42F requesting a profile review!

CSM_Pepper · 2021-09-19T22:26:22+00:00

Karen haircut, 42, shoulder tattoo, admits to one arrest at a "peaceful protest", insecure "(this height) if that matters".

Verdict: She better get with Bob from Accounting while she still can.

Gefan27 · 2021-09-19T23:06:02+00:00

I don't see anything amiss with her self-description. She seems rather nice.

The fatal flaw, I think, is her objective.

"I'm having some difficulty connecting with the kind of guy I'm looking for" [italics added].

She's forty-two, pleasant-looking and sounding but not discernibly remarkable. If her hypergamy is still dialed up to 6'5" pediatrician / broker / entrepreneur of her own age, though she's shit outta luck.

ringseller · 2021-09-19T22:08:13+00:00

over forty women: "I'm struggling to attract men for an LTR"

also over forty women: "the wall doesn't exist"

BANTTIMMY · 2021-09-19T23:06:40+00:00

Over 40 means there is no reason for a man to split his resources with you.

My advice is to get a time machine and go back before you got tattoos and marry your highschool/college sweetheart..

Land_of_the_Losers · 2021-09-19T22:24:13+00:00

I've spent a weekend in county jail in my 20's

Whoa, check-out Miss Solzhenitsyn over there.

imdaad_khan · 2021-09-19T22:50:39+00:00

maybe some guys are intimidated by you?

More like guys are unwilling to deal with you and your BS

akahige26 · 2021-09-20T01:04:35+00:00

It's always the fault of men being "to intimated". Fuckin LUL

slipkid223 · 2021-09-20T00:27:32+00:00

"Unimpressed by displays wealth" = You need to be wealthy, then impress me.

"Spent a weekend in county jail" = I am raging Liberal and will browbeat you with my insane Left-Wing ideas.

Thinks tattoos are "meaningful" Shorthair, Karen style.

All the info/red flags are there. Proceed with caution

Bob_and_Virginia · 2021-09-19T22:37:54+00:00

Stopping to pet random dogs is a good way to get bitten. You can't always assume that people train their dogs.

Buchwild · 2021-09-19T22:37:20+00:00

I'd be willing to bet her previous profiles say she's 28 and she's not sure why because she's 42, teehee

sleepyweaselisawake · 2021-09-20T10:47:33+00:00

When they no longer get easy matches they're "intimidating" not "aged out of the dating pool."

It's sad women refuse to face reality.

Eadgun · 2021-09-20T01:14:48+00:00

Women “I’m too intense or intimidating to men.”

No, you’re either not and too boring, or you’re an absolute bitch and not worth men’s time.

That’s not intimidation or intensity. That’s called a lack of a personality and/or social skills.

mustangfrank · 2021-09-20T01:18:33+00:00

WTF does she offer than a blown out pussy? She is looking at 50 straight on and has no money. Also, a heightist at 5'9", i.e. you need to be 6' for no logical reason. Who cares ? But she cares.

NakedlyStripped · 2021-09-20T01:33:09+00:00

Honestly her profile is a lot more interesting and original than many of the female profiles that get posted here.

Selfmade_3127 · 2021-09-20T05:11:22+00:00

stopped reading at 42F

Overkillengine · 2021-09-20T06:07:43+00:00

19 ❌ (In fact she is getting close to menopause)

Virgin ❌ (I doubt she is one at her age or she'd mention it)

Debt Free ❓ (But lets be real its probably ❌ )

No tattoos ❌

Let's see, I calculate her match on a scale of 1-10 of all living and available men would be around a 2-3.

Better marry that fat boring accountant asap, cupcake. It's not going to get any better.

NupeRanger · 2021-09-19T22:27:10+00:00

Posted in wrong sub. Should have been in the Over Forty category.

Sake99 · 2021-09-20T03:24:32+00:00

It simple sweety, men look for age first. The train left a long time ago for you.

Aldabruzzo · 2021-09-20T14:53:11+00:00

You look too masculine. You come across as too masculine. You need better makeup to make you look more "girly". You need more photos of you smiling broadly. Get rid of any pics of you doing anything athletic. Play down your height at 5'9". Mention it and then say that it doesn't matter to you at all.

You need to pretty up - wear dresses. You need better makeup and a better hairdo. You look too manly and too severe. Smile. No pics of you on bikes or in athletic clothes. Dresses, skirts, conservative clothing.

DO NOT talk about going out on political protests or spending a weekend in jail. That's man stuff. Men don't want to date other men with breasts. Do not talk about wanting men who are "interesting in their views, goals, and strategies". That sounds like you want a debate sparring partner, not a man to love.

Don't talk about your "meaningful tattoos". It would be better if you had none. But now that you have them, I don't want to be less important to you than the ink on your skin.

