A List of Approach Invitations

ImJustSo · 2017-10-24T15:33:42+00:00

I agree with everything, but advice to guys about sunglasses. Just pretend they're eyes and make "eye contact". Usually a woman will hold eye contact behind the glasses, thinking they're safe knowing you can't see their eyes.

It has the same effect on the women though and a lot of times I'll get a sly ass smirk from women in sunglasses. My confidence to look at sunglasses instead of eyes seems to win some of them over with just a look!

LimitedContributor · 2017-10-24T16:57:03+00:00

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DirkDieGurke · 2017-10-24T17:51:31+00:00

This is the first thing all guys should learn. Even clueless newbs can hookup if they realize that a girl is wanting them to approach.

Anybody hating on these tips, you're a shitty salesman. Good salesmen spend their valuable time on good leads. More time focusing on a few girls with interest beats spending your time on tons of disinterested females.

ImJustSo · 2017-10-24T16:06:36+00:00

Oh, I just remembered one huge indicator from bold women. At least, this "move" always seems very bold.

If a woman is passing you anywhere and "falls" onto you, grabs you, and very clearly appears there's no reason for it, she'll look up and say, "ooops" all cute like. Maybe apologize, but she'll look right into your soul, while smiling, and it never seems sincere.

They know what they're doing. Women literally can fall into your lap, on accident, but yeah naw...women that Hector labels "fuck offs" would never let herself get close enough to you to fall on you.

TAKEtheUPBOAT · 2017-10-24T17:30:56+00:00

Give her your chicken.

SWEETTART58 · 2017-10-24T15:10:03+00:00

more great tips- thanks hector- really appreciate your time and insight-

oatorres · 2017-10-24T16:21:46+00:00

Neat!

2017-10-24T22:01:33+00:00

So just approach? Though the neck exposed thing I see girls do a fair bit for me so I'm wondering if I'm doing it wrong.

Versecker · 2017-10-24T23:17:39+00:00

I have a question. I'm asian and I live in a Latin American country. I'd say I'm like a 7/8, and have a reputation of being pretty smart but not nerdy at all. I also crack a lot of jokes during class. Anyway, if a girl is making eye contact with me is it because I'm the only asian in a 30-student classroom or because she actually finds me attractive? Genuine question.

-Sag2 · 2017-10-25T02:20:25+00:00

You sir, are fucking awesome. I'll take heavy note of this, and save the post.

2017-10-25T05:52:55+00:00

Amazing list, especially the Approach Invitations! I will print this out and look into it daily.

Luffydude · 2017-10-24T16:23:02+00:00

If she's wearing sunglasses or headphones

Fuck that, majority of girls in the city will be on their phone with headphones and possibly on a call. Don't miss out, just go in and say hi

snf3210 · 2017-10-24T22:19:00+00:00

Doesn't return eye-contact as you pass each other.

I've gotten this a lot but they often turned out to be quite receptive and conversational. I think a lot just don't like to make contact from nearby, it can seem intense or overly-communicative. TLDR not necessarily a dealbreaker

Vektor101 · 2017-10-25T04:28:50+00:00

Great post! This is a goldmine for beginners like me, thank you for taking the time to put so much effort into it.

seduction_reaction · 2017-10-24T20:57:39+00:00

Welp!!

I've personally seen all the fuck off signals but never any approach signals.

Sigh

Dr_4gon · 2017-10-24T19:15:51+00:00

It's funny how approaching Women is something that didn't change in all the years being civilized , since at the end it all comes down to instinct still (if i get this correctly)

LimitedContributor · 2017-10-24T21:12:15+00:00

This was a interesting read. And fun.

I also noticed that, girls that were the epitome of what I'm attracted to were patient when I approached them.

Its amazing.

phendo · 2017-10-24T22:10:50+00:00

Great post!

snf3210 · 2017-10-24T22:24:36+00:00

What if she looks multiple times from far away?

Futurebrain · 2017-10-24T22:30:34+00:00

I'd agree with most of these, however, people need to keep perspective on glances. If you are flat out staring at someone, it's likely that they'll glance at you a few times, if they notice it, just to see if you are still staring at them. There's a fine line between an interested glance and a "why the fuck is this dude staring at me" glance. I've always practiced this with the contingent that they glance or make eye contact unprovoked. Of course if my owen wilson ringtone goes off loudly in a quiet cafe I'm going to get some glances, but they aren't necesarily indicators of interest. The best indicator I've found is if they return a smile, they're interested.

ThotBubble · 2017-10-24T22:44:11+00:00

Not to be corny but JUST DO IT ... even if she turns you down then go tot the next one you can’t miss every shot you take

2017-10-25T03:25:55+00:00

I've actually missed so many opportunities and I never see the girl again :/ Really good advice

SyrusDrake · 2017-10-25T10:38:32+00:00

I can't comment on the inviting signs but I get the fuck-off signs at least several times a day so I guess you're onto something at least there.

Not_unique_enuf · 2017-10-25T11:03:40+00:00

Okay I get what is being put here and I appreciate it. But most women I been with didn't "invite" me. They literally had fuck off faces. As soon as I opened with a compliment they changed their whole demeanor. This just seems another way to pass up an opportunity for newbies. "Oh she had a fuck off face. So I didn't approach"......For average looking men like me most women have "fuck off" faces.

aliarz · 2017-10-25T15:32:28+00:00

About the second point of the approach invitation.

You are talking about direct eyes contact or while you are not looking at her?

There is a girl at gym that look at me sometimes and she happened a couple of times that she got the treadmill leaving a space between her and her friend. Sadly is not so easy approach as she is with her most of the time.

greenlittleman · 2017-10-25T15:44:46+00:00

When you await "invitations" you automatically in her frame and lose your own. If you are beginner, then even if she gives you an "invitation" it wouldn't really make you easier to approach, on the other hand it would hit you more when you are rejected (and more often than not you'll be, because there is never a guaranty to get laid). If you are not beginner, then there is no reason to lose the frame and await better opportunity.

People like this post because they are still in a frame "I need you to like me, like me please, please, please" and so they want to know who will like them with more probability at least at approach stage.

Turlast · 2017-10-25T18:09:39+00:00

Thanks for posting this.

AragorntheMighty · 2017-10-26T23:27:43+00:00

Hi! Could you do a continuation of this post but this time talk about "A list of Good Ways To Approach." l got a lot from this man thanks.

2018-01-02T02:55:07+00:00

Reminder though that none of this applies if a woman is very shy! Many give off fuck off body language and motions if they do like you, so they can be tough to read.

TonyDCoaching · 2017-10-24T20:53:47+00:00

Yeah everything but the glasses and headphones. I meet women with both of these all the time and have had clients do it hundreds of times. Not a big deal. Excellent post.

Edgar_Allan_Rich · 2017-10-24T17:13:54+00:00

So basically a woman is either 100% interested or not interested in fucking. She can't just be walking at any given time?

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iamtrogdor47 · 2017-10-25T05:43:41+00:00

"Looks at you for more than 1.5 seconds."

This could not make me more angry. How the FUCK is that supposed to be any kind of indication whatsoever. If this is true, which everyone here seems to agree it is, this is absolutely the most ridiculous thing I've heard in my life. It makes me really wish I were gay because if women are truly THAT indirect and deceitful then I may as well kill myself before having any hope of understanding them. I think I'm starting to understand why people go on /r/incels

Title	A List of Approach Invitations
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Date	October 24, 2017 1:14 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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