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I would also add most guys are NOT naturals or good at dating/seduction. An awful lot settle down with their first decent option.
/r/seduction10/05/26 05:02 PM
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Thats super rural. My metro area had a population of around 1.2m and its a small city. Your choices are going to be extremely limited.
/r/seduction06/03/26 06:15 PM
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Well because that shit doesn't actually mean anything until it does. Everyone thinks they're going to be successful in college, then they get slapped in the face with reality once they hit the job market. But yeah thats not quite as big of a piece of the puzzle as a lot of people think either.
/r/seduction16/02/26 11:32 AM
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I'm at well over that number (im also much older than most of you guys too I imagine), and I think it depends on the how and why. I think getting to know, and seducing a new woman is a lot of fun and exciting as hell. That doesn't mean you have to treat her as disposable. I’ve heard people say it too, that after sleeping around they regret it because now they can’t be intimate with someone. Intimacy is a mental and emotional thing. Sticking your dick into something is physical. There can be over…
/r/seduction10/06/23 10:59 PM
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You think 100lbs at 5''3 is fat? It seems to me that you have some body image issues that need to be resolved.
/r/seduction12/08/22 02:58 PM
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FWBs aren't about having NO emotional attachment, that's why a lot of people fuck them up. Like my FWBs are legitimately my friends, and I legitimately care about them. It's still a form of relationship. It just so happens that for some reason or another they don't fit what I'd be looking for in an LTR. I enjoy spending time with them, I enjoy fucking them, their feelings are mutual. I also don't lead them on like there's some possibility of LTR either. Though I think OP had it backwards. I thin…
/r/seduction12/08/22 02:53 PM
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So I usually ask about their last relationship, and/or past relationships. I'm 40, so most of the women that I date have been divorced and such. Flowing to sex is just natural after talking about relationships. I've had a couple of women resistant to talk about sex (very very few), that's an instant red flag for me. I'm not interested in asexual/low sex drive women. I keep dates short because they don't need to be long. If we're both having a good time, I just invite her over. I mean I guess it …
/r/seduction12/08/22 02:28 PM
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rely on your conversation skills and deep diving to build up attraction? Still in this way. I mean if you're not able to carry the conversation, that's partly your fault. So it seems like you're trying to game her online. Just meet her, you said she's down. Part of the problem with talk TOO MUCH before you meet her, is that now you have less shit to talk about on the actual date. Like my first date conversation flow goes... General life stuff, her interests/passions, relationships, sex. One lead…
/r/seduction11/08/22 01:51 PM
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Well that's something you can practice for sure! Just start having conversations with people. Flirting is just injecting some sexual energy into the conversation. The most important thing is to have some fun with it!
/r/seduction10/08/22 08:50 PM
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You should, as long as you have the things you CAN control at a decent level too (being somewhat fit, having a good style, being a good conversationalist, etc). You basically want to stack up as many "good" things as you can. And even despite that, a woman might still not want to talk to you, at the time you're trying to talk to her.
/r/seduction10/08/22 06:15 PM
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Yeah I get that bars are shitty environments when they're like that. It's why I don't go to them anymore lol. if you were an attractive guy, would it even matter how clumsy you were, your haircut, etc? So you're thinking about this in the wrong way. So there's no such thing as universally attractive. There's generally attractive (most women think Jason Momoa is attractive), and then there's individually attractive. Now being generally attractive is good, it definitely helps. There are also indiv…
/r/seduction10/08/22 05:58 PM
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So I'm a fan of the marketing approach (if you will). You have a type of woman that you like best I'm sure. What I mean is personality wise, not looks wise. So if you like party girls that go to clubs, that's one type. If you like bookish girls that stay in, that's another type. What you want to do is tailor yourself to the type of woman you want to meet. If you're looking for bookish girls, wearing a leather motorcycle vest, is probably going to be jarring to her. So the first step is figuring …
/r/seduction10/08/22 03:05 PM
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I'm a professional paramedic. So if you want to get into public service as a hobby, that's fine. Though you ought to know you can pick up some VERY unhealthy views and thinking patterns. There's a reason EMS people have a high rate of PTSD, and a suicide rate way higher than the general population. This shit effects your whole life. Now with the disclaimer out of the way... You'll definitely rack up interesting experiences doing it. As far as being attractive to women... Yeah you're likely to ge…
/r/seduction10/08/22 02:56 PM
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When she pulled away from them, I asked to buy her a drink, she said yes, then proceeded to act like I didn't exist. So I left. Yeah don't do that. Buying women drinks is only throwing money away. So you're taking rejection personally, you have to learn not to do that. She wasn't rejecting you, she was rejecting your clumsy approach or open. She was rejecting your lame haircut or shirt. She was rejecting ANY guy because she has a guy. See there's a million reasons for her to say no, that don't h…
/r/seduction10/08/22 02:47 PM
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Yeah I definitely agree with your quote! So I've had that happen to me in occasion too. I might get a little amusement out of it, but I'm not out to change someone else's opinion. Though you did kind of mention that it's causing you problems with seduction?
/r/seduction10/08/22 02:42 PM
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Your best best is going to be trying a fetish site. What you're looking for is a cougar. Like it definitely sounds to me that you have more of a fetish than just a milf/mature fantasy. So some older women also get turned on by younger men. If I had to venture a guess it's not a ton. When I was younger I hooked up with a woman that was probably 15 years older, but she wanted an LTR (and I didn't). Most of the women that you're probably thinking about (30-50) are most likely looking to settle down…
/r/seduction10/08/22 02:31 PM
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I just want to communicate what I really am, that no matter how I look, there are things I do because I love doing it. Awesome don't lose that! So it sounds like how you present yourself, and how you are... Are two different things. That's not inherently good or bad, it's just that you're upending a person's initial impression People make stereotypes and judgements.... That's not going to change anytime soon. The trick is to not let someone else's opinion have an effect in you.
/r/seduction10/08/22 02:25 PM
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You've heard of the biological clock I take it? It's because in a few years their ability to have vital children falls off, and/or their looks start to fade. Not don't confuse things here. A LOT of people are in shitty and/or dysfunctional relationships. Desperation IS a part of that. Most people want monogamy, and most people are also incapable of actually being alone...it's not surprising.
/r/seduction09/08/22 05:18 PM
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Yeah for sure. Really that old school pua shit is training wheels until you "figure it out". My whole thing looks absolutely nothing like what I used to do. I think you're right a lot of dudes just want that magic answer without putting in any of the effort. Though that's with everything. I'm successful in my love life, because I spent countless hours fucking up various aspects.. tweaking something and fucking it up again
/r/seduction08/08/22 03:35 PM
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I agree super harsh rejections aren't common. When I used to go to the bars/clubs and do approaches I absolutely had women turn their back after I opened. I'm NOT actively doing that shit anymore, but I spent a ton of time doing that shit when I was younger. Just cause she sits there and banters for a few minutes doesn't mean she's even on the fence. Most people are just social and polite. Go talk to an old lady at the grocery store, she'll probably chat with you for a few minutes and she's not …
/r/seduction08/08/22 03:15 PM
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He said you're NOT turning a no girl into a yes girl with game, and I agree there. Game can definitely move the "maybe/not sure" girl into yes, but not often the NOs (yeah that happens rarely too).
/r/seduction08/08/22 02:41 PM
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you're not suppose to go up to a girl and do all kinds of ridiculously awkward 'pua' moves on someone in an elevator. That's actually what the old PUA scams claimed you could do. They were saying you could seduce ANY woman if you just bought their product and learned their secret. It was totally bullshit. indirect works best in group situations where you don't even approach her at all, you approach one of her friends and... That's not what indirect game was. Indirect was going up to some chick a…
/r/seduction08/08/22 02:27 PM
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How do you tell whether two people, who just happen to be talking but are quite close, are a couple? Sometimes you can't. Though I think a lot of younger people get touchy/feely when they're interested in that person... Instead of making their actual intent known, they try and show it through that kind of behavior. Should you care when deciding to approach her or not? You can find out easy enough. Second, just how close and touchy and feely can a non-couple be? This is totally nonsensical thinki…
/r/seduction08/08/22 02:19 PM
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Based on the circumstances and the fact we’ve been snapping/talking for months, is she expecting this to be more of a FWB situation, or just a casual friendship? I personally can’t gauge it and I don’t want to How about you actually meet her first. Her sending pics does mean she's going to meet you, let alone fuck you. Get her out on a date, then see where things go
/r/seduction08/08/22 01:59 PM
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Just ask her to do something. It's really not all that complicated. "Hey it was great chatting with you the other night, let's grab a drink and catch up".
/r/seduction05/08/22 03:05 PM
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Yeah I think you're more right there. I think there's definitely pressures on BOTH men and women to act one way publicly, especially regarding things like sex. If anything it's probably NOT conscious in a lot of them. I don't think women are actually out there discouraging men from approaching. Like yeah there might be a couple that vent about some awkward/clunky approach that someone did. I think there's probably more of the white knight/captainsaveahoe telling other dudes how wrong it is to tr…
/r/seduction05/08/22 02:58 PM
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Yeah so it sounds like you have a lot of those bases covered. It's probably your pictures then. Here's one of the weird things about pictures... What pictures YOU think are best, usually aren't what other people think. So take your pictures and put them up for review. Have a girl friend of yours pick out the best. As far as height you're roughly the same height as me. Sure there's some women that will give you a hard no (just like you're going to say no to the 300lb lady). 2 of my most recent lo…
/r/seduction05/08/22 01:42 PM
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That's almost certainly a presentation problem on your end then. Most of your success is going to come from having good pictures. Part of that is having some style, being well groomed, and not being too far away from average in terms of weight/body composition. Those are definitely all thing you can work on, and you'll likely see an improvement in your matches.
/r/seduction05/08/22 12:06 PM
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I for whatever reason feel that most guys are absolutely autistic about this, because affirmative consent is klunky. And it's not actually going to stop you from getting thrown in jail if she wants to press the issue anyway. When I have a new lady and we're making out and petting, and I think it's time (after quite a lot of foreplay)... I'll usually whisper into her ear "tell me how much you want to feel my cock inside of you". A lot of women complain that men are too quiet during sex, try it yo…
/r/seduction04/08/22 07:11 PM
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Get some better pictures. I only have a few, and they decent (not even good) and I get matches. I can't overstate how important at least a couple of good pictures are.
/r/seduction04/08/22 07:08 PM
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That's 10x smaller than the city OP is in. Of 600k people how many of those do you think are single women? Now how many do you think are on tinder? Then how many fit your criteria, and will even see you (because you're outside of theirs). OPs location has LOT to do with it. I spent a single night in NYC and had gotten a bunch of matches, and some of them were way hotter than my usual ones at home.
/r/seduction04/08/22 06:56 PM
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I mean if she suggested getting together today, don't say "yeah ok" and expect her to set it up. You need to make something happen. "Hey if you're still free today let's do X at Y place at Z time".
/r/seduction04/08/22 06:51 PM
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OP is also in a big city, and that matters a lot.
/r/seduction04/08/22 06:48 PM
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So why haven't you pinned down a date yet? All that talking, and you haven't met her yet. So that doesn't sound to me like it's in a good spot. Maybe she was initially interested, and in turn you dropped the ball on actually setting a meet. If she started doing all that WHEN you suggested a date, it's because she doesn't actually ever plan on meeting you But yeah if she was actually interested in you, she'd make it easy for you to get together with her.
/r/seduction04/08/22 06:43 PM
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Right, that's because you're a socially awkward virgin. You clearly don't know how to interact with people, let alone women. If you're not willing to accept advice I'm done here.
/r/seduction03/08/22 03:10 PM
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Not really. Join a club, go to a bar, do whatever you have to do to get out amongst people. Just work on those social skills in general. If you never developed those skills it's going to be hard, but there's no better time than now. Forget about women until your social skills are better, if you happen to meet some cool ones that's great! That shit where the nervous nerd gets the model doesn't happen in real life.
/r/seduction03/08/22 03:06 PM
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It's a circular thing You're a socially awkward virgin, but you're going to continue to be nervous and awkward around women until you talk to more women. So think of it this way. If you've ever given a speech or presentation... The first time you did it you were probably nervous AND shitty. The more you did them the less shitty and nervous you probably got. You might always be a little nervous, but can be a great speaker too. Now with talking to women (or just strangers in general) you're probab…
/r/seduction03/08/22 02:56 PM
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You could record yourself talking and evaluate how you sound that way.
/r/seduction21/07/22 01:07 PM
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It's really not any different than your reasons, women just tend to talk about it differently. No chemistry is the most generic one, and they say that because most are being polite. People (not just guys) hate being rejected, and a lot lash out. I've had women act every bit as badly as I've heard women say men act. So I started rejecting the situation instead of her directly. In truth it could be a million different things. You could have said something she found offensive, could have talked to …
/r/seduction17/07/22 07:00 PM
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I'm kind of at a loss as to how the hell an IUD is considered an abortion. Yeah I can see how plan B would be... I'm glad I don't live in one of those places!
/r/seduction27/06/22 05:54 PM
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Oh is it? I was thinking it's both early enough in the places that are putting time limits on, and that it was considered a contraceptive. Was also thinking it would be easy enough to get through the mail.
/r/seduction27/06/22 05:47 PM
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It's really super easy, don't be an irresponsible moron. Also people lie, so it's YOUR responsibility to ensure you do your part to prevent pregnancy. You should be using condoms, barebacking some chick you just met off of tinder is beyond stupid. On top of using condoms you should also pull out. If you just take the barest of precautions, you won't have an unexpected pregnancy. If you're still wanting to be stupid, or you're scared... Well spend $50 and get plan B.
/r/seduction27/06/22 01:20 PM
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Well you can't say "anything" that comes to mind, but you CAN talk about anything you want. Though how and when you brooch certain topics very much depends on your social skills and rapport with her. If women are actually responding to you in an awkward manner or are cringing, something with the way you're talking to them is REALLY off. Can you give an example of what kind of stuff you're saying?
/r/seduction21/06/22 08:14 PM
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Most often you're getting ghosted because she has a better option. She's not going to bother with giving you an explanation, because her silence is explanation enough. I wouldn't worry too much about it, it's going to happen. That's why it's very important to move things along and meet up, instead of "getting to know her" though text.
/r/seduction16/05/22 01:02 PM
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Ahh no worries. i feel like im not in control You can only ever be in control of you. If you're trying to be in control of other people you're in for a bad time. i feel that im controlled and not having the power If you feel SHE is controlling you, well you need to stand up for yourself. If she's wanting you to do things you don't want to do don't or let her know You do have power and control, over yourself. You have the power to walk away if you're not happy in the relationship. Why waste your …
/r/seduction09/05/22 12:23 PM
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You need to actually explain what your situation is, if you want help with it.
/r/seduction09/05/22 12:10 PM
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You're already setting yourself up for failure/drama. I like where this is going. I have already mentioned that I just want to date casually, nothing serious. These 2 lines are inconsistent with each other. You shouldn't be talking all day everyday to a woman you only intend to see casually. What does casual look like to you? You're acting like a boyfriend already in your communication, so you're going to end up hurting her for no good reason other than you suck at actually doing what you're pla…
/r/seduction19/04/22 06:43 PM
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I’d always blame it on them - they barely asked me questions, they kept things platonic, they made it feel like pulling teeth half the time. That shouldn't be the all that common. If you're have that happen a lot, I suspect you're probably trying to talk to people that obviously don't want to talk to you. What’s the trick to keeping conversations feeling sexy and engaging but without coming across as a guy who only has one thing on his mind and has to turn every conversation into something sexua…
/r/seduction19/04/22 06:38 PM
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No it won't. Being caring and empathetic in an of itself isn't a turnoff either. It's more about how that's all integrated into the whole package. I'm a paramedic and not empathetic, at all.I think far too many people conflate compassion and empathy. In fact empathy is probably an undesirable trait for various aspects of healthcare..
/r/seduction10/02/22 01:16 PM
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It doesn't "just happen" for you, probably because you're not actually pushing for it. It's really just a matter of isolation and escalation. I've heard people say they've fucked in clubs, or bathrooms in bars, but I've heard a lot of people's bullshit over the years too. If you're wanting to fuck her, invite her back to your place. Women aren't stupid, they know that coming home with you after the bar means there's a good chance of having sex. If she's not open to the idea she's going to say no…
/r/seduction10/02/22 01:52 AM
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If self discipline feels hard, you’re doing it wrong. Stuff like working out should become a habit, it shouldn’t feel hard to do what you know is good for you because that is an example of self care which is an example of self love. So I'd say you're off in your thinking here... Discipline is doing something despite the fact you don't like it. Yes, it can eventually become a habit. Yes you can learn to like it (and you should). I can guarantee I'm more disciplined than most with my fitness and n…
/r/seduction04/02/22 09:08 PM
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Is it possible to start dating her with such a short time You're WAY WAY WAY ahead of yourself here. You've talked to her for a few minutes at a time, a few times. Your first step is to actually have a conversation with her that's more than a couple of minutes. To do this you can invite her somewhere (aka a date).
/r/seduction04/02/22 08:50 PM
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So first off, congratulations! Now as for the important stuff... Well just have a good time. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. ACTUALLY listen to what she says, learn about what makes her interesting. It really doesn't have to be more complicated than that. You're just spending some time with her, to figure out whether you want to spend more time with her.
/r/seduction04/02/22 08:46 PM
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You want to move yourself into the "real person" category as soon as possible. "When" should be pretty easy, especially if you're flexible, and she's interested. Sooner is better here still though. Just ask her which night(s) she's free.
/r/seduction03/02/22 04:50 PM
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You're not getting mixed signals, you're just not experienced enough to know what's going on. Online dating isn't for fucking chatting. You need to try and actually meet the woman you match with. Plenty of them have no intention of meeting you at all. So you need to cut through that bullshit, by pitching a date. They're happy to get attention, and followers. If she's hot, I promise you she's getting dozens of matches to ever one you get. Pitch a date, but don't be surprised when she ghosts at th…
/r/seduction03/02/22 03:42 PM
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From their social media, it looks like they’re killing it in life and making a ton of money, nice car and clothes, always hanging with friends or girls, just living the good life and then bam.. suicide. 🤯 so so sad. Yeah people lie about that shit pretty hard too. More than a few "happy family" types on Facebook are really bitter/broke/on the verge of divorce. There was some dude I went to high school with that was in a wheelchair (accident as an adult). He was constantly posting absolutely bull…
/r/seduction02/02/22 10:45 PM
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I was bullied before so I’m naturally more reserved at first and I’d like to change that. So you're afraid of being your actual self, AND afraid to stand up for yourself. Those aren't easy problems to fix by yourself. You might want to look into therapy, as that can get you on a track to having self respect, and they could probably do assertiveness training with you as well. I might sound harsh but I'm not. I called myself "shy" when I was younger, but the truth was that I was afraid of being ju…
/r/seduction31/01/22 02:35 PM
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Curious to see what you're talking about. I'd seen studies where women rated men more attractive when income was added. Though you're talking about actual matches, and I'm inclined to believe that more than the feel good "looks don't matter" stuff that people often say. I do occasionally see a good looking chick with a dude that looks like Shrek, it's not often though. I see more guys dating down than women.
/r/seduction28/01/22 05:33 PM
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I am, for example, not looking to date someone who has children (for several reasons), not having an interest in news/society/politics (and having somewhat similar values in that department) So as far as not having children, if you're trying to find a woman over 30 that doesn't have any... There's probably a reason. Either they don't want children, can't have them, or have some problems (like mental health issues). The amount of women that CAN have kids, but never had them until later but still …
/r/seduction26/01/22 04:42 PM
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while it would be fun to hang out and fool around/hook up I don't think the match is good enough for it to be anything serious". Yeah definitely don't say that! Lol So when I ask for the number, I couch it with "I'm not looking for anything serious". That instantly polarizes women, but I'm not out to mislead anyone so I'm fine with that. I'm non mono and have an LTR so that's not even in the table. I think a lot of my dates go to the date viewing me as such - with expections of me as potential f…
/r/seduction26/01/22 03:19 PM
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Are you talking about on the date or at home? So if you're still out, don't assume she's going to come home with you, until she agreed to. I talk about relationships and sex on first dates. You can do so nonchalantly. Though she's actually doing most of the talking, I'm leading the conversation. Now at home you don't actually have to talk all that much. Usually it's just small talk to get her comfortable, and all of the rest of the communication is done nonverbally. Kissing her, leading her to t…
/r/seduction24/01/22 03:21 PM
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If you "loved your wife and wouldn't try anything", then you wouldn't be posting online about an insignificant statement by a girl that "you like".
/r/seduction24/01/22 03:10 PM
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I can’t move things on text to save my life. I just wanna ask her out before she gets bored. You're not an idiot, just too inside your own damn head. This is super easy actually. Here's a couple of examples... "Hey I'm doing (insert thing) on (insert day) you should come". "Let's grab a drink, are you free (insert day)".
/r/seduction24/01/22 03:01 PM
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You said in your OP that you were talking constantly up until the 2nd hookup, and you've only had 3. I've had 0 FWBs meet my friends. I also don't allow FWBs to sleep over.
/r/seduction24/01/22 02:37 PM
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Well have that conversation with him. As it stands now you're acting like you're dating, but you're saying it's casual. He's got other women, so you're going to be the one that ends up hurt more than likely.
/r/seduction24/01/22 02:17 PM
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So sounds like you guys are both approaching a casual relationship the wrong way. You're acting like you're dating, but you're not. Sleepovers, meeting friends, constant communication are all things couples do. This is why people get all fucked up and hurt in FWB situations.
/r/seduction24/01/22 01:56 PM
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Ok, and you can still pitch a date to spend alone with her. Make your intentions clear, it'll make things easier for the both of you
/r/seduction21/01/22 05:30 PM
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After a couple hours I suggested another bar but she said she had work in the morning. So I don't tend to run first dates that long, I keep to about 90 minutes tops. Otherwise good, I always do drinks for a first date. She said she didn’t want to drive back so I mentioned she could come back to mine for drink, which she declined. When that happens, no worries. Women aren't stupid they know what that means. As long as you don't react badly there, it's not going to hurt you. In fact the last girl …
/r/seduction21/01/22 03:45 PM
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I'd go with no. What relationship? If she's your"crush", I'm guessing she doesn't even know you like her. How about you pitch a date and take her OUT for her birthday.
/r/seduction21/01/22 03:23 PM
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Yeah it's going to be tough on you emotionally for a bit I think. Though I believe in the idea that you can't control your emotions, but you control your actions. So she might have, but she's also 22 and probably not very reliable. So I'd ping her again, see what's going on, pitch a meet. You'll find out where you're at when you try to get together with her again. The best thing is to not project expectations onto her, just enjoy for whatever it is.
/r/seduction20/01/22 09:45 PM
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I was definitely acting a little clingy but I can’t tell if it’s because of the extended period of not having sex or if it’s because I’ve gotten clingy since my last relationship. I mean for 2 years you didn't have any female intimacy/energy/sex, and then a cute girl gives you all of it. Yeah of course it makes sense. Especially if you were just in serial relationships up until that point to (a string of long term girlfriends). As far as she goes... Well if you enjoy seeing her, just keep trying…
/r/seduction20/01/22 08:03 PM
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I don’t mean turned off as in “that’s unattractive”, but more like “aw I want to cuddle you, not make love to you”. So have you ever heard of the Madonna/whore complex? It's basically an unhealthy view that some guys get.. that there "pure" and "whore" types of women. Rather than being able to see a woman they love as having a sexual side, they kind of ignore it. Sounds like your guy might have some of that going on. Yeah, throwing myself at him abruptly doesn’t work - he’s mentioned being allur…
/r/seduction20/01/22 07:51 PM
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I don't disagree with anything you're saying, it's more of a thing to desensitize you. You're right it IS safer to talk to a stripper (or waitress, or bartender). Yeah of course the interaction is going to be much different. Some of the dudes here can't even talk to other normal people, let alone attractive ones. Who cares if it's contrived. The important thing is learning that attractive people, are still just people. Edit: And I should add that the way we did it was that we dismissed ourselves…
/r/seduction20/01/22 07:22 PM
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So when I was doing night game (year and years ago now). One of the guys I went out with took me to a strip club before hitting the bars. He'd said "if you can talk to the women in here, you can talk to a woman in a bar". He was absolutely right. Mostly because strippers are legit some of the most good looking women you're going to encounter (by going to a good stop club). Some of my best nights out were after I warmed up at the strip club.
/r/seduction20/01/22 07:05 PM
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previous relationships. Many of them were short-lived, Have you ever stopped to think about why that may be? So I definitely understand the depression angle, being in that rut is extremely shitty. The unfortunate part is that you can't really help him out of that. If he's trying to do it with meds alone, I'd recommend he tries some therapy too (with a psychologist). I suspect he has quite a few things to work out, depression is only a part of it. I get the impression that he’s more turned off by…
/r/seduction20/01/22 06:38 PM
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So that doesn't sound to me like he had a healthy sex drive. By comparison I'm going to be 40 next month and I have sex multiple times per week. Going 6 months without sex when you've been together a year is a HUGE flag to me. One possibly is that he does not find you physically attractive, despite what he says. I have never called any of my ladies cute when I'm about to get them naked. At the very least even if he's a bit "bored" with your sex life he's being a shitty lover by not being attenti…
/r/seduction20/01/22 04:43 PM
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Push pull is just a verbal technique (I guess is the right way to say it). It's just being fun/flirty, it shouldn't be forced. She says something, you respond with "you're terrible, I love it!". See push/pull, it's really that simple. Being a good conversationalist has a lot more to it. You want to have that in your repertoire, but it can't be the only thing. My ONLY aim when I have a first date, is to enjoy myself. Most people have something interesting about them, your job is to discover what …
/r/seduction20/01/22 03:26 PM
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So I'm a big believer in sex drive mismatch, is a huge source of strife in relationships. IE it's NEVER going to work out if you two are too far apart. People don't like to admit this for whatever reason. We as humans also have a need for novelty, that applies to sex and partners too. Again this is something almost nobody actually wants to admit. So what is the actual dead bedroom scenario, like he just goes to sleep rather than doing anything sexual? Is he doing a lot of self service/porn? What…
/r/seduction20/01/22 03:11 PM
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If it's a recurring problem, it's probably something YOU are doing. People do change their minds, but if you're seeing s pattern here it's likely something that you're doing is repulsive to them. This is where a bit of self awareness/Introspection is going to help you fix whatever issue it is you're having.
/r/seduction20/01/22 03:04 PM
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but the knee touching... and hand holding One of those is kino, and one is boyfriend behavior. You know which is which. I've NEVER held hands on a first date. The closest thing is taking her hand and leading her somewhere. So kino works because people connect through physical touch. It's an escalation, and you can absolutely make her uncomfortable going too far and/or too fast. If you're touching her leg (even her knee) it should be a bit later into the interaction. Kino, like pretty much every …
/r/seduction19/01/22 04:12 PM
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I've done multiple dates on the same day. I've never double booked, and I've only ever had one flake (I always confirm the day of). So for setting up multiple dates, what I did was scheduled them about 2 hour apart. My first dates dates typically run 60-90, minutes. I set them up for close locations, not the same venue. So basically I could finish date one, drive 10 minutes and be at date 2.
/r/seduction19/01/22 03:50 PM
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So just quickly scanned your linked post, and looks like you treated a FWB like a girlfriend. That's why you had issues, and confused the both of you. A FWB should be seeing occasionally, fucking and hanging out a bit (around the fucking). If you're doing social activities together with friends that's what couples do. As far as your current thing... Well if she's pinging you, try to get together with her. If you're pitching a meet and she's being wishy-washy, drop her. Typically I'll pitch a mee…
/r/seduction17/01/22 06:00 PM
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I didn't lie to her about my intention to never agree to sexual exclusivity. I told her basically that I cared about her, that I'd like to continue seeing her, but I couldn't and wouldn't promise her monogamy. She knows I have had, and will again have regular FWBs. The main thing was communicating to her that I wasn't looking to replace her (and I'm not). Sex is much less of a big deal than a lot of people make it out to be. Now not all women are going to agree to this, but I'm certain almost al…
/r/seduction11/01/22 02:04 AM
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I can't get close to others. And the problem with treating other people as casual sexual partners is that I also treat myself that way, simultaneously. I’m clean (thank god). I’m healthy. I’ve somewhat got my shit together. You can, you just don't want to. Also you don't HAVE to treat women or yourself that way either. A part of me thinks, you know what? This will all change when you meet "that someone." But then the cynical part of me can't help but laugh. It's 4PM now and I've got to get ready…
/r/seduction10/01/22 07:35 PM
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Yeah I just went and looked up a later interview, and not sure why I had that in my head. So you're right!
/r/seduction23/12/21 06:06 PM
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The game is definitely an interesting and entertaining read, but didn't he later admit that it was mostly fiction?
/r/seduction23/12/21 04:58 PM
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I read Joe Navarro's book on poker body language, and his above book is largely the same thing. Like it's almost identical. I think "The definitive book on body language" was much better.
/r/seduction23/12/21 04:55 PM
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Exactly, if the 80/20 rule were true (it's not), then most guys would die virgins. All someone has to do, is leave the house and they'll see that's definitely not true. Plenty of dumpy people I know, have dumpy mates. If you're ugly and dumpy then no, you're not going to get a supermodel beautiful woman (without paying), but attractive women aren't totally out of reach either.
/r/seduction19/11/21 02:14 PM
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first girl to check off every one of my boxes and I wanted something real. You had one face to face interaction with her and now you're ready to get married. Here's the thing, most of us have been inexperienced and/or desperate at one time or another. That's totally fine my guy, but that's also the reason you need to have these experiences. When you've had some experience with women, you won't fall in love instantly with the first one that gives you attention. This is BETTER for you, because you…
/r/seduction03/11/21 02:25 PM
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Schedule issues happen more than most people realize. It can be particularly tricky to line up dates sometimes, especially if you have an atypical schedule. I've had more than a few first dates happen spontaneously, because I'd texted her and she wasn't doing anything. I've also had plenty of women that I couldn't make anything work due to our schedules. Doesn't seem like anything out of the ordinary there. If you're able to swing something you should. Doesn't seem to me to be a blow off answer.
/r/seduction03/11/21 02:18 PM
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That sucks man, we live and learn!
/r/askTRP26/10/21 01:32 PM
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Yeah that's a good start! When I was younger I used to think confidence was some esoteric thing I didn't have. As I got older I realized it's just trusting myself to handle whatever situation it is that I'm in. You really only get that by putting yourself into a lot of different situations.
/r/seduction18/10/21 08:13 PM
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It might sound simple, but honestly it's about living. You need to put yourself into situations, and then trust yourself to get out of them. What area you don't feel comfortable with, is probably the area you need to dive into the most.
/r/seduction18/10/21 08:09 PM
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feel comfortable having sex with strangers and rarely click with guys enough to do that. Nothing wrong with that, we all have our standards. Personally I look for women that I enjoy spending time with, and try for something ongoing (but not serious/LTR). Endless ONS are far too time intensive for my taste Should I be having sex more as a pretty and young girl who loves the party scene? So I'm going to say I think having regular sex is part of being healthy. Though that's for YOU to decide. Don't…
/r/seduction05/08/21 02:29 PM
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I think it's possible depending on the underlying intent. Guys oftentimes try to use friendship as an "in" to try and get a girl, but it rarely works. The friendship isn't actually genuine, because they have romantic expectations. I have several close female friends, but I'm not at all attracted to them. I think that's the biggest thing that makes it messy.
/r/seduction04/08/21 01:27 PM
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How does your conversation look like? Usually open, have a few back and forth a then pitch a meet. Then once I have send about 6 messages depending on days and time I pitch for meeting up and see when she is free. I pitch a date and ask for a number usually after 3-4 messages. I don't try to figure out logistics on the app, I do that over text. Also I don't try to pitch the date any longer than say 2-3 days (just seems like the longer out, the less likely it is to happen) But usually the majorit…
/r/seduction02/08/21 07:55 PM
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fact that vast majority of women online won’t respond or meet up. That's true, but who cares? I've matched with women and then on a second look realized I wasn't interested. You're getting matches so you're already ahead of most guys I'd say. Don't tie your self worth into that, you're in for a bad time if you do. I would say 1-2 of 10 matches lead to meeting. Seems kind of low to me, but I really don't keep track. I'm right to the point and hard screen for casual. I say I'm not looking for anyt…
/r/seduction02/08/21 07:25 PM
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Just have to learn to not take it personally. I realize that's easier said than done. Sometimes it could just be bad luck (getting attention seekers, flakes, etc), and sometimes it might be that you're actually doing something wrong. It can also be hard to know the difference. If you're getting hundreds of matches but haven't had any dates, I suspect you're doing something wrong.
/r/seduction02/08/21 07:02 PM
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Lately I have been working occasionally with this very cute girl. Don't shit where you eat. Going off of your first sentence too, you have to realize first impressions matter. If she knew you as the meek, dorky guy (or whatever), that's probably not going to change overnight. But it seems like she is trying a bit TOO hard to show her aloofness towards me. I had my suspicions and said a few things to her just friendly and then she did the hair toss bit. I caught her doing it, she knew I caught he…
/r/seduction29/07/21 02:21 PM
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Growing up in the Soviet Union, I can't imagine you saw much if any of that stuff. Though I imagine the general cultural influence probably the same. So let me ask you this... Was the general thinking still "grow up, find a girl, get married, have kids, live happily ever after"? Disney heaps on the "you're a princess and deserve to be treated like one" aspect for women, that you might not have had You're likely close to the same age as me or older (I'm 39). I didn't have any truly successful (wi…
/r/TheRedPill29/07/21 01:12 PM
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I suppose it’s smart to just start sampling different people to see what one likes and doesn’t before committing to one or two types of people. Thanks I'm sure you probably have an idea already of what qualities exist in a person, that you enjoy spending time with. It's more a matter of teasing them out, if you haven't really thought much about it before. By all means spend time with as many people as possible to help figure that all out. You may find yourself pleasantly surprised. Of course, an…
/r/seduction28/07/21 02:39 PM
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Anxiety is just that... Anxiety. Anxiety isn't deadly is it? No, it's just a bit uncomfortable. Go out and talk to strangers, of course it's going to be uncomfortable when you haven't done it. At some point you're realize that it's nothing to worry about. As you do it more, you'll be less uncomfortable with it. Most people tend to get anxious/uncomfortable when they're in situations that they haven't been in before (social interactions with strangers are no different). The only way you're going …
/r/seduction28/07/21 02:32 PM
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I believe that men advertising themselves as friendzone material is largely a result of them growing up in a single parent household and effectively trained by their mothers over the years to cuck themselves I don't think that's necessarily a requirement. Plenty of men (myself included) grew up with the standard Disney/Hollywood narrative of how relationships work. My dad was present, but also fucking clueless. I think it's probably worse for sons of single mothers, but there's a whole lot of so…
/r/TheRedPill28/07/21 01:42 PM
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You're conflating a few things there. There's"generally attractive" and attractive to a person. There's really no universally attractive. Generally attractive is about as close as you're going to get. What's attractive to any given individual is a matter of taste/preference. You should be trying to cater to your specific market so to speak. If you like well read, intelligent women... Try directing your efforts at them. More than just a few of those things you listed, aren't generally attractive …
/r/seduction27/07/21 08:02 PM
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you are in a conversation with the person but haven't gotten their number or closed. You either ask for their number, ask them to an Instadate, or you invite them over.... Not all that hard, just have to be willing to be told no. What is your best advice to do this. I have been long distance talking to someone for a few weeks To not have pretend relationships. Meet in real life, otherwise you're just chatting with a random stranger.
/r/seduction27/07/21 07:46 PM
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Some will say it's common sense, I'm not so sure about that! I found the book to be pretty insightful on a lot of the points. Though with keeping some of his points in mind, it seems like a LOT of people definitely don't follow any of those concepts at allml.
/r/seduction23/07/21 07:57 PM
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Absolutely. I harp on congruence a lot to the inexperienced guys because people intuitively pick up on it. Seduction really isn't any different than most other things. The more you do it, the better you get at it (as long as you're not totally oblivious to what you're doing wrong). Excellent post OP!
/r/TheRedPill15/07/21 02:25 PM
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My hobbies tend to be more solitary, so NOT ideal for meeting women. As far as being well rounded they can certainly help with that. I like reading, playing poker, playing piano, fixing things(being self sufficient) woodworking, and working out. Also play vidyagsmes too. As far as being interesting and week rounded... Well both of those come from life experience. Being an avid reader might not SEEM like it's all that interesting on it's face, but if you're exposed to other perspectives and ideas…
/r/seduction01/07/21 02:28 PM
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It's really sad, honestly. I think if we just banned calories in soda we could save trillions of dollars and hundreds of thousands of lives. I agree, it is unfortunate. On the flip side this is literally the first era of human history where people are dying of obesity and not starvation. I'm not even sure banning soda would help, so many people are some combination of oblivious to basic nutrition, and or completely personally irresponsible. I think alcohol plays a huge role in adult obesity too,…
/r/askTRP18/06/21 04:22 PM
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someone below the age of 35 can really get about as fat as they want without dying and can expect to live to 50 or so I get your point, but as a paramedic I've seen 2x y/o morbidly obese people die of heart attacks. Technology helps a lot, but some of these people are ticking time bombs. 30s is for sure when people living like shit seems to catch up with them (and in plenty of cases it's irreparable). Though I get OPs point too. There's FAR more massively fat people, at far younger ages than the…
/r/askTRP18/06/21 03:50 PM
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That doesn't seem like a major derail to me, she's actually asking about something you said. I'd just answer and redirect it back to what you want to talk about. If she continues to fail to answer then just drop it, she's likely there to just kill boredom/chat.
/r/askTRP03/06/21 03:47 PM
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I know this is late, but I wanted to take some time with this. For me personally, I was exposed to various different philosophers in undergrad (Descartes, Socrates, Aristotle, Hobbes, Locke, Thoreau), and then more in grad school (Aristotle again, Thomas Aquinas, Cicero). While my MS was law focused, there was a LOT of interplay with philosophy. I was also 29 when I finished my BS, and 31 for my MS. So I'd been a bit older and had definitely struggled with some of those questions of values and m…
/r/askTRP03/06/21 01:40 PM
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o from the philosophies you study, you can draw a steady and foundational, solid worldview which you can apply? Yes, but not necessarily directly. That's one of the traps I think a lot of people fall into. They learn something that clicks well, and they jump all in on it (rather than picking the good and useful parts). When you dont have one, I am in that situation at the moment, well it is difficult to know what you want and why, and that makes decisiveness and having strong values more difficu…
/r/askTRP02/06/21 07:14 PM