Don't talk about wanting a man with a "morbid" sense of humor. You should not be using words like "morbid" in a dating profile. You know what "morbid" means? It means abnormal, diseased, pathological. Are those things that you really want in a man? Could it be because... YOU are "abnormal, diseased, pathological"?

Best advice: You need to put your dick away and look and act like a feminine woman. When men say "intense and intimidating" about women, they mean you're unfeminine and unattractive. They don't mean that you scare them. They mean they're not attracted to you and they don't want to deal with you. When men describe you as "intense and intimidating", that's a "nice" way to say "I don't want to date you, I don't want to have to deal with you, I'm not attracted to you, and I don't want you".

Good luck.

MrMcpizzza · 2021-09-20T03:21:40+00:00

This women appears to me to be a really boring basic woman trying to pretend to be special, she is not going to attract the 6’6 Forest Ranger with her corny ass bio.

gfgdhj5784yu8 · 2021-09-20T01:03:41+00:00

I could enjoy her for a few nights...... I think.....and then?

Then the novelty is over and any investment in time or money is going to be with a much newer version of her. 40+ is the age when they really start going batshit crazy- no thanks!

Her profile is what it is.... the question is will she accept the reality of what she deserves?

linux_user__ · 2021-09-20T10:26:14+00:00

Ex-Hippy / SJW liberal in her youth who kind of went more modest/calmed down over the years but still has that urge buried deep in her soul which is why she can't settle down. Probably no kids and never married, low quality eggs remaining so she will probably not have kids in the future either, and if you want to marry her now you might want to rethink that. At best she is looking for a betabux "friend" who can take care of her financially and have a sort of stable life, but I doubt she won't cheat on you.

Joaquino7997 · 2021-09-20T10:51:53+00:00

I'm having some difficulty connecting with the type of guy I'm looking for

That's because she's got her head so far stuck up her own ass that she's getting high on her own farts.

Vikingbeard1 · 2021-09-22T03:09:30+00:00

For the most part, I see less "red flags" and more "basic bitch". There is just absolutely nothing here to interest a dude beyond not being the ugliest woman on the planet. She chose "most meaningful tattoo" as a prompt--how fucking boring do you have to be to choose that (unless you have a tattoo from when you were 19 commemorating your mom after she was kidnapped and murdered, or some such)? Most of her phrasing is just woo.

The big red flag, to me, is the protest bit and saying "I truly love people"; she's woke. She's still bringing up how she went to a protest, undoubtedly over something stupid, deliberately ignored lawful orders, and then was, gasp, arrested for her illegal behavior! It can't be illegal when it's MORALLY RIGHTEOUS, can it? And saying "I love people" is a red flag to me; good, decent people love their family, their friends, their community, their country, while self-righteous jerks love "people", the amorphous concept of humanity (but only the parts they deem good, of course). This is because actual, specific persons whom they love are rare as hell--somehow, everyone in their life becomes an emotionally abusive psychopath within a few years of meeting them, she's totally not the common element in all of those breakups and broken friendships! So they only love people in the abstract; in reality, no one loves her catty ass. And thus she supports all of the "for the people" causes that shit all over actual people, personal agency, human rights, etc.

Delifier · 2021-09-20T07:46:48+00:00

Her age of 42 should be reason enough to be sceptical enough. If a guy of the value she wants has put off a family until he's financially stable, she is simply getting old enough to make it hard to even get a kid into her. She's probably looking for clues of financial stability, and enough of it, regardless of what she's saying, but those guys her age are going for and getting a lot younger.

Old_snowboarder · 2021-09-20T12:20:37+00:00

Ah the old 'perhaps men are intimidated by me' routine. Listen honey, men are not intimidated by women. That excuse probably means you're an insufferable bitch.

HeftyAdministration8 · 2021-09-20T14:11:34+00:00

Trust and freedom go hand in hand.

So she'll give her heart openly to a man and not be suspicious of who he sees or what he does when she's not around.

Wait, that's not what she's saying?

Eventually I want . . . But that's far down the road.

Honey, you're 42. There is no "far down the road" for you.

HeftyAdministration8 · 2021-09-20T14:25:18+00:00

To do a literal profile review: you're still not focused on what you bring to the relationship, or why a man would be interested in you.

"Warm hearted and kind with a morbid sense of humor" isn't a bad start. Do you want to watch horror movies together and laugh at them? Do you feel like you missed out on being a mom, and want to help raise a single father's kids? You want a man with "interesting views". Okay, so Trump supporters are your thing? (Not with that haircut . . .)

But I can't shake the feeling this is all a cover. The things you want from a LTR man ("interesting views, goals, and strategies") are so vague as to be useless. The important things about you: you're 5'9", have a tattoo, and spent a weekend in jail. That's a Party Girl vibe.

