS Apprentice 44 points45 points46 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I think our CULTURE teaches them to be entitled. Even if their parents tried to instill good values in them in their early years, this can be easily overridden later by our culture, a set of bro-y friends, a sexist work environment, etc.
[–]BedazzledSwashbuckleFDS Newbie 23 points24 points25 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I agree. I know the party line here is to blame mom, but that doesn't line up with what I'm seeing in the world around me. It does seem to be largely cultural and driven by what the men around them praise / ridicule.
[–]Catz10000FDS Newbie[S] 28 points29 points30 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think around the same time their parents check out. Pickme mother + scrote father = scrote sons. I work very hard to teach my sons HV behavior and it ain't easy.
[–]Lonely_Act1138 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This! In my experience boys are taught at a young age to suppress emotions except happy and angry. This greatly stunts their EQ and ability to empathize. There is a pandemic of emotionally damaged men doing harm in this society
[–]Unlikely-MarzipanRuthless Strategist 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks for validating the experiences that so many of us have. When women come across so many men that treat them like objects, the woman is always blamed by others - it’s her “picker” that’s wrong, it’s her “unresolved trauma”, she’s “just going for the good looking guys/ she’s superficial.” And when she’s in abusive relationship after abusive relationship, it’s because “she’s attracting these types” or she “must be doing something to cause it as she’s the common denominator.” But the fact is, there are just so many men who do lack empathy and because of that, their actions are abusive.
This is so interesting to read and honestly, it rings so true.
Edit: I hope more women read things like this and realise they are not to blame.
[–]Platipus6FDS Disciple 377 points378 points379 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Sits on the couch screaming into his headset, ignoring the hungry kids and full diaper. At least he doesn't hit his girlfriend 🙃
[–]NinjaCynicFDS Newbie 176 points177 points178 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
....his own full diaper? Sorry, that was the first thought that popped into my head on reading your first sentence 😂🤦🏻♀️
[–]Platipus6FDS Disciple 123 points124 points125 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
With the way these dudes are binge-gaming, it's entirely possible 🤢
[–]DumpsterWitchyFDS Newbie 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
When I see those photos, where there are dozens over dozens of bottles filled with piss, parked around the computers of gamer-scrotes, it wouldn't be a wonder if some of them would put diapers on, so they can shit where they sit.
[–]aurelia_86FDS Newbie 78 points79 points80 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ah, y'all have met my ex boyfriend then...
[–]arnezuaraFDS Apprentice 78 points79 points80 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Since when being loyal is a personality trait? It’s the bare minimum. These imbeciles should get over themselves.
“Don’t cheat” = tries to, but no one’s willing to fuck him.
[–]Catz10000FDS Newbie[S] 25 points26 points27 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Right?! It's an action and a choice...that they can change at any time.
[–]xfelugirlxFDS Newbie 65 points66 points67 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The bar is so low they feel entitled to say they are not bad (they are not good either)
[–]ginnappFDS Newbie 256 points257 points258 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Or pickme's saying: "At least he's not a felon"
Sadly there are women who even date men knowing that they are felons
Smh, absolutely no standards whatsoever
[–]mirablack 28 points29 points30 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
'At least he's not a felon'
That's like, the bare minimum of requirements?
[–]honeybadgerattitudeFDS Newbie 46 points47 points48 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Wow!
[–]phulkari2784FDS Newbie 123 points124 points125 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Men feel so entitled. They are bad at sex, live in a denial about it, have the audacity of expecting a BJ. Losers AF.
[–]Catz10000FDS Newbie[S] 303 points304 points305 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Spoiler alert: He'll still cheat.
[–]EnvironmentalGroup15 34 points35 points36 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
If he doesn’t cheat he’ll have a raging porn addiction 🙄
[–]Catz10000FDS Newbie[S] 29 points30 points31 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I see your bet and I raise you he'll do both.
[–]704_furnished 22 points23 points24 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I chEated cuz Of YoU
[–]lansburysoda 81 points82 points83 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Came here to say this 😂
[–]munakhtylerFDS Newbie 53 points54 points55 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
They all cheat 🤮
[–]ferociouslycuriousFDS Newbie 31 points32 points33 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
They pretend to be all HV meanwhile you can’t even tell if they like the things you do for them. So you stop and they get all angry.
[–]scorchedsouIFDS Newbie 141 points142 points143 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
I don't understand how women can stay with men who suck at sex. How doesn't the sexual disappointment get to them?
[–]Fun_SherbetFDS Apprentice 46 points47 points48 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Second the brainwashing comment - and like everything else, women are made to believe they can fix him. meanwhile the cognitive dissonance grows and you never question why sex with him makes you horribly anxious to the point of tears. ask me how i know
[–]aurelia_86FDS Newbie 118 points119 points120 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
It's pretty easy. You're brainwashed by religion/family/society and you don't know your own body or believe that it's ok for you to want pleasure. Or you have few sexual partners and you legit have no idea what good sex feels like.
[–]ewokblubberFDS Newbie 49 points50 points51 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I have a friend whose ex-boyfriend was surprised when she dumped him because after three months of having sex together and plenty of instructions, he still had not made her cum one single time. Like, he was baffled that that might lead to a break-up. He just seriously never considered it a big problem. Despite her continuously giving him instructions in bed, he never thought it was important to her and felt no real need to change the situation because he didn't see it as something that might eventually harm his access to her and her body.
His reasoning? None of his exes cared, because they all 'eventually' started coming after a few months, they just needed some time to 'adjust to the new person' and maybe she just needed that time too? She informed him of the obvious facts that his exes didn't magically 'adjust' to his bad performance, they just started faking it, and after he had calmed down from that enough to speak in full sentences again, he still didn't see why she would break up with him because of a lack of orgasms after three months of sex.
This brainwashing goes so deep that some scrotes are legitimately surprised to encounter someone who hasn't let it get to her!
[–]ferociouslycuriousFDS Newbie 33 points34 points35 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Because we really don’t care. We can always take care of ourselves. It’s only an issue when the loser is upset we don’t want sex more often.
[–]explicitlinguini 21 points22 points23 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Men always trying to post in ways that make them appear superior than the rest. You only have to yell out for attention when your actions don't communicate loudly enough.
[–]PicoPicoMioFDS Newbie 14 points15 points16 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lmaooooo you just described my ex husband. To this day he really thinks he did good by me, despite me having dressed him down multiple times.
[–]Keepers12345FDS Newbie 44 points45 points46 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Bad at sex??
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