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I struggled with that for a long time. I've never been able to fully buy in to religious thinking. I've tried several time, but it's just not for me. I think it's useful enough in certain aspects, but don't really feel like digging into that at the moment. Ultimately I enjoy reading philosophy, but also challenging my own beliefs. Seeing new ways of seeing things, and thinking about things is valuable. At the root of it, is that you need to figure out what your values are and where they come fro…
/r/askTRP02/06/21 04:43 PM
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With tinder and other OLD, the main thing you're trying to avoid, is falling into a chat trap. The thing is inexperienced guys can't tell when a chick is just out there for some attention, looking to chat, and never actually meet up. Look around this and other dating subs and it's full of guys talking about "oh we've been chatting for 3 months, but she's never available for a date". Once you've been doing it a while you can pick up on it a lot easier. There definitely is a sweet spot for how muc…
/r/seduction02/06/21 04:12 PM
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I'm a LTR type of a guy and I'm screening women against LTR compatibility. The thing I think a LOT of dudes get wrong is that they expect to figure out whether she's LTR material pretty fast. People put on their best faces for usually at least a couple of months when in a new relationship. Call it rose tinted glasses, honeymoon phase, NRE, whatever. This is at least one of the reasons that most new relationships fizzle out. Once you're out of that initial phase you find out you're not so crazy a…
/r/askTRP02/06/21 12:20 PM
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Because that stuff DOES work, at least for a little bit. Though they're usually pretty short lived (a few months to a few years). Take a look around you in your own life. How many of those relationships are passionate, sexual, and happy? I don't like the alpha/beta thing, I think lover/provider is a much closer to accurate dynamic. You can be a mix of both, but always need to maintain the lover aspect. With regards to your friend, before long she'll be bored to death of him and move on.
/r/askTRP30/05/21 06:24 PM
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Sounds like you have "analysis paralysis". You're too much in your own head, but you already know that. One of the things is that sometimes you just have to make a decision, and go with it. You're going to be wrong sometimes, and then you deal with that. Part of confidence is trusting yourself. You're not going to do everything right all the time, but you'll find a way to get yourself through it. Take responsibility for yourself, and the decisions you make. As far as anxiety, that has to deal wi…
/r/askTRP27/05/21 07:40 PM
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everything right There's a lot more to it than just that stuff. Things started to open after covid, she started seeing all of her friends, suddenly she doesn't feel right with me anymore, can't even give us a chance, says and does a lot of bullshit so I'm ending this, there was no other choice. Sounds like her ability to go out was just the thing she needed to break things off. With this being your first LTR , you probably weren't aware of her distancing herself from you. She was saying she hope…
/r/askTRP27/05/21 07:28 PM
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It's because, even still in 2021, in the west, people still have all kinds of asinine hangups about sex. Sex is safer and more accessible than it's ever been. People like fucking, plain and simple. Granted there's a few people out there with low/no sex drives, but I think there's usually some other underlying issue (physical or mental). Good, and regular sex are a non negotiable part of any decent relationship. Dudes in particular with put up with ALL kinds of bullshit, as long as she keeps fuck…
/r/askTRP26/05/21 04:50 PM
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so when I reached out a few weeks later to ask her out And that's your problem. Basically you blew it by waiting too long. Any decently attractive woman has plenty of options at any given time. Sometimes things don't happen because of life/schedules/whatever. It happens, just move on. She was interested, but things can change quickly.
/r/askTRP25/05/21 04:23 PM
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Yeah I definitely think there's some overlap. Mostly I started thinking about this because"hate" doesn't necessarily fit. I don't think most of it is genuine hate, but more feelings that the other group is inferior. With regards to modern feminism and wokeness and all that, I think it serves that itch very well (let's them feel superior). I think you have to go pretty far down that hole to hit hate, contempt, loathing etc. I'm guilty if it myself too. I really haven't delved much into where it c…
/r/askTRP20/05/21 07:35 PM
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I've been thinking about this lately and the root cause I think is the need for people to feel superior over others. This has caused genocides, religious wars, racism, and now in modern society it's bled over into the sexes and political parties. As much as I can think of, ALL of those things are... Group A thinks they're better than group B, and if they have the means to do so, actually tried to crush them.
/r/askTRP20/05/21 06:59 PM
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I've perused it before and think it's kind of funny and sad in a lot of ways. There's a lot of bitterness over there (there's a lot here too though). One of the biggest distinctions is that here we realize you've got to put in some work on yourself, if you want to get a what you want out of dating. I haven't spent enough time over there to know for sure, but there seems to be a huge emphasis on "quality men" and not much on the part that you have to be quality yourself to attract those types of …
/r/askTRP20/05/21 06:53 PM
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I genuinely care about my FWBs. For one, I think it helps them stay around longer. Most people don't like to feel like they're being used. All of the women I currently see, I've been seeing for over a year now (and they all know I'm non mono). You can have a legitimate connection with someone, and also like fucking them; but know they're not a good fit for you long term. I kind of intuitively knew this, but didn't really figure it out until I was older. I had women that I absolutely loved fuckin…
/r/askTRP20/05/21 03:00 PM
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I've never failed a drug test (though I've definitely done my share of various things). I've ALWAYS been subject to random piss tests (I'm a paramedic). Recreational drug use has never been more appealing than my ability to work, so it's been easy for me to say no to all that. It sucks, but you need to own it. You made a bad decision, and it cost you a job. There's other jobs out there though. We're our own worst enemies in a lot of ways. You said it, nobody judges you quite as harshly as you ju…
/r/askTRP18/05/21 03:53 PM
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First things first, get yourself a good therapist. Shame comes from feeling like you've done something wrong. You didn't do anything wrong, you're just inexperienced. Most of that stuff you talked about is stuff a lot of people do, and it didn't turn out like how you expected You essentially gave yourself a crash course in how to not handle various aspects of relationships. Those feelings suck for sure, no doubt. You control how you act on them, don't be a slave to your emotions.
/r/askTRP18/05/21 03:30 PM
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To your first point, I’d argue that some women will genuinely pretend to be interested and act like it’s just circumstance keeping you from being together. Some women will proclaim interest, without the man asking for that, yet never prove it with their actions. Yes, experience shows that they are not interested if actions don’t prove they are, BUT, some take it too far Right, and your last sentence summed up why there's only guys failing to realize what's right in front of them. It's the reason…
/r/askTRP17/05/21 04:33 PM
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Granted, I agree that if someone is leading you on So I think there's no mixed signals, there's only not accepting the truth. Actions not word, and this evaporates. Thought this would be an interesting topic for this subreddit since it’s similar to the idea that AFCs expect women to change to accept who they are, rather than change who they are to attract women. That's definitely true for a lot of people. Unreal expectations, not understanding that dating/seduction ARE competitive. As far as the…
/r/askTRP17/05/21 04:09 PM
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So my bar for whether I keep someone around is whether I enjoy spending time with them. For women that just means great sex and no drama generally. Though I have the view most people have SOMETHING interesting about them. I can't help but think if you think women are trite, it's going to be a self fulfilling prophecy. Enjoy them for what they are, not what you want them to be.
/r/askTRP17/05/21 03:15 PM
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believed that logical arguments can convince a person of your opinion I'm sure your own experience showed you how that method seldom works. I often want to take a similar approach to you, it just doesn't work though I think it was on a podcast I'd listened to (not totally sure), where a psychologist was talking about how people find things to support their already held beliefs. Or more simply... you're never going to change someone's opinion on something, they have to do that on their own.
/r/seduction05/05/21 09:27 PM
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So what your problem sounds like to me, is fundamentally a self esteem one it seems. Like you somehow don't feel worthy of the affection of others (or yourself). Now I'm not sure random people on reddit are going to be the right hand to guide you in learning to love yourself. I suggest seeing a therapist to help get those issues resolved.
/r/seduction04/05/21 04:08 PM
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I agree! Though I do also agree with OPs take that a lot of people put far too much weight onto things. Like getting rejected might be major to a guy, but it's largely irrelevant to everyone else. Seems like a lot of people just don't want to believe people are self motivated.
/r/seduction03/05/21 04:04 PM
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because they don't even give me a chance .... Well to be honest man, it's because of where your head is. You can get that turned around though. You need to feel good about yourself, then people will actually want to be around you.
/r/seduction30/04/21 06:35 PM
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You're responsible for how your life is, that you can change. You're worried about the shit you can't change. As a guy that's also 5'7, let me tell you that's not stopped me. One of my regular girls is actually taller. Focus on things you can change. You can get yourself sorted out, and be successful. You don't have to do it all yourself either. The first thing you need to get sorted is your own head. I was never as angry as you, but definitely felt hopeless. That's not the path to anything good…
/r/seduction30/04/21 04:52 PM
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He has his own podcast, it's definitely worth checking out.
/r/askTRP29/04/21 07:15 PM
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Yeah I'm not even sure how I'd actually describe good leaders. I mean I have an idea, but not sure what the actual traits would be. Like actually being in the team, being in the trenches, admitted that they sometimes make bad decisions and take responsibility for them. Like if you listen to a lot of the now retired SEAL guys, they really respect and love Jocko. These are so e of the biggest hardasses on the planet.
/r/askTRP29/04/21 05:58 PM
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I definitely agree with your view there. I think a lot of people in leadership positions are actually shitty leaders. One of the biggest things I think is competence. Not only in their field, but also in dealing with/managing people. It seems like a lot of people rely completely on their power dynamic (I'm the boss and you have to do this just because).
/r/askTRP29/04/21 04:22 PM
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I believe it had to be the “look good for your age” part Ever hear how people talk about negging being backhanded compliments.... Well that's basically what you did there. It doesn't seem like you meant to be insulting by it, but you definitely insulted them. If someone said to you "you're cute for a (fat,bald, short,,etc) guy" you probably wouldn't be taking it as a compliment.
/r/seduction29/04/21 04:00 PM
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Yeah I definitely know what you mean. I take the general approach of " she's interesting in some way, I'm going to find out how". I can't say I feel like my conversations are forced, but then again I interact with people for a living (paramedic). Anyway keep at it! Wanting to be better is a huge part of the equation.
/r/seduction29/04/21 12:59 PM
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Awesome job, you're already ahead of a lot of guys by just taking a shot! You cold approached and landed a date, that's good stuff man. Conversation, dating, seduction are all skills and need practice. It took me years of trying different things, tweaking, figuring out what works best for me, and what doesn't. It can definitely be hard to tell what you're doing right and wrong, but these communities are really helpful for that. Give some more details about your date. While I do believe in compat…
/r/seduction29/04/21 12:18 PM
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Being called creepy is a matter of her being interested/attracted to you. You've got to risk being creepy to be successful. So I regularly say stuff like "oh you're bad, someone needs a spanking" to FWBs and they like it. Now if I said that out of the blue to some woman I didn't know, it could definitely come across as creepy. Context is everything. So she sees random guy message her, 2 paragraphs, and though you may have intended to be funny, it may have come across as insulting. There's SO muc…
/r/seduction29/04/21 12:03 PM
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I've done it both ways, there doesn't seem to be very much of a difference in "success rate". I've had women send a text and then ghost when I gave them my number. I generally get a reply when I get their number and send a text too. Either way only some portion of numbers usually turn into dates.
/r/seduction28/04/21 09:29 PM
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One of the things that's horrifically wrong is the autistics blaming hypergamy on everything. Yes, women tend to be hypergamous. Breakups and cheating are more boredom/need for novelty. But also don't fall into the trap of thinking, oh she's christian, and had married parents, and all that. It really doesn't mean as much as people say (christian women from 2 parent households still have a high divorce rate). Keep improving yourself, stagnation is what kills a lot of desire. A lot of people get i…
/r/askTRP28/04/21 09:03 PM
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Well the thing with compliments are that many guys do it as flattery. You're young so might not have a working understanding of what actually constitutes flattery... but it's basically buttering someone up so they're more likely to do something you want. Generally it's a clumsy attempt at manipulation. Now with women one of the reasons that you shouldn't say something like "blah blah you have gorgeous eyes" is that she doesn't have any control over her eyes. Her clothing, hair, etc looks the way…
/r/seduction28/04/21 03:10 PM
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I wonder if your success is partly due to having the "validation" of a LTR, In part, it is. Though I'd say it's less what you'd said, and more that I already have my needs covered (sex, affection, companionship,etc). It's much easier to be bold and forward, when I'm not gambling on one woman being the potential source of all of that. Would you be even half as successful in this, if you weren't taken or never had been in a relationship before? No, of course not. Most of this stuff I've figured ou…
/r/seduction28/04/21 11:01 AM
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. Telling me her life was complicated and she isn’t blo Right man, people lie. Actions not words... It applies to everyone (not just women). Most people go to great lengths to try and avoid conflict. They'll offer excuses and never actually have those tough conversations. Most of your OP was written about a woman you went out with once, nearly a year ago. And perhaps you do find happiness, but it doesn't seem to me like you've figured out how to feel worthy. Being successful with women (or anyth…
/r/askTRP27/04/21 03:53 PM
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honest about your intentions, for morality sake. So I would typically just ask them if they were down to fuck. That's the autistic way to approach it man. Plenty of women are DTF, but an overt proposition like that rarely works. I don’t know if she was ever interested or not. She strung me along There's no mixed signals, you just didn't want to believe what you already knew. If you're not sure, the answer is probably not. When she's interested she'll make things pretty easy for you. As far as th…
/r/askTRP27/04/21 02:26 PM
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You're right, some women are going to be put off at that... that's the point though. I don't want my time wasted, so I'm not interested in wasting her time. I could use a more neutral pitch and get more numbers/dates, but I consider that to be deceptive. I'm not looking for an LTR (I already have one of those), so screening out those women is the best for both of us. In truth you'd probably be surprised how many women still move forward.
/r/seduction27/04/21 10:50 AM
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So you're only going to get a subset of women that are going to be okay with that. You can screen upfront for more casual (that's what I do). Basically it's not going to happen with the women that tend to be more focused on finding an LTR. When I pitch the date I say I'm not looking for anything too serious, and that's how I screen. Edit: also want to add... If she asks "what are you doing now" at the end of the date, that's womanese for invite me over.
/r/seduction26/04/21 06:46 PM
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While youth does have it's appeal, it has more to do with appearance. A lot of people (not just women) "let themselves go" after a certain point. Years of not taking care of yourself add up fast. I'd say probably only 25% or less of women my age (39) are of average body type or below. On top of that you have people that spent years hard living (drinking, drugs, smoking, sun) and just have a rough look. I actually regularly receive comments from people about how good I look for my age, that tells…
/r/seduction26/04/21 02:12 PM
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The three I found to be the most useful were.. Models, practical female psychology, and the tucker max one (mate I think?) They all cover very different aspects of women and relationships. The game was a nice read, but it's fiction. The art of seduction is interesting too, but probably wouldn't say it's tok practical.
/r/seduction23/04/21 07:53 PM
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When I see people that I recognize I went to school with, I'll usually say something like "hey you went to blah blah school right?" That's all you need as an opener, just strike up a conversation afterwards. Now as far as trying to hook up with her... I'd say that's a generally bad idea. Be aware if she's objectively that hot, she's likely to learned to leverage her looks. She's probably also been exposed to an entirely different social world than you. Honestly it's going to be like trying to dr…
/r/seduction22/04/21 01:20 PM
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This is a lot of who fucking cares. Are you at work to make friends or money?
/r/askTRP19/04/21 03:00 PM
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I like the idea of your post, but I think you're conflating a few things.. 1- I agree completely. LMR IS a thing, but a lot of what gets called LMR, isn't actually LMR. This is going to tie into point 2, but the majority of "slut shaming" comes from other women. LMR isn't because she doesn't want to have sex, it's because she doesn't want to feel like a slit for having sex. 2) Again this has more to do with societal views that sex is taboo. It's stupid, because like you said most people love fuc…
/r/seduction19/04/21 02:07 PM
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It was going well It was going well four YOU. Have you ever abruptly walked away from someone that you were into? In any case, no biggie man. Yeah it sucks to get blown out, but it's gonna happen. You made it through though. You're going to run into all kinds of crazy shit while interacting with people. That's how you build up experience, and then are able to handle it better the next time. I really don't know much about RSD, and I don't do night game anymore. Most of my interactions in a social…
/r/seduction19/04/21 01:04 PM
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When I have a new girl over I always start somewhere other than my bedroom. My bedroom is for sleeping (so no tv etc in there). Anyway whenever I feel like she's ready, I'll generally do one of two things... Most often I just stand up, take her hand, and lead her into my bedroom. The other way is that I stand up, keep kissing her, and walk her back to the bedroom while still kissing her. This takes a little more awareness of your house/apartment, because your going to be moving around with your …
/r/seduction15/04/21 12:59 PM
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I usually set a date within 5 messages. Honestly you should be avoiding the dead end conversions. There's a lot of women on OLD that have no intention of meeting, you want to weed them out as fast as possible. Pitching a date does that. You're going to find a fair amount ghost right then and there. Some are going to say "let's chat some more/I want to get to know you better", that almost never leads to a date. My own pitch screens for casual, but if you're just wanting to get out in dates... "Yo…
/r/seduction13/04/21 05:02 PM
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So you have part of the equation, and that's the hard part for some! I have a different approach here than most. For some reason a lot of guys are terrified of talking about relationships and sex on a date. I do both, every first date. I start with talking about dates "tell me about your worst/craziest date" always gets a good story. Then it goes to relationships, then lastly to sex. You HAVE to be comfortable with those topics though. Personally I only invite a woman over if I'm thinking it's l…
/r/seduction13/04/21 04:52 PM
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Well being a young woman all you have to do is place yourself out there. Just going about your normal business, you probably get a lot of attention from men (even if you don't realize it). If that's not the case, then probably need to work a bit on your appearance. As far as what particular types of guys you're trying to attract...you're probably NOT going to find a quieter guy that cold approaches you at the bar. As far as activities... You don't have to join a group per se, just find a way to …
/r/seduction13/04/21 04:42 PM
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As far as covid goes, you need to guage your own risk there. I'm probably older than you (I'm 39), and my age band makes up about 1.75% of all covid deaths (in the US). I'm a paramedic, so have a higher exposure chance than the general public too. Just know people ARE meeting and hooking up still. Also don't do movie dates, unless they are at your house (or hers). Don't worry about the other guy. Actions not words. I've fucked plenty of women that said "I'm not the kind of girl that has sex on t…
/r/seduction09/04/21 12:57 PM
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Maybe! Hang around and see. I'd think there's going to be some differences, and of course the potential dating pool is likely much smaller. Online is probably going to be your best bet (unless your area has a gay bar scene).
/r/seduction09/04/21 12:35 PM
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You've been flirting with her for over a year and never tried to do anything? So it's never going to go anywhere, until you actually try. It's kind of unclear to me whether you're actually interacting with her in person. It's not that complicated, as her to hang out, then physically escalate.
/r/seduction09/04/21 12:29 PM
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It's actually creepier to NOT look at people when you're having a conversation. One of the guys I work with will look in your direction, but not actually at you when talking. It's really noticable and kind of off putting. It's just something you might have to practice. Force yourself to hold eye contact with service people (cashiers, waitresses and such) at first if you have to. During conversation, you can look at the bridge if their nose to practice too. There's a subtle, but important distinc…
/r/seduction08/04/21 03:51 PM
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So some of the old school concepts do still apply, and are right. You definitely don't need 10 hours of rapport to get laid. I don't think I've put in more than 2-3 hours with a new girl over the last few years. Though the problem with that stuff is, that's it's just so "gamey". Once you run out of all the bullshit, then you're stuck trying to keep up a fascade that's not you. I definitely think it's useful, and I'm glad you got laid after years. Don't make the mistake of getting tunnel vision t…
/r/seduction07/04/21 02:51 PM
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For me it's clothing that highlights your femininity. The thing I don't think enough people think about is their target audience. What type of men you want, should determine how you present yourself. I've seen women complain in their tinder bio about only attracting "losers" when they're wearing nothing but baggy clothes, have terrible pictures up, etc.
/r/seduction23/03/21 07:12 PM
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I think shit tests are a thing, but I think most guys have the completely wrong view. So I was into learning night game back with MM was a big thing. The thing a lot of people don't understand today is congruence, and that's where shit tests come in. Also seems like a lot of people completely misunderstood the concept of frame too, and that's part of it. I think a lot of guys try to use the really gimmicky/gamey type PUA stuff, and women intuitively know that isn't their natural personality. Tha…
/r/seduction22/03/21 04:32 PM
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It doesn't hurt to try. Though if it's a normal friendship you risk making things awkward if they don't have reciprocal feelings. Also if they're not attracted to you (romantically), it's going to be difficult to change their mind. You can do things to make yourself more attractive (generally), but that doesn't mean it will change things for that one person.
/r/seduction22/03/21 04:16 PM
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i'm trying to crack the code of how u can retain a girl for more than a year without LTRing them Honestly I think it's by not acting like a boyfriend. My FBs know they're just FBs. I think a lot of guys fuck up by there being a mismatch here. I've also been more up front about being non mono, earlier on. One woman I know, was seeing a guy. They were constantly texting, having sleepovers, seeing each other several times per week, and he even told his family about her and had her talk to them on t…
/r/askTRP19/03/21 06:17 PM
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If you're able to keep seeing a girl for 6 months, non monogamously you're doing pretty well. She's already hooked. There's no such thing as forever. Relationships have expiration dates. I just had one of my FBs drop off after 15 months give or take. Even that was a particularly good run. Here's the thing though, my girls KNOW I like seeing them. There's really no tricks, be an enjoyable experience all around. If they have a good time with you, they're going to keep seeing you. Though most women…
/r/askTRP19/03/21 02:21 PM
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He was right. If you're only using lots and lots of cardio to lose weight, when you get lean you probably won't look how you want. Basically you can end up lean with no muscle, or what people call skinnyfat. Lifting while cutting helps preserve lean tissue (and can possibly build a little if you're a total beginner). Most people want to be lean (muscular with low body fat) not skinny (lean with no muscle). Realistically your diet is the most important part. Abs are made in the kitchen. You need …
/r/askTRP19/03/21 01:58 PM
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there is absolutely no touch, minimal communication Generally she's only going to have any investment in you AFTER you've had sex a few times. Doesn't sound like you're dating at all, it sounds like you're a platonic friend to her. Worse case scenario is that she IS using you for dinner dates (or activities/whatever it is you're doing with her). Lastly that's how these shitty relationships work. She knows you're desperate so will keep doing what you're doing for nothing in return from her. Move …
/r/seduction19/03/21 01:24 PM
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Low self esteem/not enough self love. Your friends are comfortable, you're completely your natural self around them. You know they've accepted you for who you are Around new people you don't have that acceptance yet. You (whether you know it or not) are concerned with their approval and validation. Most people have a fear of rejection, and that doesn't mean just romantically (IE being socially rejected as a whole). Caring less about what other people think isn't some easy fix either! Figuring ou…
/r/seduction18/03/21 12:29 PM
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The mindset comes from knowing there's more out there. Now that doesn't mean that it will show through in your actions. You need to wrap your head around the idea that there are literally thousands of beautiful, interesting, fun, and sexuaul women just in your area (as long as you don't live in some remote place). In fact you don't have enough free time to ever meet them all, let alone the ones that are newly single, etc. Now with your actions... Well that's much harder to fake. When you actuall…
/r/seduction16/03/21 03:38 PM
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That's actually a known phenomenon (I can't remember what it's called). It's basically developing romantic feelings for some form of confidante. None of those people will ever consider dating you, it's a professional relationship (and most likely an ethics violation for them to do so). I'd say the "girls my age" thing is an excuse. What you said is more or less true of everyone at times. Do you actually have a lot of experience with dating the women you're making a blanket statement about?
/r/seduction16/02/21 01:26 PM
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Flirting is just injecting sexual energy into the interaction. You're on a date, not a work lunch. Sex is the subcontext there.
/r/seduction15/02/21 08:14 PM
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On the other its only a matter of time before this relationship explodes but I'm not the type of dude to mess up a happy house. Who knows who else she is talking to at this point. Does that really sound like a happy relationship to you? WHEN that situation goes to hell (and it's going to) it won't be your fault. That chick is going to fuck someone, sounds like you're on deck. Women generally have several options, if you wait she probably won't.
/r/askTRP15/02/21 07:41 PM
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Not seeing a question here. Though as someone that has multiple sensory impairments (I have significant hearing and vision loss), I can tell you nobody gives a shit. Yeah life is unfair, now learn to deal with it. You got a shitty roll of the dice just like millions of other people. Live life the best way you can. You don't get another shot at life. You're going to have to learn that you can't worry about the shit you can't change, or you'll let your disability be your identity. Choice is yours …
/r/askTRP15/02/21 07:36 PM
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So here's the thing man, you just need to go for it. You're going to be nervous as hell, and you might end up looking like a dog licking peanut butter off of her face....but who fucking cares. Push yourself to do it, it's going to be uncomfortable at first. Eventually it won't be. Living at home isn't really a problem. Middle and high school kids all around the world somehow figure a way to fuck while living with their parents I'm sure you can too.
/r/askTRP05/02/21 09:00 PM
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In addition to what he said above (which I 100% agree with btw), you're likely to be a bit uncomfortable when you're pushing your own comfort zone. I remember the first time I texted a girl "bad girls get spanked" I felt so weird about it (kind of embarrassed I guess), though she loved it. Also felt super awkward when I first started talking about sex on a first date too. Since I've started doing that kind of thing it isn't uncomfortable anymore.
/r/seduction29/01/21 01:39 PM
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Well my crush left my message on delivered for 6 days. The only person that cares about this is you. What is it about this that makes you care so much? They're horrendous excuses and I really shouldn't let this shit slide. Does her excuse sound like someone that's interested? "Let is slide" you're a nobody to her man, you're not dating. You're overly invested in a girl that's not interested in you. Make a move, get a definite answer (sounds like it's going to be a no), and try to meet someone th…
/r/seduction29/01/21 01:31 PM
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it's a big thing to say that they are useless. Maybe some are just not so good/experienced at making these "subjective guesses". Oh it is. Though I say that due to a few things. Like you said above, there's an actual distribution out there. Like there just isn't a ton of 9s-10s, the most attractive people tend to not be common (and are often able to leverage their looks for money in some way). Using description words (cute, hot, plain, etc) just coneys much more information. Some of the other re…
/r/seduction28/01/21 01:54 PM
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I agree with what you're saying as far as there IS an actual objective component to it. Though I also agree with OP that in general people's subjective opinions are all over the place (to the point that 1-10 to is almost useless). Though I'm of the opinion that you should only be going after people you find to be attractive. There's an awful lot of bullshit thinking surrounding unattractive people ("oh she must have a great personality because she's fat/ugly"). I've also encountered some pretty …
/r/seduction27/01/21 09:08 PM
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I agree with what you're saying as far as there IS an actual objective component to it. Though I also agree with OP that in general people's subjective opinions are all over the place (to the point that 1-10 to is almost useless). Though I'm of the opinion that you should only be going after people you find to be attractive. There's an awful lot of bullshit thinking surrounding unattractive people ("oh she must have a great personality because she's fat/ugly"). I've also encountered some pretty …
/r/seduction27/01/21 09:07 PM
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You can be interested and not needy. Neediness comes from not loving yourself , and having no self respect. When you're needy you're seeking love and attention from someone else, because you don't feel like you're good enough. With that said you can't really fake being non needy, it will bleed through. You also won't keep anyone around that also doesn't have some major problems going on too.
/r/seduction27/01/21 08:46 PM
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I think he's describing a lot of the fake guru personalities , the ones that aren't actually good with women and hire actresses and hookers for their youtube videos. All of those types are completely bullshit artists though. A lot of the dudes claiming to be massively successful, really aren't. It's the internet though, and people still don't grasp that people lie (and a lot). I come around here cause I want to help the younger guys avoid a lot of the frustrations I had to figure out on my own. …
/r/seduction20/01/21 06:47 PM
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However it starts to feel like a text buddyship and not like dating anymore. She still texts and interests for me and tells me about her and how she generally feels in life but from a flirting perspective I feel like it’s just dead. You said it yourself, 5 months and no sex. You don't have a relationship, you have a pen pal. Why would she invest in you? You're giving her all the attention she needs, and she doesn't even have to see you in person. If you want something MORE then you actually need…
/r/seduction20/01/21 02:49 PM
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Sounds like you're trying to chase NRE (new relationship energy), which you can't really do. Getting to know someone IS more exciting, because they're still unknown. Some people are deeper than others. If that's the bar you're setting, I think you're going to be setting yourself up for severe disappointment. With that being said there's no reason to force conversation simply for the sake of doing so. It also sounds like you're more concerned with her happiness than yours. If that's the case you …
/r/seduction20/01/21 02:37 PM
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I scored INTP when I took it. Though you shouldn't put too much into the MBTI. I see plenty of people use "I'm introverted" as a non starter. I like to spend time by myself too, but that doesn't mean I avoid social situations. Being social is a skill, if you actually try to get better you likely will.
/r/seduction19/01/21 04:38 PM
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The more I play aloof and non needy, the more girls it seems like I push away? You're doing it wrong. You shouldn't be playing non needy, you should just not be needy. Though you can't go too distant too soon, or else she's going to think you're not interested. For example, tried something new, basically told a girl I'm not interested in a relationship and it did the opposite of what I wanted That's called polarization. So when you say that to a woman you barely know (or don't know) she makes a …
/r/askTRP19/01/21 04:26 PM
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Not at all, that's the right approach. Diet breaks/resets are good to do You'd be wasting your time trying to gain significant mass while eating at maintence though. Just bulk.
/r/askTRP18/01/21 08:51 PM
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I’m uncomfortable with the thought of cutting again right now, nor do I want to bulk up now. Thinking of the outcome of either this scenarios frightens me. Then you're not going to realistically change how you look. As a former fat guy myself, i know you're terrified of getting fat again. Do a bulk with your maintenance +250 and evaluate that for a bit. Skinny fat comes from not having underlying muscle when you get leaner. Unless you like looking like a crackhead, you're going to need to bulk.
/r/askTRP18/01/21 01:10 PM
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No worries, you have to start somewhere. You're going to royally fuck things up, that's ok. Give yourself permission to try new things and fail. I have success with women, because I have a TON of failure with women.
/r/seduction08/01/21 07:59 PM
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People LOVE to talk about themselves, so get her talking about herself. I look at it this way. Everyone has a story, it's my job to find out what it is. Everyone has interests, passions, aspirations,wants,wishes etc.
/r/seduction08/01/21 07:41 PM
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How old are you? I suspect you're pretty young. If neither of you are experienced, there's no dating conversation to be had. Pitching a date isn't hard, it's as simple as "let's grab a drink/coffee/whatever". It's important to make your intent clear here. If you're doing most of the talking though, you're doing it wrong.
/r/seduction08/01/21 07:35 PM
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I mean if she leaves him (while it would be best for him) she is a single mother, so hopefully she would treat him better right? In an attempt to avoid that? It's typically child support that fucks you harder than divorce. Women are overwhelmingly awarded custody. When that happens she's going to get subsidized, with half of his pay (and no obligation to have him involved in the kids life). Basically the aim is to have the kid "maintain" their lifestyle (of 2 incomes), with just the mother's. I'…
/r/askTRP07/01/21 02:37 PM
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So if you're getting dates you have that covered. Getting from dates to home or other dates is the problem. If you're noticing a pattern, you're the problem. Do you have a plan/system in place for dates? Wal me though your last date
/r/askTRP30/12/20 03:25 PM
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Most bottled water is just tap water run though a filter. I do both, but in reality I think if your tap water is safe, then you're going to be fine drinking that. The only time I'm not too crazy about drinking straight tap water is when it's cloudy or something.
/r/askTRP30/12/20 03:22 PM
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Ironically one of the old systems/whatever (with lines and routines) was actually called "magic bullets". I agree with a lot of what was said. When you do the gimmicky PUA stuff, that's not really how most people are all the time (or even at all). So you're stuck trying to keep up this persona that's not actually yours. Some of the underlying concepts are legit though. Some of them have just been conflated or are outright wrong.
/r/seduction30/12/20 02:20 PM
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You can do it, you just have to learn how. Not taking things personally IS something you can learn to do. People will continue to shit on you if you make it easy for them to do som
/r/askTRP29/12/20 09:33 PM
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Some of the stuff people get bent out of shape about today, is because they've been taught fragility. You're probably right, you're probably not being bullied, people are just fucking around with you. You need to learn how to dish it back out, there's also lines (which you'll have to learn too). Growing a thick skin is so useful for the rest of your life, in can't overstate this enough. Just fuck with people back. Doesn't have to be maliciously.
/r/askTRP29/12/20 06:48 PM
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That sounds wonderful!
/r/seduction29/12/20 02:42 PM
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Sorry about your bad luck! That stuff is just straight cringe. Keep in mind most men aren't as well socialized as women. They likely aren't successful, and don't realize they come off as sleazy. Generally a man's interest in a woman IS going to be because she ticks his box for attractive (and there's variety in this). A lot of people have a hard time realizing that men and women think and feel differently (and aren't necessarily attracted to the same things as them). Like some others have said a…
/r/seduction28/12/20 07:31 PM
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Enjoy it. I have a baby face I'm 38, and it's never hurt me. Actually there's people younger than me at work, that look fucking awful (and older). Would you rather be 30 and mistaken for 25, or 45?
/r/askTRP24/12/20 03:54 PM
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I think "traditional" dates definitely trigger boyfriend feelings. Shit like fancy dinners, long elaborate nights out, day long activities and the like are all no go from me. For the past several years all of my dates have been "drinks*(sometimes coffee if she doesn't drink). In addition to not setting the wrong frame, it's also isn't going to murder your free time or finances. 1-2 hours,1-2 drinks is more than enough for a first date.
/r/askTRP23/12/20 08:54 PM
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Is it really any different than the dozens of dudes on here every week saying "she says she loves me but flaked the past 5 time we were supposed to meet"?
/r/askTRP23/12/20 06:56 PM
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Sounds like you handled it mostly right. I didn't see your other post for context, but the MORE you act like a boyfriend, the harder it is going to be. Personally my thing isn't to be shitty to people, and that means women too. So while it's mostly just casual fun, I'm not giving the impression it's going to be more. I reassured her that I want her the be part of my life, but I can’t do anything exclusive right now. I told her you’re a free woman, and I will not tell you not go see other men or …
/r/askTRP23/12/20 05:26 PM
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Depends on what you're talking about. "Game" is real, but minunderstood in a lot of ways. Dudes telling autists they can lay any girl they want, are hawking products and gimmicks. In reality it's a numbers game, and with enough practice interacting with other humans; even autists can land dates too. One of the big problems with love and relationship advice (particularly for men) is that most men don't learn from experienced men. Women have the problem of unwanted attention, a lot of guys have th…
/r/seduction21/12/20 08:06 PM
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Really the best way to get better is by doing it, so you've got part of the puzzle right. Online and face to face are quite different. Online you don't have body language or other actual feedback to use. Confidence just comes from competence. Want to be more confident talking to women, then you need to just have more experience with talking to women. You'd mentioned about being bad at flirting. Flirting is really just injecting some sexual energy into the conversation. Again get better by practi…
/r/seduction19/12/20 12:54 AM
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Most women aren't super forward like that, so you've probably already missed the subtle signs she's been giving you. No worries though, you have a girl that likes you enough to push past that. In any case you might be a bit anxious/uncomfortable, but that is just a feeling. Being uncomfortable isn't going to hurt you. It's ok to be nervous/inexperienced. Try to make sure that you BOTH enjoy yourselves.
/r/seduction19/12/20 12:43 AM
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We would make small talk for a few days, id have to carry the conversation and eventually id just give up and not reply to whatever their 2 word response was. Doesn't sound like they were all that interested. Where did you start talking to these women? Like if you're using dating apps, you should be pushing for a meet. Even if you weren't using dating apps, if your goal is to meet women...you need to try and get them to meet. Some women have no intention whatsoever of meeting a guy, but will cha…
/r/seduction19/12/20 12:33 AM
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It's attractive because you're in control of yourself.
/r/askTRP18/12/20 03:14 AM
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Stoicism is basically the philosophy of emotional control. Being stoic isn't being autistic, it's NOT being controlled by your emotions. The simplest way to explain it is there's things you can control (yourself) and things that you can't. Control yourself. There's no reason that you can't have fun while having a conversation. That's really not it. It's not losing your shit if she does something that pisses you off. It's actually not allowing her to piss you off in the first place. I have great …
/r/askTRP18/12/20 03:00 AM
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Christ man paragraphs. Anyway so you hit her up once and she didn't answer? If that's your problem, it's really not a problem. Hit her up again a few days later.
/r/askTRP16/12/20 11:37 PM
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It has, but that still doesn't change what he was saying . Getting called creepy to your face is a whole different thing than some chick telling you that on tinder
/r/TheRedPill16/12/20 11:20 PM
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However after a talk or even after a couple of dates I just feel kinda blocked, not in what to say, but in how to give the next step, either with a girl to have some fun, with someone I would like a serious relationship, or someone I would simply like to actually befriend to. If you're getting that far you're doing pretty well. The question has to be what do you actually want out of it though? Are you trying to have sex, make a friend, land a girlfriend? Those are 3 very different types of relat…
/r/seduction15/12/20 11:07 PM
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I've never worked in an office, we fuck with each other mercilessly. Having thick skin goes a long way here. I'm seriously not offended by what anyone can say. It's either true or its not. If it's true you own it, if it's not then don't worry about it. You liked it when you got it, that's enough. Work cunt's idea of what's artistic means nothing to you. She has a nice little irrelevant opinion that nobody gives a shit about (least of all, is you).
/r/askTRP15/12/20 10:56 PM
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You fucking own it. Maybe a tribal tattoo on your forearm was a stupid idea, but you made that decision. My parents signed for my first one at 16, I thought it looked cool then. It's still there today, and that's the answer when people ask if there's a story (I just thought it looked cool).
/r/askTRP15/12/20 10:28 PM
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who is out of my league. You're already done for. You don't feel like you deserve a beautiful, intelligent woman. How do I continue to escalate? I see her as a relationship prospect more than a FWB situation and think she feels the same. I want to escalate to show my interest, but don’t want to overstep my boundary as she showed me last time. I need your help bros. You met the girl once, she's not a relationship prospect you're just thirsty. You're trying so hard not to fuck things up with dream…
/r/seduction15/12/20 08:50 PM
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You have to think of what kind of guy you're trying to attract. This is a concept that's completely lost on a lot of people. You're a basic homebody, relationships need some shared ground/common interests. You're not likely to find too many guys that have knitting as a hobby. If you're finding yourself going for social guys, bad boys and the like, you're going to keep having the same thing happen. You can either start trying to find guys that are more like you, or you can expand your hobbies and…
/r/seduction15/12/20 05:55 PM
1