Hunk_Maggot · 2021-09-20T10:51:21+00:00

42

LTR means to create a traditional oriented family, so you are kinda late for that, also you are old so you screwd yourself thinking that you can get something good now granny.

Spend a weekend in a county jail in my 20´s

YOU ARE SUPPOSE TO ATTRACT MALES,NO PROBLEMS, THAT'S NOT SOMETHING YOU SHOULD FEEL PROUD OF.

Trust and freedom

You mean open your relationship? why would you like to be in a LTR if you gonna fuck up open something so "precious" to you like polygamy? trust is something you earn it and freedom... welp you are free, people who are free are alone so i dont understand what kind of relationship is this woman looking, free but not so free, and good night texts?

djc_tech · 2021-09-20T13:52:39+00:00

She overall seems nice and good natured. She might hook a divorced guy looking for a company, although most divorce males I know have kids and she doesn’t. So she’ll have to deal with being a second class citizen in a relationship.

It’s hard to see what she’s looking for, but chances are she’s looking for a 6’5 rich athlete or something like that. Thing is no guy who is a type A and active is going to go for a woman like that.

djc_tech · 2021-09-20T14:04:30+00:00

“Intense and intimidating”. IE and insufferable shrew who raises her voice at people she disagrees with. Possible control freak.

NoonTimeHoopsMVP · 2021-09-20T22:22:47+00:00

She is aging, non-traditional, claims she doesn't care about wealth (which means she likes money), morbid sense of humor (not a selling point), doesn't like actual hiking (forest is code for local park), and a list of demands.

There is nothing there for any man to desire.

Ornperius · 2021-09-20T23:30:08+00:00

I don’t understand what is wrong here, yet my gut is telling me something is…

ringseller · 2021-09-20T23:59:17+00:00

For some reason I thought OP was the person in the profile and was wondering why they signed up for these nuclear levels of roasting. Never reddit when you just roll out of bed.

eyedrinkbathwater · 2021-09-20T09:06:20+00:00

Not the Karen haircut!

CrackLover420 · 2021-09-20T18:34:09+00:00

Tbh profile isn’t too bad. Obv if her hypergamy is dialed up to 11 she’s SOL.

Itburns12345 · 2021-09-21T12:30:33+00:00

What is it with women of that age getting shorter hair to make themselves uglier?

NickTesla2018 · 2021-09-21T00:29:43+00:00

Cleveland Steamer stamp of approval. : (

IsraelWentFullMGTOW · 2021-09-22T09:58:16+00:00

"not impressed by morbid displays of wealth"....riiiggghhhhhtttttttt

Justnotherthrowway98 · 2021-09-21T00:29:45+00:00

Eh, I’d date her. I’m probably not the guy she’s looking for, but why not? She seems fun and way more interesting than any of the “looking for my Dwight” girls.

The amount of incels on this subreddit is alarming. Just because she’s older doesn’t mean she’s any less valuable than other girls that are younger.

meerita · 2021-09-27T10:02:08+00:00

I love how she deceives people with absurd requirements: "a man who stops to pet random dogs". I mean, there are million of men doing that, she should be married long time ago if she has that requirement.

The reality is she just wants a pacified alpha male that has bipolarity: he's a jerk when she wants and he is pacified when she wants it too. You know, the impossible man. An oximoron.

braucifur · 2021-09-27T16:31:12+00:00

I'm not picking up man hating from her. Main thing she should do is grow her hair out more and maybe not list the reason for her arrest not because of the arrest itself but if you admit on your profile you used to go to protests that may be offputting/geeky to some. Even if it was awhile ago. Other than that not detecting anything too off. Maybe a pic or two with others/friends as if they are all of her alone might hint to a loner.

vanillapopsicle · 2021-10-29T08:13:58+00:00

Am I the only one that finds these types of profiles useless? Forests and protests and cool stories and petting random dogs? It all just seems so superficial. And I’m not trying to insult this woman, she could be very nice, and I can tell she put a lot of effort into it. This question is more for men.

For men, does this do anything for you? Like who gives a shit about random dogs and forests and jail? Can you cook? Can you make a nice home? Why do you have to pretend you don’t want a relationship? Are you kind to a man? Are you soft and welcoming? Am I the only guy that finds the type of shit women talk about here pretentious, overly calculated, and completely unappealing?

Aside from that, nice looking woman and she seems relatively sweet. Obvious red flag question is what she was doing for 24 years if she wanted a relationship, and most men will assume she was fucking around.

Title	42F requesting a profile review!
Author	ringseller
Upvotes	157
Comments	121
Date	September 19, 2021 9:56 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen
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