How to not be serious

radredrocket · 2022-09-09T04:00:15+00:00

Why so serious?

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-09-09T03:35:01+00:00

Try not being so serious

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-09-09T09:21:18+00:00

Women need a little bit of fun, they need you to not take yourself so seriously so they can relax. You need to develop a sense of humour and be willing to be less mature sometimes for fun. Learn to be a kid again. Show more excitement, a sense of wonder, try to do exciting or even taboo stuff, be more sexual, more playful, imitate her, tease her and mess with her, joke around, etc

UnluckyGoose00 · 2022-09-09T04:16:34+00:00

Be willing to lose her. I think that’s what works best for me. If you have an abundance of options or if you’re confident in your ability to create new options (if things don’t work out with this gal) you can go into the next date more relaxed. Maybe poke fun at yourself, laugh a bit more, smile a bit more, etc. Just have fun man!

sleepstages · 2022-09-09T06:43:27+00:00

Be super cereal

Zenterus · 2022-09-09T10:16:43+00:00

Treat it as a shit test. In other words, ignore it.

If it was a legitimate issue, she wouldn't be dating you. Never change yourself to appease a someone else, unless who you are is preventing you from reaching your goals.

So, if every woman you dated broke up with you because you were too serious then yeah, that's something you need to address.

But if you're getting the women that you want and you're able to keep them despite being serious then just ignore it. Just girls being their mind fucking selves.

Competitive_Duty2502 · 2022-09-09T05:10:29+00:00

Ask her to be funnier and maybe you won’t be so serious haha

Nullroute127 · 2022-09-09T21:41:05+00:00

Serious could signify:

You're too literal in your understanding/delivery of words and phrases
You lack emotionality/expressiveness in your gestures/speech
You're not up for silly things like jumping into a pool with your clothes on
You're too intense when discussing certain things

The spirit of romance is lighthearted and playful. It might just be you're so concerned about your image that you come off as a dry personality and don't show the real you, or engage in ways that you want to because you don't want to be judged.

My personal anecdote. I had to make a conscious effort to not respond to every question literally, even when it was reachy. For example, "Do you want coffee?" is more fun to respond with, "I didn't know your middle name is coffee" share a sexually tensioned laugh, and then say, "Absolutely" and just let that kind of banter flow. Slightly cringe is OK if it's fun.

blubbercup · 2022-09-09T04:09:30+00:00

I’ve been told I’m serious, but idk if that’s a total bad thing. Some girls find it cute they’ve told me, for others at particular times it has been a turn on.

Idk just be yourself bro.

Plenty_Software4415 · 2022-09-09T04:13:37+00:00

😂 loosen up I guess aha, it’s a hard thing to do but I think over-seriousness comes from insecurity. Insecure to be your goofy self

Zenterus · 2022-09-09T10:18:20+00:00

Treat it as a shit test. In other words, ignore it.

If it was a legitimate issue, she wouldn't be dating you. Never change yourself to appease someone else, unless who you are is preventing you from reaching your goals.

So, if every woman you dated broke up with you because you were too serious then yeah, that's something you need to address.

But if you're getting the women that you want and you're able to keep them despite being serious then just ignore it. Its just girls being their mind fucking selves.

MO_drps_knwldg · 2022-09-09T12:25:46+00:00

This is a serious situation

yiggaman · 2022-09-09T14:10:49+00:00

That's a shit test. Tell her to seriously suck this dick

YouGotTangoed · 2022-09-09T09:26:22+00:00

Tickle her

zapadz · 2022-09-09T06:36:00+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JyiDypPrSV8

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pWfXhvxZbvk

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7QZGcJ03RSI

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kb5Q3sSdtpo

2022-09-09T06:14:31+00:00

don’t take life so seriously. u only have one life don’t waste it

learnbyrepetition · 2022-09-09T11:52:50+00:00

I’d say don’t change it if it doesn’t bother you. If you want to change it, good, but if you’re doing it because she said it maybe it’s not such a good idea

Icy_Rub1839 · 2022-09-09T12:04:43+00:00

Exclusive after three dates? Damn...

SharpAd3703 · 2022-09-09T16:18:18+00:00

Amuse mastery

FaithInStrangers94 · 2022-09-09T16:32:53+00:00

Do you laugh with friends or anyone else? If not you might be depressed.

There’s a lot to despair about in life and some people are too oblivious but I didn’t realise my depression was the main source of my cynicism

Turbulent-Lemon-4015 · 2022-09-09T16:42:26+00:00

All you talked was about job, kids and future career plans?

quadfintryfin · 2022-09-09T18:52:54+00:00

Tell some awful jokes

userisauser · 2022-09-09T19:49:55+00:00

Let's put a smile on that face!

CautiousSea4815 · 2022-09-09T20:49:30+00:00

Some people just don't have a sense of humor. Nothing wrong with that. Ernest Hemingway didn't have a sense of humor. Oliver Stone has no sense of humor. Not like you're the first.

TheRealAlkemyst · 2022-09-10T01:36:12+00:00

3 dates and totally exclusive is a bit odd in this time. She probably wants some freedom, you can't treat dating like a marriage.

Fine-Professional251 · 2022-09-10T02:30:33+00:00

Just play a bit. Be a kid again. Not childish! No no noo just plaaayful

Title	How to not be serious
Author	bbstar23
Upvotes	23
Comments	41
Date	September 9, 2022 3:27 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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