It seems to me that a lot of people aren't actually as mentally healthy as they think. So there's always that weird self selection bias/self fulfilling prophesy going on with a lot of people (and it goes both ways too). Women are do it in that "I always get fucked and dumped" , guys in "she's crazy". You're right though a lot of it gets lost because it's a nuanced thing. Being someone your not, doesn't mean "you're fine just the way you are". Most people have a lot of room for improvement, but t…
/r/seduction04/12/20 08:56 PM
1

But a lot of girls do think those things as well! Oh for sure.. Everyone have their own fears and insecurities. It's just I don't think most women truly understand how little attention most men get from the opposite sex. I try to steer guys away from the angry/toxic shit, but I understand where it comes from too. Social media wasn't around when I was a teenager, I had to struggle and suffer though figuring a lot of it and it myself. Just trying to help some of the younger guys if I can Men who a…
/r/seduction04/12/20 08:23 PM
1

I have to admit, I LOLed at the title (I've never heard that before). Though I agree with the statement in spirit. Most guys DID take advice about women, from the women around them. Most of the dating advice that doesn't work for men, comes from the women they're close to (family members or friends). Then you have guys stuck wondering "why doesn't she like me, I did everything was supposed to", or the guy gets friend zoned. "Just tell her how you feel", "just be yourself", "her loss, she just wa…
/r/seduction04/12/20 07:38 PM
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They say fat chicks have the best personality for obvious reasons I don’t need to get into. That's just what no game desperate guys say to justify their fucking a fat chick. Are hot chicks that get fat that miserable to be around or is it just my experience? The notion that fat chicks tend to be more fun to be around doesn’t seem to apply to hot chicks that get fat Despite what fat acceptance wants you to believe, most fat people aren't actually happy that they're fat. It's quite the opposite I'…
/r/askTRP04/12/20 02:03 PM
2

Do you ever feel that red pill teaches men to fear women and female nature? I mean I’ve seen guys completely reject the idea of a relationship out of the awareness of the potential that women can do to them. TRP itself is a wide net. There are definitely people in the community that are terrified of women, and others that are terrified of their special little girl leaving them. There's a lot of butthurt/bitterness out there. Some of it is mindset, and some is experience. Most guys are never actu…
/r/askTRP04/12/20 01:53 PM
4

Yeah me too! Had a few hookups at work and things weren't really bad or awkward. All it takes is one! I came away ok, but learned my lesson too.
/r/askTRP03/12/20 07:54 PM
1

"Tell me about the worst date you've ever been on" usually gets a super interesting story out iof her.
/r/seduction03/12/20 06:22 PM
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You're young and you haven't learned to trust yourself yet. Most people get stuck in their own heads worrying about catastrophic scenarios. You're nervous about public speaking, so is everyone else. After you give a few speeches you'll realize it's no big deal. Also start talking to girl you think are hot. You'll realize there's nothing special about talking to attractive women. You're going to fuck up plenty of things, that's fine we all do that. Getting yourself into, and then out of, uncomfor…
/r/askTRP03/12/20 06:18 PM
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Question is, how can you tell if she’s going “what the fuck is this creep looking at” or she’s just curiously/friendly looking back at you? That's generally not gonna be the case. Chances are someone thinking you're a weirdo or actively trying to avoid you, is going to try to avoid eye contact.
/r/askTRP03/12/20 03:59 PM
2

OP didn't come up with this stuff, Robert Glover did. OP is basically parroting the concepts from "No More Mr. Nice Guy", without giving any actual credit.
/r/seduction02/12/20 06:02 PM
2

An hour ago she sent message asking if its okey her friend also joins the night. Don't do group dates ever, it's not going to work out. The chances of the friend actually helping you fuck this girl are close to 0.
/r/askTRP02/12/20 05:51 PM
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She spent a lot of time talking about her therapy and mental health issues (depression & anxiousness, daily therapy), and she seemed slightly low self esteem (she wouldn't accept any non-physical compliments I gave her, and she overall seemed uncertain / worried about her future.. she's a senior in college). Don't fuck with crazy. Seriously though NOTHING good is going to come from you getting involved with a woman that fucking blabs her problems to a stranger she hasn't even met. The fact YOU a…
/r/askTRP02/12/20 04:12 PM
2

Sedfast archives are still up as far as I know, or were a while back.
/r/seduction01/12/20 06:21 PM
1

Nuts are some of the most calorie dense food out there. Peanuts or cashews are my go tos for when I need to add calories but are good on my macros.
/r/askTRP01/12/20 02:54 PM
2

I'm not the one that asked the question, you are. All relationships are temporary in my view.
/r/askTRP01/12/20 02:08 PM
1

Social life is almost non existent. There's your problem. Do you think women are going to magically appear at your doorstep? I'd you have the social skills of an autist, you're going to have the results of one too. Edit: Gotta put yourself in a position to actually meet women. There's multiple ways to do this.
/r/askTRP01/12/20 01:42 PM
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Define successful first. Your version of a successful relationship isn't what I'd consider tolerable more than likely.
/r/askTRP01/12/20 01:35 PM
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It's literally never happened to me. I polarized (screen) when I ask for their number. I tell them I'm not looking for serious, and if they want to meet give me thier number. When they do, I know they're down for casual.
/r/askTRP30/11/20 07:13 PM
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IG can be a way to pull just like everything else It's not a must for the swipe apps though. When I'm actively looking I get a good amount of matches/dates. I don't have IG at all.
/r/askTRP30/11/20 06:54 PM
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So im thinking that either men in general should stop taking relationships seriously or stay committed until they start seeing red flags, then cheat. I just think its better to break a hoe heart before they eventually break yours 🤷‍♂️. Am i the only one that feels this way? Am i wrong for feeling this way? Realize that relationships aren't permanent, "loyal to me forever" is just a town in unicorn land. Cheating is a shitty thing to do to someone, so I don't advocate doing that. The much better …
/r/askTRP28/11/20 07:46 PM
1

If we change the word frame to respect its as important for any approach. Chasing a girl, chasing a promotion, trying to buy a used car, finding a real friend. I definitely think that's part of it. Self respect, self love (whatever you want to call it) is absolutely a crucial part of a strong frame. Frame is still other things too though. Though having self respect is probably the most foundational of all aspects really. If you don't believe you're worthy, or if your wants are somehow bad; then …
/r/TheRedPill28/11/20 07:17 PM
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Frame is more than just your sense of self, although your identity does influence frame. Frame is the set of unspoken assumptions that undergird a relationship or interaction. Right, I even said as much. I said it's both you generally, and your underlying belief systems, values, etc. ​ When you talk with your boss, for instance, you don’t need to constantly bring up who’s in charge and under what terms because both of you are acting out the employer-employee frame. In school you have the student…
/r/TheRedPill28/11/20 07:04 PM
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Congruence is pretty simple I think, and I even hinted a bit about what it is above. Calibration is a bit harder though, as I think you often need to have some sort of feedback mechanism for that. Having a wingman/friend/teacher. It's more of the fine tuning that goes in once you're actually congruent. I think these are somewhat easier topics then trying to verbalize what frame actually is for me. It was actually more difficult than I expected to actually try to write out what I wanted to say.
/r/TheRedPill28/11/20 06:23 PM
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Oh interesting! I know some of the older PUA stuff was influenced by NLP, but had no idea. I never dove into that stuff myself.
/r/TheRedPill26/11/20 11:05 PM
5

Asking this again, you're hoping to get a different answer. Don't shit where you eat, and move on. Chick isn't interested, she made that pretty obvious. You're asking to be in an HR meeting that you're going to be on the wrong end of.
/r/askTRP26/11/20 04:16 PM
1

Keep seeing her if you can. She looks like she's already in the process of moving on. That last bit there was more for moving forward.
/r/askTRP26/11/20 01:47 PM
1

She is good in bed and requires minimal effort, so I would like to keep seeing her. What should I do next? Keep seeing her. Find other women. Did I maybe go overboard with showing no feelings at all (I am pretty cold person by nature), never complimenting her, very rough in bed, almost no cuddling etc. She was just before her period last time we saw each other and I guess power fucking her didnt help lmao. So the thing is you don't have to be a sappy, lifetime movie, but you do have to be someth…
/r/askTRP25/11/20 11:13 PM
2

So she's not an idiot, she knows what you're doing and why. When you do reinitiate, act like nothing happened. If she really presses you (which she probably won't), the say exactly what you said above. "I'm not mad, I don't have time for bullshit".
/r/askTRP25/11/20 08:34 PM
1

Abundant vs. scarce is an worldview. It's not specific to any particular area. It's knowing that about half of the humans alive today are women, and there's more single women in your city than you could ever meet in a lifetime. There's more money out there than you can comprehend, you can grab a tiny bit of it. You sound like you have anxiety and weak boundaries.
/r/askTRP23/11/20 02:05 PM
1

Part of that is just the time we're in right now. I don't know where you're at, but it's been pretty difficult in my state (for dates, going out,etc). Don't be afraid to reach out to your friends. You for sure might have to put in some extra work to get your friendships back if you've neglected them for months.
/r/askTRP23/11/20 01:21 PM
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What could I have done to make my situation better. I feel like my online option is to be some post wall women's wallet once she's done fucking the actual desirable men. I really don't want to be alone and left undesired Nothing, you can't change the past. Moving forward is what you need to do now. Improve where you can (style, physique, social skills), and don't worry about stuff you can't (your face and dick size). I'd you want to be less autistic, work on being more social. It's a skill, trai…
/r/askTRP22/11/20 02:33 PM
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Just experience my guy. Shit when I was 20 I believed all the BP shit too. I think it's that younger guys aren't actually being taught by experienced men. I think most people aren't actually all that self assured (women and men both). People aren't honest with themselves, and have never actually learned to trust themselves. So because of that there's just a TON of issues and insecurities in modern adults.
/r/askTRP21/11/20 09:47 PM
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No fault divorce and women being allowed to work is why the divorce rate went up. Most dudes (including a ton around here) are needy and desperate. Thosr of us with options don't worry about that kind of shit. Getting good with women is a skill. Both sides get stupid bullshit from the media. BP is all of the disney bullshit guys are taught. Women have it too. Ever wonder why the 300lb chick with a buzz cut and a part time job thinks she's going to land a MD with a lambo? Same shit just the other…
/r/askTRP21/11/20 09:32 PM
3

Academically. Cause I wanted to be there, had life experience, and was paying for it myself.
/r/askTRP20/11/20 06:20 PM
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Try a few things out and see what you like. Find out what you're good at if you don't already know. I was an absolute fuckup in college at 18, but killed it at 28. Part of the reason was that I was just going through the motions. I didn't know what I actually wanted to do, but college was what I was"supposed," to do.
/r/askTRP20/11/20 01:42 PM
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Right, I thought about that after the fact! Actually I'd never heard of either. I don't know if I'd be considered paranoid or cautious... But I pull out along with wearing condoms too.
/r/askTRP19/11/20 10:55 PM
1

I've never had one break from either method. Though I definitely see why they could. I was assuming it would be used some time soon, not going from summer-winter.
/r/askTRP19/11/20 10:06 PM
2

Money and sex are similar in that they're the most important thing, when you don't have any. Money is important, you can't live the way you want without it. "How much" is the bigger, more important question. That is up to you. The more debt you have, the more you're tethered to that. You're forced to stay in a job/area/etc you hate.
/r/askTRP19/11/20 08:25 PM
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I'd say realistically STD should be your bigger concern. There's only a few days window that she's fertile. A few things have to line up for her to get pregnant. Carry a condom in your wallet, and one in your car.
/r/askTRP19/11/20 08:14 PM
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Mega dumb move. Hope you learn a lesson about how you feel right now. Go get yourself an STD test and wait.
/r/askTRP19/11/20 08:00 PM
1

You already know the answer here. You really want to wait potentially years to have sex? For the "hope" that she's not going to leave your ass a little later (statitics aren't on your side friend). Get yourself a new, new girlfriend. One that doesn't have some issues around sex, or enjoy your future as an asexual
/r/askTRP07/11/20 01:16 PM
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Yeah man I had to quit reading this shit too. This was perhaps the neediest post here I've ever read about in my entire life. It's being praised too, it's pretty pathetic.
/r/askTRP07/11/20 01:08 PM
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Your attention and company is the reward. If you enjoy your time with her, then you spend your time with her. My interactions are we hang out for a bit, have sex, then she leaves. I wouldn't be against going out socially (drinks,dinner,event), as long as it isn't a regular occurrence. Sleep overs are completely off the table for a FWB.
/r/askTRP05/11/20 07:50 PM
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Ok gotcha! Makes a little more sense now. You had a problem here because you went and made a huge change in the relationship dynamic. You go from casual to cohabitation instantly. Then she freaks out when you try to take a step back. That's the issue as I see it. I get what you were trying to do, but it's not what I would have done. With that being said, I think you can ping her now if you want to continue to see her. Though that situation is drama, to a large extent it's not actually her fault.…
/r/askTRP05/11/20 04:18 PM
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You let a FWB stay over for a few days, that's your mistake. I'm not seeing dread at all. You have 1 girl you're seeing and you let her move in for a few days.
/r/askTRP05/11/20 04:00 PM
1

It's not a headache, it's an impossibility. Otherwise you're right though! Why people still think they're going to change someone else's mind about something (especially a stranger) is beyond me.
/r/askTRP05/11/20 12:07 PM
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Yeah you're not wrong there. A lot of people actually do that (withdraw) and that makes things worse actually. Do whatever you can to get yourself better! You're really not going to change your personality too much by gett better, you're just going to open it up to be what it really is. You don't have to be unhealthy to be different, people have called me quirky before. I've been deep down that hole you're in now, and it's not a place I would want to see anyone stay longer than they had to.
/r/askTRP04/11/20 03:02 PM
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As much as SMV gets talked about around here, almost nobody talks about the opposite side. Sense of humor is good because it signals mental health. Being mentally ill is repulsive to any healthy person. Your depression is being picked up by most normal people, and they don't want to associate with you more than they have to. People might not intuitively know exactly what's going on, but they can tell there's something"off","weird","not right" with people that are mentally ill. Really you want to…
/r/askTRP04/11/20 02:44 PM
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So as someone who's been deep in that hole myself, I'm not sure you ever fully get over it. There's a ton of factors that contribute to it with our current way of living. One of the biggest things is having genuine meaning, and joy in your life. Forget what everyone says about interesting hobbies, go for inches you truly love doing if it feels like work, it's a chore not a hobby. Having good relationships is helpful here too (and I don't mean romantic). Connecting with another person (best frien…
/r/askTRP03/11/20 05:59 PM
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Only do things that you genuinely want to do. Do them without expecting any reciprocation. Though if you don't have other life priorities, it's going to be absolutely obvious that "helping her is what I want to do", and basically loses all of it's meaning.
/r/askTRP03/11/20 05:50 PM
1

Nursing is a good path! Shop around and try to get it as cheaply as you can. School is way less important than most people think. Here the difference in pay for an ASN and BSN is about a quarter an hour. Though you would need a BSN to advance or get any higher up jobs, there's usually programs in place to help pay for it. My medic program was just under 2 years and about 2000 hours long. It was structured way differently than college. BS is legal studies, and MS is in law and public policy. The …
/r/askTRP31/10/20 12:03 PM
2

Proving yourself to be competent is far different than being insulted. There's not a job on the fucking planet that I would work at, where I was insulted or degraded by my boss. If that's part of your career path I truly pity you. E: As an aside, only YOU control how you feel about something someone else said. I've literally been called everything imaginable (with bad intentions). People only have the power over you, that you allow them to have.
/r/askTRP30/10/20 06:05 PM
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Do you think people that actually respect themselves give a fuck about what some shitstain nobody thinks about them?
/r/askTRP30/10/20 05:38 PM
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I'm a paramedic with 2 degrees (BS and MS). I still work as a paramedic. I was also a medic first, and went to school later So here's the thing, your skills as a contractor are probably more valuable then whatever education you're considering. If you're going to college for the sake of doing it, do it as cheaply as possible. Most degrees are bullshit today, and not necessary. Now if you want to go to college to learn a specific skillset, that's when it's a good idea. I'm saying I'd you want to b…
/r/askTRP30/10/20 05:33 PM
1

So chatting up women while out isn't the same as taking them home. If you're not taking them home, that's your issue (and not chatting up too many). You actually need to attempt to take one home in the first place. "More attractive" women are always going to be around, and it's just an excuse. Find one that you think is hot, and try to take her home.
/r/askTRP29/10/20 03:47 PM
1

Getting her pregnant
/r/askTRP22/10/20 07:15 PM
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While I'm not so sure it actually damages your ability to have a connection (it didn't for me), you'll probably want to slow down after a while. The real danger (and a small one if you're being careful) is knocking her up or getting an STD.
/r/askTRP22/10/20 06:50 PM
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So I had someone point out, and teach me a way to stop saying filler words. I'd said "ya know" a LOT, and this has helped me with it. The first step you already have, you realize you're saying it. Now the next thing is being more aware of yourself when you're speaking. Pay attention to when you're saying "er" (or whatever). When you notice that you say it, stop talking, hold your tongue against the roof of your mouth, and count to 3. After that, continue speaking as normal. At first it might see…
/r/askTRP22/10/20 12:31 PM
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So good for you for deciding to take charge of yourself and your life! With that being said, people aren't going to give you respect on their own (courtesy perhaps). People treat you, how you let them. They're also going to use the way that you treat yourself as a base (and you haven't treated yourself too well to me it seems). There has to be a real basis though, I see it pretty often on here... Dude wants to demand respect, but it's glaringly obvious he has no self respect. I suggest looking i…
/r/askTRP22/10/20 12:22 PM
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You don't understand soft nexting, to be fair most of the guys around here don't Nexting is to correct bad behavior from HER. If she's a bitch to you for no reason, that's a reason to soft next her. If she wants to go out with her friends and you get butthurt, that's not nexting... That's you being a needy chump. She also has to be invested for a next to work. If some new girl blows you off a next won't matter (cause she's not into you anyway). That's basically the same as "you can't fire me, I …
/r/askTRP09/10/20 06:21 PM
1

Sorry for your loss. So here's the thing it's going to suck for a while, it's going to suck pretty badly too. Losing someone you love is never easy, it's supposed to hurt. If you didn't feel this way is when you should be worried. Probably the best thing you can do is have a few long talks with the people you're closest with (friends/family). Try to let some of that shit out and clear your head. Sitting around in your head all day is no good. In that vain too, try and do things to keep your mind…
/r/askTRP23/09/20 05:42 PM
1

I didn't really get into self improvement until later in life, I was 32ish I think. You have benefits, get your ass to a therapist. You're going to need to learn how to stop hating yourself, but you can do it. Just be better tomorrow, than you are today.
/r/askTRP23/09/20 05:33 PM
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You don't pick your family, but you do pick who you choose to be around. There's really no need to continue to allow yourself to be treated like shit by someone just because she birthed you. Do what you can to get out ,and cut her out of your life.
/r/askTRP27/08/20 03:08 PM
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More than likely no. If she's actually interested, she wouldn't have let the conversation die off (or would have responded when you hit het up). Basically if you haven't slept with them a couple of times, their investment is going to be pretty low. Really though you don't have anything to lose, hit them up with a feeler text (just wouldn't expect much to come of it). If you toss out a feeler and silence, go ahead and delete the number.
/r/askTRP27/08/20 12:20 PM
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If you're ONLY attracted to them then I'd be concerned there might be something going on. If you're attracted to them, in addition to plenty of other women, you're a man that's not gay!
/r/askTRP26/08/20 12:49 PM
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Porn is mostly bullshit, don't use that as a template. A lot of those positions are to get good camera angles and aren't actually comfortable or sexy for you or the girl. Drop the ego thing too. Your goal shouldn't be to be her best lover, it's to be a good one. Believe me that's better than most (and most dudes want to think they're the best she had too). Talk to the girl your with about what she actually likes. By the time I'm ready to fuck a new girl I already have an idea of what she likes. …
/r/askTRP26/08/20 12:46 PM
1

Where you really splurge is on the brush and soaps! Took me about 2 years to get through my DE sampler pack. A good brush and soap/cream is definitely worth the money though!
/r/TheRedPill12/08/20 03:14 PM
1

Hell man that's even women in there 20s! People just keep getting fatter as they get older, I see plenty of women already massive in their 20s. Most women my age (38) are also a no go from me. I'd have to say less than 1:5 actually manage to age well, and keep trim.
/r/TheRedPill12/08/20 03:09 PM
2

I've seen people talk about the backpack/duffle bag thing. You can get a sack of gravel at any home store for a few bucks.
/r/askTRP12/08/20 02:29 PM
1

Keep her around casually as much as ya can. Good work on all of that. At that age women tend to be super flaky/unreliable. Don't expect too much, just enjoy it for what it is.
/r/askTRP12/08/20 02:24 PM
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Your expectations are the problem I think. Here's the thing, I believe you HAVE fucked women within 20 minutes of meeting them (I have too), that's NOT the norm though. I don't usually go for SNLs cause they're a pain in the ass and a lot more work than I'm willing to put in. You ARE going to get a lot more LMR going for SNLs. Contrary to what some people say, you're going to get women you can't push past the LMR with. I specifically use the method I do because I don't want to deal with all of t…
/r/askTRP11/08/20 08:37 PM
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I only rarely hit LMR, and when I do it's usually off of going for a same night lay. What works really well is a short meet first date (60-90 minutes), then my place for the second date. I don't think I've actually ever had any LMR on 2nd dates at my place (been using this setup for a couple of years now). Anyway she gets there and we usually talk for a couple of minutes, and I get us drinks. I put a movie on, and if she's sitting on the other end of the couch I just pat the cushion next to me a…
/r/askTRP11/08/20 07:34 PM
1

I was a paramedic by the time I was 24. Within a couple of months I was on my own, at one of the busiest services in the state. Even when I was in shit I wasn't sure about, I had to hold it together and manage someone the best I could. My plan was always to have a plan. Every life situation is just a problem (or series of problems) to solve. I also wasn't ever afraid to seek out people with a lot more experience than myself and have them mentor/critique my scenarios. I always focus on what I can…
/r/askTRP11/08/20 07:15 PM
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Yeah it's tricky. On one hand most of us HAVE been conditioned to seek approval from superiors, authority figures, etc. You have to balance it out, which is easier said than done. You don't want to get walked all over at work, but you don't want to burn your bridges either. Having a shitty work environment is going to harm you in a lot of ways (mentally, stress you out at home and stuff outside), so have to make sure you find a way to make it at least tolerable.
/r/askTRP07/08/20 06:13 PM
2

DARE is a good first step for conversations with WOMEN, not work related stuff (though it CAN have a place in work). When a colleague or boss asks you a question and you grunt out "because" they're going to (rightfully) think you're retarded. When your boss asks you about a situation, explain the situation. There's a lot of nuance here is the main point I'm trying to make. Though you still don't want to be overdoing it either (I work with people that have an excuse for everything, don't be those…
/r/askTRP07/08/20 05:40 PM
3

I don't ever kiss a woman on a first date unless I'm reasonably sure I'm fucking her that night. I DO kino and sex talk though, and leave after about 60-90 minutes. As far as a second date, I push for at my place. In the past few years of me doing things the way I do, about 90% of them agree to come over. If they're NOT ok with coming over, grab a drink somewhere close, and push for her to come over after.
/r/askTRP07/08/20 05:17 PM
3

Looks like I'm the sole dissenting voice here. I trust the women I keep around, because I only keep women around that I want in my life. Though I don't just blindly trust them in all aspects either, it's a process. It's also entirely context dependent. I don't HAVE to trust them with much, because I handle most of my own shit.
/r/askTRP07/08/20 05:06 PM
2

You're not damaging anything, and certainly not women by having casual sex. Here's the thing, most modern women aren't forward thinking. They don't realize when they're no longer young or hot, that all the attention she got for being young and hot...wasn't because they're actually smart, interesting,etc. If you really want to not fuck with women emotionally, there's a really really simple solution. Don't fucking lie to them. None of the women I see have any realistic expectations of exclusivity …
/r/askTRP07/08/20 02:44 PM
8

Absolutely this. Most guys that try to LTR women of that age are just asking for problems. She's still a teenager, and thus you have to assume she's unreliable.
/r/askTRP07/08/20 12:39 PM
1

There are gems in that book for sure, but hang around here long enough and you'll see autists take it literally. Though I'd listen to anything Greene narrates!
/r/TheRedPill04/08/20 02:41 PM
4

So only you can know if you're running yourself ragged. A lot of people DO sleep deprived themselves, that doesn't mean it's good or healthy. Also you can order non alcoholic stuff at a bar. I don't get drunk when I go out (usually don't have more than 1 or 2), just get a coke or something.
/r/askTRP04/08/20 02:28 PM
4

If people are talking over you, or not listening, it's probably because you mumble and/or don't speak loudly and clearly. It's a bit weird to explain, you don't necessarily have to be loud to project your voice (if that makes sense?). If you look at singers/pro speakers they're all able to project their voices, without yelling. One of the things you can learn to do is speak from your belly, rather than your throat. There's probably articles, YouTube videos and the like about all of this of this.…
/r/askTRP04/08/20 02:24 PM
1

You're most likely going to die alone anyway. In my 20 years in EMS want to know how many deaths I've seen that were a pleasant, surrounding by loved ones, movie/TVesque scenario? None. The truth is that you ARE going to die, most likey alone/in your sleep/when you're not expecting it. It's on you, and you alone to live a satisfying life (whatever that means to you). Having women in your life can be an added benefit, but they're not just going to magically appear there. If you don't want to put …
/r/askTRP04/08/20 02:17 PM
1

The way I see discipline and motivation... Motivation I think a lot of people struggle with, because most people want to take the path of least resistance. If you look at super high achievers they can often have almost inhuman motivation, they're really the outliers though. Hell I've struggled with motivation more than anything else, I've adopted the "just jump in" approach. Where even if I don't feel like doing something, I start doing it anyway. Basically I will myself to take that first step,…
/r/askTRP03/08/20 12:40 PM
2

I'm not sure what a society is, but if it's like a fraternity (or social organization) that's probably a good idea. Not sure why there would be an age limit there. I'm in the US and the only limits on joining a fraternity were you had to have a minimum GPA, and couldn't join as a first semester freshman. If that's not an option for you, find some social events on campus and just work on making some friends. I lived in the dorms my first semester and I was constantly bullshitting with guys in the…
/r/askTRP31/07/20 10:58 PM
21

It's a shitty circle. You're inexperienced with women, but you need to interact with women to get experience with women. You can have all of your shit in order, but still be a virgin; because you're not putting yourself out there, and pushing for more. Most women won't directly approach men, if you're hoping that getting your shit in order is going to be magically magnetic to women... you'll be waiting a while. Women show interest often enough, it's just very subtle. Though YOU still have to act…
/r/askTRP31/07/20 10:50 PM
2

I treat everyone well, and with some amount of respect. That doesn't mean I put up with bullshit either though. I fuck with people a lot too, but it's not mean spirited. Like if you're teasing women and they're getting offended, your tone is off or something. She should be laughing when she calls you an asshole. My conversations are mostly serious, then I'll take something she says out of context (intentionally). If you're giving off too much of the boyfriend material vibes, it's probably other …
/r/askTRP31/07/20 03:31 PM
4

Yeah it was frustrating as hell, I'm no stranger to sprains/strains, and all of that stuff. I've never had anything take so long to feel better. Just as time went on it started aching less, and then eventually went away completely. I'd done ice/heat, Motrin, balms, nothing actually seemed to help... Just time and rest.
/r/askTRP31/07/20 03:04 PM
2

I actually don't directly screen women (outside of them showing to be crazy right off the bat). My main criteria (besides being attractive) are... I enjoy her company, she doesn't give me any drama/bullshit, and the sex is good. I legitimately enjoy spending time with the girls I keep around. That doesn't mean we're dating (we aren't), I don't love them, but I DO like them. If you're nitpicking the hell out of them, you need to figure out why. You're probably unicorn hunting at some level.
/r/askTRP31/07/20 02:27 PM
9

I hurt my shoulder a while back at work. The best they could figure was that it was acrimoclavicular joint sprain. It didn't limit my ROM, but it was constantly achey. I started taking a couple week breaks from lifting (I'd take a rest week or 2, every 6-8 weeks), and would switch up routines from low rep/high weight, to higher rep/lower weight, whenever I was starting to feel it there. The thing took FOREVER to heal, like over a year. So it could definitely be a long haul for you. The big thing…
/r/askTRP31/07/20 02:14 PM
1

That's way over estimated if MB's equation is right. By Berkhan's formula the genetic potential at 5'7 is closer to 150lbs lbm(I'm also 5'7). .
/r/TheRedPill31/07/20 12:20 PM
4

If you're having issues with talking to women, the solution is to talk to more women. The tricky thing here is that you're not that experienced, you're also not really going to be giving off that vibe. You're way too in your head about it. On dating apps your goal isn't to chit chat with them, it's to get them on a date. There's no magic openers, and a lot of your matches aren't going to go anywhere. Go from the app to text, and get a date set up. You're probably going to have to go on a number …
/r/askTRP30/07/20 05:58 PM
1

It's also not just a day. 3 day min.
/r/askTRP30/07/20 05:36 PM
2

Sounds more like you need to talk to a therapist. Quitting porn is all well and good, but I doubt that's the root cause of your problems. Your view on social interactions was my view on life in general, when I was majorly depressed. Went to therapy for a short while and got myself sorted out.
/r/askTRP30/07/20 03:37 PM
2

Some dudes have unrealistic expectations (a lot of women do too). Ever run into that 300lb welfare mom that "will only date a doctor, lawyer, CEO, that's 6'5, and has a 6 pack"? That's basically what your friend is doing. Let's suppose he actually landed a super hot woman, he wouldn't have the experience to handle her more than likely. I used to work with a dude like that. He was fat, had terrible hygiene, and was a "male feminist". He also never had a girlfriend in his adult life (and was proba…
/r/askTRP29/07/20 07:37 PM
3

Going celibate "just because" is one of the dumbest fucking things I see around here. If you want to get better with women, you need to interact with women. What fixes your fantasies, is actually fucking women (and legitimately fulfilling your fantasies). You can't fake having options, and you can't have options if you're not trying. You can read about shit all you want, but nobody's mastered a skill by reading about it. You have to go out do it, fail, fail a shit ton, learn, and you'll get bett…
/r/askTRP29/07/20 04:31 PM
6

I'm not sure they are, unless they tend more towards women. Seems like all the bi people I've known had a preference one way or the other. Even most of the bi women I've seen/dated whatever typically dated only men (and we're either open to women, or never actually messed around with one).
/r/askTRP29/07/20 11:31 AM
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I'm not so sure it's a new thing. I think people are almost hardwired to look externally for almost everything. Those of us that do take full responsibility of our lives had to learn to do so, and seems ARE in the minority. As far as what to do, just do you. Most people are going to continue the blame game, and if you get rid of all of them you're going to likely be pretty lonely. I've cut out the worst offenders, but I accept that the rest just don't see things the way I do (but bring good stuf…
/r/askTRP29/07/20 11:24 AM
5

You ignored her for a month and you're wondering why she's not answering? Here's a hint: someone's fucking her now.
/r/askTRP28/07/20 02:29 PM
1

That's true. I think money is more of a floor in that regard. Like you need to have enough to not be broke/live comfortably. But with what you're talking about you'd still have to be able to leverage that lifestyle in some other way (unless you're ok with screening IN gold digger type women).
/r/askTRP28/07/20 01:48 PM
2

People conflate empathy and compassion. Empathy is actually feeling a certain emotion vicariously, compassion is understanding some else's situation. I'm not empathetic at all (0 percentile on my big 5 test), and empathy isn't a learned thing. Compassion on the other hand you can try to see things from some else's perspective. I also tend to think empathy is far more of a feminine trait (just conjecture here). In short you shouldn't worry too much about it.
/r/askTRP28/07/20 01:40 PM
0

I'm not sure about the stats and economics, but SMV is relative and influenced by environment. To use college as an example (and equal net worth)... Who gets laid more, the super smart and bookish engineering major, or the fraternity president that's majoring in music history? I'd say it's likely to be the latter, despite a much lower earning potential. Social influence is a huge part of SMV. Guys that can afford it can buy women to an extent, but money/financial success alone isn't nearly as im…
/r/askTRP28/07/20 01:32 PM
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But it IS all about sex. What is the purpose of TRP? In any case don't let other people away your opinions, form them on your own. Just because a lot of people hold a view, doesn't make it right. I go about things very differently than a lot of guys around here, and I'm also very successful with what I do.
/r/askTRP27/07/20 02:12 PM
4

She was never going to meet you. She wanted attention and entertainment, you gave it. Sick cat really? At that point you should have unmatched HER. If she wanted to meet you she'd make it happen. Though try not to worry about that stuff, just move on.
/r/askTRP27/07/20 01:31 PM
5

All women aren't promiscuous, there's varying levels. Though I'd say those that are religious, asexual, abused are a minority... They definitely exist. Then again I'm not sure why dudes make such an issue of it, if it weren't for women being sexual most dudes would never get laid. For one I'm glad I don't have to wife up someone just to get regular sex.
/r/askTRP27/07/20 01:20 PM
2

Keep focusing on the important stuff that you're doing for yourself. Also you can walk and chew gum at the same time. While its harder with online classes and whatnot, you can try to make some favorable social situations for yourself. Instead of seeing your friends at home, pick a spot that will have some other people. Chat up a girl at the grocery store. You don't have to specifically go out of your way to do any of that. Just do it as you're going about doing whatever it is you're already doin…
/r/askTRP24/07/20 04:00 PM
3

Stop trying to do shit over texts, that you need to do in person. You don't escalate over text, you don't build rapport over text, you do it in person. Women will talk to you with no intention of meeting you (it's called being an orbiter). That's why you push for a meet asap, when a large number of them ghost... You've saved yourself time and weeded out the bullshit. The other thing is if you get a couple of matches, she probably got a couple DOZEN matches in that same time span. Stop wasting ti…
/r/askTRP24/07/20 03:30 PM
1

So you have the right mindset about cardio. Personally I don't do cardio as a part of my routine, but my lifting is strenuous enough that I benefit from it cardio wise (I have athletic bradycardia, lowish blood pressure, and a "fit" heart rate recovery). I liked doing HITT because it was super intense, then low intensity. Play around with it or give it a try if you've never done that.
/r/askTRP22/07/20 12:45 PM
2

Yeah man it's tough. I don't think most people actually love and accept themselves. I know I didn't until I was past 30. Keep at it, give yourself permission to be imperfect. Don't judge yourself too harshly.
/r/askTRP22/07/20 12:26 PM
1

You're young. You were probably never taught that you're going to fail at things (and horrendously). We're all far from perfect, but some of us accept things, deal with them, then move on. Being able to forgive yourself for fuckups is valuable, because you're never going to stop having fuckups. You're allowed to fail, you're allowed to be wrong, but YOU have to be the one that accepts and internalizes that. Learning from your mistakes is a part of growing.
/r/askTRP22/07/20 12:16 PM
10

You're mixing ideas here. Whatever reason you toss out to invite her over, is sufficient, if she's ok with being alone with you. Plausible deniability is constructed by HER in her mind, which is why it literally doesn't matter what reason you give. "Oh I was only there to feed his dog, and one thing lead to another". LMR is a different thing entirely, and only happens just before sex (which is why it's called Last Minute Resistance). I've been using "watch a movie" for years now. If she doesn't …
/r/askTRP21/07/20 09:24 PM
4

You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink. My own theory is that most of the population isn't introspective at all. People don't want to be responsible for their own destiny. Rather than challenging their own beliefs they repeatedly keep doing the same things, with the same results. Taking responsibility for yourself, means admitting that you have been wrong.
/r/askTRP21/07/20 06:39 PM
1

Yeah it can definitely be tough to know what your whole "thing" is. I think it was Mark Manson (though I might be wrong here) that did a blog about it. If you're doing something, and you get completely lost in it to the point of "oh shit I forgot to eat", that's a pretty good indication that you've found A passion (you can certainly have more than 1). Though you have to be careful about whether that's destructive (people can do that with things like video games, social media,etc).
/r/askTRP21/07/20 02:14 PM
1

Find your passion my man. When I preach happiness around here, I don't just mean being happy (as in not sad); I mean being content and fulfilled with your life. I live my life in such a way that when I'm an old man and look back, I won't say "damn I should have done this". We're all different, and nobody else can help you find your purpose.
/r/askTRP21/07/20 01:51 PM
3

There's at least one school of thought out there that it's mostly women that initiate, with IOIs. This is kind of the whole basis of "warm approach".
/r/askTRP21/07/20 12:31 PM
195

Men and women communicate differently. If she is NOT ok with the idea of being alone with you, she'll never agree to it. So the pretext doesn't really matter.
/r/askTRP21/07/20 12:22 PM
6

Isn't this really privacy 101 though? Good post though, I think a lot of people are oblivious to how a lot of this stuff works. Granted I'm older than a lot of guys around here, but when the internet first started booming, many of us had the assumption there's no expectation of privacy when you submit info. When you use a company computer, there's someone that can look at what you're doing, it's not your property. Same thing when you're using social media. When you use social media, your info IS…
/r/TheRedPill20/07/20 04:52 PM
1

They're essentially mixed in together now. If someone is an "activist" chances are they're a radical. I'm a libertarian, and I've always been an equality advocate. Activism is a whole other level of involvement.
/r/askTRP20/07/20 01:02 PM
7

Wrong frame my guy, dates aren't with friends they're with prospective lovers. Sex is always the context here. Kino and eye contact are good, keep doing that. What I meant with reciprocal kino is that after you break that touch barrier, SHE will start touching you back. Kino IS getting physical, but you should be escalating as the date goes on. The most intimate kino for a woman is her face, neck, and hair (which even I still struggle with pulling off sometimes).
/r/askTRP20/07/20 12:51 PM
5

So if you're getting comments about being attractive, you probably are. So really you should be pushing for meets. The way you're doing it though is going to set off their ASD. Basically you're going to screen out any chick that's not immediately DTF a stranger (and that's going to be a lot of them).
/r/askTRP20/07/20 12:40 PM
3

Going for a kiss destroys any sexual tension you've built up. I literally never kiss on a first date (unless I know we're fucking that night). There are other ways to gauge attraction, mostly with reciprocal kino.
/r/askTRP20/07/20 12:31 PM
4

Personally I go for honesty. The easiest (and way that's going to hurt her least) is to not blast her in any way. Reject the situation, not her. You're a great girl, and I had a good time with you. I just don't see this going any farther. If you've never done this before it's probably going to suck.
/r/askTRP19/07/20 02:46 PM
1

Yeah that's the problem with some of the shit that gets spread around here... "Guy she hasn't really met" is literally the last spot on her priority list. I think OP blew his shot, and would be surprised if she didn't flake.
/r/askTRP17/07/20 09:14 PM
3

That might be true, but just pitch your bar for the location. Women's bigger fear with online dating is that they're going to get murdered, trying to meet at a subway station doesn't help alay that fear.
/r/askTRP17/07/20 09:01 PM
4

Doesn't seem to me like you do though. All of the questions you have up in the OP are you failing to understand what women are. You're wanting to jam them into the mold of what you want them to be. If you have to trick yourself into not emotionally investing in her, you're only lying to yourself. Love yourself first, then love her for the good things she brings into your life (despite knowing it's probably temporary).
/r/TheRedPill17/07/20 07:29 PM
11

You're still thinking about it wrong. I fucking love women, I love women for WHAT they are, and not what I want them to be (this is most guys biggest damn issue). Every single day I see dudes rationalize their trying to shoehorn their "little miss perfect" into THEIR fantasy women. Then get butthurt when she turns out to not be that. Practically every relationship has an expiration date. Yet time after time dudes think expecting forever isn't delusional.
/r/TheRedPill17/07/20 06:57 PM
1

Don't shit where you eat. Dump LTR. If it feels like "work" to see her, it's done , move on.
/r/askTRP17/07/20 06:39 PM
2

I go once per week MAX. Cause if you start bullshitting yourself into seeing her more, then you're going to keep doing it. She's gonna start having sleepovers and you're going to dissapear for 3 months then come back with a "had girlfriend, lost frame" post.
/r/askTRP17/07/20 06:32 PM
1

See with that pretext I think you need to be careful, that's almost like a "work event" type thing to me. It could easily backfire and go the other way too. I was thinking shoot your shot and just try to get her out socially.
/r/askTRP16/07/20 11:30 PM
1

If you're in the desert without water, drinking piss probably seems like a good idea. I'd be lying if I said I never went hogging, though Im not going to pretend I thought they were attractive either. When you start regularly having sex with women that ARE attractive, you don't need to do that shit
/r/askTRP16/07/20 11:17 PM
4

That's why I don't use the numbers, they're close to useless. Cute, hot, fat, not attractive, etc are what I go by
/r/askTRP16/07/20 10:54 PM
3

You're assuming that she'll actually agree to be social with you. I say fuck it and go for it, you don't have anything to lose.
/r/askTRP16/07/20 09:50 PM
0

Sex is better than no sex, just don't make a habit of banging fatties. I have to find the girl at least cute, so I'm always attracted to them. And make sure you take care of yourself, wrap it up and all that.
/r/askTRP16/07/20 09:48 PM
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Mainly, it's by taking a lot of damn pictures. When the pros shoot pictures they take hundred or thousands to get just a couple of good ones. Think about women and social media. How many pictures per day do you think they take? They were probably using SC (or whatever app)in middle school, and every day for the past how many years.
/r/askTRP16/07/20 05:23 PM
1

Yeah I think a lot of the alpha widow conjecture comes from dudes that have never been told "you're the one that got away". Women break off things in most relationships (marriage, LTRs, and less serious dating). They're just not used to being dumped by someone they're actually attracted to. Most needy guys will sit there and pine for their exes for months, because THEY (the guy) didn't want things to end, whereas she already had the next thing lined up. When a dude does that to her, it's just th…
/r/TheRedPill16/07/20 05:02 PM
1

You have to have SOME skills you picked up working there? You have a couple of months, get your resume retuned, and start looking for other jobs. The military is one option ,you'll get training (but may be N/A to the civilian world). You might like it and go career, and you might also get dead. There's plenty of trades out there, some of which do really fucking well. Look into what becoming an apprentice, if you're more of a hands on kinda guy.
/r/askTRP16/07/20 03:16 PM
1

Being unreactive is not the same as having no emotions. All of us DO have emotions (barring a few exceptions), and modern men are taught to reason/communicate through them (because they were raised to essentially communicate like women). Being unreactive is having emotional CONTROL. You can be pissed off, but not lash out at someone for example. That's not toxic at all. You can be assertive and calmly and clearly state your wants, or you can get emotional and scream about them...Which do you thi…
/r/askTRP16/07/20 02:42 PM
2

So a lot of dudes 30+ are fat (and have the health problems that go with it), married and pussy whipped, or some combination of both. T levels also decrease as you get older, so that can lower sex drive and stuff too. Also add in life responsibility, and most dudes can't go daygaming for hours a day, every day. Socializing is a bit different as your friends get married, get fat, and have kids. I'm 38, and definitely not AS horny as I was when I was young 20s. I still like fucking attractive wome…
/r/askTRP16/07/20 02:12 PM
3

So I think MOST people in general aren't all that confident. Couple that with the fact you probably do look like a rougher guy (built, facial scar,etc) you're probably going to have that aura about you. That s good in some ways, and bad in some others. So you're probably likely to not have some people fuck with you that might have otherwise, the bad thing is if you run into some really rough people that's not going to change anything. What you can try to do if you're looking to tone it back a bi…
/r/askTRP16/07/20 02:05 PM
2

Who fucking cares... You do. You can change some things about yourself, don't worry about the shit you can't. I'm not gonna blow sunshine up your ass and say looks don't matter. If you're legit ugly you're going to have a harder time. Maximize what you can though (great body, great style, fun to be around etc). I wear hearing aids, and I wear them on every first date. I also physically sit women to the side I can hear better on. Maybe there's some that had an issue with it, but all of the ones I…
/r/askTRP15/07/20 02:53 PM
1

Practice them brother. Like any other skill you learn by doing. And it doesn't matter if it's men or women, just work on being more social, having conversations,etc. After a while you'll realize (or should) that talking to attractive women is no big deal. What you actually talk about is less important than the fact that you're actually talking.
/r/askTRP15/07/20 02:39 PM
2

You can't bulk without gaining some fat, or cut without losing some lbm. That's just the nature of how it works for most people (there are some people with really good genetics where that doesn't apply). So since you've been cutting, you should reverse diet back to maintenance. Gradually up your intake until you figure out what that is. Then after you're back to maintenance, add in a small surplus. You're young AND lean so you can probably put on about 1-2lbs of muscle per month to start with. 2…
/r/askTRP15/07/20 02:21 PM
3

Honestly, I really don't play those games. If im seeing a girl regularly it's because I actually want to see her. That means she's good company, fun in bed, and doesn't give me bullshit. I usually reply to most texts at some point, but I don't use any arbitrarily method for doing it (like waiting twice as long and all of that stuff). Sometimes it's a couple of minutes, sometimes it's hours later. Really all depends on what I'm doing. That's for when they text ME. If I'm texting them it's to see …
/r/askTRP14/07/20 09:38 PM
1

No, I had a string of girls that I'd had sex with, that I wasn't able to put on as regular girls. I was bare minimum texting then. So basically the way I look at things is if you start seeing a pattern, it's probably something YOU are doing. I had a pattern of being able to sleep with these women once, but then couldn't keep it up. So some of my troubleshooting I think came down to not texting enough, and actually waiting TOO long to try to have sex again. I've since solved the issue (and both o…
/r/askTRP14/07/20 09:15 PM
2

Damned if I know. I've been told I'm interesting, intriguing, and not like most guys. I'm also probably older and more experienced than a lot of guys around here. My woman life is pretty set now, but if I'm meeting a new girl my goal is regular, ongoing, casual sex. I've also messed around with a lot of this stuff to find what works best for me. One of the last girls I wasn't able to convert to a regular a little while back is when I started texting a little more (and basically instantly had suc…
/r/askTRP14/07/20 08:21 PM
25

Yes absolutely, you don't want her to get buyers remorse. Now that doesn't mean text her all day, just a few quick things. After you've banged her again is where you can back off a little. Lost a few potential plates myself by going too distant too soon.
/r/askTRP14/07/20 06:57 PM
5

Your frame is going to be the make or break thing about whether you're giving off boyfriend vibes, so is the date itself (I see plenty of dudes around here preaching dinner dates, 4+ hour dates and all kinda shit). Talking about her relationships isn't going to going to peg you as a potential boyfriend, being needy/thirsty, and nonsexual are what's going to do that. Though I think most dudes ARE both needy and thirsty. Sex is always the context... you're on a date, not a business lunch. Women in…
/r/askTRP14/07/20 04:37 AM
2

Says who? I talk to women about relationships in some way, shape, or form on every date I go on. Want to know what (most) women like talking about more than relationships? Literally nothing. Ever notice the kinds of books, TV shows,etc women consume.... a huge majority is just about relationships. What do they gossip with their friends and coworkers about... you got it, relationships. Then again I'm not the jealous type, and I really don't give a shit if a date doesn't work out.... I'll just go …
/r/askTRP14/07/20 03:43 AM
8

The biggest way to stop ruminating on things is to learn some type of mindfulness, or just meditation in general. When you feel bad shit popping into your head, shift your focus to what you're immediately doing (walking, breathing, anything else really). There's plenty of info out there on how to actually do it, I find that helps me a lot. It's going to suck for a while. Once you realize that there's more women just in your city, then you could ever meet in a lifetime, is when you're starting to…
/r/askTRP13/07/20 11:21 PM
12

Women fucking love talking, and especially about themselves. I don't have a particular "script" i use on dates, but generally follows the flow of... Small talk, talk about life/work/interests, past relationships, sex, end the date after about about an hour or so (I'll sometimes go out to an hour and a half if I'm having a good time). Each topic builds on the other, and it's a natural jump from talking about relationships to sex (and most women love talking about sex). When I first started self i…
/r/askTRP13/07/20 10:58 PM
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She knows full well if she lied about it I would be gone. Not that she would need to because she could fuck whoever she wants. I have very few rules, and don't lie to me is the main one. Literally all of my women know that I'm not monogamous. There's really no need to lie if you're actually confident and outcome independent.
/r/askTRP13/07/20 07:00 PM
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She has the option, but doesn't. The thing is I don't think most attractive women will go for one sided for very long (unless she's bi and you guys only do 3 sums or something like that).
/r/askTRP13/07/20 05:55 PM
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Will Smith's marriage has been open for a long time (or at least it seems like I'd heard about it being open a long time ago). I'm in an open relationship. How I arrived here is that I'd always wanted to fuck other women when I was in a relationship. I'd usually break up with a girl rather than cheat. I just get bored fucking the same person for years on end (let's be honest a LOT of people feel the same way). My LTR is my LTR because she agreed to continue with our relationship, after I stated …
/r/askTRP13/07/20 03:59 PM
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How can you "try" to not see him? It's your God damn life and that fuck doesn't get to have a place in it unless YOU say so. Seriously make friends with people that aren't trying to shit on you all the time.
/r/askTRP03/07/20 07:41 PM
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It's a terrible idea. Why the fuck would you want to be stuck somewhere with some chick you don't even know? What if after an hour of being with her you realize you can't stand her? There's no reason whatsoever to take a woman on a mini vacation in order to get laid,
/r/askTRP03/07/20 07:34 PM
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That's an awesome little story, i had no idea! Most of the woke crowd is about as anti science and history as you can get (cause science and history are racist). Unfortunately that's more or less the social/cultural norm nowadays. I just hope so of the woke racist history porn doesn't gain any more attention (like the 1619 project).
/r/askTRP03/07/20 07:29 PM
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You can, and the fact that you want already puts you in a position to. Basically you have to have to hit that point where you're "sick and tired of being sick and tired". That first step is always the hardest. Now if it's an option, get yourself to a therapist. They're there to help you change your fucked up thinking patterns. Life isn't all sunshine and rainbows, any self help that touts nothing but positivity is delusional bullshit. You want to try to put a positive slant on things, not unabas…
/r/askTRP03/07/20 03:41 PM
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There's no need to put all of your bullshit out there. Anyone (dudes included) that let all their problems out to people they don't know are pretty pathetic IMO.
/r/askTRP01/07/20 02:00 PM
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That's way too damn long. If she's online she's getting dozens (if not more) matches/messages per day. After 4 days she's probably already been on other dates. Best case scenario is that she texts you THAT night (don't ever text her the same night), next is that she texts you the next day. When either of those happen you're in good shape, and she's pretty interested. If you don't hear from her, shooting off a message within a day or two is usually fine. Don't be surprised if you don't hear from …
/r/askTRP26/06/20 06:08 AM
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So for your points.. A lot of guys use monk mode as an excuse to not try. There's no special growth period in life, you're constantly going to be growing (or you should be at least). It's fine to focus on non women aspects, but that doesn't mean completely eliminating them. Would your life be better if you were having regular sex? Simply by having other more important issues/goals/things to demand your time and attention, you'll derive less if your happiness from a woman. Women ought to be an au…
/r/askTRP25/06/20 08:03 PM
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Sounds like LMR/ASD, which happens more often when you're trying to bang on the first date. I really don't run into it all that often (I only go for same night lays when I'm pretty certain it's going to happen). Sometimes you can beat it, and sometimes you just can't. Basically if you're that far along, chances are that you can. What you do is back off completely for a couple of minutes, and then re escalate. Don't do it in a butthurt way though. While I think a lot of guys say too damn much, th…
/r/askTRP24/06/20 01:57 PM
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So putting yourself first isn't inherently bad, but society/religion/etc all praise altruism. People in general are motivated by self interest. When your interests don't align with theirs, rather than clash, they attempt to manipulate or guilt you into doing something. With that being said, there's a few different ways to handle everything. Sounds like you're totally disregarding other people (and that's one way to do it), though it's not going to net you people for the long haul. You can pursue…
/r/askTRP15/06/20 07:00 PM
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Jordan Peterson has a lecture about what you're talking about. Basically not being threatening, is the standard MO for most men in modern society. But being harmless IS really fucking bad. What you want is reservation. How you describe your friend actually seems somewhat strange to me. Acts weird, but then doesn't take shit from anyone? Granted it's a super limited description, but almost sounds like some type of autism/mental health issue . As far as body language though awkward is bad too. Go …
/r/askTRP15/06/20 01:55 PM
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Not answering for a couple of days IS your answer. I wouldn't have sent that follow up text (seems kinda needy IMO). Does all of that with her sound like a woman that's actually interested? For the most part, if she IS interested, she'll find a way to make it happen. At best she was wishy washy, and at worst just out for attention.
/r/askTRP15/06/20 01:30 PM
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"I have to go to the bathroom" .or "I have to get back to my friends" are usually her way of ejecting. There could be a millions reasons as to "why", don't sweat it too hard. Women tend to DISqualify, that's why she should be doing most of the talking. All it takes is you saying 1 thing she doesn't like, to blow it. Try to get in touch later or tomorrow, though I wouldn't be surprised if nothing comes of it.
/r/askTRP12/06/20 12:58 PM
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Treating people well, doesn't mean being a nice guy. It's when you do things for women, seeking validation that's the problem. Keep going for a few more chapters, after a while the book becomes pretty repetitive. I thought it was a decent read (and quick) nonetheless.
/r/askTRP12/06/20 12:40 PM
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Absolutely this! Going into debt to buy shiny things is why most people are both broke and miserable. My vehicle is a 2006, I haven't had a car payment in 9 years.
/r/askTRP12/06/20 12:33 PM
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Depends on the context. If you are actually protecting her from real harm, that's not mate guarding. There's probably some article around here on it more in depth.
/r/TheRedPill11/06/20 10:36 PM
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One of the things I've experienced in the past was "burnout". Basically little by little my fucked up/wrong thought patterns shifted my world view, and CAUSED me to hate what I was doing for a living. While maybe that's different than your situation, it's something to consider. Now years later I've gotten myself worked out, I genuinely enjoy what I do (same job). It's also an ongoing thing to stay well/healthy. I think if you've had something like severe depression you never actually shake it of…
/r/TheRedPill11/06/20 05:56 PM
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That's called mate guarding, and it's a sign of neediness (which is the fastest way to kill attraction).
/r/TheRedPill11/06/20 05:46 PM
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It happens, who cares. You have a girl you're fucking, so you have that as a start. Just don't go doing something like putting a baby in her, or making promises. I realize it's easy to say quit worrying about that stuff, when I'm there. I think partly that just comes from age and experience. Have fun with it. Enjoy your life. Find a way to channel all of that energy into something productive/profitable rather than women. But you DO need to work on rooting out that "I'm not good enough" shit ratt…
/r/askTRP11/06/20 05:38 PM
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You're absolutely right about some of the terribly wrong advice and, echo chamber behavior. I come around because I like helping younger guys avoid the mistakes that I made. I'd even say I can see why some guys DO get stuck in that adversarial mindset. I also think your entire premise of reading beyond a single or couple of different views helps eliminate that. IMO some of the guys putting out content help to stoke the anger too. To some extent men extrapolate a woman that WAS the enemy onto all…
/r/TheRedPill11/06/20 05:25 PM
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What you're showing on dates is the OPPOSITE of what you should When you're going in there with the mentality of "oh I really hope this works" that's going to bleed through into your interaction. Going on more dates, AND actually having women that you're currently seeing crushes this. Sometimes you're going to hit a run of women that you're just not into, and/or they're not into you. That's just part of the game. You'd mentioned something about keeping them interested. That's a huge problem with…
/r/askTRP11/06/20 05:07 PM
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So I treat everyone with a base amount of respect. I believe in treating people well until I have a reason not to. That being said being polite doesn't mean being unassertive. You have (should) have your own values and wants. When you cave on those, is when you run into problems (so long as those values aren't things like people pleasing/validation/etc).
/r/askTRP11/06/20 12:31 PM
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You've got rose colored glasses on. What you DO know at this point is that she's probably not going to be your LTR, because shes probably not actually going to ever see you again. Trying to talk to you all the time without actually seeing you, is her putting you in orbit. Ignore her texts for a few days, pitch another meet, and move on.
/r/askTRP11/06/20 12:17 PM
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You're getting oneitis for a girl you haven't even fucked yet. Considering an LTR with a girl you had 1 date with that obviously doesn't want to meet you? Sounds a bit crazy if you ask me. If she's into you she'll make time. Don't text her for at least a few days, nothing, don't reply. After a few days pitch a meet and if she doesn't agree delete the number.
/r/askTRP11/06/20 11:26 AM
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Well some drama might be unavoidable, because she's probably going to be hurt. Though I think your best bet is being honest. Something along the lines of "I'm just not happy" without rattling off a laundry list of how terrible she is. Whenever I've broken things off with women I've always done it in person too. It's gonna suck, but just rip that band aid off fast!
/r/askTRP11/06/20 02:37 AM
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Absolutely right! Not to mention most dudes have their balls in the wife/girlfriends purse. His friends are actually her girlfriend's husbands/boyfriends. More life responsibilities in general make it tougher as you get older.
/r/askTRP11/06/20 02:26 AM
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You CAN never settle down, you're right though most guys do. I'm 38 and have an LTR and fwbs. I'm part of the camp that believes monogamy doesn't work, and that all relationships have an expiration date. I enjoy them for what they're worth, but I also recognize people change their minds (me included). Life's too damn short to spend years on end miserable, or feeling like you're "stuck". The only thing I chase is my own happiness, contentment, and fulfillment. Part of that includes not having to …
/r/askTRP11/06/20 02:20 AM
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I don't need to say it since you already did, be responsible with birth control. Being present in your daughter's life doesn't mean you have to be together with the mother. That's a oft cited excuse for why people stay together for YEARS, and they stay miserable. Your ex/ltr (whatever she is) in this case unfortunately has you by the balls now. Courts are overwhelmingly sympathetic towards women. It's child support/custody that fucks over guys pretty bad. Though a lot of that has to do with anim…
/r/askTRP10/06/20 10:30 PM
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I'm not sure what to tell you, but a professional is the one you're going to need to get sorted out. If it's that bad, then it's probably pretty deeply rooted (upbringing, religion,etc). I believe in treating people well, but I don't do any of that. Sounds a lot like you're pretty extremely jumping to conclusions and making assumptions about what other people want. It's not your job to fix anyone (but yourself), it sounds like you have a massive want to be a people pleaser. Guilt comes pretty mu…
/r/askTRP10/06/20 10:05 PM
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That's all good stuff! Another thing is being someone it feels good to be around. Charisma is all about making people around you feel good. I'm sure most of us have had people in our lives that were just awful to be around. Never had a good thing to say, constantly bitching about something, etc. Be the opposite of that person.
/r/askTRP10/06/20 07:12 PM
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Too long. If you're not pushing for a date within about 2-3 days, she's probably going to flake. I don't mean doing what you did, I mean actually having a date. That night or the next day is ideal. Most women are absolutely bombarded on there, so you gotta act fast.
/r/askTRP10/06/20 06:55 PM
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It's nuanced. Being sexual is different than being horny. This is where being experienced and a good communicator comes into play. You can say thing without actually saying them. Sexualizing over text if you haven't actually fucked her yet is likely going to hurt you more than help. Be intriguing, don't just lay it all out there. Kino works so well because of how sensual women are. Most women get pleasure from touching and being touched, and the more intimate touch they associate with sex.
/r/askTRP10/06/20 03:15 PM
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I think krav is fucking badass, I'd love to learn it if there were actually any near me. When I'd taken martial arts it was a blend of shotokan karate, and traditional jiu jitsu. My sensai had the philosophy of "if you're using this stuff, it's to defend yourself. You're stiking to do damage, so that your opponent can't damage you". Krav IS brutal, which I think detracts some people. I view fighting as an absolute last resort, and if I need to fight my goal is to end things as fast as possible a…
/r/askTRP10/06/20 03:01 PM
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I don't disagree with that one bit. Mostly I was trying to reinforce not to replace dogma with dogma (which I think we both are in agreement)..
/r/TheRedPill10/06/20 02:38 PM
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I agree with the statement... "People don't have ideologies, ideologies have people". Having been in the manosphere community basically since it's inception, there are no magic bullets. Which I think is what a lot of people want. They come with an attitude "if I just do X, I can get Y will happen, and that's the end of it". I'd say one of the most valuable skills to have, and which took me a LONG time and a lot of study to get, is to pick out the gems. There's really no all encompassing always r…
/r/TheRedPill10/06/20 02:12 PM
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I'm not sure. I haven't had to deal with any of that in recent memory. You might be able to deal with it short term, but they're still going to be really low self esteem. Therapy is the actual fix. If a woman were to give me problems with having sex she would get a soft next on the first offense, and a hard next if it happened again.
/r/askTRP10/06/20 11:23 AM
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If you actually want to disagree with me that commanding= good leadership, then I'll disagree with that. I never said most women don't want to look to their man as a leader (I think they do). There's a distinction between being doninant, and domineering. Even then, OP was talking about a woman he hadn't met yet. Commanding someone you haven't ever met, isn't going to work out well (and that applies for people in general).
/r/askTRP09/06/20 05:26 PM
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That's one of the reasons I absolutely never go and pick a woman up. I also meet somewhere public. This shit isn't for safety, it's so I can leave if she turns out to be a total catastrophe. If you weren't feeling it you weren't feeling it.
/r/askTRP09/06/20 04:15 PM
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There's a couple of different ways it can go and that's why I used kind of a generic term there. None of them are really good for a guy that wants to have regular sex. Basically I'm thinking it's only going to be a matter of time before OP hears shit like "you're just using me for sex" and massive drama and/or validation seeking from her.
/r/askTRP09/06/20 03:45 PM
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You're worried about that shit too much. Sure it may be a deal breaker for SOME women, but there's a ton that will be just fine with it (and I mean whatever you're worried about). Most other people just aren't as concerned with that shit as you are. I'm also fair skinned, strawberry blonde. I don't worry about the women that don't like that, I focus on the ones that DO.
/r/askTRP09/06/20 03:00 PM
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It really depends what on your state and how things are split up. If you're in a place that does alimony, and you earn a lot more than her it's bad news. Mostly it's child support rather than alimony that will really fuck you. Women overwhelmingly get custody, and you're stuck subsidizing all of her bills.
/r/askTRP09/06/20 01:34 PM
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Sounds like a super low self esteem woman. While you might not be having problems now, you probably will eventually. LSE women tend to show some sexual hangups eventually.
/r/askTRP09/06/20 12:50 PM
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If you view everyone else as your competition in everything, you're never going to be good enough at anything. You're your competition. Be better today than you were yesterday.
/r/askTRP09/06/20 12:43 PM
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No, it's not everything. It's about maximizing your potential. Being built is more attractive than fat, that doesn't mean you need to be some unnatural mutant. With that being said those dudes didn't just wake up jacked one day, they put in the time. Strength is also relative. How do you know those dudes haven't been lifting for years already to get to that point. Stop worrying about other people, worry about you. Who gives a shit what you can lift, keep adding more to the bar over time and you'…
/r/askTRP09/06/20 12:33 PM
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The difference is desirability. So the thing is that most gross women will still have thirsty dudes willing to bang them, marry them etc. A lot of dudes feel like they deserve a high quality woman, without putting in the work. There's literally no reason any dude has to be a virgin at 30. As far as society.. a lot of that shit is to placate you into being a good little slave.
/r/askTRP08/06/20 05:18 PM
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It's not just TRP, it happens with pretty much any group. Simply enough by people singling out the extremists/fanatics, it's easy to invalidate the whole.p
/r/askTRP08/06/20 03:54 PM
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She had buyers remorse because you ghosted her after a ONS. Getting in touch the next day goes a long way to avoiding that kind of problem. Granted that's only the last issue is a huge messy night. Don't get that fucked up, don't fuck girls that fucked up, and do a little follow up in the future to avoid all of that shit. Just relax. There's no guarantees that she's going to get hired, and if she does that it will result in you getting fired.
/r/askTRP05/06/20 01:29 PM
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You're young, why are you even considering an LTR unless you're wanting to have kids right away (which imo is a bad idea)? Dude you just need to plate that girl. She obviously pisses you off, how are you expecting that to last? Seriously why the hell would you keep someone around, that you don't actually like being with. You jumped in way to fast to realize you didn't like her. If the sex is good and she's on with that, then keep her as a FB. All the retardation about girls with values and red f…
/r/askTRP05/06/20 01:11 PM
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It's a bit of both. You're opinion is the only one that matters. Or more simply don't concern yourself with what other people think about you, especially people largely irrelevant to your life. Not everyone is going to like you/agree with you, so don't try to be a people pleaser. OTOH that doesn't mean go around being a dick either. You're not going to be doing yourself any favors by burning all your bridges or pissing off everyone you meet
/r/askTRP05/06/20 12:45 PM
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I have argued (and still do) that while the problem may be systemic, it's not racism. When the police are given power like they have, of course they're going to abuse it. The fact is there's little in the way consequences. The other thing is that while police ARE at fault, more fault lies in the politicians and judges that gave them that power to begin with. I'm skeptical anything is really going to change. It's already becoming a partisan issue, with both sides (who caused the fucking problem t…
/r/askTRP04/06/20 05:21 PM
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They're not mutually exclusive. Though we're not popular around here, there are those of us that don't do monogamy. I used to have those "what if" thoughts all the time in my LTRs when I was younger. I even thought "maybe I'm just not cut out for long relationships". In the end if you're constantly questioning yourself in the relationship, you're going to end up unhappy. I think there's just some of us that have a much higher need for variety than others
/r/askTRP04/06/20 05:04 PM
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Well if you have insurance and need a referral, you are probably going to have to find yourself a pcp/gp. My insurance has something like virtual visits, where you basically video chat with a doc for less serious things. Might want to look into that option too if you can. In my area at least a lot of that stuff is starting to open up again, so you should be able to see a sports medicine/Ortho type doc, or at least get yourself an appointment/on the list.
/r/askTRP04/06/20 02:45 PM
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LTRs don't require sexual exclusivity. There's plenty of variations of relationships. It took me a LOT of years to figure this one out. For a long time I thought something along the lines of "maybe I'm not the relationship type". Even when I was in a relationship I wanted variety. Now, any LTR I'm in, will be an open one. Not all women will be on board with this, but plenty are. Love and lust aren't the same thing. I love my girlfriend, and I enjoy fucking my FBs. They're not mutually exclusive.…
/r/askTRP03/06/20 10:53 AM
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That's how I always do it. And what you said is basically my next follow-up message. I'm off of the app within 3-4 message, and I get the number and pitch the meet in the same message. So if I have her number she's down to meet. If they're ghost it's on that message. If she pulls some other bullshit she's not going to meet you (oh let's talk more). I've messed around with trying it various ways, and this way works the best for me. I'm screening out the attention whores pretty quick, or getting a…
/r/askTRP02/06/20 10:39 PM
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You look like the one that's pretty triggered. I'm just saying most normal healthy women aren't going put up with being given orders by some dude she doesn't know. If you only want super low self esteem, drama filled women, take em by all means; that's not my thing
/r/askTRP02/06/20 09:36 PM
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A lot of guys screw that up and think domineering is attractive (it's not). They like guys that aren't indecisive, that have boundaries. But no healthy woman is going to take orders from a dude she doesn't know. Feel free to go out and command the next random woman (that you don't know) you see to do something. I'm positive it won't end well
/r/askTRP02/06/20 06:31 PM
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Yeah I'm pretty successful with online. If they're going to ghost because of attention seeking, it's going to be when you pitch the date and ask for a number. I do both at the same time so I have my answer right away. If a woman is receptive to being commanded like that (especially to someone she doesn't even know), she probably has a fucking trainload of issues.
/r/askTRP02/06/20 04:41 PM
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Probably because you literally commanded her to come to x place at x time. Her silence was just her saying fuck off. Try pitching a date as not a total dipshit. "Hey I'm free Thursday too, let grab a drink"
/r/askTRP02/06/20 04:25 PM
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A lot of that shit comes from life experience. Stop judging yourself so harshly. First off do what makes YOU happy, fuck pleasing any other person (seriously, even your parents don't matter here). Also I'm talking about within reason, don't use that concept as an excuse for anything. Realize that people have their own preferences. Some women/people will like who you are, while others won't be able to stand you. Same with finding you attractive (you're definitely attractive to some people, and wo…
/r/askTRP29/05/20 02:25 PM
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No, it's totally nonsensical bullshit. People are fickle, we change our minds all the fucking time. Also most people aren't actually assertive and/or have a scarcity mindset. Hence why people put up with stupid amounts of bullshit heaped on them by family/friends/significant others/etc.
/r/askTRP29/05/20 01:52 PM
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Some good stuff in here. A few things I'd say are... You need to realize you don't have much of a say in how you are valued (that's an external thing). People may want to be around you for various reasons, and you can surely be the best you can, in whatever way you'd like. Don't fall into the trap of thinking you get to determine your own value though. There's a difference between trading and investing. Most day traders fail. When you actually look into it, you need to have a pretty large sum of…
/r/askTRP25/05/20 03:08 PM
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So sounds like you might have some traces of social anxiety to work out. I'd say keep going to therapy and see if you can't get that hammered out. As far as talking to people, just start small. If you see someone doing X thing, ask about it. It might feel weird at first, but baby steps. As far as where to meet women. Let's face it most women aren't interested in STEM, so that's already and uphill battle. Then of those that are, many won't be attractive/available whatever. It's a numbers game and…
/r/askTRP22/05/20 01:51 PM
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When you're satisfied with where you are for the time. I believe you can really only work on a couple of areas at once (in a serious way). I'm happy with where my love life and fitness are. So I'm basically maintaining those while I work on getting my house finished and business making money. Different things move around in importance all the time.
/r/askTRP21/05/20 10:35 PM
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You're misunderstanding what abundance is. Ambition is striving above what you currently have, aspiring to be better. Abundance is a perspective. You see the world as full of women, money, opportunities, etc. They're not in conflict in any way.
/r/askTRP21/05/20 07:13 PM
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You already got the answer, but here it is again. You need to figure out the purpose for your own life Some guys have work, some have kids, some have Jesus.
/r/askTRP21/05/20 12:57 PM
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My financial life hasn't changed, though work is boring as fuck since this all started. I lift at home so that hasn't changed. Dating is trickier, but women aren't Women are more polarized. Either they're afraid you have the plague, or they'll invite you straight over. Don't get sucked into being an orbiter here.
/r/askTRP21/05/20 12:50 PM
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Therapist do work, I'd gone to one. Get yourself sorted out first. Dating/women are a peripheral thing, fix the important things first. I don't suspect you'd find a "redpill therapist" because quite a few things preached are unhealthy and straight up wrong (especially from a psych perspective). No more Mr nice guy WAS written by a psychologist, and isn't full of the woman anger/hate.
/r/askTRP21/05/20 12:34 PM
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I've never had that happen, but have had the reverse (women thought that we had sex, and we hadn't). Mostly it's because human memory is fucking awful, and is mostly reconstruction.
/r/askTRP20/05/20 04:17 PM
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No, it likely won't ever go back. Much of women's liberation hinged upon no fault divorce, and the advent of birth control. Also the 20% thing is totally bullshit for mating, if that were the case most guys would literally never get laid. The Pareto principal is accurate in a lot of ways, but misapplied like hell around here. Go outside and take a look at people. MOST women have children (especially past 25 or so). They're not all sired by the same few dudes. In any case most guys are so despera…
/r/askTRP20/05/20 03:58 PM
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Man that's the type of woman that's absolutely able to turn around later and say you raped her. She also won't feel bad about it, cause she'll actually talk herself into believing it. Run the fuck away. Don't try to fix people (especially not those types).
/r/askTRP20/05/20 01:27 PM
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Uh all the talk of gaslighting is fucking amazing to me. I think it's just part of the victim culture bullshit. Really how can someone else make you question reality?! That girl is fucking crazy dude, stay far far away. Don't fuck crazy. I had a similar thing happened. There was a woman I grew up with and always found attractive. Same age, no kids, not married. Tried to hit her up after I saw her on swipe apps. She was literally batshit fucking crazy, into that newage hippie nonsense. Claimed to…
/r/askTRP20/05/20 01:14 PM
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Good for you man, especially if you go the NP route. You'll be able to do what you want to a large degree that way, so freedom is always good! Yeah most people do try to get the best they can. I wasn't trying to imply you shouldn't, just saying don't pass up on cute, while waiting for hot. A lot of people in general, just don't have their shit together. I'd say 1:5 women I see are attractive enough that I'd want to get to know better. Then of those there will be some that are insufferable/etc. I…
/r/askTRP19/05/20 10:17 PM
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It's reciprocal, they don't give a shit about getting to know you either. However there's the catch that how do you know you're not interested, if you don't find out a little bit about them? I approach people with the mindset of "everyone has something interesting about them". Now of course that's not always true, but you get my point.
/r/askTRP19/05/20 05:07 PM
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Most women don't cum from vaginal stimulation, they cum from clitoral stimulation. More or less only about 1in 5 women are going to cum from sex (and they're going to be the easier lot to please). As far as it messing her up, I'm pretty sure I'd read something along the lines of women that masturbate more frequently, are more likely to be able to orgasm. They have just as many mental hangups as some guys (a lot of younger people with sexual dysfunction issues for both sexes are mental).
/r/askTRP19/05/20 03:38 PM
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No, cocky is repulsive most people. Confident isn't cocky. Most of the newer guys swing from being a spineless nice guy, to a fake badass. It's just overcompensation, and most people see it for what it is (massive insecurity). Does it work with women, occasionally and for a little while. Most people aren't going to put up with it for very long, and/or they're going to be exceptionally mentally unstable themselves (like attracts like in this regard). You are almost NEVER going to see a mentally h…
/r/askTRP19/05/20 03:28 PM
2

If you zoned out while she was explaining something, it obviously wasn't that important to YOU. As far as when you make a mistake...well fucking own it, and accept the consequences. You're going to fuck things up, and it's hard to admit that you're wrong. If you're not legitimately wrong though, don't admit it.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 03:09 PM
1

You're absolutely right, it IS a false and unhealthy belief. Having sex though IS part of being healthy. Trying to live life through the LOP is also unhealthy though man. Some of the concepts there WILL serve you well, but I wouldn't want to use that as a guidebook for life. Basically every step in the process has a learning curve, and an element of chance. There's no such thing as fool proof or 100% successful. When people say it's just a numbers game, that's the truth to it. First you have to …
/r/askTRP18/05/20 03:05 PM
1

Well you're correct that women online tend to have an overabundance of options. Even average/chubby chicks get hundreds of thirsty dudes hitting them up. So now let me say that at 29 with 8, isn't super high. I don't know you at all so it's hard to troubleshoot. You DO have some misconceptions that I see though. To be honest I'd say at 8, you're still very inexperienced with women. Making more money MAY help, but not necessary. I'm sure you probably know more than a few MDs that are terrible wit…
/r/askTRP18/05/20 02:44 PM
2

I'd started reading it, and it's definitely an entertaining read. I'm not so sure HOW practical the archetypes are, but I'm sure there's something valuable in there. I had an incredibly difficult time trying to place myself, but have definitely run into people that would fit with others (both men and women). I think the root here is though, why are you getting worked up about wanting sex? Assuming you're a healthy man, why wouldn't you be wanting to have sex? Unfortunately I think people around …
/r/askTRP18/05/20 02:26 PM
2

Stop shitting on yourself for not keeping up with your lofty expectations. It's a cycle of self hate that won't stop. You're not perfect, not even close. In fact you're probably a huge fuckup (just like the rest of humanity). Most people aren't exceptional; though as a society, we vomit all that self important bullshit at people. Just start doing something. Something is better than nothing.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 02:15 PM
1

She sounds checked out of the relationship already (mentally, not physically yet). She's emotionally distancing now, so that she won't hurt later when she actually leaves. You're not getting any wishes out of her, she's already NOT fucking you. Honestly your best bet is preparing yourself for the divorce that's coming before long
/r/askTRP18/05/20 02:07 PM
1

You're going to have a much harder time trying to go backwards I think. Whether you can convert back to open (if that's what you're trying to do) is going to depend on a lot of things. It may not even be possible.
/r/askTRP15/05/20 07:19 PM
2

Unless I'm missing something... You've already told her that you're monogamous? Don't create that expectation if you're planning on changing it later. Basically at this point if you go and fuck around she's going to think you're now "cheating". You're probably going to have to deal with some type of drama/fallout from that. It's a mess waiting to happen.
/r/askTRP15/05/20 06:52 PM
3

Yeah being on your feet/running around all day will probably help a bit. I mean if you're looking to bank as much as possible over the summer/shirt term... absolutely go bust your ass for a bit.
/r/askTRP15/05/20 06:42 PM
6

Good pics help, so if yours are shit definitely fix that. So here's the thing, tinder DOES work... There's really no big secret to it either (seriously about 90% of your success is going to be from having good pics). When you ask for a number/pitch a date and they ghost, they were never planning on meeting you anyway. A lot of women go on there just because they're bored/want some attention. They have no intention of meeting most dudes. If she wants to meet you she'll make it easy. Don't take it…
/r/askTRP15/05/20 06:39 PM
2

Tbh they all sound like shit jobs. Amazon warehouse work is the best paying one, and might have some future potential to it. Though it is a rough job from what I gather. The security one would probably be the easiest.
/r/askTRP15/05/20 06:33 PM
1

Actually probably not, if you're as autistic in person as on here, you're not going to get laid in100 approaches.
/r/askTRP15/05/20 04:59 PM
6

If you get that line from a girl on tinder, there's about a 0% chance you're ever sticking your dick in her.
/r/askTRP15/05/20 04:55 PM
1

If you don't try, then of course you can't fail. Your hot neighborhood woman is going to fuck SOMEONE at some point, because he or she had the balls to talk to her and show some interest.
/r/askTRP15/05/20 03:13 PM
2

Stop finding excuses to even try. Most people in society are polite by default, especially in public. It doesn't actually matter what you say, if you find a woman attractive go and talk to her Of course you're going to fuck it up at first, but you'll get better. Beautiful women shit too.
/r/askTRP15/05/20 03:04 PM
15

I have better things to do than try to "win over" some girl that's literally never going anywhere. Get some options and you won't have to either.
/r/askTRP15/05/20 02:56 PM
23

No, you should be forgetting/blocking them immediately. Being a cunt isn't cute, only spend time with women that are enthusiastic. Fuck yes or no.
/r/askTRP15/05/20 01:29 PM
2

No doubt man, I've fucked up plenty. My point was perseverance is the key to success in anything. OP is looking for a lot of reasons to not even try. I DO have help and mentors. If you're like me you probably did quite a bit of research going into it too. I felt like I was ready, what I wasn't prepared for is problems that I wasn't anticipating (that comes with experience). I'd spent probably a year researching RE before I jumped in, it just so happened that some of the shit I learned turned out…
/r/askTRP09/05/20 04:14 PM
17

Some do, some don't. Women have preferences just like you do. One might lick your asshole like she's been handed an ice cream cone in death valley, while another wouldn't do that under any circumstance.
/r/askTRP08/05/20 11:01 PM
2

Experience and options, that's really the only way. You get rid of clingyness by loving yourself, and being your own source of happiness and satisfaction. I don't NEED a woman's company or attention to be happy, I'm happy without it. I actually CHOOSE to not see some of my women because I want to pursue my own things sometimes. I have a GF, and several FBs. So if I want to fuck, someone is bound to be available. If one of them would give me shit (which they don't), then I'd just fuck someone els…
/r/askTRP08/05/20 10:58 PM
2

Reading fiction has plenty of benefits. It makes you more worldy without traveling, it gives you a greater understanding of other perspectives, and improves your thinking/writing ability. With that said, it's still kind of hilarious to read male author's ideas about women's thinking (it's abysmally wrong in many cases). So one of the best NF books I've read, I had to read in both undergrad and grad school. That was Nicomachean Ethics, by Aristotle. It's helped to shape my views on many things, b…
/r/askTRP08/05/20 10:50 PM
3

I started my own LLC about 2 years ago. Last year when I went to the accountant he asked me "what you really formed that yourself, it looks like everything is correct". I did study business law though. My LLC bought a duplex, and started my rental business. In anycase my LLC has been an abject failure financially. However I still have it, I'm still working at it, and I'm GOING to make money with it. What I'm trading now is blood,sweat, and tears for money. I'm paying in real dollars, for the exp…
/r/askTRP08/05/20 10:43 PM
1

So my MS is in Law and Public policy. I truly did (still do) love the law. Generally I understand most of the ins and outs of legal concepts, as well as can do legal research. What I don't really know how to do is a lot of the procedural stuff. I've represented myself and family members in administrative hearings (and won). If there was some workaround for taking the bar I'd absolutely do that. I'm not too keen on taking $100k+ of debt for law school though. There ARE a couple of states that do …
/r/askTRP08/05/20 10:37 PM
5

LDR= pretend relationship.
/r/askTRP08/05/20 05:57 PM
2

I went to grad school instead of law school. I took the LSAT once for 160, and that would have been fine to get into either of the law schools in my city. Expecting to get a 6+point jump is quite a lot, and some schools will take your average (not best) score. Here it was so oversaturated, JDs were taking paralegal jobs just to get in. Average pay was pretty terrible considering 60+ hour workweek, and obscene debt for law school. The ABA prohibits you from working if you're doing law school full…
/r/askTRP08/05/20 05:55 PM
1

Yeah things get sore as you get older. Realistically though if it's recurring you should probably go and get it checked out. If you've been lifting that long with bad form it could absolutely be a repetitive injury/permanent damage by this point (not saying you are).
/r/askTRP07/05/20 02:26 PM
1

One isn't required for the other, I'm pretty sure more children happen outside of marriage now than do. So as far as how to assure you'll actually see the kid/not get fucked on child support.... Well you really can't. Basically what you'd have to do is make sure that the woman you're going to have kids with, isn't going to fuck you over (which you can't do). And at your age most don't have enough history to be able to accurately make that judgement. So do your best to NOT knock up crazy, but you…
/r/askTRP07/05/20 02:15 PM
6

Yes, women enjoy sex too. It literally blows my mind how guys can think otherwise. So if she's having "wife sex" with you (ie just laying there like a dead fish), then she's not enjoying the sex WITH you. Take some time to find out what she actually likes, or she'll find someone that does.
/r/askTRP09/04/20 02:38 PM
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It's not just women, and plenty of people are fucking enormous by their teens. Shit when I was in HS, there was legit only a couple of actual fat people (probably 2-3 out of almost 300, that would be considered obese). Whenever I decide to fuck around on tinder I usually see at least a few early 20s women that are for sure in the 200-300lb range. Just remember these women still get laid too, and it's because of desperate/thirsty dudes. So there's no real incentive for them to change.
/r/askTRP25/03/20 09:33 PM
4

Being selfish in itself isn't bad (though most in society would disagree). It also depends on the context as well. I always put myself first because I'm the most important person in my life. Women aren't bad at all, just like everyone else, there's plenty of fucked up ones. Unfortunately if you've been depressed as long as you say, and your family has too... There's not going to be any healthy women in that picture. Healthy people don't get involved with unhealthy people (mental health wise I me…
/r/askTRP25/03/20 09:26 PM
1

Once a week is actually good. I think their shelf life had much more to do with them being introverted/extraverted. Extraverted women are just on average going to be shorter (due to them being extraverted). Spreading it out a little more may extend it a little bit. Really though I think the biggest factor I've noticed is what I mentioned above
/r/askTRP17/03/20 01:15 PM
6

Or likely just asymptomatic.
/r/askTRP13/03/20 09:04 PM
2

Basically you LTRd the hottest girl that gave you the time of day. That's called oneitis, and also reeks of scarcity. Break ups suck, we've all been there before. Give yourself some time, then go meet more women. Not a big deal There's likely more single women in your area that are at least cute and fun, than you could ever fuck in a lifetime.
/r/askTRP12/03/20 06:04 PM
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I can tell from your OP that this dude is getting under your skin. Hence you DO give a fuck. How is he taunting you? If he's talking shit directly to you and you're standing there like some kind of retard ...well fire back.
/r/askTRP12/03/20 05:55 PM
1

The world today moves super fucking fast. You putting her on the back burner for a week (without having met or fucked her first), is just opening the door for some other dude. Any remotely attractive women has dozens (or more) options at any given time, and interest can be fleeting.
/r/askTRP12/03/20 05:47 PM
4

If you're worried about this stupid shit, you're obviously giving a fuck. They're not pissed off because you're successful with women, more than likely cause you're trying to be a fake hardass (this is the case with a ton of the guys around here). How you see yourself, isn't how other people see you. When you just show up one week and start acting completely different, people know that's not you. You know what builds real confidence... digging yourself out of your own holes.
/r/askTRP12/03/20 05:38 PM
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The truth is, it really doesn't matter what you say; as long as you own it. One of the big issues that guys have is they're trying to be slick (read dishonest) with their interactions with women. "Oh I had to come across the street to tell you how much I like your shoes". That might be true, if you're a gay fashion designer, otherwise she sees right through that shit. If you're getting an IOI try this opener... "Hi, I'm (insert name here), what's your name?"
/r/askTRP12/03/20 05:26 PM
1

You really haven't learned very much then. Neediness and catching oneitis are the fastest ways to scare off a woman. That shit is literally repelling to them. Don't worry though, we've all fucked that up before so don't sweat it. Just go about your life and work on getting your shit squared away. I probably wouldn't have fucked a neighbor, but as long as you don't start doing crazy stalker shit you should be ok (seriously just leave her be).
/r/askTRP11/03/20 11:24 PM
1

Well you can't stop people from being rude, plenty of people are just rude/assholes/whatever you'd like to call them. Work can be tricky because you likely have to balance swallowing some shit, but absolutely can and should speak for yourself. You as a man have thoughts, opinions, values, preferences and the like. Don't be afraid to voice them, and set boundaries on other people. Only YOU can let someone else make you feel a certain way.
/r/askTRP11/03/20 05:32 PM
1

Yeah see my other response, basically we're just using different terms for the same ideas here. I just use FWB-woman you're dating-LTR. You're never going to be able to avoid the talk, but you CAN prolong it depending on how you act. If you act like a boyfriend, she's going to expect you to be one (which really speeds up the timeline). Full commitment isn't in my blood (and never will be). My version of the talk is very much different than the one used here too If that's your thing by all means …
/r/askTRP11/03/20 03:29 PM
0

Considering I have an LTR and several women that I regularly fuck for variety. There's only FWBs and my LTR (in my case). Now if you don't have an LTR, you have FWBs and then women you date (which would be LTR potentials). There's a ton of dudes around here that use Rollos definition of "plate" (which is any girl you're interacting with). Which is total nonsense , because until you've fucked her it doesn't mean anything. Really we're just arguing semantics here. In any case if there's shit you d…
/r/askTRP11/03/20 03:20 PM
1

I literally never see any of my FWBs outside of sex. We don't hang out, we don't date, or do any of that shit. That's basically going to give her the impression that you two are dating, and going to cause issues to creep up.
/r/askTRP11/03/20 03:09 PM
0

Then she's already a FWB. If you want to do social activities with her, that's generally considered dating.
/r/askTRP11/03/20 02:25 PM
2

FWB is about the lowest status there is. If you haven't fucked her yet she's not a plate, you're an orbiter.
/r/askTRP11/03/20 01:38 PM
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This is a way they test how needy/jealous you are. If you get full on butthurt about her talking about another dude, you need to worry way fucking less about her and what she's doing. Also just cause SHE is talking about dudes, doesn't mean you should talk about other women (you shouldn't). Most women (even just plain Jane types) have a ton of options. All she needs to do is post a selfie on FB/IG/SC and she'll have literally dozens (if not more) thirsty dudes trying to hit her up. Non neediness…
/r/askTRP11/03/20 01:37 PM
1

You're a younger guy, so probably haven't experienced this yet. As much as dudes around here want to talk about men being loyal and all that, in truth everyone is out for themselves. True altruism is exceptionally rare, the overwhelming majority of people are motivated by self interest. What that means is that most people will throw you under the bus, given the chance. The degree of that depends on your relationship/risk/reward. Someone talking shit is likely doing it for a little ego boost, whe…
/r/askTRP11/03/20 01:21 PM
1

"None of your business" works. You'll actually find some people get put off by something as simple as that. It's weird but some people feel entitled to know the intimate details of your life.
/r/askTRP11/03/20 01:14 PM
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Well I don't think you should go apeshit on the dude. He's the type I'd be worried about stabbing you in your sleep/having ab hit list for later ! In all seriousness you know him better than I do. What you need to do is let him know he can't keep doing what he's doing, but also try to not insult/demean him while doing it. If you can manage that things might be a little tense/awkward for a bit, but shouldn't be too much drama.
/r/askTRP10/03/20 05:22 PM
10

Cause even dudes with good bodies can be desperate and believe in all the stupid Disney bullshit . Too many autists around here take this shit as some immutable law. Go to any place where there's a large crowd, and you're going to see it all... Built dudes with fat/ugly women, hot women with fat dudes. Dorky guys with cute chicks, likely someone wearing a kilt. SMV is relative to the environment. That's why you see hot good rats with drug dealers, and sorority chicks with fraternity guys and foo…
/r/askTRP10/03/20 04:13 PM
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So basically he's trying to attach himself to you all of the time if I'm understanding things right? Basically he has no identity of his own, that he's trying to leach off of you/yours. Because of how he is acting, you're having to alter how you act. I think you should be able to be straight and honest with him, let him know He's really pushing your boundries.
/r/askTRP10/03/20 04:07 PM
2

Welcome to women, I see you're new here. See the thing is a woman always has several options (if she doesn't, there's probably a reason for it). You should always assume this (as it's often the case). Where you fall on that list determines how things go with her.
/r/askTRP09/03/20 07:50 PM
3

You need to get yourself fixed man, I mean professional help. Your life isn't over, you just can't see it right now. You sound really self loathing, and that's not the path to a happy life. Therapy helps, I needed help to work out some of my own issues. I've been in some pretty dark places in my own head too.
/r/askTRP09/03/20 07:18 PM
2

Impossible how so... Are you completely bedridden?
/r/askTRP09/03/20 06:59 PM
0

That's total bullshit and you know it. You leave your room don't you? You don't have to specifically go out looking for women, they're all over the damn place. You probably run into dozens of them just going about your day. Oh cute girl in the dining hall/library/wherever, say hi.
/r/askTRP09/03/20 06:42 PM
2

I have multiple impaired senses. I wear hearing aids, and I also have very little peripheral vision. Sure it's a bit harder with health problems, but I suspect the real issue is how you view yourself. A hooker isn't going to change that. It may even make things worse (and possibly give you STDs).
/r/askTRP09/03/20 06:39 PM
1

Why don't find a girl to fuck on your own campus... Just a wild guess but I'm sure there's plenty!
/r/askTRP09/03/20 06:30 PM
1

Dread doesn't cancel out neediness (which your post reeks of). Neediness is literally the biggest killer to attraction possible. You also don't just magically conjure up dread, you cultivate it by ACTUALLY having other options. Oh girl A is busy tonight, well I'll fuck girl B then.
/r/askTRP09/03/20 06:21 PM
1

If you can manage (and I know it can be tough to do), but stop worrying about it. Basically the more obsessive you get over something, then fail to do it, you're going to feel bad about it, then likely feel bad about feeling bad. It creates a whole spiral of shittiness, that can really mess you up. If you can, just climb out of bed. Force yourself if you have to, and just get started with your day. If you fuck up, no big deal try again tomorrow.
/r/askTRP09/03/20 03:50 PM
1

Well how exactly did you reject her? See women don't take rejection any better than most men do (arguably worse since most women don't tend to be the ones to make a move). So depending on just HOW you rejected her, you could have hurt her/insulted her/etc.
/r/askTRP09/03/20 03:43 PM
1

Try going to sleep earlier if you're having issues with waking up at the time you want. Cut out all of the bullshit before bed (watching TV, gaming, internet, etc). See if that helps you. Sleep is hugely important for your well being, and a lot of people neglect that. As far as how to get out if bed... Just 1 leg at a time man. You've made awesome progress with yourself, we all hit bumps. Don't best yourself up over it, find a solution.
/r/askTRP09/03/20 03:39 PM
1

Amen brother! The amount of internet hardasses, circlejerking shit that doesn't actually work, is amazing. Being a rude fuckhead doesn't make you a confident charming man. Owning your decisions (right and wrong)... It's really that easy.
/r/askTRP06/03/20 11:16 PM
1

Go read blackdragonblog Have his version of the talk (which is quite different than the one here). Spend time with the women you like spending time with the most, and keep fucking the ones you like fucking the most. Those two aren't mutually exclusive.
/r/askTRP06/03/20 03:55 PM
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It's tough to unfuck your head, and the thing is... You can't do that for him, he has to want to change himself. I think JBP may be a good start for him, as it really doesn't rattle any existing social ideas or beliefs too much.
/r/askTRP06/03/20 03:51 PM
2

Tell her that your time is valuable, if she wants to meet you she can come to your house. It's pretty unlikely to happen, but you're really not losing anything by trying.
/r/askTRP06/03/20 03:44 PM
1

Alright, but that has nothing to do with you being highly invested in her. Worry LESS about her, and more about YOU.
/r/askTRP05/03/20 06:09 PM
1

Hate to be the one to break it to you my guy, but you're being needy as fuck. If a random stranger on the internet can pick up on it, your girlfriend can too. Relax, do your own thing. You're way wrapped up in her. It's hard (and especially at your age) but figure out how to give less of a shit about what she's doing. Find yourself something to throw your time and attention into, that isn't her.
/r/askTRP05/03/20 06:00 PM
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You're way overthinking this. She agreed to meet you, therefore there's some kind of interest there. Your job is basically not to fuck it up too bad. The gimmicky games/pua shit doesn't work, because once that's passed what you're left with is you. You'll also have the added problem of having to figure out how to keep the fascade up, if it's different than your actual personality. If you need to entertain a woman on a date...then you need to either have a more interesting life, or get better at …
/r/askTRP05/03/20 05:50 PM
2

On too of that even the shitty fast food type stuff in college should have nutrition data (or something very close). MFP is free, is both an app and a website, and has plenty of generic entries.
/r/askTRP05/03/20 05:26 PM
2

No doubt man, it's a tough habit to kick! We get that little bit of attention, or lay and feel good about it (for a minute). Some of it I think just comes with age and experience. I'm perfectly OK with my life as is. Any woman I invite into my life has to add something to it. The gauge I use when spending time with a woman is "am I enjoying myself more with her, than I would by myself". I even tell them that's what they're up against. Really what it comes down to is just realizing that the only …
/r/askTRP05/03/20 05:21 PM
2

And I'm absolutely inclined to agree with you! I think more is better in that regard. I just don't agree that being ripped is a cure-all to other shortcomings (though it certainly doesn't hurt).
/r/askTRP05/03/20 04:27 PM
1

Sure will, in general. But remember women have individual preferences just like we do. So jacked might not do it for some, whereas muscular/lean won't do it for others. I've seen bodybuilder chicks with beautiful faces, but I wouldn't want to fuck that body. I've also seen fitness models that I thought weren't all that cute, but had absolutely amazing bodies.
/r/askTRP05/03/20 03:40 PM
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To some degree you're trying your own worth to the validation of women. You're taking the rejection personally. You're going to get ghosted dozens or hundreds of times depending on how many women you approach/interact with. It doesn't (and shouldn't) determine your worth as a man. It's difficult to break away from the model of seeking validation from women, most of us are raised to do that our entire lives. God only knows the reason for it too, it could be nothing at all related to you. Don't sp…
/r/askTRP05/03/20 02:35 PM
8

It certainly plays a big part... Have you ever heard a woman say "he was cute until he opened his mouth"? It's about the whole package, have to have all areas to at least a decent level. Lacking in one area you can still get laid (or whatever your goal may be), but it will likely be harder and with less desirable women.
/r/askTRP05/03/20 02:26 PM
3

The first step is to stop asking how to be confident. Most people aren't confident in all situations, and it's largely an experience thing. By saying you're not confident, you're actually holding yourself back. What you have to do really, is be able to trust yourself. Experience helps with this tremendously. Talking to a beautiful woman is nerve racking for a lot of us, when we haven't done it often. They're just people at the end if the day, and they poop too.
/r/askTRP05/03/20 01:53 PM
1

The idea that you can be universally attractive to women is idiotic. If they're telling you to fuck off, it's because they don't want to talk to you. It's not a test. Here's the thing. You can lump women into yes/no/maybe while approaching. Maybe is where you can swing them to yes. Only put your energy into maybe and yes women. You're not going to convert the nos.
/r/askTRP05/03/20 01:47 PM
1

Thanks. Yeah I definitely agree. Making your own decisions is so incredibly powerful and important. I think the mission/purpose thing is a way to indirectly address that. Having purpose helped me a bit, but at the root of it, owning my own decisions is where I feel like I made the most progress.
/r/askTRP06/10/19 03:35 PM
8

I'm 35+, and I feel like that "lost/drifting through life" would be a pretty accurate description of the old me. Risk taking is just a small slice of the pie. I never learned as a child to embrace failure and learn from it. Instead I was so afraid to fail, I didn't even try. So i started just jumping into new things, and I'll be damned I was able to do them and get better at them. Another thing I did was I absolutely started trusting myself. How i did that was by realizing that whatever outcomes…
/r/askTRP06/10/19 01:14 PM
1

You're just shook up, and probably feel guilty. So here's the thing, when all of that stuff happens you get absolutely flooded with hormones, it makes you think and feel differently. If that's the first time you've been in that situation it can rattle you pretty good for a while. You didn't almost kill her, if you only had minor injuries. What you DID do was extremely irresponsible (driving very fast on a mountain road with leaves). Take it as a lesson, and don't beat yourself up over it. Yes sp…
/r/askTRP04/10/19 05:39 PM
1

You need to address whatever it is that's causing you pain. Been there myself man, it takes a while. You want to get better, and that's really the most important thing. Mental illness is a repulsion factor (if you're not In a good place mentally, you're likely only going to find women that also aren't in a good place). I would say my therapist was definitely BP as hell, but he still helped. A good chunk of my problems were self inflicted, and learning how to stop all of that was definitely usefu…
/r/askTRP04/10/19 05:24 PM
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You're not setting it as a date frame then. She thinks you're hanging out as friends or whatever. I've only ever had that happen a couple of times, and the simple answer is "I don't do group dates". DO NOT go out with a woman that wants to bring friends or family.
/r/askTRP04/10/19 05:15 PM
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This sub should be renamed unicorn hunters united. If she has a vagina, she likes sex
/r/askTRP04/10/19 10:55 AM
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I think it's a desperate attempt to elicit emotional reactions from people. I also think it's a terrible idea to allow autistic children to influence policy.
/r/askTRP01/10/19 10:57 AM
4

Soft nexting a woman that's already not talking to you... Yeah that makes total sense!
/r/askTRP30/09/19 11:08 AM
2

The amount of cringeworthy bullshit in this thread is unreal. OP, your main problem is that you're worried about way too much bullshit. Work on loving yourself first. OP, you're shorter than average, so am I. Is that going to hurt you? Maybe some women will pass you by, but I'm 5'7 and have literally never had issues with women. In fact I can only think of a couple of women that wouldn't agree to a date from tinder, due to height. IRL never an issue. As far as looks go. Being in shape is only pa…
/r/askTRP27/09/19 11:18 AM
1

Sounds to me like they were just after free drinks and you didn't comply, rather than them being genuinely interested. Once you made it clear you weren't going to be buying them drinks that was her trying to tell you to fuck off.
/r/askTRP26/09/19 11:14 AM
2

It's never to late to start forging the life YOU want. YOU get to decide what your purpose in life is. You spent decades living according to some else's bullshit, now you're finding out it's not all it's cracked up to be. I had that realization in my 30s. My life probably is far from the ideal of "society", but fuck that because it's my life.
/r/askTRP26/09/19 10:58 AM
2

As far as being used, that's certainly true (but I believe it's true of most people regardless). Then again I personally don't assume good intentions from people, but rather self interest. Being your own judge I would say minimizes your likelihood of manipulation. I do absolutely agree though that awareness is important in pretty much all situations. Great point!
/r/askTRP25/09/19 06:23 PM
4

To me, masculinity is about resilience and self reliance. Self reliance is an intrinsic leadership trait, when you count on yourself, others start to look to you as an example. Knowing for a fact that you can handle what life throws at you. Obviously you can't always do everything yourself, but at the other end of the spectrum is victimhood/helplessness. Resilience ties in so much that to me they're both sides of the same coin.
/r/askTRP25/09/19 02:48 PM
1

You mention lifting, but I don't see anything about your appearance. How's your grooming, style, fatness? I can't ever remember a time I've tried to talk to a woman and saw contempt/disgust.
/r/askTRP25/09/19 11:10 AM
2

The last bit is MUCH harder typically. That's why most bodybuilders have contest prep routines. When you're chubby it's easy to lose multiple lbs per month. Once you start to get leaner it's going to be difficult to maintain that same degree of loss. You may only be able to cut .25-.5lbs per week.
/r/askTRP25/09/19 11:01 AM
1

You might be right, damned if I know. I'm pretty sure Charlie Sheen got HIV from a "high quality" escort as opposed to a street walker. I think you're playing Russian roulette with any of them. Never dealt with escorts though.
/r/askTRP24/09/19 03:23 PM
1

I've dealt with actual hookers at work. If you think they care about condoms or having random unknown babies, I think you're mistaken. In addition to that many of them are doing it to fuel a habit. I think the SB route would actually be safer!
/r/askTRP24/09/19 11:09 AM
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I think the concept you were trying to verbalize is "warmth". People want to interact with people that they see as warm. You don't want to be that "ice cold bitch". It has a lot to do with body language. Being quiet but closed off and mean mugging it, isn't going to win you any friends. However being quiet and warm/open/approachable, whole different story.
/r/askTRP24/09/19 12:55 AM
3

While I don't know the original post you're talking about, it's a concept from practical female psychology. Mean reason A-B-C-D Women reason D-H-A-C So a man and woman may reach the same conclusion, but take very very different routes to get there. It's somewhat of a difficult concept to verbalize I think. You basically don't want to actually think like a woman (that would make you more feminine), instead understand that she thinks differently.
/r/askTRP24/09/19 12:49 AM
1

It's just a matter of preference, I read both. I tend to read ebooks at work so I don't have to lug the physical copy around. I do prefer physical books though, I like the sight of a full bookshelf.
/r/askTRP24/09/19 12:43 AM
3

IANAD, but you're right. Just because its not completely torn YET, doesn't mean it's smart to keep lifting and hoping for the best.
/r/askTRP23/09/19 12:41 PM
3

OP said it's a "sharp and severe", that's not normal. He also said it's when he extends his arm (so when not lifting too). It could potentially be a rotator cuff tear, which can require surgery.
/r/askTRP23/09/19 12:17 PM
4

It's a terrible situation for sure man. Life is going to shit on you, stay strong it shits on all of us. Get that lawyer, and deal with it. Take it a day at a time if you have to. Fuck that bitch as much as humanly possible (in the legal system), and the school too. Show them both that actions have consequences. Also talk to the lawyer about bringing criminal charges against her.
/r/askTRP23/09/19 11:14 AM
2

Pain when lifting is bad. Why are you trying to avoid it being on your medical record? Get it taken care of.
/r/askTRP23/09/19 11:02 AM
10

Your first instinct is usually the right one!
/r/askTRP23/09/19 12:14 AM
3

It's more a matter of attractive women don't NEED to reach out to you, they have scores of dudes. It's the desperate ones that have to make the first move.
/r/askTRP21/09/19 01:27 PM
1

Obviously, since you care about what random shitters thing.
/r/askTRP20/09/19 11:57 PM
3

One of the things that you can do with other men is give them a bit of a head nod. It's basically the body language equivalent of "you're alright".
/r/askTRP20/09/19 10:56 PM
4

It's usually envy. Most people aren't even capable of trying to make themselves better. GOT had a great quite that applies here... A lion doesn't concern himself with the opinions of sheep.
/r/askTRP20/09/19 10:50 PM
2

Don't be skurred it's only pussy! Love that line but it definitely applies here. Like the others said, just ask her to meet up.
/r/askTRP19/09/19 11:35 PM
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It's not your fucking problem to fix her friends fucked up marriage. What's the whole context of the inappropriate thing? Now at some point you're probably going to have to deal with your sister. Id stick to the point of "her marriage is her problem". Also add that you're not responsible for anyone but you, friends feelings are friends feelings.... Not yours, or your problem.
/r/askTRP19/09/19 11:31 PM
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The point isn't to BE entertaining, it's to not be boring. You're right, you don't want to be the dancing bear. You also don't want to be that person so bad at social interaction, people clamour to get away from you. Women connect by talking, if you can't hold a conversation with a woman you'll never hold her attention either. Being flirty is just injecting sexual energy into the conversation (it doesn't even have to be overt).
/r/askTRP19/09/19 01:10 PM
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After college a lot of women "don't do that anymore". You're absolutely correct almost all women (even fats and uglies) have a shit load of more options than the average dude. Game is just about being fun and flirty. Average dude has 0 game, and can't flirt to save his life.
/r/askTRP19/09/19 12:27 PM
3

Probably because most people don't really give a shit about your opinion.
/r/askTRP19/09/19 10:37 AM
2

This, with the caveat of... Only if you truly need a degree for whatever you're doing. If you're going to college just because you're "supposed to" you're being a good little slave. I made that mistake myself, college is terrible ROI in a lot of ways. I make my living off s technical certification that cost around $500 at the time (no degree required/offered). I have 2 degrees that I likely wouldn't have gotten if I had to repeat things. A degree itself isn't a required thing, it's much better t…
/r/askTRP18/09/19 10:13 AM
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Hmm I wouldn't have done the GC thing for exactly that reason. Get him to talk as much as possible. It shouldn't be hard since people love to talk about themselves. The more he talks the more likely it is that hell say something she doesn't like. Depending on how much you know about her, you could purposefully direct him to a topic she doesn't like.
/r/askTRP17/09/19 06:27 PM
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This is why monogamy doesn't work, men need variety. Now you can talk to your wife about getting pieces on the side. You have needs, she can't meet them while you're hundreds of miles apart or whatever. If you like other things but just need a variety this is your best bet. If she's to the point where you literally can't stand her, then yeah divorce.
/r/askTRP17/09/19 06:18 PM
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Text her with a venue change, and don't tell him.
/r/askTRP17/09/19 06:12 PM
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That's up to you man. Are you prepared to be blasted on Yelp, fb, and whatever else if some woman decides things go south? Are you going to be able to continue to live how you like if you get less female clients because they read that you're a player or whatever? Of course none of that may happen either, but that's for you to figure out. Personally I wouldn't risk it.
/r/askTRP16/09/19 10:12 PM
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The thing is that very well could hurt your livelihood. You used a photographer example, and I know wine that absolutely won't mess with the girls at all. He said once you have "that reputation" you'll lose business. With social media and everything if your name gets out there, it may be impossible to get it back down.
/r/askTRP16/09/19 02:55 PM
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Being an introvert isn't an excuse to be quiet, and avoid talking to people. I'm an introvert too, I can go quite a long time without any social I reaction and be just fine. You can also talk to people despite not having any shared interests or whatnot. I don't watch ANY sports, yet can still talk to about whatever. It sounds more like you're shy, which at the root of things means you're afraid to say things because you think people will judge you. Luckily being social is a skill, and something …
/r/askTRP16/09/19 11:15 AM
1

After starting to read super wars, I've definitely reconsidered the efficacy of the cycle trackers and whatnot. Absolutely agree with you here!
/r/askTRP16/09/19 11:01 AM
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You're absolutely right, didn't really think about them not meshing well. I loved Greene's narration of 48LOP, but yeah I wouldn't personally follow most of them.
/r/askTRP15/09/19 03:09 PM
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Yeah no doubt, the leanest I ever got was a ballpark of around 13%. And you're absolutely right it was like hitting a wall. Then again I didn't do any cardio, I'm older, and I'm 100% Natty. There's a page that has various dexa pics at different percentages I've checked out. It's kind of wild to see the variation in people at the same BF%. It's one you have to go digging for. A lot of the Google results on BF% pics come up from the same few sources. I'd say 20ish would be pretty close, just didn'…
/r/askTRP15/09/19 02:28 PM
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Above is good for IoIs and basically gauging body language women put out. Just look up "undercover sex signals". Another great book that doesn't get mentioned much is "Practical female psychology, for the practical man". It's very accurate in my view, and largely clashes with some of the common beliefs around here. I don't like Joe Navarro's book very much (it gets recommended here a lot), he's said on a video I saw that he doesn't really get into attraction. I like "the definitive book on body …
/r/askTRP15/09/19 02:20 PM
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I really like leil lowndes (sp?). Undercover sex signals. The book is easy to read and entertaining. It's from a woman's perspective, but to help men meet women.
/r/askTRP15/09/19 02:05 PM
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By truly believing that the only opinion that matters is yours. Unless you can get into that headspace you're just pretending.
/r/askTRP15/09/19 02:01 PM
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If you read some authors they postulate that most women actually initiate most of the interactions, but THROUGH IOIs. When you don't make a move on it, that to them is a form of rejection. You work in a field where you can people watch quite a bit. Try it some night (especially if there's a bar there). Women aren't making eyes and smiling at men for the hell of it. Likewise it's very easy to tell when a woman isn't interested in the man trying to talk to her.
/r/askTRP15/09/19 01:56 PM
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You really think he looks 20-24%? He looks leaner than that to me, but he doesn't have a ton of LMM.
/r/askTRP15/09/19 01:47 PM
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Asking opinions is indirect, which means there's no romantic intent like with the direct openers. The main issue with indirect is that you can get stuck in just general conversation, and it can sometimes be harder to transition.
/r/askTRP15/09/19 02:46 AM
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So only compare yourself to your former self. I'm sure you've come a long way from your own "rock bottom". I just recently had the realization that some of my own personal improvement goals didn't really bring me much satisfaction. So many are just incremental, so it's difficult to actually see progress. Instead I've found completing external projects (while still improving myself), to be a major source of motivation. They don't even have to be big or grandiose projects either. Just enough where…
/r/askTRP14/09/19 01:39 PM
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I don't know if consider then to be wholly separate. I personally hold the view (with very few exceptions) that my view of myself, is the only one that matters. Said another way, I don't change my behavior based in how others may perceive me (I don't worry much about my reputation). Now if someone was saying something that could lead to real loss (like defamation type territory), I would address that particular issue. I don't necessarily agree with the 48LOP because I see it as extremely manipul…
/r/askTRP14/09/19 01:34 PM
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I'm not sure how exactly they correlate. Like you said not being neurotic would be good. I think some degree of being disagreeable is also good (assertive, but not quite abrasive/domineering). Industriousness is probably a good one too.
/r/askTRP14/09/19 01:24 PM
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People are allowed to not like you for any reason they want. Don't waste your time or energy worrying about it
/r/askTRP13/09/19 08:04 PM
2

How about "thank you, I like them too".
/r/askTRP13/09/19 08:02 PM
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You think emotional control is weak? It's easy to get mad and defensive when someone talks shit. Genuinely not giving a shit about what some turd is saying, isn't something most can do.
/r/askTRP13/09/19 07:58 PM
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I think the theory presented in no more mr. Nice guy is pretty accurate. Notwithstanding the Hollywood influence, most men are raised exclusivity by women, to seek validation from women. As far as media, I'd say right around 1990 is when it started to change. Even a little earlier than that you had some movies with the clueless nerd getting the prom queen. After that though you really started to see the "strong independent woman", and bumbling husband make trope really explode.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/19 04:43 PM
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I was under the impression that it was "unwed woman" or something along those lines. Agree with your general point though.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/19 04:36 PM
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Read Dale Carnegie. IIRC I think he specifically talks about how to navigate that exact scenario you talked about (basically where an employee presents a bad idea). Aside from that keep it professional. If she's complaining about mental health issues, suggest she seek counselling. If it's an ongoing problem throw it up the chain (unless you can discipline).
/r/askTRP12/09/19 02:23 PM
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No, there's really no such thing as clean eating. Layne Norton has a great video on it. Basically it's IIFYM, but make sure you are getting enough protein. Junk food tends to be high in sugar which isn't very satiating. Eat what you like, and can stick with. I happen to like keto because I'm almost never hungry while cutting. Outside of that the most important thing for diet (either way) is consistency.
/r/askTRP12/09/19 11:13 AM
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I agree with the above. If RE is absurdly expensive in your area, relocate if possible. If you can find a way to do what's called house hacking (buying a property that's either multi unit, or take on roommates) is a decent way to get started. I'm going the fixer upper route, learning to be handy is an absolutely valuable skill set. Work hard now pay down debt and bank as much as possible. You can still have fun, but incorporate that into your budget. Working extra (especially if you get OT) offe…
/r/askTRP12/09/19 11:06 AM
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That's true, they do. Mostly because they think they found their unicorn, and she's "not like the rest".
/r/askTRP11/09/19 04:52 PM
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Women tend to communicate indirectly, men are more direct. The easiest way to sum it up is look at what they do, not what they say. That's the general gist of it, not an absolute law.
/r/askTRP11/09/19 04:13 PM
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You absolutely CAN just touch her hand. Do it while making a statement/emphasizing a point. I've never liked the whole palm reading gimmick (but I can see it works). Don't do dinner dates, you can't kino well from across a table (it's also adversarial). Ideally you want her right next to you.
/r/askTRP11/09/19 01:48 PM
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The thing is... Betas DO get relationships, have sex, and everything else. They also get played, raise other dudes kids, get cheated on, stuck with whales "cause I love her", etc. Seriously look around, MOST dudes in relationships are beta as fuck. Women by nature try to turn LTRs beta (and most succeed). He's new, he's giving her tons of attention, and for the time being... She's lapping it up. She'll be bored sooner than later and either leave or cheat.
/r/askTRP11/09/19 01:37 PM
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First off, you're not going to get metood (you're not rich or famous). So don't worry too much about that. The excuse the ex gave you for dumping you was likely completely bullshit. Stop assuming men and women communicate the same way (we don't). With that being said this was likely to happen. You CAN fuck women that know each other, but you were in a mono LTR with the one. It was only going to be a matter of time before drama cropped up. Relax, do your thing, and don't spend too much time worry…
/r/askTRP11/09/19 01:27 PM
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You're absolutely right, reading only does so much. After that you need to be doing. Experience is the best teacher. Sometimes you don't know WHAT you're actually doing wrong. That's where coaches/mentors/teachers come in. There's plenty of places to get feedback. Find somewhere to post FRs and you'll likely get some insight into how to improve.
/r/askTRP11/09/19 01:12 PM
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Why are you trying to be a part of a group you can't really communicate with? I don't think I'd hang around with people I couldn't talk to for 5 minutes, let alone 20.
/r/askTRP11/09/19 01:06 PM
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Here's what you should learn .. There's no such thing as forever, women change their mind (and a lot at that). We can too, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. I'd drop a woman if she started getting fat, throwing drama, refusing sex, etc. I take it you're pretty young (early 20s?), I'd say at your age don't even consider an LTR. An LTR isn't a requirement for sex. Date, have fun, do your thing, start making the life you want... But don't agree to monogamy, you're more likely than not…
/r/askTRP11/09/19 01:00 PM
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Emotional distance is the death knell of the relationship. Women aren't direct communicators, but she's speaking volumes. She's already checking out emotionally, it won't be long before she checks out completely.
/r/askTRP10/09/19 06:39 PM
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She's likely stringing you along, since you're giving free attention. I usually give them 2 chances, but after that they're out. If a woman is brand new and I don't know her schedule, I usually go with something like... Let's grab a drink, when are you free this week?
/r/askTRP10/09/19 06:33 PM
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When dealing with police if you get pulled over/stopped. You might be right, but don't argue with the cops (that's why judges exist). Every time I've ever been pulled over I've been the most polite, compliant, person I possibly could be. I've gotten far more warnings than tickets.
/r/askTRP10/09/19 06:28 PM
1

Well I think there's something to be said about the difference between loving your job, and absolutely loathing it. If it's negatively permeating other aspects of your life, by all means leave (I would, and have). If you dread going into work, thats absolutely when you know it's time to start looking elsewhere. The "amount of tolerable bullshit" is certainly relative.
/r/askTRP10/09/19 02:31 PM
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I'm with Mike Rowe on the issue of jobs. Basically fuck the whole idea of you having to "love" your job (if you do, that's a perk not a requirement). What I think is try to maximize it for whatever it is you're actually looking for (financial/benefits/travel/opportunity to advance). Now don't get me wrong I DO like my job. I make good money, have good benes, a short commute, and an excellent schedule. So that to ME is worth putting up with the occasional bullshit (that usually doesn't last).
/r/askTRP10/09/19 01:47 PM
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Yeah there are some people out there that will make a big stink about things. I've personally never seen it (in public, or anywhere else for that matter). It's easy to get a bit of a slanted view from reading too much (blogs/Reddit/forums/etc). In all reality I think those instances are pretty few and far between. I've seen YouTube videos of women having a melt down cause a guy smiled, said hello or good morning. Still doesn't stop me from doing it. There's just mentally ill people out there, an…
/r/askTRP10/09/19 01:39 PM
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She didn't ask for it, I wrote it on a piece of paper with "Yes, you can buy me a drink". We're not actually co-workers either, which is why I (at the time) thought it was alright. I don't think I did anything"wrong", because what's wrong about giving an attractive woman my number. I made the decision to do it, and dealt with the consequences. Obviously moving forward I won't be doing that again.
/r/askTRP10/09/19 01:05 PM
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I had a similar situation happen to me. There was a girl at work that over the course of a couple of months, seemed to be really digging me. I ended up giving her my number, and then getting hauled into the office the next week. It was actually strange because my boss read me the email she sent to her HR, and she'd both asked that I didn't get fired... But also lied. I managed to smooth everything over, but it was not a fun situation I'm ever going to repeat. So here's the thing... You absolutel…
/r/askTRP10/09/19 11:44 AM
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So I wouldn't say I strive for transient relationships, but I do accept there's no such thing as forever. The thing is... You CAN have both. I'm a believer in always seeing multiple women. Some women won't survive the talk/accept nonmonogamy, some will. Dating multiple women, allows the ones you click with best to naturally rise to the top. That's the one you're likely to have more emotional investment with. Once you have that you can have your FWBs to satisfy the need for variety. I also accept…
/r/askTRP10/09/19 10:17 AM
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The MWC is that men look for women as "quality" but fail to see that they have a sexual side. The other part is thinking that sexual women aren't quality because they like sex. As far as practicality goes.. I just find it useful to view women just as sexual as we are. Women have a lot more repression due to family, culture etc (that's what triggered LMR). Basically they're ashamed that they like sex, so put up the defenses.
/r/askTRP09/09/19 09:11 PM
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You can believe what you'd like, it's not going to end well for you. Meanwhile I'll continue fucking a variety of women with no drama involved.
/r/askTRP09/09/19 07:25 PM
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Also I'm kind of surprised that nobody pointed out... Rats aren't fucking humans. Trying to correlate rodent mating to people is at best, a stretch.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/19 06:52 PM
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Agree with this completely. If the only reason that you "should" do something is from some arbitrary reason...then you're serving someone else's purpose (society, church, etc). I'd say most people in modern society are heavily manipulated into serving interests that aren't theirs.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/19 06:41 PM
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Lol so you're saying all those mail order brides stay married and never cheat or leave huh? When in Rome do as the Romans do. She might have those values for a little while, but she's a Westerner now (unless you're living in HER native country). She's not a unicorn.
/r/askTRP09/09/19 06:29 PM
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For Christ's sake, grow some thicker skin. Men fuck around with each other, you wrote a dissertation because someone "words hurt" you. All I see is you being passive agressive, and taking everything personally. You're going to continue to be in the receiving end of getting shit on, as long as you... Give a shit about what wind comes out of other people's cocksuckers, and don't fire anything back/stand up for yourself.
/r/askTRP09/09/19 01:50 PM
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I thought I remembered reading a case where (but I want to say it was a discrimination case), where if the school is substantially funded by tax dollars (which is a lot of them) then all applicable government regulations/restrictions apply (such as US and state constitutions). I'm a few years out of school (and also not up to speed on current case law), but I'd imagine the largest factor would be public v. privately funded.
/r/askTRP09/09/19 01:33 PM
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When I finished grad school, I had my resume done professionally. I was applying for jobs daily, and after 7 months I landed a grand total of 1 phone interview (for a position I didn't even apply for). Almost out of money I applied for a job using my vocation on a Wednesday, and had a full-time job by Friday (and I hadn't worked in that field for 3years, and was actually fired from the company that hired me). It definitely sucks being passed over repeatedly (hell I couldn't even get a fucking in…
/r/askTRP09/09/19 01:01 PM
2

If she's asking WHY, I'm assuming that she does in fact know? My answer (and it's the truth) is something along the lines of "variety is the spice of life". If you know (or suspect) she's bi, I'd say "well don't you like fucking girls?" Now if she does know, this is your perfect chance to have that ffm 3some. Tell her to bring a friend, have her watch, whatever.
/r/askTRP09/09/19 12:39 PM
3

Back in the PUA days hot women that were working used to be called "hired guns". There were some guys that advocated practicing game on them so you could get comfortable talking to attractive women. When I was hitting the bars and into night game, one of my buddies went to the strip club to warm up. His reasoning was if you can flirt with strippers, you shouldn't have any issue talking to regular girls in bars. With that being said, a lot of those women (especially those that work for tips) have…
/r/askTRP09/09/19 11:13 AM
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You can believe what you'd like. I think Rollo has some good stuff but I'm inclined to disagree if he's saying that women fucking lovers is rare. Is there a lot of transactional sex? Absolutely ...basically every provider relationship falls under that. Sometimes its straight up transactional (in the cases of hookers/escorts/SB). To say that women don't have sex based on just being attracted to dudes and wanting to fuck them (lovers) is a bogus theory that plenty of guys around here can attest to…
/r/askTRP07/09/19 02:54 PM
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It's not true, and it has absolutely been proven. Love and lust are 2 different things . Pair bonding is just romantic love. Really the idea stems from societal bullshit that you're only supposed to fuck people for love. The bullshit is strong, and there's plenty of evidence here of guys feeling guilty for it. Hell I'd felt ashamed about being attracted to other women when I was in a relationship (when I was younger). I realized years ago that I wasn't wired for monogamous LTRs (before the manos…
/r/askTRP07/09/19 02:47 PM
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Basically if the girls were fucking dudes for drugs, it's literally the same thing as doing it for money/jewelry/etc. That's transactional sex. On the other hand if you're talking about women being attracted to dealers, that's a thing too. Being a dealer does bring a certain amount of wealth, power, influence...albeit short lived in most cases. A lot of those guys end up either in jail or dead eventually, so that's not the route I'd take. The SMV there isn't artificial, it's very real (and it's …
/r/askTRP07/09/19 02:33 PM
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Not to mention, you'll be able to custom tailor them to be your personal goddess (looks wise). I'm also thinking this is going to really shake things up, but it may a long way off.
/r/TheRedPill06/09/19 09:37 PM
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I'm not sure you have to worry about men that draw hearts on cups, liking girls.
/r/askTRP06/09/19 12:29 PM
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How are you actually training. If your lifts are actually as heavy as you claim, I can't see why you would have an issue with a woman of that size. My lifts are nowhere near that heavy and I life fat fucks for a living, without injury or too much trouble.
/r/askTRP05/09/19 11:18 PM
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Correct me if I'm wrong, but didn't you say you went to ONE session. That's not really long enough for anything. In any case I agree with what was said above. I've been horribly depressed before, with SI, and it's fucking awful. I can't say I truly "hate" much in this world, but truly I'd hate for anyone to experience the hell I went through. Get yourself fixed man, life is amazing on the other side!
/r/askTRP05/09/19 11:15 PM
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Social media is literally the realm of women. I have virtually no social media footprint (don't have IG, or Twitter). I haven't made a post on FB in YEARS, and I can count the number of snaps I've ever sent on one hand. It's never hindered me from success with women (even ones I've pulled THROUGH social media) Wonder why you have 3s and 4s thinking they deserve Chad... It's cause of social media (they get free attention from thirsty virgins and incels). Now I'm not saying don't use it at all. It…
/r/askTRP05/09/19 11:02 PM
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Literally almost every woman when asked about "what happened in your last relationship" is going to answer with... "He was abusive", or " He cheated on me". Most people lack any shred of personal responsibility. Despite what you said was a mutual breakup, she's likely telling the sob story that you were an asshole/abusive/manipulative.
/r/askTRP05/09/19 10:19 AM
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Sounds like an absolutely shitty place to work. Your therapist Is a fucking asshole, fire his ass (find a new one). You need to take control of yourself my man. Be your own judge, the only opinion that matters is that man in the mirror. At first he's a terrible motherfucker, he's the hardest person on you. Eventually though you'll learn to figure out he's got your back. In every situation he's there saying "we got this".
/r/askTRP05/09/19 02:26 AM
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That video is fucking great. The crazy scale starts at 4!
/r/askTRP05/09/19 01:01 AM
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It can definitely take a while. What a good one should do is to help YOU figure out what your issues actually are. Then help to teach you how to cope/resolve those issue. If you feel your therapist right now is just fucking you around (and not actually helping) there's nothing wrong with going and meeting with a new one. There's various different approaches, might need to just do a bit of shopping until you find a good fit.
/r/askTRP04/09/19 03:49 PM
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I said psychologist (PhD in psychology), which is very different than a psychiatrist (MD).
/r/askTRP04/09/19 03:43 PM
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Yes drugs can help, but ONLY when you have effective therapy to go along with it. What most psychiatrists pass off as "mental health" is damn near criminal in my opinion. You need to get your head straight before anything else. Find yourself a good psychologist, that will help you to resolve the underlying issues.
/r/askTRP04/09/19 03:37 PM
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You're experiencing leftover conditioning from basically society (oh it's wrong to have multiple women). You need to be your own judge of whether what you're doing is wrong. I'd ask "what's wrong with having multiple mutually satisfying relationships at one time?" I don't lie to women, hence I have nothing at all to feel bad about.
/r/askTRP04/09/19 03:32 PM
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Do people routinely touch your face out of the blue? If that ever happens to you again, talk to her.
/r/askTRP04/09/19 03:14 PM
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As far as the best pic .. I've used phtofeeler too. What you want to do though is to make sure you're setting it for the specific age demographic you're looking for. So make sure it's "dating, women 18-28" or whatever. Younger women tend be a but more critical in evaluation of your pics too. Tinder/bumble still work, but it's very dependent on age, location, and having good pics. Plenty of validation seekers on there never intend to actually meet you. Don't stress over it, it's a numbers game. E…
/r/askTRP04/09/19 02:22 PM
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Huge would depend on a lot of things, but yeah 20lbs of muscle would generally make anyone look better.
/r/askTRP04/09/19 12:53 PM
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Kissing doesn't mean shit. Women will make out with dudes (and other women( in bars/clubs and then never talk to them again. The real question is.. you had her isolated and we're escalating, why'd you stop?
/r/askTRP04/09/19 12:45 PM
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Depends on where you're starting. If you have to lose fat first, that can take anywhere from a few months to over a year. Just that alone will get you a significant boost aesthetically. New lifters can expect about 2lb muscle gains per month for a while, it progressively gets lower the more you're trained and the older you get.
/r/askTRP04/09/19 12:39 PM
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I think if you're having problems it's more to the fact that... If you're living off your pension, (and frugally at that) you're not going to be a provider option for women. Most older women are going to be provider hunting, so probably wouldn't even consider you.
/r/TheRedPill04/09/19 11:06 AM
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I've heard about that scheme before, sucks that it happened. Well the blackmail one you talked about, and that was kind of what I was expecting. I wouldn't worry much about it. There's not much you can do at this point now anyway.
/r/askTRP04/09/19 12:46 AM
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Not sure what country you're in, but it it one that you'll get a fair trial in if she decides to make an FRA or go after you when you get "revenge"?
/r/askTRP04/09/19 12:40 AM
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I fuck married women, but I have 3 rules with that... No friends, no cops, and no crazies. For exactly the reasons stated above.
/r/TheRedPill03/09/19 10:14 PM
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One of the simplest ways to set your calories is... 10-11 per lb for a cut 13-14/lb for maintenance 15-17/lb for bulk Now that's just ballparking, and you may have to adjust it a bit to get it dialed it. Its simple, and it works pretty well. Once you get into all of the equations it can be pretty complicated and easy to mess up.
/r/askTRP03/09/19 09:36 PM
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Healing properly is the best thing you can do. Yeah it can be frustrating to kind of be limited right now, but look at the alternative. How do you think it would be if you went and messed something up MORE?
/r/askTRP03/09/19 04:47 PM
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You're correct. On dates women are looking for reasons to DISqualify you. The less you talk, the less likely you are to say something that she could use to disqualify you. Now that's not to say don't talk, but she should be the one doing most of the talking; with you leading the conversation. Also if she does a lot of the talking, she's going to feel more like you guys "connectes".
/r/askTRP03/09/19 04:41 PM
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It's your life friend, you need to do what you want with it. If your family doesn't agree, well tough shit...they don't get to make your decisions for you.
/r/askTRP03/09/19 12:16 PM
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I agree with the concept. The problem is usually implementation. Spend a few weeks reading posts here and you can see it's very easy for people to swing way too far in the opposite direction. You can be assertive without being a huge asshole.
/r/askTRP03/09/19 12:14 PM
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Maybe, if you're concerned about that; then make sure you cut out boyfriend behavior (if you're doing any of it). If you're seeing them a lot, texting a lot, cuddling/sleepovers, etc... That stuff is all boyfriend behavior, and could definitely lead to them getting more attached and hurt. It does seem weird at first because there's a TON of pressure all around you to be Billy blue pill (family, friends, media). But if you're doing what you're happy doing, and you're not hurting anyone, then what…
/r/askTRP03/09/19 12:57 AM
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Well if you're not lying to them or manipulating them, you shouldn't feel guilty. If despite that you still feel guilty, it's likely cause of some deep rooted bullshit (from family, culture, religion, etc). Otherwise... 2 adults that are enjoying time they spend together is of nobodies concern but theirs.
/r/askTRP03/09/19 12:42 AM
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Nuts are super calorie dense. Take your pick based on what you like, 1k calories is easy to get with cashews, pistachios, etc.
/r/askTRP03/09/19 12:32 AM
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Most people don't have STDs, and most people also don't tend to have recent test results on hand. If still want to be paranoid about it, wear an exam glove. There's nothing wrong with asking her how she gets off. More women cum clitorally, rather than vaginally. Ideally I'd want to get that ED situation resolved ASAP if I had an issue.
/r/askTRP02/09/19 07:47 PM
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You're already pegged as boyfriend material, so she's going to keep stringing you along for dates. Women see you as a lover, or a provider, you're in the second category. You could probably eventually sleep with her, but you've already wasted more time than I would. She may also be a low sex drive woman, and this is just a preview of things to come.
/r/askTRP02/09/19 07:35 PM
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The key with married women is to be discreet about it (unless they're open). Otherwise she's still a woman and you just do your thing the same way. There's likely to be some logistics changes you're going to have to make (her only coming to your place, no texting her at certain times, etc).
/r/askTRP02/09/19 11:16 AM
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Strong eye contact is attractive, but don't overdo it. You don't want to be glaring at women. If she meets your eyes hold it, and give her a little smile. Most women aren't going to make, and hold eye contact with you unless they want to. Spent some time out in public just observing that (and you can use this as practice time too). If you're outside and not comfortable with it at first, wear dark sunglasses. Some women aren't going to look at you at all. Others will glance at you and then glance…
/r/askTRP02/09/19 11:08 AM
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When you're depressed even things you love can be boring (like sex). Also it doesn't help that is seems like everything is kind of going against you. 53k for a salary is pretty good. A lot of people don't make that being way older. Props on the rentals. I'm balls deep in rehab right now with $0 coming in. The market is retarded right now, so getting deals is tough in most markets. What I find helps me the most is accomplishing actual physical projects. I've spent years on self improvement, but f…
/r/askTRP01/09/19 11:05 PM
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This is the right answer here. You're going to fuck things up, nobody is perfect all the time. You slipped up, no big deal. Don't shit on yourself over it, live with the decision and try to make better decisions tomorrow.
/r/askTRP01/09/19 04:27 PM
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Most of Hollywood is super liberal/gynocentric, so it you want to use movies and such... You're going to need to start going back 30+ years (there are of course some exceptions). To use Spiderman as an example "oh we're poor but happy" it's clearly bullshit. Oh poor people good, rich man bad. Even Peter Parker is the ultimate AFC, but eventually gets the girl (lol right). Almost all of the Hollywood narrative is straight BP, or worse. How many main characters are women and/or minorities (or at l…
/r/askTRP01/09/19 04:23 PM
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Spin it back on her. "Whoa there, I don't remember saying anything about sex tonight. I see where your head is though!", or "Only one person here mentioned sex tonight, and it wasn't me". Have to have some fun with it. That's an ASD statement that more guys fail than pass. She's saying that literally because she wants to have sex, but doesn't want to feel like a slut. Anything like "alright, cool" is a definite fail, and she probably won't.
/r/askTRP31/08/19 12:56 PM
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Spin it back on her. "Whoa there, I don't remember saying anything about sex tonight. I see where your head is though!", or "Only one person here mentioned sex tonight, and it wasn't me". Have to have some fun with it. That's an ASD statement that more guys fail than pass. She's saying that literally because she wants to have sex, but doesn't want to feel like a slut. Anything like "alright, cool" is a definite fail, and she probably won't.
/r/askTRP31/08/19 12:55 PM
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Spin it back on her. "Whoa there, I don't remember saying anything about sex tonight. I see where your head is though!", or "Only one person here mentioned sex tonight, and it wasn't me". Have to have some fun with it. That's an ASD statement that more guys fail than pass. She's saying that literally because she wants to have sex, but doesn't want to feel like a slut. Anything like "alright, cool" is a definite fail, and she probably won't.
/r/askTRP31/08/19 12:53 PM
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I've been there too. Especially in grad school/later years of undergrad I was just pretty much ready to be done with school. I find for me motivation begets motivation. So basically "doing anything is better than doing nothing". That applies to schoolwork, housework, anything really. You really have to be aware of what you're doing though. IE ok enough fucking around on Reddit, time to go do X. And from there just jump into whatever it is you need to do.
/r/askTRP31/08/19 12:42 PM
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I'm not a daygame guy, so take what I say with a grain of salt. I literally never compliment women on their actual appearance, unless it's something they have control over. I'd never say "you're so beautiful" or something along those lines. I've even had women fish for compliments on dates before with something like "I sent you pics looking cute as hell and you told me to wear whatever you want". Now you CAN be direct without going that route. "I really like that perfume, you smell amazing". It'…
/r/askTRP31/08/19 12:36 PM
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Some dudes are just low sex drive, your husband sounds like he may be one of them. Obviously it's a big part of life that you're missing out on, hence why you're here asking us about it. You can still love your husband and have your needs met. Have a very candid conversation with him about it. If he's not going to take care of you, you'll find someonebthat is.
/r/askTRP31/08/19 12:48 AM
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You didn't say it directly, but it's pretty evident from your story. If you're shy and awkward around people it's because you're likely worried about them judging you. Been there man, I'm not here shitting on you. If someone else's opinion of you matters, it's cause you still need to work on inner game.
/r/askTRP30/08/19 10:21 PM
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You worked on your appearance (and props to you for that). It doesn't sound like you've taken care of any of the inner game stuff. If you don't like yourself, how could you ever expect anyone else to? Confidence isn't magic, it's just knowing that whatever comes your way you'll handle it. Try, fail, try, fail, try, fail. Adjust, and master. What's most important is that you're actually trying shit that makes you uncomfortable. Then evaluate, then stop doing shit that doesn't work. Keep doing thi…
/r/askTRP30/08/19 10:10 PM
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The idea around here that every woman is going to be attracted to you is just retarded. Everyone has their own preferences, maybe you don't fit hers. That doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you, or her. There's billions of women on the planet, and plenty that you're going to find attractive that will also find you attractive.
/r/askTRP30/08/19 09:53 PM
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Obviously you're not superior, or else you wouldn't be jealous of people you don't even know. Stop with the bullshit superiority complex is transparent as shit to almost anyone. If you really want to improve, you need to learn that the only option that's worth a fuck is your own.
/r/askTRP30/08/19 09:46 PM
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Aside from what was said above, you may want to try talking to a psychologist. Plenty of sexual dysfunction issues can be rooted in your head too.
/r/askTRP30/08/19 09:30 PM
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If you're doing (or planning to) a lot of first dates, you need to keep costs down as much as possible. Coffee, drinks, ice cream, whatever you want... As long as you're not doing the stupid expensive dinner/activity dates, and somewhere you guys can talk. My successful line is just "blah blah let's grab a drink". That's all there is to it.
/r/askTRP30/08/19 02:04 PM
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Cause they haven't had all of the bullshit rammed down their throats yet. Even toddlers are usually starting to get some of the social control aspects from family/teachers/church, but it's just in the beginning phase. Most of what you're talking about is learned behavior, and it takes years of other people pushing it on you to take hold.
/r/askTRP28/08/19 11:04 AM
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You're looking at it the wrong way my friend. When that shit from the past pops into your head, look at where you're at now, and how far you've come. Have a laugh at how pathetic you USED to be, and promise yourself you're never going to be like that again.
/r/askTRP27/08/19 01:33 PM
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It's the Madonna/whore complex so many dudes (even here) have. Almost every woman has a very real sexual side to her. Embrace it, and unleash it. The key is to be smooth about it. Women are used to thirsty dudes, be a sexual man instead.
/r/askTRP27/08/19 01:31 PM
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Just try to hit her up and arrange another meet ASAP (if possible). Text her, banter a little, pitch meet 2. Basically the longer you wait, the less likely it is to happen.
/r/askTRP27/08/19 01:24 PM
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If it was a couple of days ago, it might already be too late. Basically if you plan on keeping her around/making it a semi regular thing, you need to minimize her hamster on it being a pump and dump. That's one of the area's I was fucking up in the not so distant past. After the first time you should be trying to minimize her feeling like a slut, and also pushing for another meet ASAP. Once you've hooked up a couple of times you can back off a bit.
/r/askTRP27/08/19 01:16 PM
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Sorry to hear about that man! "Time heals all wounds" and there's a lot of truth to that. My younger brother died (as an adult) so I definitely know how it is. One of the things that helped me the most was coming to the realization that I had to keep living my own life. It's easy to fall into that hole, but you need to do your best to dig yourself out of it.
/r/askTRP24/08/19 08:57 PM
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Most are going to say that same thing, and like the other guys have said.... it doesn't mean much. Really the only women I hardcore screen out are the bible thumpers (seems like they with 100% certainty ask about my relationship with Jesus within the first few exchanges). Women in their 30s and 40s can still be fun (especially those ones that have taken care of themselves). They CAN absolutely be much more in provider hunter mode though. So you might not be able to get laid as easily (YMMV).
/r/askTRP24/08/19 08:53 PM
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Both of my parents know about how I live my life, and while they might not agree... They both know they don't get a fucking say. I wouldn't try to discuss that stuff with the women in your family, it's just asking for bullshit.
/r/askTRP24/08/19 08:46 PM
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Kids in high school find ways to fuck in their parents house, you can too. Usually when a woman asks you what you're doing when you're leaving the bar, that's womanese for invite me somewhere else. Literally every time I've had a woman ask me that at the end of the night I've answered the exact same way, with the exact same results... "I'm gonna go watch a movie, wanna come?"
/r/askTRP24/08/19 08:42 PM
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As far as the breakup goes, just do it. Don't ghost or any of that shit, just straight up tell her basically what you said here. She's probably going to be hurt, but as long as you don't bullshit her you could potentially avoid a lot of drama. As far as seeing her around town and whatever, just be cool and polite. It'll probably be a little weird/uncomfortable at first, but that'll pass. I'm a big believer in not burning bridges. Who knows down the road you could end up needing an FB, or she cou…
/r/askTRP24/08/19 08:37 PM
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You're confusing things here. You don't need to be "detached" from the encounter, you need to be independent of the outcome. If you were actually detached the whole time, you'd be absolutely horrible to be around. Most people would probably think you had some version of autism, and you'd be guaranteed to not be very popular. Being too detached is pretty much the opposite of being charismatic. What you need is to be outcome independent of the encounter. IE if you're on a date, you really don't gi…
/r/askTRP24/08/19 02:00 PM
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So here's my experience... Usually if they text you the same night after the date, you're pretty much guaranteed to be good. You'd have to majorly fuck something up, in order to not fuck this chick (or get another date). If they text you soon afterwards (the next day or 2) they're probably on the fence. You should be able to get at least another date, but still escalate/build tension, and all of that stuff. IF they don't text you within the next day or 2, I'll usually hit them up and the above a…
/r/askTRP24/08/19 01:54 PM
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Ever think it's because you've been fucking only one woman for a couple of years? If you're bored it's time to move on. I'm not meant for monogamy. Variety solves the boring problem.
/r/askTRP23/08/19 02:40 PM
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Absolutely this! I don't lie to women, but I also don't need to answer or give straight answers either.
/r/askTRP23/08/19 02:23 PM
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I agree with this completely. My own definition of evil is "intentionally causing someone to suffer", so I don't do that. A lot of people's beliefs are derived from all manner of bullshit. Because I like a variety of women, some people see that as evil/bad... But fuck em, they don't get to have a say about my life.
/r/askTRP23/08/19 02:20 PM
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You don't look terrible IMO. Lifting had a ton of benefits, so I always advocate it. It's not magic though (in fact it takes a lot of dedication and time if you're doing it right). With that being said appearance does play a role, but that's overall. So that's going to combine physique, grooming, and style. My overall aim for my appearance was to just not "look terrible", and that alone will set you apart from a lot of guys. You can be ripped but still look like a dork or dirtball. So lose some …
/r/askTRP23/08/19 02:14 PM
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Wrangler TJ
/r/askTRP20/08/19 01:51 AM
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The first thing you should do is actually figure out where your money is going. Obviously you can't curb spending in an area which you're not even aware of. Like you said in your situation it sounds like you should be able to stash away a decent amount. One thing to note is that cars are absolutely horrible assets (overpriced, immediately depreciate, etc). If your car costs $1000 to fix, but a new car costs $300/no, which is more practical? I drive a 13 year old vehicle (only one I ever bought n…
/r/askTRP19/08/19 07:12 PM
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I think there's some merit to the idea that we are kind of hard wired to avoid social stigma/embarrassment (for evolutionary reasons). That's why more people have AA than don't. Luckily it's one of those things you can actually train yourself to minimize.
/r/TheRedPill19/08/19 02:05 PM
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Why are you worried about what pieces of shit think about you? The only person who's opinion is worth anything is that man in the mirror. As far as how to deal with it... You don't get to pick your family, and you don't have to like them or interact with them if YOU don't want to. Time is your only unlimited resource, don't waste it. As far as your friends , yeah you can find new friends (tends to be a bit more different when you're older). Is there any reason you can't just cut out dude? Like j…
/r/askTRP19/08/19 01:51 PM
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Sleeping long enough, but still feeling tired is usually from poor sleep quality. One way to figure out if you're actually getting "enough" is to mess around with the duration. Depression and anxiety can really fuck with your sleep schedule. There's a real correlation between sleep deprivation and mental illness. You mentioned feeling restless, like when you're laying down to go to bed... Are you thinking about everything and any fucking thing? Fractured sleep is bad too. I occasionally wake up …
/r/askTRP19/08/19 01:33 PM
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I don't disagree with a lot of what you're saying, but I'd say women do get bored often regardless. Women invariably start to try to betaize any LTRs they're in. We see it everyday here "oh I lost frame" "I went back to being bp cause of my oneitis". Now some of it is bullshit (dudes really weren't ever at that point), and in other cases its exactly what happened. And that's actually part of the craziest thing about it. Women tend to try to "tame men", and ultimately end up hating them for it.
/r/TheRedPill16/08/19 06:07 PM
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I can't say I've ever actually done their test. But when I though back to how they talked about LSD/LSE women I definitely had a hindsight is 20/20 moment. One of my LTRs from my younger bp days was absolutely a LSE woman that has a ton of sexual hangups. Because of that I tend to steer clear of the extremely LSE women. The book overall is definitely fantastic.
/r/askTRP16/08/19 01:49 PM
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Actions not words. Body language is generally pretty hard to fake, and let's be honest a lot of men are absolutely terrible at picking up on it. You read her as interested, but put a lot of weight behind WHAT she was actually saying (that's where you went all wrong I think). 2 of the biggest thing though are touch and proximity. Pretty much everyone (but women in particular) have their "intimate zone/personal space". It's also one of that absolute strongest indicators. She not going to allow you…
/r/askTRP16/08/19 01:42 PM
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Because you have to be rich and/or famous to get metood. You OTOH would likely just get slapped with harassment and fired. It's not worth it man, I'm telling you from experience.
/r/askTRP16/08/19 01:32 PM
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I'm not sure how it is in the UK, but I often advise young people to learn a profitable skill (I'm in the US). You have some of the Kool aid to clear out of your head if you think a standard 4 year degree is your ticket to riches. Learning a skillet that's in demand allows you to eventually work for yourself, set your own price, and work on your terms.
/r/askTRP16/08/19 01:18 PM
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This isn't going to be the last time this happens either. Remember women often have more "potentials" in general than men. The sooner you realize that most women you're interacting with either are (or were likely recently) fucking someone else, you'll be better off. The real key is to actually not be threatened or jealous. Women love talking about sex, and many can get pretty turned on just talking about it. Be savvy at the conversation and steer it away from sex with dude, into sex in general.
/r/askTRP16/08/19 12:59 PM
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LDRs are called pretend relationships for a reason. She couldn't even keep andick out of her for a week. Just keep her as an FB and find other women.
/r/askTRP15/08/19 04:50 PM
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Unfortunately I kind of dislike a lot of the TRP "gurus" because they straight up preach to the angry crowd/keep men angry. Yeah you were spoon-fed a ton of bullshit growing up about how sexual Dynamics work (most of us were). The thing is, if you actually are depressed... And it sounds like you are for sure... Then you need to get that shit worked out ASAP. For all the talk of SMV around here, most people don't know/mention the reverse (sexual repulsion). If you're depressed, of course most wom…
/r/askTRP15/08/19 02:06 PM
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Like someone else said, don't be afraid if a little silence. A lot of people are uncomfortable with silence and will attempt to fill it. Now one of the keys to being a good conversationalist is to be a listener. If you actually pay attention, a lot of conversations are just between people waiting for their turn to talk (and of course some don't even wait their turn). Generally people love talking about themselves. If you're paying attention to the conversation (and actually listening) every conv…
/r/askTRP15/08/19 01:41 PM
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She's already gone. Watch what they do, not what they say. Distance is her way of telling you to fuck off.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 12:48 PM
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My company doesn't have HR but hers does (I'm a contractor). She said she felt harassed by that, and that I'd been hitting on her several times (which I didn't do). My boss straight up said to me "if she had said sexual harassment instead of just feeling harassed, you wouldn't have a job".
/r/askTRP17/07/19 04:30 PM
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LSE women are just nightmares period. Since a lot will come with sexual hangups/ low sex drive too. I think they're just best to avoid all around.
/r/askTRP17/07/19 03:30 PM
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Yeah it's like that, and today diverse means everything BUT straight white male. Also I forget to add... Some women will flirt with you at work just for the sake of doing it. Remember women want attention, and at work they might see it as safe. How I got myself into shit was that some girl was literally showing every sign of interest (and I'm not unsuccessful with women at all). So I gave her my number ... A few days later I got hauled into the office. It was a fucking mess (and admittedly so wa…
/r/askTRP17/07/19 03:21 PM
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Well I think you're a bit worried over nothing. I ACTUALLY had work bullshit happen, so I know it's shitty. Basically there isn't much CYA as a dude (especially if you're in an at will state). All they have to do is make the claim and you're gone regardless. Your employer likely gives more of a shit about keeping any bad PR away, than if you're really guilty. As a dude in the west today you're already guilty. So just keep on doing what you're doing, and don't waste any of your time/energy on wor…
/r/askTRP17/07/19 03:00 PM
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I'm not a die-hard trp guy so I'm not gonna throw that nonsense at you. Seriously if it's not your job just don't do it. You're not being a dick. If they want to pay you more to do other people's shit, then fine. They're paying you to do a specific "thing". If they want you to do "thing+other people thing" then they need to pay you more. You might have already done it long enough that theres that expectation on their part... But you can have that by saying no. If these people aren't capable of d…
/r/askTRP17/07/19 02:54 PM
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You've said both that you're doing them favors, and that it's your job to provide them with information. So either... 1) you're not liking doing your job 2) you're doing shit that's not your job (which you shouldn't be doing)
/r/askTRP17/07/19 02:43 PM
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So basically you're not wanting to do your job then? If you're a record keeper and I ask you for a record, I don't need to be grateful for you getting it.
/r/askTRP17/07/19 02:30 PM
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Couldn't agree with this more. Fuck your feelings, nobody but you had a right to make you feel any kind of way.
/r/askTRP17/07/19 02:16 PM
1

Investopedia, YouTube. There's a lot of good info out there. It's probably a bit harder to start now. When I started my portfolio in my 20s I was able to use sharebuilder. They recently got bought by E-Trade which I think has a minimum amount (it used to be a bit out of reach for small amount investors like me, I think it was a 10k minimum). There's various strategies as well, I've always been all about DRIP.
/r/TheRedPill12/07/19 07:34 PM
3

You shouldn't be gaming women you don't think are cute. 4s and 5s aren't teaching you to be good with attractive women. They're teaching you it's acceptable to fuck fatties. As an Asian dude you're probably going to have to work harder than most (if you're in the west). 20% is still pretty high, try getting to under 15. Keep at it, and don't waste your precious daygame time on whales.
/r/askTRP12/07/19 05:50 PM
4

My company (me) only owns a duplex, and I use a PM as well. The way I see it is if my cash flow is that damn tight I can't afford the 8%, it's a shit deal in the first place. That being said there's several reasons I went with a PM for only 1 property.... 1- it's a business expense I get to write off. 2- I don't know shit about being a PM not do I want to be one, so I'll pay someone that's an expert. I also don't want to deal with any tenants (I have 0 contact with them) 3-its an extra layer of …
/r/TheRedPill12/07/19 12:56 PM
4

And the thing about motivation is that it begets itself. Once you start doing shit, it kind if makes you want to keep rolling with it. That first step is always the hardest...well for me at least!
/r/askTRP12/07/19 12:26 PM
6

The whole screening out single moms is basically just subsurface unicorn hunting. A huge percentage of women beyond their mid 20s are going to be moms. Personally I don't believe in unicorns, or mono LTRs. But I definitely agree that what the OP is doing isn't something I'd do. Mostly because if a woman has been in fucking jail, there's going to be a hole host of other issues. I'd rather not have to babysit my shit when a woman is over
/r/askTRP12/07/19 12:13 PM
1

If you go digging you're gonna find dirt. Going into a chicks phone is mega needy man, fix your head first. Whole post screams of scarcity.
/r/askTRP12/07/19 12:05 PM
1

I think using social media pictures is just straight asking for trouble/drama. I also don't think you need to ghost them either. Women tend to be much more observant than men, especially about environmental things. I had a hair tie on my floor and you better be damn sure every woman I had over saw it. Worked great for letting them know they're not the only one.
/r/askTRP10/07/19 07:20 PM
1

Yeah OKC got absolutely horrendous when they changed it so that nobody can be "harassed by unsolicited messages" or whatever. I'm pretty sure my response rate is definitely higher than 1%, but it got noticably shittier when they changed it. Tinder/bumble, and putting in the numbers.
/r/askTRP10/07/19 07:12 PM
0

You don't see it everyday, you're going quite overboard with the hyperbole. No preselection isn't needed, it helps. Guaranteed not many woman past her early 20s is really messing with dudes that don't have jobs and all that. Stop living in incel fantasy land and be better at people.
/r/askTRP10/07/19 07:04 PM
1

Of course introverts can do well with women, it's just a matter of making a few adjustments. Yeah large social situations exhaust me like no other, but you CAN kind of build a tolerance to it (just by doing it more/frequently). I call it "social endurance", but that's the way it seems to work for me at least. Just because you're an introvert doesn't automatically make you shitty socially. Even if you're in a group setting you can focus your conversation on one person. Say there's a woman that yo…
/r/askTRP08/07/19 10:03 PM
56

You're a few years older than me, and quite a bit wealthier (and in a very different locale). Sounds like you're having a bit of a crisis and want to kind of latch on to the Disney bullshit in hopes of being happy. To me it seems like you need a few more close relationships (like friends/buddies/whatever). I also think regular sex is important (and agree you're probably not going to find many appealing women in your age range). With your situation you shouldn't have any issues finding a lady in …
/r/askTRP08/07/19 09:42 PM
2

Just don't say stupid things in the workplace. Look I don't particularly care for most PC stuff, but people at work don't need to know my opinions. I also don't have any reason to really talk about that either. Your employer also likely won't go to bats for you should something happen. Most are either terrified of negative PR, or getting involved in a lawsuit. If someone wants to fuck a life-sized Pikachu filled with jelly, good on them. I don't have any opinion to offer on that subject beyond w…
/r/askTRP08/07/19 09:27 PM
5

Why were you on the news? Could have been legit curiosity, or she might be after attention. Might also be possible that she was receptive and you blew it. From my own experience if a woman hits me up after a while she's almost ALWAYS receptive to hooking up.
/r/askTRP08/07/19 09:16 PM
5

She's just bored, hence why women break off 70% of relationships. You're just new, and that doesn't necessarily mean you're the best she could get it whatever. More likely you're pretty much the opposite of current BF.
/r/askTRP08/07/19 09:12 PM
3

Her having a boyfriend is her problem. All the rest of that bullshit is you being worried about HER problems. Go on your date, fuck if you can, and take your awalt lesson.
/r/askTRP27/06/19 01:14 PM
3

With that kind of thing materials aren't usually included, your bid is usually just the labor cost. Also when you do hire someone you need to expect problems and to add up to 20% to the total cost. I'm not sure where you are or what the laws are like, but he may be able to mechanic lein you if you try to stuff him on the bill. The real lesson here is that you really didn't have a clue as to how contractors work (you had an expensive lesson), and do t pay people for shit you can do yourself.
/r/askTRP27/06/19 01:10 PM
17

It doesn't have to be expensive. My first dates are always "drinks". That means we go and have a drink or 2 each. If you can't afford that you have some other life issues you need to get straightened out first.
/r/askTRP27/06/19 01:03 PM
1

Yeah you really should save this. It's amazing how many dudes don't realize they're not the only one In addition to that the idiotic idea around here of being a mediocre lover (she won't be back that way) is somehow alright.
/r/askTRP26/06/19 09:02 PM
1

That's the hard part isn't it, figuring that all out. I'd say some passions of mine are definitely helping people, and learning . I've spent years thinking about my mission, and it's still not fully fleshed out yet.
/r/askTRP26/06/19 08:55 PM
1

Neither of those are really a mission, they can be a part of your mission. If it's a grind it's not a passion, and hence not your purpose. I'd take some time out and rethink your mission, it's damn hard to come up with sometimes (something that's actually a mission rather than a goal, or something a lot more minor)
/r/askTRP26/06/19 12:45 PM
1

First thing is.. if you're not covering your self, stop being fucking stupid (unless you like the idea of losing half your income for a quarter of your life). Next go and buy 2 pregnancy tests from wherever. Then MAKE her take both, in your presence. If they are both negative, congrats now hard next her (and don't fuck crazy in the future).
/r/askTRP26/06/19 12:35 PM
85

Stop making excuses. You don't have to drink to do any of that. Stop being a pussy.
/r/askTRP26/06/19 12:27 PM
40

You're not jealous, you're envious. Go put your dick in a few other humans and those feelings will go away.
/r/askTRP26/06/19 12:22 PM
5

This isn't from PCOS, this is the normal outcome of most LTRs. She's bored with you, you need to move on.
/r/askTRP31/03/19 12:25 AM
1

Dated her for 9 months, and didn't have sex? Lol sucks to be you man.
/r/askTRP31/03/19 12:21 AM
2

What I'm not seeing in your original post is whether you actually meet this chick? If you were gabbing with her for a month and no date, that's your problem.
/r/askTRP28/03/19 01:40 PM
1

You don't look anywhere near 20% to me, but how were you estimating that? How much weight have you actually gained in 10mo? I think you could probably keep bulking. TBH you look kind of lean/thin still.
/r/askTRP28/03/19 01:21 PM
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The idea that most men can be singularly attractive to women, is pretty retarded. Women have preferences just like we do. Surely you've interacted with women and thought "there's just something about her"... Even if she wasn't the hottest/prettiest/whatever.
/r/askTRP27/03/19 07:02 PM
2

Yes, that's absolutely acting from a place of weakness. If you're willing to next a chick for her talking to a guy you really need to do a lot more work on yourself. If you want to be monogamous that's your choice, don't delude yourself into thinking you have abundance then (cause you don't). Having options is having options. You literally have one source of sex, and the both of you know this.
/r/askTRP21/03/19 12:47 PM
3

Go find the nearest female police officer and start giving her orders, see how that works out then come back to us
/r/askTRP21/03/19 12:37 PM
1

When you see your PCP, just have a discussion about "can we do labs to try and figure it out" type of thing. They really shouldn't give you a hard time about it. The more you think about something the more anxiety it's going to cause you. Psyching yourself up about it certainly isn't doing you any favors.
/r/askTRP21/03/19 12:35 PM
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"Watching a movie" is woman's for come fuck me. You're being invited over, what else do you want a neon fucking sign? What I do when I have a new girl over is this... We're both sitting on the couch, if shes too far away for me to kino, after a few minutes (of talking)I pat the cushion next to me. Always, without fail, they scoot a bit closer. Women aren't coming to your place (or inviting you to theirs), if they're not at least open to the idea if having sex with you.
/r/askTRP21/03/19 12:26 PM
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Because you're getting bad advice from a lot of people that have no clue as to what they're talking about. Ultimatums are almost always done from a place of weakness (especially in relationships). You're monogamous, so no you don't have options. Having REAL options is actually fucking other women when one pisses you off. You can't fake that. Social media is almost exclusively woman's domain. It allows them to get attention/validation without having to do anything. You're never going to stop wome…
/r/askTRP21/03/19 11:03 AM
3

The cutting of serious fat is almost entirely the result of what you do in the kitchen. Lifting is important too, but "abs are made in the kitchen". The important part of nutrition is tracking. Ballparking isn't good enough. You need to weigh, measure, and track if you're serious about it.
/r/askTRP18/03/19 06:54 PM
1

Sounds like she was trying to guilt trip you (one of women's main weapons, along with tears). You know that an LDR isn't a real relationship. If you agree to that you're only setting yourself up for heartache and unhappiness.
/r/askTRP18/03/19 06:47 PM
1

No doubt, taking action is the important part.
/r/askTRP18/03/19 06:43 PM
1

Wanting to fix it is the important thing. I've been there, so I know how terrible it is. Getting yourself a good therapist (PhD is psychology) is likely to be the best thing you can do for yourself.
/r/askTRP18/03/19 06:40 PM
5

There's no such thing as unicorns. LDRs are pretend relationships, for reasons you already stated. Sounds like she wants, or accepted the job, and you said the right thing.
/r/askTRP18/03/19 05:41 PM
5

That's quite a bit for people that have things like jobs and/or other responsibilities. Seems like OP has a decent enough plan. He also know himself way better than we do.
/r/askTRP18/03/19 05:27 PM
1

So I used to be absolutely afraid of embarrassing myself in public or whatever too. As I've gotten older I learned that in general most people just don't give a shit. Yeah if you do something stupid a few strangers may laugh, but that's usually about it. I think the key is to be able to recognize you did something that was funny/stupid, and able to laugh at yourself. The root cause isn't that you're necessarily afraid of embarrassment, it's that you're too damn hard on yourself. Be less critical…
/r/askTRP18/03/19 05:23 PM
1

Think if it this way.... 40% of women have rape fantasies, no woman actually ever wants to be raped. You're thinking about this way to God damn much.
/r/askTRP18/03/19 05:16 PM
1

This 100%. I'm also an introvert, but most people probably wouldn't know it. Shy/bashful is not introverted. Now as far as that apathetic part, that's depression. You really need to get that fixed ASAP, and double speed if you're completely withdrawing (which it sounds like you are).
/r/askTRP18/03/19 05:06 PM
2

I never take women to dinner until after I've fucked them. Before that it's something like drinks or coffee.
/r/askTRP18/03/19 04:58 PM
4

Stop kissing women if you're not planning on fucking them soon after (it releases sexual tension). Also sounds like you're terrible at LMR, and are leaving when she's almost there (why the hell would you do that?).
/r/askTRP18/03/19 12:12 PM
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You're absolutely right here. Even the fat and ugly women with OLD get more messages than you. Also keep in mind some women are literally only there for validation and/or chat with no intention of meeting whatsoever. If you pitch a meet and she ghosts, that's likely why.
/r/askTRP18/03/19 11:46 AM
2

The whole fucking thing. If you're worried about her talking to other dudes, that's your problem, and the definition of insecurity. Also if you're worried about her crying cause you're talking to other women, you're her bitch too.
/r/askTRP16/03/19 08:19 PM
2

You're going to next her cause YOU'RE needy and insecure. Of course she won't know, because it's you're fucking problem not hers.
/r/askTRP16/03/19 08:11 PM
3

If you're spending time with women that you don't actually like, why the fuck are you spending time with them? Basically if you're just attention whoring women, then you have some more inner game work to do. Your time and attention are your most valuable assets. You may not even know what qualities you WANT in a woman, so you need to get that sorted out first.
/r/askTRP16/03/19 08:05 PM
4

The internal issue isn't you're afraid of her losing interest, it's that you're still deriving validation from women (and her in particular). I think he's really really right about that part. Here's the thing though... You're perfectly capable of providing your own validation, as long as you don't treat yourself like a total asshole. The much harder part is consistently telling yourself something like "you did good today with x" rather than "you stupid fuck, you only did y".
/r/askTRP15/03/19 06:22 PM
1

Physiology means functional biology (ie how things work). If she has sex, that's a good sign she has a working vagina.
/r/askTRP15/03/19 06:10 PM
1

I do Macy's and JCP, whenever they have sales you can pick up some good deals.
/r/askTRP15/03/19 06:03 PM
1

See the problem is that you're confusing eras. And the truth is there were absolutely renaissance lady killers (Casanova, The guy Don Juan is based on, etc). A lot of those women DID fuck men that weren't their husbands (cheating wasn't quite as taboo as it's made out, there were plenty of side lovers). Your main problem is that you seem to be trying to seduce women via text, and that's not going to work. There's so much more to human communication than simply words.
/r/askTRP15/03/19 05:59 PM
1

Basically they have the right idea. Elon is definitely a man I admire in various ways, but... Like was said above he fully believes the standard Disney narrative for his relationships. He puts women on a pedestal, and gets bad oneitis.
/r/askTRP15/03/19 05:51 PM
1

You're good enough... You're literally just afraid of everything. Stop being a coward and take some shots at anything. I think you'll find it's not as bad as you think.
/r/askTRP15/03/19 05:47 PM
1

Well it IS both, because at the same time women want good genes (from lovers) and a stable place to raise kids (from providers). The woman's unicorn is an alpha provider. The thing is in every relationship the woman is going to work to make the man more beta, it's almost a universal fact. Women DO have relationships with beta men, that's blatantly obvious... They also get bored as shit by it, and hence aren't attracted/sexual anymore.
/r/askTRP15/03/19 05:44 PM
1

Everyone get super paranoid about their losses. Losing a little is pretty much inevitable on a cut. Keep your protein intake up and you're still going to be doing physical activity. I wouldn't get myself too worked up over it.
/r/askTRP15/03/19 05:39 PM
2

I think the mass approach would likely be a bad idea for obvious reasons (if you're in the west you'll get raped by the court system). I do remember reading something not too long ago about women having children to men outside of their marriage, but I wouldn't say that's super reliable either. If you were to go that route... You'd likey also have to give up on the idea of being involved with the kid at all too.
/r/askTRP07/03/19 12:40 AM
3

In general, women are flakey as hell. Usually if she doesn't ghost you after a first date and agreed to a second, you're doing well enough. Just have to manage to pin it down (which can sometimes be the hard part).
/r/askTRP07/03/19 12:29 AM
5

Also there's a certain point with financial success where time is much more valuable than money. For some of those men, it could potentially be cheaper to hire hookers than game women. There are plenty of men that don't "need" to hire hookers, but do so anyway (people like Charlie Sheen, politicians, wall street,etc).
/r/askTRP26/02/19 12:02 PM
2

I've never been stood up so I can't comment on that. Most women can't manage their schedules for shit, so I expect them to be flakey. Now when you're being brushed off when you haven't fucked her yet, it's because you're a super low priority (cancels with no alternative). If this is the case I may or may not pitch one more meet a few days later (and only one). Those that are legit busy or mixed something up, but do want to meet up usually offer an alternative suggestion.
/r/askTRP25/02/19 06:14 PM
2

Boyfriend behaviors are shit like what you're doing... Like: texting her all the time, seeing her 4x per week, allowing her to spend the night. Im guessing that you're also going in dates, and seeing her without having sex too (or allowing her to withhold sex). All that shit is going to cause her to treat you like a boyfriend, which is bad. You obviously have one it's, fuck some other women.
/r/askTRP25/02/19 03:42 PM
5

Stop acting like a boyfriend, and you won't get treated like one.
/r/askTRP25/02/19 03:18 PM
3

OP, you fundamentally misunderstand how relationships and women work. All that bullshit you're spouting about not being good enough is just that (bullshit). She got bored, that's what women do (and hence why they're the ones that end 80% of relationships). She had options lined up before things even ended. You need to start fucking other women ASAP. Yeah you feel shitty right now, but YOU are the one making you feel shitty (so stop that). Keep striving to be better.
/r/askTRP25/02/19 03:16 PM
1

Doesn't change the answer. Either put up with it and accept the drama, or drop the friend.
/r/askTRP25/02/19 03:10 PM
2

Don't be stupid and irresponsible. This is 100% your fault, and whatever happens going forward, remember that. You chose not to use a condom, you chose to believe her when she told you she's on BC, and you chose to cum in her. Now you don't get to make any choices (if she's pregnant, you have no say whatsoever).
/r/askTRP25/02/19 03:04 PM
2

Short answer is if you don't like it, find a new friend. She has his balls so talking to him about it isn't going to work. If she gives you that much bullshit, she either genuinely doesn't like you (there's a clear difference between shit tests and outright hostility), or is a high drama chick. The other option is just putting up with the drama (which I wouldn't do). I think any way you try to tackle it is going to inevitably lead to more bullshit.
/r/askTRP25/02/19 01:46 PM
2

You can only avoid the "what are we" for so long, with all women until they really press it (usually a few months). Thats when it's time to have "the talk".
/r/askTRP20/02/19 08:32 PM
1

MDs have very solid incomes, but do take quite a long time to get there. I'm not so sure I'm understanding whether your asking if you can somehow make a similar income to an MD now (with no skills), or just something solid going forward (into college,med school,etc). And if you're in the US, you can't become an MD without college either.
/r/askTRP20/02/19 03:20 AM
1

Yeah that "soft no" is where the whole thing comes from basically. Women are bombarded with social pressure about liking sex. Men, women, church, society, etc, all tell them that if they like sex, they're sluts (and/or that they shouldn't be too easy). Her resistance is basically some of that bullshit bubbling to the surface. Remember don't listen to what they say, look at what they do.
/r/askTRP20/02/19 03:17 AM
1

You need to have some core foundation from which you operate from, bigger picture type stuff (a mission/purpose). Basically without that foundation in place, everything else is just fluff. On top of that, taking ownership of all of your decisions (good and bad) definitely helped me out a lot with that.
/r/TheRedPill20/02/19 03:10 AM
1

Sounds more like impending doom talk than a shit test! I think there's definitely a difference between shit testing and clear hostility (to me that sounds like the latter). Basically I don't even know what we'd call it, but I know you know what I'm talking about. When they ramp up and get megacunty like most of the time (usually when they've already mentally moved on). Exactly, when you have options your tolerance for bullshit is basically non existent, and why I think a lot of the "fake it till…
/r/askTRP20/02/19 02:59 AM
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Chances are you wouldn't. For one you'd have to pay out an ass ton for contingency fees (what the laywer takes when you can't afford an hourly rate, usually 40%). Then you pay taxes on it. Damages also can't be financially disastrous to the defendant. If Bob's full net work is 8k, you can't get 8k. There's also a concept called remittitur (a defendant can have jury damages lowered), he can also appeal the initial judgement too. This is why a huge chunk of civil lawsuits are settled, and also why…
/r/askTRP20/02/19 02:37 AM
1

No don't misunderstand this, that's how you end up as a rapist. If she legit says "no" ( stop, get off of me, or any variation of that) then you stop, end of story. Don't be a fucking retard here. It's when they make some other comment that we'll call a 'soft no" that means something else. "I'm not the kind of girl that fucks on the second date" and 30 minutes later guess what we were doing? See the difference there?
/r/askTRP20/02/19 02:31 AM
11

Yeah but realistically bob is a college student and doesn't have any money. Someone actually has to be worth something, in order to get any damages out of them.
/r/askTRP20/02/19 02:19 AM
1

This is so juvenile and autistic I don't know where to start. Your SMV isn't some actual thing, like the score in a video game.
/r/askTRP19/02/19 05:40 PM
4

Most women don't get caught, they're way better at that kind of shit than men. Some are willfully retarded about it too. I'm 100% sure I guy I know is raising another man's son (know both guys involved).
/r/askTRP19/02/19 05:34 PM
5

Go out and interact with people. When you aren't good at something, do that something until you're good at it.
/r/askTRP19/02/19 05:31 PM
0

Stay away from that man, it's a whole lot of problems you probably don't want involved in There's plenty of normal/undamaged women out there.
/r/TheRedPill19/02/19 05:14 PM
7

Long distance relationships are called pretend relationships. If you're not fucking her, someone probably is.
/r/askTRP19/02/19 05:04 PM
1

Yeah those are definitely the best! Kinda sucks in my area no DEXA available (for non medical stuff, from what I can find).
/r/askTRP19/02/19 05:02 PM
3

It helps to have an accurate measure too. A lot of people use those electrical impedance tests, which are terribly inaccurate. Which is why I suspect you have some people claiming they normally walk around at 7% bodyfat (they probably don't). But there's quite a lot of variance in how one can look at different levels. Genetics, height, etc all play a part.
/r/askTRP19/02/19 04:53 PM
3

Do you think LeBron goes baby seal clubbing in playgrounds? Want to know why women have stupid expectations for men, it's because of men like you. It's just straight desperation. Only fuck women you're attracted to, unless you constantly want to scrape the bottom of the barrel.
/r/askTRP19/02/19 04:47 PM
2

I get it man I truly do (I actually have several health problems, and am also a smoker). You're 100% responsible for yourself. Right,wrong, or indifferent you need to own your shit and stop making excuses. I have a fantastic life, despite my problems/past.
/r/askTRP19/02/19 01:16 PM
2

Something to keep in mind.... You have a very limited time in life, you're going to fucking die (and sooner than you think or want). 5 years is far too long to have not moved on yet. Time is the one thing you don't have the luxury of wasting, but most people squander hopelessly. Your life is nearly at the "half over" mark. Take advantage of your current situation to get your shit in order. That's the more important factor/root cause of your problems.
/r/askTRP19/02/19 01:08 PM
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Most men deal horribly with shit tests because they're not congruent (ie they're faking it). If you've never actually struggled, failed, or faced real adversity...you're not going to be Billy badass. Most Western men are also raised in a coddled/overprotected state so it's really no surprise. After a while you won't even think about shit tests or give a shit.
/r/askTRP19/02/19 12:56 PM
1

Agree with mostly everything up until the last part. SHE should be doing the majority of the talking, where you should be leading the conversation. Most guys talk way too fucking much, and that's what ends up killing them. Women look for reasons to DISqualify men. All you have to do is say one thing you shouldn't, and that's it. By talking less, you're less likely to do that.
/r/askTRP19/02/19 12:48 PM
2

Hate to be the one asking this now but.... Why the fuck didn't you look into that BEFORE spending a huge chunk of time/money on said education? I passed on law school for precisely that reason (150k worth of debt and only about a 60% chance of getting a job, no thanks). Either way you need to accept that YOU made that choice. Either you'll be a major pain in the ass to companies until they give you a shot, or suck it up and work somewhere else. I have 2 degrees (BS and MS) which don't directly m…
/r/askTRP19/02/19 06:16 AM
2

It's a feel good term, that's really just an amalgamation of other things (most of which is just not being socially retarded). By what measure are you classifying someone as a "good boss"? Does emotional intelligence make someone more productive or profitable? I've had terrible bosses, and they were terrible because they weren't assertive, were passive/aggressive. Both of those things can be changed through training/inner game work. Actual intelligence is largely immutable (if you're born mental…
/r/TheRedPill19/02/19 06:02 AM
2

There's no such thing as emotional intelligence. Most of what you were talking about can be summed up with "worry about yourself".
/r/TheRedPill18/02/19 03:15 PM
1

Can't fake drowning. You can't be pretend dead.
/r/askTRP18/02/19 02:10 PM
2

Except men keep stupidly agreeing to monogamy somehow thinking "that shit won't happen to me". But I don't really give much thought to other people's life choices.
/r/askTRP18/02/19 02:05 PM
5

When really, they in fact know the answer. If you're spending time doing things you don't want (outside of necessary), then stop doing that.
/r/askTRP18/02/19 01:58 PM
2

Nobody likes rejection. Women to some degree are less used to it too (so many will react badly when it happens). The way in which you're rejecting them may also play a part "get away frim me swine" is a lot different than "I appreciate the offer, but X excuse"
/r/askTRP10/02/19 07:49 PM
2

With regards to hard nexting not being punishment, I agree completely. Whereas I'm using soft nexting in only a few specific circumstances (IE her starting bullshit, unprovoked). If I did something myself that stirred shit up, and she reacted to that then that fault lies with me. Let's say when I saw one of my girls last night, she started screaming at me because she had a shitty day at work (not my fault). I'd give a fair warning "If you want to talk about X I'll listen, but don't take it out o…
/r/TheRedPill10/02/19 06:16 PM
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I've definitely noticed that as well. I also love people watching, and see it in public interactions ALL the time too. My career is pretty much people focused, and it's amazing how much people give away through body language. . One of the other threads that popped up the other day had to do with congruence, and i absolutely agree with that 100%. A lot of what guys think of around here as "disrespect" is more or less other people noticing incongruence in most cases. You don't go from butthurt Bil…
/r/TheRedPill10/02/19 03:34 PM
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Regarding the hard nexts I absolutely agree with your point. I hadn't really considered it that way, and won't make any arguments there. Like I said I've never had to hard next a woman outside of basically stopping communication cause she's a validation whore, but I don't really consider that the same thing. The same thing applies to my friends and family. Although some disagree with my lifestyle, they're not any degree of a negative influence on it. In that sense I've been pretty lucky to have …
/r/TheRedPill10/02/19 03:24 PM
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Disagree if you want, but it's not really a semantics argument. A girl you matched with on tinder isn't your wife, even if you say she is. I didn't invent the term OR the definition, just see a lot of people misusing the concept.
/r/TheRedPill10/02/19 03:02 PM
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Well the Roman book was Cicero (De Legibus). The Greek one that I keep going back to though is Nicomachean ethics. I just think he has the right of it there. I've also read Socrates and Plato as well.
/r/askTRP09/02/19 11:51 PM
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Getting out of my head was something I had to work on too. One of the things I did was started "checking in" and doing some mindfulness exercises. A lot of that mindfulness stuff is about living in the moment/here and now. Now that's not to say you shouldn't focus on your important life areas (you should), but not at the cost of total neglect to everything else.
/r/askTRP09/02/19 10:29 PM
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Agree with this idea 100%. There's absolutely no reason that you can't work on multiple areas of your life at once. Is dating harder when you're on a strict diet, yes (but there's plenty of workarounds). Hell I tell women I have to leave (or they do) because I have to do whatever it is that I need (which includes getting to bed on time). If anything that raises your value because it shows where your priorities are
/r/askTRP09/02/19 10:26 PM
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I give mine 100% of the time, and most of the time the women text me pretty quickly. I'd tried both giving and asking, and weirdly enough I've had much better results with giving.
/r/askTRP09/02/19 10:22 PM
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I've also had some pretty recent social media rejections. I just don't really worry about it too much, but I did find it a little weird (as I almost never got a declined friend request before ever). I try to stay off of social media as much as possible, but I do occasionally use it to ping women from the past.
/r/askTRP09/02/19 10:18 PM
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I'd switched to dove men hair paste at the recommendation of a friend. Prior to that I used whatever cheapo hair gel I happened to pick up. I'm pretty happy with it.
/r/askTRP09/02/19 10:16 PM
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I've tried reading some of the classics, and just had an awful time with them (Paradise lost, and Don Quixote). A lot of those very old books (even with modern translations) are somewhat difficult due to a different structure than we're used to. I've read ancient greek/roman books, and they were slogs to get through... but very good. I may retry the above someday, but I have a ton of current reading that's coming first. Outside of that I'd probably also avoid what you mentioned (jesus books, wom…
/r/askTRP09/02/19 10:14 PM
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To answer the header question, yes it matters. It could potentially land you in a whole heap of shit (and a lifelong sex offender tag as a free bonus). If she's so fucking drunk she can't walk or talk, don't do it. I also thought I'd heard on Joe Rogan that California was trying to pass some kind of law that any level of intoxication negates consent. If it's a first time thing, try to go with as little (ideally no) alcohol if possible. Once she's in the rotation than drinking together/drunk sex …
/r/askTRP09/02/19 10:06 PM
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Yeah absolutely. He's a fucking beast!
/r/askTRP09/02/19 05:56 PM
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Just pick up in a few days, literally like nothing fucking happened. Women aren't stupid, she'll know why.
/r/askTRP09/02/19 05:17 PM
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Absolutely agree here (and with the OP that most dudes just aren't congruent). Introspection and self criticism are fucking hard and scary. Knowing others is wisdom; Knowing the self is enlightenment. Mastering others requires force; Mastering the self requires strength
/r/TheRedPill09/02/19 05:16 PM
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think the best way to handle this is to totally disengage her/ghost her for 2-3 days. Then say we need to talk. Then say how she disrespected me and next time she does anything remotely similar she’s gone. Totally unnecessary. You even said it yourself, you don't need to verbalize She'll know why. Nexting for a few days should absolutely do the trick. ​ As far as her the second line... lol giving an ultimatum shows who really has the power. Let go of that fragile ego of yours.
/r/askTRP09/02/19 05:09 PM
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Second this. As far as to answer the OP's question.... You harden your mind, by continually doing shit that you don't want to do (but need to). Check out David Goggins on some of the various podcasts out there. I think he has the right of it.
/r/askTRP09/02/19 04:15 PM
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Definitely DON'T do dates with multiple people. If she says she wants to bring a girlfriend, absolutely don't allow it. "I don't do group dates" is the line I've used a couple of times when that situation has come up. I had a date a couple of years ago, where we ended up meeting people she knew at the venue. By the end of the night it was me, her, and 4 of her friends. Needless to say it ended up being a total disaster (I probably should have left earlier than I did). One of the important aspect…
/r/askTRP09/02/19 04:08 PM
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I think that's a bit of an extreme example though. Is it possible in some places, absolutely not going to argue with that . I think in most situations though it's far from unlikely (unless some dude is hanging around trying to pick up every woman in the vicinity). A lot of people around here seem to have the sky is falling mentality with the SJW/left. I work in a pretty heavily coddled field and never experienced it. While I have seen guys get in trouble for harassment, it's basically because th…
/r/TheRedPill09/02/19 03:59 PM
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If you don't have access to successful masculine men in your life, you can always turn to fantasy. Look up pre 90s action movies (before Hollywood went full tilt gynocentric). James Bond, Steve McQueen, Sylvester Stallone, Arnold,etc.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 03:51 AM
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A negative view WILL shine through. I understand it, most of us go through the anger phase for a while. Unfortunately a lot of guys never move past it. I love women, I'm grateful for women's liberation, and birth control (unlike the hordes of slut shamers around here, I actually like fucking women without having to marry them). Ultimately it comes down to reclaiming the masculine identity and values that society has lost over the past several generations. Tons of adult men are really manchildren…
/r/askTRP08/02/19 03:46 AM
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It's a process brother. Just be better tomorrow than you are today, there's no need to change the world. I spent most of my 20s depressed/apathetic. It's no way to live, and I wouldn't wish that shit upon anyone. It's something you can fix/overcome though!
/r/askTRP08/02/19 03:24 AM
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Your talk and mine are different then. Cause after I have "the talk" with a woman she knows for certain that I'm never promising her sexual exclusively. Before hand she suspects, afterwards she knows for sure. That's why my MLTR always has her A game on, she knows I spend time with her by choice (not necessity).
/r/TheRedPill07/02/19 06:26 PM
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It's paradoxical because most people still WANT to be monogamous (including a great deal of men here), and try to feign dread. I think a lot of what the OP wrote was completely unnecessary, because if you ACTUALLY have multiple women (and she knows she's not "it") then there's literally no need, none, to put up with any bullshit or nonsense. Dread happens only up until the point where you have the talk..where either she suspects it, or you're lying to her.
/r/TheRedPill07/02/19 06:10 PM
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Get that fixed asap. Most people are intrinsically good at picking up on mentally unhealthy people. Chances are if you were to find women now, they would be equally unhealthy.
/r/askTRP07/02/19 05:46 PM
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When you take any break it's inevitable that you're going to take some losses (in numbers/strength). Like the other guys said keep with the diet, and that's a big part of it.
/r/askTRP07/02/19 05:44 PM
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Actually it's because you have 0 provider potential to her. Basically you're her plate. Older women will fuck younger guys, but tend to keep it just that.
/r/askTRP07/02/19 05:39 PM
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That's just kind of natural, to want to spend time with the one you like the best.
/r/askTRP06/02/19 02:56 PM
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You're entitled to your thoughts and opinions, so put some of them out there (you can use tact, without being taciturn)! Most people aren't going to be too proactive about getting you to talk.
/r/askTRP06/02/19 02:53 PM
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I absolutely agree with all of this. The only thing I have to add is that true self assurance comes from knowing you'll be able to handle whatever shit comes your way. And you don't actually develop that until you've been in some shit.
/r/askTRP06/02/19 02:47 PM
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I don't consider myself to be full TRP, as I don't agree with everything that's said around here. I actually found other manosphere resources before I ever knew about this place. I think it's a more beneficial approach to take the various "good things" from different sources and make them your own. I like a lot of what Rich has to say, and regardless of what happens this is probably the largest community out there (so there's bound to be people that settle on both sides).
/r/askTRP06/02/19 02:41 PM
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Doesn't sound like you're getting shit tested. You said social group girl. So she's flirting with men, not a shit test. Says you can't roll a joint, not a shit test. Doesn't want to take pictures with you, not a shit test. She said you're acting weird, so I think what it is is that you're coming off as incongruent.
/r/askTRP05/02/19 07:09 PM
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No you're kinda misunderstanding the concept. What it boils down to is everyone has their own desires and motivations. Everyone is also intrinsically motivated by themselves. By telling someone what YOU want, isn't going to do you any good. You have to frame it in a way that beneficial to them. Edit: And it doesn't mean you have to actually GIVE them what they want, it's more about figuring out what that is. Most people will actually say what they want when you listen to them. And no it's very d…
/r/askTRP05/02/19 06:53 PM
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Oh believe me I get it man. Really you just have to force yourself out of the house, to somewhere that has people. Not that you even have to spend any money, just get out and interact with the world a little (even if you have to force yourself at first).
/r/askTRP02/02/19 10:24 PM
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If you have valuable skills that ACTUALLY make money, why are you getting some bullshit irrelevant degree? Let me ask you this... Who do you think is MORE suited to teach you how to do something. Someone that successfully does it, or someone that only theoretically knows about it? Would you do better to learn business from a successful businessman, or some guy teaching at a college (and not to say that some aren't in the first category)?
/r/askTRP02/02/19 08:35 PM
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If you keep putting it off, it's never going to happen. There's only one way that you're going to get an abundance with women, and that's working towards getting better with women. A lot of guys around here mentally circle jerk about how they're "working on themselves" while literally taking little to no action in their lives. You create competence by DOING, not by thinking about it. Work on getting some women, and you'll get better at getting women. That also doesn't mean you have to neglect ev…
/r/askTRP02/02/19 08:29 PM
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#metoo, make sure you ruin her career for sexually harassing you.
/r/askTRP02/02/19 08:23 PM
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It's mental masturbation. You should absolutely be working on other things while working on yourself. Having regular sex is going to do more for your mood and well being than reading.
/r/askTRP02/02/19 02:31 AM
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What's your goal, you want keep training strength? Just kind of getting tired of SS and want to switch it up?
/r/askTRP02/02/19 02:29 AM
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People like confident, too cocky is pretty universally a turnoff though. Doesn't necessarily mean you have to change things up, just try to keep an eye on yourself and make sure you're not putting people down.
/r/askTRP02/02/19 02:25 AM
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Sounds like an awesome day out, congrats! From my experience women will usually let the "what are we/where is this going" go on for a while. Just don't talk about it, and she won't either. Just see her. ​
/r/askTRP02/02/19 02:21 AM
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If you're taking her our on dates, and saw her for a month with no sex. She's not an FWB, she's a girlfriend.
/r/askTRP01/02/19 06:54 PM
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As long as the person isn't giving you one word answers...if you're paying attention you should he able to ask a question,or make a statement off of something they said. Open questions are way better (ones where they can't answer yes/no). What class are you in? -good
/r/askTRP01/02/19 06:51 PM
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People pleasing and leadership are opposing traits, so if you were told to stop people pleasing you weren't leading.
/r/askTRP01/02/19 06:30 PM
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Good, there needs to be some voice of reason and common sense!
/r/TheRedPill01/02/19 04:11 AM
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I'm having a little trouble understanding, I used to binge drink myself. Now I definitely don't get drunk on dates (but have maybe one or two). I drink far less, and far less often than most people. Now don't get me wrong I admire you wanting to change, but help me understand it. I'm saying it from a "I'm 100% responsible for my own actions" perspective. As far as where to go not drinking ... Coffee shops, cafes, Mall food courts, etc.
/r/askTRP31/01/19 08:29 PM
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Absolutely this. I'm a little perplexed as to why "in the dark" matters at all.
/r/askTRP31/01/19 08:21 PM
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Sane as evething else... Some do, some don't. I wouldn't worry about what they want, only what you do. If that's what you want, go for it.
/r/askTRP31/01/19 08:19 PM
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Not bore them, more like it shows that the guy is pretty much worthless (if he has nothing greater to value in his life, than her). At least that's my take on it.
/r/askTRP31/01/19 07:47 PM
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MDs absolutely take moral stances and in a great many cases. In no state is medical euthanasia allowed. Many physicians absolutely refuse to participate in various procedures based on various values (abortion, physician assisted suicide,etc). In this case in particular it's a child, who isn't legally old enough to make an informed decision (or necessarily appreciate the consequences of this action). And at least some concerted effort to say "this is wrong" would be a hell of a lot better. There'…
/r/TheRedPill31/01/19 07:45 PM
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Is pretty much a psychological given, that "you can lead a horse to water". Hence this is why people keep repeating the same absolutely idiotic shit over and over. You're never going to convince people of anything, they have to make that choice themselves. You're wasting you damn time. Heroin epidemic is a big mystery right, no it's fucking not. Monogamy is all of a sudden going to work for you, nope try again.
/r/TheRedPill31/01/19 06:42 PM
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No, I agree 100%.
/r/TheRedPill31/01/19 06:19 PM
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Time is your enemy. You're just one of many in most cases. Generally you're getting ghosted cause she's fucking someone else.
/r/askTRP31/01/19 06:14 PM
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Oh no doubt, that's why I mentioned being afraid above. And while it's certainly true that MDs get sued, it's much more of a boogie man than it really is (and some of the medmal MDs ought to be sued into Oblivion). Hell a good amount of tort reform is pushed by corporations to cap damages. As one of my law professors said "there's so such thing as a frivolous lawsuit", many that people think of as frivolous we're legitimate (but propagandized). The courts themselves are quite effective in screen…
/r/TheRedPill31/01/19 05:46 PM
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That's not how vaginas work. You're on the internet why don't you use it to do something useful (like learn about the retarded shit you're worried about)
/r/askTRP31/01/19 05:32 PM
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She's 100% going to leave you for the chump promising her commitment. Just don't be that chump.
/r/askTRP31/01/19 05:30 PM
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Because like you mentioned, a lot of guys make one particular woman their mission.
/r/askTRP31/01/19 05:24 PM
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Dude if only you knew... MDs are some of the biggest blue pilled, value devoid human beings out there. People wonder why their healthcare is so expensive, it's because of MDs being greedy and afraid. They want to take on all these haughty values, but fail to understand them. If intentionally inflicting suffering on another person is an objective definition of evil, we can add that to the list as well. Doesn't matter as long as they get their "office visits"(which in many cases are absolutely unn…
/r/TheRedPill31/01/19 05:20 PM
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If that guy is your competition, you're doing something wrong. I don't consider many other men out there as being true competition. A hell of a lot of guys have total trainwrecks for lives, so it's not even a comparison.
/r/askTRP31/01/19 05:03 PM
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Yeah lots of broke dudes still get women...in their 20s. Once women start to hit 30+ it's much less likely. Well as long as you stick to the above, it's not something you really need to worry about. Remember women tend to DISqualify men. So as long as you aren't broke, you can leave it at that. I don't talk about my worth at all to women because... 1) it's none of her fucking business 2)let her hamster run and create some intrigue This is also one of the reasons my main go to spot is a NICE plac…
/r/askTRP31/01/19 04:20 PM
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Awesome job man, and congrats. Keep putting in the numbers The only thing I would say is don't get caught up in some of the bullshit around here. Not every woman is going to find you attractive, not every woman is going to be open to being approached, or she might be unavailable/busy/whatever. That's just people, and the idea that you are attractive and/or appealing to everyone is idiotic. I'm sure you can remember a time when someone tried talking to you, and you just didn't want to have anythi…
/r/askTRP31/01/19 03:57 PM
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That's the thing, most women do seek beta behavior to some extent. Age is actually a huge factor in this (women over 30 tend to be much more in provider Hunter mode). Also MOST women, once into a relationship, will start trying to betaize you. As far as I know there's really not much of a way to prescreen this. Since SOME of what's attractive about you as a man, is provider potential (such as status, financially successful, etc). Basically there's no way to know unless she throws up a red flag, …
/r/askTRP31/01/19 03:40 PM
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Nihilism IS bad, so you ought to work on laying some foundational values. True nihilism is the endpoint of depression, in my view (and why a LOT of people don't actually understand depression very well). Cultivate some values, and incorporate them into your life. That will help give your life a purpose, and at least point you in some direction. As to how to be content by yourself, that has something to do with your temperament. I'm an introvert, yet most people I interact with would never know i…
/r/askTRP31/01/19 03:17 PM
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Agree with this 100%. Sounds like things ended pretty amicably, so there's really no reason for any kind of drama.
/r/askTRP31/01/19 03:02 PM
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Depends on what it is. With chemical things, it's definitely best to go cold turkey. Your body has a tolerance of a certain level, and it doesn't matter whether it's just a tiny bit below, or none; will trigger withdrawl. A huge part of habit change is mental, that uncomfortable/anxious feeling you may get (if you actually do), is because it's outside of the norm. Weirdly enough motivation help motivation. What I mean is instead of fucking around on youtube, do something you're supposed to be do…
/r/askTRP31/01/19 02:26 AM
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Cause you took too long, and now she's fucking someone else.
/r/askTRP31/01/19 02:17 AM
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That I really can't say. I mean I've not actually studied psychoanalysis on my own, but when I went for therapy (for sever depression) he was mostly trained in psychoanalysis and CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy).
/r/askTRP31/01/19 02:15 AM
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Sounds like a you problem, not a her problem. If you've only gotten off a handful of times in YEARS... well there's something going on there. Might want to cut back on the self service/and or porn.
/r/askTRP31/01/19 02:13 AM
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Lol not a soft next homie, you haven't even taken her out yet. It's a lesson not to do stupid shit before you secured a meetup. She probably thought you were fapping to her pics. ​
/r/askTRP31/01/19 02:11 AM
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Are you her dad, or owner? OK didn't think so, so she's allowed to do anything she wants, even once you're past the "almost relationship" stage. Since you don't have any options, she doesn't have any consequences. When she's your only source of pussy, she holds the power.
/r/askTRP31/01/19 02:05 AM
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I'm in my late 30s (and only match 18-32), and have tried various methods/systems/openers and all of that shit. Really what I've defaulted to ( and have the most success with) is actually just not being a boring conversationalist. Usually a few back and forths, say something along the lines of they seem safe enough, bounce to text, set up meet. Mostly the kind of stuff you're opening with, doesn't really fit my personality, so just doesn't work for me. I'll also be the first person to admit that…
/r/askTRP31/01/19 01:47 AM
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You don't really get that kind of shit through text, you get that through physical interaction. Your sole job through text is to set up a meet, if you pitch a meet and she doesn't acknowledge/answer, she's wasting your time.
/r/askTRP31/01/19 01:37 AM
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I'd recommend a psychoanalyst (or at the very least a Ph.D with psychology). You seem to be doing a lot of things right, a psychologist will help you to get your head straight. A psychiatrist is going to give you meds (without necessarily even addressing the underlying problem). I'd always try the phd, before the MD first.
/r/askTRP31/01/19 01:28 AM
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Talking to people is a skill. Beautiful women are still just people. I get it, I've been there too. First work on chatting up strangers, then you'll get comfortable with that. Then move on to chatting up just female strangers, you'll find you get more comfortable at that. Soon you'll figure out, that your comfortable talking to beautiful women too. Practice makes perfect.
/r/askTRP30/01/19 08:01 PM
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Depression isn't being sad, it's being apathetic. For one thing you probably need to work on getting more sleep. There's a direct link between being sleep deprived and mental health. Any therapist that knows anything would actually be encouraging/supporting you in reaching your goals. Not sure why you think otherwise. I'd advise you to at least given it a go before completely disregading it.
/r/askTRP30/01/19 07:47 PM
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Don't treat the laws, as actual laws. Being manipulative is weak. They're absolutely a good insight into human nature if you get a little below the surface. Starting an interaction is you, going after something you want. Confident men go after what they want, and make things happen; they create their own opportunities. Sitting around waiting in the hopes that some woman is going to open you... Yeah just don't do that.
/r/askTRP30/01/19 07:38 PM
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No it's true... men are MORE logical, and women are MORE emotional. Those things aren't mutually exclusive though (there are logical women, emotional men, and dozens of degrees of difference). Women have a different physiology, because they've evolved to bear children (and that plays a large part). Also keep in mind attraction itself is chemical, not logical. One of your issues seems to be you're having trouble understanding the communication differences between them. Women are much more subtle,…
/r/askTRP30/01/19 06:51 PM
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Nothing happened because you were afraid. She invited you over (cue 1). She keeps trying to get you drunk (cue 2), she wanted to dance (women equate dancing to sex, cue 3). You were given several opportunities there. What have you got to lose, besides your v card?
/r/askTRP30/01/19 06:19 PM
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Well I think there's something to be said about the way you deal with people. Like the example you used... "I don't like what you cooked today mom" Well beggars can't be choosers, and you didn't cook for yourself. So rather than insult her meal, you could make something you do like. "I'm not a fan of X, so I'm going to eat Y instead" is the same thing with different words. And the same can be applied when people want to offer you their opinion.
/r/askTRP30/01/19 05:02 PM
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I think one of the problems with people in general (and certainly here) is that people want a single neat unform theory, where every part is correct, and simple. Life doesn't work that way though. I think JBP has a lot of fantastic info, I think Rollo has fantastic info. I could also go into my criticisms of both of them. My own personal view is that JBP is more of an authority on behavior, and in general has a better message. He also give real practical advice (even if I don't necessarily agree…
/r/askTRP30/01/19 04:35 PM
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Absolutely not there man, that's hardcore covert contract shit. She wasn't there because she wanted to be, that literally changes everything, and makes it a lot worse.
/r/askTRP30/01/19 04:23 PM
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Social media is the realm of women. Men don't need swarms of validation from strangers. Unless you hit a milestone/pr, or were asking for advice, you were seeking validiation from online strangers (woman behavior).
/r/askTRP30/01/19 04:19 PM
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Hard to say because you didn't give a lead in to how she got there. If I had to guess as to why she was uncomfortable. You didn't establish a good initial frame, engaged in some kind of boyfriend behaviors, or were incongruent (words and actions don't match).
/r/askTRP30/01/19 04:14 PM
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Acted like a rapist, nah. Acted like a butthurt beta, absolutely. The pillow thing is a blocking behavior, that means she wasn't necessarily comfortable. Then while she was uncomfortable (which can be fixed), you passive aggressively verbalized. Finally you got all huffy and just went to bed (leaving a girl alone in your house, from my understanding). You didn't give much information as to how you'd arrived at that stage either (where you found her, or how she ended up at your house).
/r/askTRP30/01/19 04:06 PM
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Some of it is genetics. I literally ALWAYS have that discoloration under my eyes (I want to say bags, but that's not really it, it's not puffy, just darker skin), regardless of how well I sleep or whatever. So I know what you're talking about. If you're really that concerned about it, you could go see an MD and see if they can do anything.
/r/askTRP30/01/19 03:56 PM
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By carving your own path, and forgetting about all that noise. Most of what you talked about in the OP is complete bullshit (not factually, but practically), and a diversion that people use to not focus on their own lives. You life is 100% your responsibility. If America imploded tomorrow, life would suck for everyone...but would suck less for me. Mostly because my life isn't predicated on many external factors. Have a vision for yourself, and you'll find most of that stuff falls into irrelevanc…
/r/askTRP30/01/19 03:49 PM
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I think a lot of what you have to say here is great advice. I'm certainly going to try what you talked about with keeping track of your thoughts. Strangely enough, I almost feel like my "inner dialogue" with myself is much much less than it used to be.
/r/askTRP30/01/19 03:40 PM
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Being honest and being abrasive, are two different things. You can certainly be honest without being confrontational. If it's causing you problems and drama, it sounds to me like you need to dial it back a little. Assertiveness is a good thing, unchecked agressive will land you in trouble more often than not. As far as having different opinions/views, we are never going to stop encountering that. Most people don't share our views, and that's fine. I'm not going to waste my time or energy trying …
/r/askTRP30/01/19 02:17 PM
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Find a damn job. Doesn't matter if the pay is shit, you need to be working. All sorts of bad things will happen (mentally) when you don't have a routine, or any sort of work. We men NEED to have some sort of work to do, in order to be healthy.
/r/askTRP30/01/19 02:03 PM
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I agree with you here. From the way I understand it that's what those Omega/purple pill types are. I also think being an "artist" by profession, and an artistic type is an important distinction. I was specifically talking about those types that try to use art as a means of income, and those types are not the kind that are generally successful at life. We also have to be careful not to compare elite vs. normal (like Adam Levine vs. random local band dude). Which is why I still think, it's more of…
/r/askTRP30/01/19 01:57 PM
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I've done both (and definitely enjoy both). Currently I'm back on SL (I really like the companion app). That's one of the downsides of SL, is the longer you're on it, the longer it takes (and especially if you start doing accessory lifts)
/r/askTRP29/01/19 04:57 PM
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Most of us are here because we want to be better men. It's hard to take an honest look at yourself sometimes. Getting rid of/changing the bad, is part of growing. It's a journey man, not a race!
/r/askTRP29/01/19 04:34 PM
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When taking a look at your values, I think it's important to do several things. 1- First and foremost is to determine where that value had come from. Did you actually arrive at that conclusion, or did someone else do that for you? If you didn't arrive there yourself, do you fundamental understand the idea? Any idiot can parrot back words verbatim, but doesn't grasp their meaning. 2- Simply because people consider themselves part of some moral ideology, doesn't mean they ACTUALLY live it. To use …
/r/askTRP29/01/19 03:59 PM
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I think to some degree that's more of a young naive thing. I'd seen a meme a while back, and thought it was pretty funny (but also true). It had something like "girl in her 20s- oh you're an artist (hearts, puppy eyes, etc) Girl in her 30s- oh you're an artist (so you don't actually have a job)." Hypergamy can be summed up as women attach laterally or upwards (they marry/date equal or above socially). While they're young/broke/in college artistic types are equal, a few years later they tend to f…
/r/askTRP29/01/19 03:34 PM
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People chase, what runs away. I'm a believer in being able to work on several aspects of your self/life at once. So if you're arbitrarily passing on women , just because your focusing on your self... I think that can possibly be a mistake. Regular sex is a part of being healthy. I don't see any reason you shouldn't be trying to have sex WHILE primarily focusing on whatever it is you're working on. Now if you're genuinely not interested (they're not cute or whatever)...then best way to handle it …
/r/askTRP29/01/19 03:20 PM
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Who know, it could absolutely be transactional. I had a date, last year I think, and she had a girlfriend at the same bar. Her girlfriend was absolutely shit faced, but was talking about some dude she'd met off of bumble. She basically mentioned he was a nice guy blah blah, but didn't do much for her, and wasn't planning on seeing him anymore. The thing is... She DID have sex with the dude, because he bought her some jewelry.
/r/askTRP29/01/19 02:56 PM
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A lot of people completely misunderstand the "duel mating strategy", it's not either/or, it's both. Women ARE attracted to both bad boys, and providers. Their version of a unicorn is a man that's both, think beauty and the beast (alpha, but tame TO her). The problem is that with provider only tendencies (beta traits) they get horribly bored. Those men aren't fun, challenging, or exciting. Often they'll stick around (at least for a while) because they don't want to take a lifestyle hit. And of co…
/r/askTRP29/01/19 01:52 PM
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I usually feel pretty good, so no complaints!
/r/askTRP29/01/19 11:56 AM
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Don't take women to dinner for dates, just don't do it. With attached women you need to just be aware that there's huge potential for drama and all of that. The way I see it is I'm not breaking any promises to anyone, so it's not my problem. Obviously you don't want to be doing things that can make your life miserable though (so I wouldn't fuck the wife/gf of anyone I personally know, is a cop, get the impression he's crazy,etc). If she's coming out with you, alone.... nuff said.
/r/askTRP29/01/19 01:59 AM
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So the thing is, true abundance is almost impossible to fake. If at some level you ARE invested in the interaction, it's going to creep through. It's also NOT a pass to be a socially uncalibrated retard. It means that if you're in an interaction with a woman, you don't care about the OUTCOME because if things don't happen, well you have some other chick you're going to fuck tonight. When she's handing you pussy on a plate, don't smack the fucking plate out of her hand. You likely blew it, and fo…
/r/askTRP29/01/19 01:52 AM
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100% my experience as well. If they're not showing up, they're not answering the confirmation text. I don't believe I've ever had a woman confirm the day of, then not show up. Unless otherwise stated (like above) the most I'd give her is about 15 minutes.
/r/askTRP29/01/19 01:43 AM
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I'm a big fan of mag, zinc, and D too (but I'm Keto). But I'd read that the combo pills have far less bioavailability, so it's better to make sure they're all separated.
/r/askTRP29/01/19 01:41 AM
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Well I'd definitely make sure it's a Ph.D. in psychology (clinical is probably the best). Psychologists won't give you meds, they're not MDs (if you're in the US). Usually they'll have something about psychoanalysis on their site as to what they do or whatever. It may have something about Freud or Freudian listed. CBT is cognitive behavioral therapy, and is also good. AFAIK most insurances WILL cover it just the same as if you were going to a psychiatrist (MD). There's also people with masters l…
/r/askTRP29/01/19 01:36 AM
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Should I have punched him as essentially although I felt I difused the situation to a degree I backed down without exactly saying I don't want to fight or by running off. Which people do say is the smart thing to do at times but it definelty takes a hit on your ego, hence why I'm still thinking about it. No, that's a crime. Some people are just assholes, and some normal people turn into assholes while drunk. Plenty of dudes will go out and intentionally try to start fights, especially while drin…
/r/askTRP29/01/19 01:30 AM
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100% go see a therapist. Find someone with a Ph.D. in psychology, and is trained in psychoanalysis. There's a lot of shit you can do on your own, but having an expert to help with some of the deeper stuff, will go a long way.
/r/askTRP29/01/19 01:05 AM
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If you pitch a meet and she's interested ,but genuinely busy, she'll tend to offer an alternative (I can't Tuesday, but how about Friday). At most I'll pitch a meet 2 times before I assume she's a time waster/attention whore. Also I have to kind of laugh at 12 hour per day teacher, unless she's teaching,coaching,running the PTA, and 4 other things.... I gotta call bullshit on that.
/r/askTRP28/01/19 11:46 PM
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"Constant sex" is actually the reason MOST men enter into relationships, and likewise most men can tell you that's not actually a benefit. ​ ​
/r/askTRP28/01/19 11:40 PM
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I'll second Dale Carnegie. It's truly a fantastic book! Amazingly those ideas (despite being around for nearly a century) are all but forgotten in most interactions. If you're able to incorporate at least SOME of the book into your social interactions, I think you'll see more success. Along with what some of the other guys are saying.... Skills in general are trained and mastered through repetition, social skills are no different. Of course at first it's going to be uncomfortable, your entire li…
/r/askTRP28/01/19 11:36 PM
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You're asking the wrong question... the root question isn't "which phone" but "do I really need a new phone?". Financial responsibility in general is more about not impulsively spending money, just because you have it.
/r/askTRP28/01/19 11:14 PM
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The thing is... most women even "average" women get fucking swarms of dudes (orbiters,beta males,etc) and tons of attention. Hell even absolutely gross women manage to find dudes (poor desperate bastards, but still). Finding the "sweet spot" for attention is something of trial and error, and is actually different for different women. I've definitely lost my share from being too distant (which is an easier problem to correct than being too needy). Too much is bad, and too little is bad. What you'…
/r/askTRP28/01/19 10:42 PM
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Actually the opposite it sounds like. You can't be "too cold" or she'll basically feel like she's wasting her time. As described it really sounds like she does NOT want to continue with things. While it's true watch what they do and not what they say, you've got 3 clear rejections of intimacy in a row there.
/r/askTRP28/01/19 09:42 PM
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You're in a university, don't think that really applies. (Unless it's some cohort based thing where you have most of your classes together, and will continue to).
/r/askTRP28/01/19 05:22 PM
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Fair enough. You keep being angry, and I'll keep being successful.
/r/askTRP28/01/19 05:16 PM
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I didn't make a judgement either way about women with tats whereas... "On the bright side, they’re literally branding themselves. This way, if you’re looking for an LTR, you quickly and easily know who to filter/disqualify. " I just happened to point out how that assumption is easy enough to disprove in a formal logic sense. I don't think much of it either way, but I wouldn't let something as ridiculous as having a tattoo (in most cases) influence my decision about whether I saw a woman or not. …
/r/askTRP28/01/19 04:52 PM
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I like Rollo's stuff I genuinely do. I take Rollo with a grain of salt in some cases, and here is one of those cases. I think he plays too much to the angry/bitter crowd and kind of reinforces that. Claiming that tattoos are indicative of trauma, has very little validity to back it up. There are myriad reasons both men and women get tattoos (and in SOME societies it was a right of passage, so I'll give him that). Sometimes its trauma, absolutely... Always trauma, is easy to disprove you only nee…
/r/askTRP28/01/19 04:25 PM
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Just cause YOU are repulsed by it, doesn't mean many people are. I'm also not sure why you think it's a masculine trait. People have used adornments, ornamentation and, modification since there have been people. It's nothing new, and it's not going away. You might as well ask "why do women wear earrings, or bracelets?"
/r/askTRP28/01/19 04:07 PM
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I think the emphasis on the laws of power around here is rather destructive if taken verbatim and applied directly. Being manipulative is not something to aspire to, and is usually done from a place of weakness. I'm a strong proponent of integrity though, now with that being said... As to the OP question, you don't need to be forthcoming with every single detail of your life. Most men simply divulge way too much, way too soon. It's true that women like mystery and intrigue. People in general, wi…
/r/askTRP28/01/19 03:59 PM
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That's really not even dread (what option described). Dread is more along the lines of her knowing she's not your only outlet for sex/feminine companionship/whatever. When you're mono you've already failed at that. Basically as described it IS sulking. And I agree with you here. Women are people, and they're there to enrich our lives, a lot of dudes want to treat them like children (in being domineering, which is 100% wrong). Real dread is when she's taking her bad day out on you, and you leave …
/r/askTRP28/01/19 03:14 PM
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First off man, having a stroke at 25 sucks. It's a huge change more than likely, and you're going to have some adjustments to make to both your physical life, and your headspace. If you're asking yourself that question, you're definitely not in a good place right now (that's pretty much the extreme end of scarcity). It's very possible she will leave, not necessarily because you HAD a stroke, but because you're not handling it well. ​ I essentially found the manosphere after an introspective look…
/r/askTRP27/01/19 12:11 AM
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Usually if you hear that line, it's because you blew it during the date. In most cases they won't tell you the real reason (although sometimes you can push for it) but rather say shit like what they're saying to you. Also your behavior may have something to do with it... If you say you're coming off as nervous, then you probably are. I don't connect emotionally with people whatsoever. My personality score for empathy is literally a 0. That doesn't mean that I can't rationally understand other pe…
/r/askTRP26/01/19 11:36 PM
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Lol at the few hour "soft next". You can't next a woman you're not fucking. Hell I'm not even seeing anything you're describing that could even be construed as a date. It sounds to me like you just chatted up some girl through daygame and she actually texted you (then rebuffed when you pitched a real date). ​ Women get validation through attention. She'll willingly keep chatting with you via text with absolutely no intention of actually meeting with you for a date. That's called being an orbiter…
/r/askTRP26/01/19 11:24 PM
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You ought to assume any woman you're seeing, is also seeing other men (because likely she is/was, and is actually way better at being sneaky about it than you). Monogamy doesn't work. If she's at all reasonably attractive, she's figured out already that she can get things out of life with her looks. You could always just ASK her where she gets expensive shit from. If you follow point 1 and have multiple women, you be "putting all your eggs in one basket".
/r/askTRP26/01/19 11:10 PM
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Well that's usually one of the main things that does it (most guys talk way too damn much). But also the fact the he spent the night, and didn't have sex with her. Although in that situation I wouldn't have either (she sounds like she was too drunk), so I wouldn't have gone home with her in the first place, and definitely wouldn't have stayed over. Boyfriend behavior tends to trigger her "make him wait" tendencies. As far as another date goes... I don't typically date women AFTER I've had sex wi…
/r/askTRP26/01/19 05:26 PM
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Rudeness has nothing to do with SMV. I know this is a weird concept to swallow, but not everyone is a nice/social person out there. The world, is in fact full, of terrible people. That doesn't mean you have to be one of them though!
/r/askTRP26/01/19 05:17 PM
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In addition to this.... don't fuck crazy.
/r/askTRP26/01/19 05:13 PM
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I see them as essentially the same thing. Most western men are "nice guys" (I'm using Glover's context), thus most western men are beta males. At the heart of it, it comes from seeking approval/validation from women. (Now where I depart from Glover, and agree with Peterson) Much of this comes from men not having an effective life aim/purpose/meaning. Once you have that foundation in place, you begin to generate your own validation and approval, it essentially then puts everything else subordinat…
/r/askTRP26/01/19 05:03 PM
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I definitely agree with this. Pain is a tool for learning and growing. The only way to truly avoid suffering is isolation, which causes a whole slough of problems in itself. While thick skin is certainly helpful, it is so because most people take things way too personally, and/or care too much about what other people think. The only opinion of me that is important to me, is my own. Personally I don't hate anyone. I don't view it was worth my time/emotional energy to do so. I realize not everyone…
/r/askTRP26/01/19 04:44 PM
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I'll second this. I pretty much always send a text either the day before, or day of with the exact same thing. "Still good for X time tomorrow/tonight". If I don't hear anything, obviously I'm not going to go. From my experience women tend to be somewhat more polite in that they'll flake earlier, or go silent. I don't ever recall ever actually being stood up (in that she no showed after confirming).
/r/askTRP26/01/19 04:28 PM
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Agree with this 100%. Being an adult is acknowledgement, and acceptance of the responsibility and actions of your life.
/r/askTRP24/01/19 06:42 PM
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The first step is Manning up and owning your problems. Your life is the way it is, because that's how you want (or wanted) it to be. Your life situation in most cases, is 100% your fault. The good news is, you can change it too. Change is hard and scary, but you can do it. We as humans (and especially men) are resilient as shit. You can pile mountains of horrible shit on us, and we can still come out on top. Finding yourself a good therapist will help with that.
/r/askTRP24/01/19 05:09 PM
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I'm not so sure you understand the concept of nexting. Nexting is punishment for bad behavior shown by women since attention=reward. Sounds like you blew it all on your own, so it's not a next, it's called a lesson.
/r/askTRP24/01/19 04:53 PM
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Don't get shitfaced while you're at the bar alone. A drink or two is fine, but you're really shooting yourself in the foot if you're trying to game while that drunk.
/r/askTRP08/01/19 04:37 AM
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Find yourself an overarching life purpose to focus your energy and attention on. Absolutely the world is full of shitty things, but it's also full of amazing things too. You sound very much like how I did when I was horribly depressed. Depression is fucking terrible, but you can fix it. Go find yourself a good psychologist, it will definitely help. Yours is a problem of severe apathy, but you're wanting to change/fix it, and that's the key there.
/r/askTRP08/01/19 01:24 AM
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Just practice holding eye contact with strangers. Make it an everyday task (like make eye contact with 3 strangers) to start. You'll have to work on not being timid, but it'll get easier. Another thing I'd remembered reading was to play a game at the store... Like remember the eye color of the counter person. As far as what to say, nothing amazing or deep to start out with. "Good morning" is a start.
/r/askTRP08/01/19 12:54 AM
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Of course good looking men are going to have an easier time with attracting women (not all women, but still). Not all good looking men are confident either though. I was a prime example of that. Growing up I never had high self esteem, and I also didn't through most of my 20s either. Ultimately that's what lead me into self improvement/the manosphere.
/r/askTRP25/06/18 10:59 AM
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I thought it was the other way around. Basically that big Australian study a few years back showed full beards we're more suited to LTRs and the most attractive for flings was stubble.
/r/askTRP20/06/18 01:04 PM
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Yeah most of what was mentioned in the OP seems like complete internet nonsense. While a lot of people get super finicky about air, it's really not that much of an issue. Typically it takes about 20cc of air IV to cause an air embolism (which is quite substantial, and probably at least several times the size of a T syringe).
/r/askTRP19/06/18 10:54 AM
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It's been a while since I've seen one TBH. But the last one I watched had to do basically with Siberian reindeer herders (was probably on NatGeo or something similar). I'd have to venture a guess it probably IS lower, because I doubt they have the existential crisis of those in the west (their lives not having much underlying purpose).
/r/askTRP19/06/18 03:12 AM
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I'm a fan of the concept of learning from those that are ACTUALLY successful in a particular field, rather than some academic that just wrote a book on it. I know I'd rather learn about business from a successful entrepreneur, over taking business classes in college.
/r/askTRP19/06/18 03:08 AM
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ADHD is largely bullshit. Most of it is an after the fact diagnosis, and almost exclusively tailored to young boys/men. IMO it's a large contribute to the feminization of young men (boys need to be more like girls, so let's medicate them and say being energetic is bad). I was told I had it when I was young, and go figure I have my life more together today than probably 80% of people. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/suffer-the-children/201803/is-adhd-real%3famp With r…
/r/askTRP19/06/18 03:03 AM
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There are still various indigenous people that live like that. I've watched probably a hanful of documentaries, so they do allow outsiders too, to some extent. As far as practicality... Most westerns would probably starve to death. I doubt you could drop your typical white collar Westerner into nauture and expect them to thrive.
/r/askTRP19/06/18 02:43 AM
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Nice work on getting to 10%! So the thing is SMV is kind of like a whole package deal. It's a combination of game itself, inner game, and outer game. You're starting to get your outer game going. Have a decent physique, but noticed in the first pic you're still wearing kind of a baggier shirt. Outer game is going to be appearance, grooming,style,etc. Put some work into some of the other things. Regarding online dating, it can be pretty rough. A lot of those women are just out for validation, so …
/r/askTRP18/06/18 10:00 PM
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Flowers, and Steel.... I like it! Awesome analogy there!
/r/TheRedPill18/06/18 09:53 PM
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Machines aren't "ideal", but if you can't then you can't. Do whatever you can like what was already suggested. Absolutely don't use a smith machine though!
/r/askTRP18/06/18 09:36 PM
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Could be a T problem, could also be mental. Sometimes some mental health issues can cause massive libido problems. Seems like you're doing all the right things there, but it could still be "in your head" so to speak.
/r/askTRP18/06/18 09:34 PM
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Only after you've fucked her a couple of times.
/r/askTRP18/06/18 03:18 PM
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That's not asking for the talk, basically you'll know when that is (she will constantly bring up the relationship). I'd not even respond to that, and just pitch a next meet as your schedule permits.
/r/askTRP18/06/18 01:55 PM
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Swimming is fine if that's what you want to do for leisure. Lifting is primarily to retain/minimize muscle less while cutting (or build it while bulking). So I wouldn't stop lifting unless you already have the physique you want.
/r/askTRP18/06/18 01:49 PM
1

Depends on how far back you go for classical. I wanted to read Paradise Lost for years, finally got it, and couldn't stand it. Same with Don Quixote (didn't hate it, but wasn't very engrossed with it).
/r/askTRP18/06/18 03:54 AM
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Yeah I'm in part 3 now myself, and trying to incorporate as much as possible. It's truly amazing how well he understood human interaction, and really how few people today actually bother with any if it.
/r/askTRP18/06/18 03:52 AM
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After I finished my MS I'd briefly considered looking into PhD programs, but I was also considering trying to get into academia. As far as going for it I'd say the 2 biggest things to consider are.... 1) Do you really want and NEED it (which you kind of hinted at no for both)? 2) Can you do it for free/get paid? Most of the programs I was looking at had fellowships which had a tuition waiver+living stipend. About a year or two after I finished grad school I was invited into their "inaugural doct…
/r/askTRP16/06/18 01:52 PM
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I'll agree with this. You certainly don't "owe anybody anything", BUT this is definitely asking for drama. If anything she'll break up with the beta before long and then it's fair game (in that case I'd still probably wait a little while to make sure no drama).
/r/askTRP16/06/18 01:31 PM
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So I agree with the late thing, but I usually keep it to under 10 minutes (usually between 5-10). 15 can be kind easily be considered rude. I don't use a 1 date model for a couple of reasons. Mostly cause I don't stay up late, and those go late. If anything I'd say you're triggering a lot of buyers remorse by doing all of those SNLs. That is, that they're into you during the date, but over the next couple of days they hamster that "I'm a slut" or something along those lines.
/r/askTRP16/06/18 01:26 PM
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You don't verbalize dread, you show it. In any case was that a pub crawl type night out, were all of those bars in close proximity? Seems a little weird that she showed up a t 3 different bars that you happened to be at.
/r/askTRP16/06/18 01:20 PM
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One of the reasons for 4 months with BD is because it's an assumption that she's actually DATING someone else. If she dumped you for whatever reason, then it's probably because you handled the relationship wrong. The reason is 2 fold, to show you're not needy, and because you don't want to try to get with a chick that's in NRE with her new boyfriend. LSNFTE is Long Soft Next For TEMPORARY EXCLUSIVITY. If you're following his system (which you're not) you're not promising her monogamy, and what's…
/r/askTRP15/06/18 11:22 PM
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You're already in her frame, if you're considering agreeing to a relationship before sex. Her "really wanting to be with you" but not having sex with you, means you triggered her provider side (make him wait/BB).
/r/askTRP15/06/18 11:11 PM
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Pretty much. OP is unfortunately not handling this with OI. When people make remarks to me (jokingly or not), I genuinely don't react. I couldn't give 2 shits less about the opinion of some random.
/r/askTRP15/06/18 07:05 PM
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I'm on board with this. While I follow the rule of 2 (that you can only really work hard on 2 areas of your life at one time), I definitely think you should always be gaming. While that doesn't have to be your MAIN focus (that can be on self for sure), it's easier to have improve yourself while getting positive feedback.
/r/askTRP15/06/18 09:38 AM
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Yeah social media is basically meant for women, in that it's generally quick and easy validation. As far as in person it's still a little weird for me, but like below said maybe I'm just noticing it more (people basically pining for approval). FWIW I'm pretty non reactive to it, or kind of treat it like a shit test.
/r/askTRP15/06/18 09:27 AM
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Don't shake a woman's hand, ever (on a date at least)! You're not there to be friends or business associates. Now that being said the easiest way to initiate kino is by positioning yourself in a way that's natural. Sitting across from her, makes it VERY difficulty to kino. Always sit NEXT to her if you can manage (at a bar, couch, whatever). If you're not used to touching people, at first it might seem kind of weird. After a while you'll get used to it, and it will become much more natural. Hand…
/r/askTRP14/06/18 09:52 PM
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BD's system is all about getting to sex as FAST as possible, with as little bullshit as possible. That being said if you follow his system, it's typically a 2 date (with 2-3hours total spent before sex) system. I'll say as a student of BD's it fucking works! Now you did some things wrong, but that doesn't necessarily mean that you killed your chances. If anything shoot her off a text and pitch another meet (preferably at your place, or wherever logistics permit having sex). If she doesn't respon…
/r/askTRP14/06/18 09:44 PM
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Man's purpose can be whatever he wants it to be. With that being said some men care exceptionally about having kids, while others don't. Someone had mentioned in a thread I hadn't read too long ago about both Newton and Tesla being celibate. They've given far more to humanity than 99.9% human beings have through procreation. You absolutely CAN carve your own path in the world, to whatever purpose you want (obviously not everyone will leave a mark on history, but typically your progeny will be ju…
/r/askTRP14/06/18 09:37 PM
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I believe regular sex is part of being a healthy man. I've certainly gone through my phases where it's not one of my main priorities (and I don't think women ever should be). Even to the point of being somewhat indifferent about having sex. In any I still haven't gone longer than a week or two without having sex within the past year. I tend to not do ONS. Rather I enjoy ongoing, but also have a "thrill of the hunt" side still. Despite the fact I don't believe long term monogamy works, I do think…
/r/askTRP14/06/18 09:32 PM
1

It definitely sucks to take a hit on investments! I for one like to play it a little more conservatively, but that's just me. You can still learn something from that however, in that potentially lucrative investments are also more risky.
/r/askTRP14/06/18 09:23 PM
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I've been running into this a LOT myself lately. If anything I actually see it as a form of them qualifying themselves. The last tinder date I had sent me a snap before hand asking to approve of her outfit. I'd told her "wear whatever you want". I don't ever compliment women before I've had sex with her, and once we met up she's mentioned about how i didn't say anything at all about her looking "cute as hell". She continued fishing for compliments pretty hard throughout the date, which I of cour…
/r/askTRP14/06/18 09:21 PM
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So the biggest thing with failure is being able to learn from it. Why did it happen? What would you be able to do differently that would result in it being successful? Without failure, there's no REAL growth. Sometimes those reasons are beyond our control, and sometimes they're not.
/r/askTRP14/06/18 11:02 AM
1

You're whoever you want to be. Fantasize about the ideal version of yourself, and become him.
/r/askTRP14/06/18 12:44 AM
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"I don’t deserve the attention and end up getting in my head because I expect them to ‘find out’ that they’re out of my league." What's this nonsense? Women are people, and they like what they like. So why is it an issue if they're giving you attention? With that attitude you're almost certainly going to sabotage anything, before it even gets going. For whatever reason you think you're not worthy of the attention of beautiful women. Spend some more time working on your inner game/self talk.
/r/askTRP13/06/18 10:41 PM
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It's actually typical, and covered elsewhere in the manosphere. "Casual" relationships tend to have a time limit on them. Most women will only allow you to go a certain amount of time before wanting some kind of commitment. Read this: http://www.blackdragonblog.com/2016/11/21/women-leave-return-several-lsnfte-case-studies/
/r/askTRP13/06/18 10:04 PM
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You my friend, are still suffering from some hardcore social programming regarding race. You have the image of "what a black guy should be like" stuck in there, but that's not you. You're your own man. You're living your life how you WANT to, and that's the best possible thing you can do. When it comes to what other people think....."fuck em".
/r/askTRP13/06/18 11:04 AM
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I don't go any shorter than no guard. I trim my chest, and junk usually. Getting an ingrown hair on your junk can be kind of scary (I thought I'd gotten an STD once, turned out to be an ingrown hair)!
/r/askTRP13/06/18 11:00 AM
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I for one, like boomerangs. So I'm going to go against the conventional advice here and say, it's fine to talk to an ex after no contact..... BUT you have to have done some things right (both before the breakup, and especially after)....However it looks like in your case you managed to not do those things right. Your response looks like you're begging for validation. She didn't send mixed signals, you basically killed the interaction. You're doing way too much talking. Really all the more you ne…
/r/askTRP13/06/18 02:14 AM
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They're not all necessarily "damaged" per se, but have several practical problems... That demographic is definitely almost exclusively provider hunting (IE searching for someone to lock down with what sliver of sex appeal they still have left). Many are post wall and have hilarious expectations. The other problem is that (and this ties in with point 1) is that they often talk about "chemistry". You'll hardly ever hear women under 30 talk about it, and what it means in womanese is that their Schi…
/r/askTRP13/06/18 01:52 AM
1

"NEXT"
/r/askTRP13/06/18 01:41 AM
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Nexts work. Soft nexts are a punishment for whatever reason, and if you're actually attractive/doing things right; they absolutely work. Women aren't stupid, and know what's up. If a soft next doesn't work (doesn't curb whatever it was you nexted her for), then a hard next might be worth considering. Hard nexts are the same as ghosting, and they work every single time (unless you have a crazy chick). It's permanent. I've had several women start blowing me up with texts and messages. Now I only h…
/r/askTRP13/06/18 01:39 AM
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Seems odd that it sprang up so fast, usually I thought they needed time to rationalize how buyers remorse=rape. In any case man, I wouldn't mess around with "former" vitamin H users. That's just asking for all kinds of bad shit in your life.
/r/TheRedPill12/06/18 10:58 AM
1

I'm currently reading this, couldn't agree more!
/r/askTRP12/06/18 10:51 AM
1

I usually give evasive answers, but could see how it's easy to screw it up. I also don't talk about myself too much, and will redirect back to her.
/r/askTRP09/06/18 12:32 AM
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Yes, men are "fixers". I think most of us by nature want to try and right the wrongs we see. Unplugging like most other human behavior though, has to be a conscious choice. Some of those choices are much harder than others, but truly making that choice (and owning it) is really the only way.
/r/TheRedPill08/06/18 09:31 PM
1

I think you're trying to measure yourself against other people too much. Basically you need to figure out what it is that YOU want. What would make your life fucking awesome, to you? I've stopped comparing myself to other people, and only compare myself to my former self. That is, I'm a better version of the ideal me, than I was a couple of years ago. If people don't like my choices, well that's fine; it's my life not theirs.
/r/askTRP08/06/18 09:19 PM
1

I like the phrase... confidence comes from competence. Rather I view confidence in relation to a specific skill, it's not necessarily all encompassing. Self assurance is, and while often used interchangeably I view them somewhat differently. Self assurance to me, is more about knowing I can tackle whatever life throws at me, and liking the man that I am. Confidence on the other hand... Well I feel confident in my ability as a conversationalist. Think about it this way... The first time you ever …
/r/askTRP08/06/18 09:13 PM
1

Most women love to talk about relationships. Once you're on the topic of that, it's easy to bridge to sex.
/r/askTRP08/06/18 06:27 PM
1

Maybe if it turns out to be a bigger lesson type thing I'll make a post on the main sub. As for right now I'm not giving too much thought to it.
/r/askTRP08/06/18 03:25 PM
1

Buy his book (it's only 10 bucks) and/or read his blog. IMO it's a very effective system. There's a lot of TRP overlap in that it's about getting your own shit together, but there's emphasis on some different things.
/r/askTRP07/06/18 11:07 PM
1

I've always thought Krav was pretty legit looking. It's kind of rare around here, or I probably would have checked it out a while ago.
/r/askTRP07/06/18 11:04 PM
1

Social skills are at the basic level still skills. And the great thing about skills are that they get better with practice! You know what you need to improve and that's a huge first step.
/r/askTRP07/06/18 01:32 PM
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She is NOT a coworker, I know better than that.
/r/askTRP07/06/18 01:09 PM
3

Well that's the tricky part isn't it? Honestly one of the reasons I posted here is cause I feel like I'm in a tough spot. I have a high demand skilkset (and a lot if experience), and could have a job within a week if I left. I'm where I am because I genuinely want to be here. I'm not one to hold animosity towards someone, it's really not worth it to let someone else have an impact on me. I think if go to a chief about this, it's going to be viewed as a "personal issue", and ultimately make me lo…
/r/askTRP07/06/18 01:08 PM
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It's not even a matter of that. Basically it's that in my line if work I need to have basically an unmistakable trust that my partner has my back (which I now don't). Its a very different kind of dynamic, that I don't expect civilians/non responders to understand. More or Iess I expected "better" of him.
/r/askTRP07/06/18 12:28 PM
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Yeah I've already made that decision, that I'm just going to keep everything surface level. And I'm not worried about her at all. I've been going back and forth about whether or not I actually want to talk with him about that. In all reality it's not going to do much good, and Im not sure I want him to know he "got to me" so to speak.
/r/askTRP07/06/18 12:25 PM
4

There's definitely a "sweet spot". I've certainly lost some people due to too little I think. In that regard I text a little more often than for just logistics. Usually they text me, but if it's been a few days I'll ping them for a few back and forths (usually no more then 2-3 replies on my end). I've been told by several plates that "you're a terrible communicator/texter", but they've never said no when I wanted to get together.
/r/askTRP06/06/18 01:53 AM
2

That, and women are just flakey. Some random dude is literally the lowest priority on her list (below feeding cats, billy beta, and spending time with gram). If she ghosts while farther along, then there might be an issue to troubleshoot. Like the others have said, it's just a numbers game.
/r/askTRP06/06/18 12:36 AM
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One shouldn't make the whore into the housewife. One of the things I think is super important regarding open relationships is properly choosing your LTR. I think a lot of guys go about this the wrong way and end up picking the whore. I think the "possibility" is the main thing when it's the man opening the relationship. IE Above, he get's his variety, she COULD have it too if she wants it (but is almost certainly less likely to act on that). She might have the occasional FB, but she's probably n…
/r/TheRedPill06/06/18 12:28 AM
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This is largely my view as well. It's pretty obvious around here that manogamy is a dangerous game. I've had several LTRs when I was younger, that I very much loved (and wanted to marry and all of that BP, Disney shit)...however, I still always wanted to fuck other women too. I kind of worked out on my own that love and lust were two different things, and there's actually research out there, and advocates of non-manogamy in the manosphere to back it up too! Oddly enough it seems like guys around…
/r/TheRedPill06/06/18 12:22 AM
2

Any rigorous strength routine is effective for cardio. My resting heart rate is in the 50s, I smoke, would rather eat a bucket of shit than do "cardio", and I'm in my late 30s. I only lift, but I lift heavy and take adequate rest time.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/18 07:15 PM
1

I hang out with mine for a little before/after. No sex no meet, no dates, no sleepovers. Minimal texting.
/r/askTRP05/06/18 07:00 PM
5

I use the "you're my first" line quite a bit too. Or sometimes I give the semi honest answer of "I don't keep track".
/r/askTRP05/06/18 06:22 PM
3

Because doing boyfriend shit put you into the provider category. It also creates the (false) sense of a more serious relationship, which is going to inherently lead to drama.
/r/askTRP05/06/18 06:19 PM
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But that still doesn't solve the root problem of boys being raised to be girls (basically). Society at large needs to recognize that men and women are inherently different (which it doesn't), and almost all social programming is geared towards the feminine imperative. That's hobestly in my opinion, why there only going to be more mass shootings, suicides, and gender fluidity problems going forward. They essentially all going back to the idea that "masculinity is bad" and essentially that boys sh…
/r/TheRedPill05/06/18 02:39 PM
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Exactly, and that's why the reason tradcon utopia idea of the 50s is a bit of a fallacy. The entire West is doomed in that socially, it just keeps getting more progressive. Until entire societies adopt the view that individual choice/actions=consequences, it's not going to change. Its not a problem with sufferage or emancipation per se, but rather the lack of consequences for stupid decisions.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/18 02:33 PM
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Why are you still orbiting? You said it yourself, you're not going to fuck her anytime soon. It's a pretty easy situation to handle, because any woman you're interested in.... is likely fucking another guy. Any reasonably attractive woman has options.
/r/askTRP05/06/18 10:11 AM
2

The thing about online game is that it's online.... There are a TON of women just looking for validation, with no actual intent to meet. I've used online a source for about a year. Dozens of dates, a few plates. Couldn't tell you the number that blocked/disappeared when I pitched a meet. If you pitch a meet and they don't respond or answer without acknowledgement, next. They're just there to chat/get validation.
/r/askTRP04/06/18 07:20 PM
1

By having an overarching mission for your life. Something that gives your actions meaning, and your life purpose.
/r/askTRP04/06/18 07:09 PM
1

Yeah I've looked into Meetup before, and it all seems pretty niche. Literally 80% are super specific topics (CS type, Christian women's book club, people with BPD). While the rest are generic outdoorsy type of things. It's definitely tougher when you're older!
/r/askTRP04/06/18 06:23 PM
1

Long term as in years. While I don't think it's the BEST way to try and bulk, people do. Ketogenesis happens if you're in ketosis. Your body doesn't produce excess ketones after a while, it just doesn't dump as many (essentially get more efficent with their usage).
/r/askTRP04/06/18 03:37 PM
1

I agree with a lot of what else you've said, but have to definitely disagree with keto just being a tool. Many people absolutely use it long term for various reasons.
/r/askTRP04/06/18 01:32 PM
1

I posted something along these same lines the other day. One the responses really gave me a lot of good options to look at. https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/8nzxea/mens_fashion_resources/e00sdxr/
/r/askTRP04/06/18 10:11 AM
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