Older does not mean wiser and they always use the "she's such an old soul" bs

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-12-08T16:05:21+00:00

Wait until she figures out the truth.

They may be dumber than her but they have more experience in manipulation and life. She's getting played but thinks she's the one on top.

Aocwannabe · 2021-12-08T16:18:11+00:00

Also, you know why younger men love “older women”?

They have no clue how old we are.🤣Majority of men do not look good after 25-30. We wear sunscreen and are under tremendous pressure to maintain our appearance so especially as we get older, there are always more attractive women than men. So many men flirt with me and don’t know my age or think we are similar in age because of how THEY look. I’m 39 but the other day I was flirting with a man who I thought was the same age as me. He was 32.
Men are confused when they talk to me because of my references and life experiences. They ask how old I am and it’s never stopped a single man from trying for sex. And guess what? They are doing the same thing to women their age. Most men in ANY age group are playing games to get sex. I think they just realize with an older woman that the expectations are higher and we see bs quicker.
I ❤️ that the younger generation of women might be waking up to the fact that you do NOT need men to “like” you. As you age, you realize that you can be a bitch and good men kinda like it because a “bitch” is a woman with boundaries- which our society brainwashes us NOT to have. You realize that men pursue, have sex and marry women that they do not like. And that male validation has practically no value.

samedinuitmort · 2021-12-08T16:11:58+00:00

On top of everything already said here, I’ll add that a man who needs to date a much younger woman is certainly not the brightest bulb in the pack…

unbelyevable · 2021-12-08T15:52:28+00:00

I just spat my food. Age does NOT equal wisdom. In fact, the older people get, the less they can fake it too. 😳😅😂

BBQCoolRanchQueen · 2021-12-08T16:08:24+00:00

Right? Those are the types that have a decade or two (or 3) on the women/underage girls they chase and still haven't figured shit out. I used to date at an age gap 🤡🤮 and they threw in that "old soul" and "very wise for your age" lines, then later used the "I'm older so I'm smarter/wiser than you" bullshit. I asked the last age gap creeper I dated near the end of the relationshit if that was why he dated women who didn't have their brains fully finish developing because his brain never made it out of his senior year in highschool. I was 27 when I realized older single men are usually NV trash and that they're not a safe bet for loyalty and stability, but an outright lie fed to us by society. They're single for a very good reason. Women their own age won't put up with their shit. Those women are the older and wiser ones.

riseaboveagain · 2021-12-08T16:52:14+00:00

So amusing when men say “mature for her age” as a justification for an age gap. If they cared so much about maturity, they’d date someone their own age

BedazzledSwashbuckle · 2021-12-08T18:01:34+00:00

This terrifies me to see. Older does mean wiser, for all intents and purposes, if you're talking about street smarts and the ability to read people.

Netflix has a documentary on Jeffrey Epstein that should be mandatory watching for teen girls who date older men. It's woman after woman after woman who thought she was smarter than this "old coot" who would "pay hundreds for a massage." Decades later, they're middle-aged women still processing the trauma they experienced. He wasn't any of their tickets out of poverty or their town. He never intended to be. He got what he wanted from them and they didn't get any of what they wanted from him ... other than the few girls who turned p1mp for him and now face federal charges and prison time themselves.

He's surrounded by men - from gardners on his estates to the most powerful lawyers in the world - designed entirely to keep these girls from having any power over him while he extracts what he wants from them.

Any child under 18 or young adult under 24 who thinks they can outsmart a devious man with decades of experience and a society that props him up ... is wrong, unfortunately. Epstein didn't spin his wealth or network out of the ether - he's a common man in a world full of common men who wish they had done what he did and were happy to pay him well to indulge them in the fantasy that they themselves were Epstein.

I don't know why this is so hard to get across to young women and find it heartbreaking and frustrating.

lansburysoda · 2021-12-08T17:45:41+00:00

Tavi Gevinson has a great article about this in The Cut.

Taken from the article:

If teen girls — or young women — are encountering adult men socially, they are navigating norms and expectations that were built to rationalize men’s behavior. They are not inured to power imbalances or how power may complicate consent. They are not historically taught to leave a sexual encounter the moment that it becomes violent or to subordinate men’s desires in favor of their own pleasure or safety. They are taught to be responsible for the actions of sexual predators, who receive a vast margin of plausible deniability. When I’ve met 18-year-olds in the last couple years, I have been struck by the fact that even if someone is precocious, it is their youth that makes them precocious. If you can still be considered “mature for your age,” you are not an older person’s equal. This observation can easily go from an act of respect to license for harm.

Zurflu · 2021-12-08T18:43:52+00:00

This reminds me of how some sugar babies like to say they're "scamming" and "outsmarting" the older men by receiving money and gifts from them. Until one day they realize their time and attention was worth way more than what they were paid for it. You have to remember the house always wins. These old scrotes are trading a $500 purse for something so much more priceless and valuable, they're the ones outsmarting you.

SakuraGirl88 · 2021-12-08T17:24:11+00:00

My last bf was the same age as me, but I was dating a guy who was older than me and once the honeymoon stage wore off and I realized he was a control freak I lit outta there. He said he thought I looked older. Dating someone older does not mean he's wiser, smarter, better looking etc. Most if not all the time dude's a predator. And she said a decade?! No ma'am.

Pryras · 2021-12-08T18:11:10+00:00

I met a 40 year old man once who didn’t know the word “misogyny”

Like he asked me twice as if I was speaking in tongues

rengokusmother · 2021-12-08T16:34:34+00:00

Lol yes omg one of the main reasons (besides obviously being creepy) why men go after younger women is because women of their own age bracket don't fall for their tricks and can see right through the shit they plan and imply. It's way harder to fool and manipulate a grown, capable woman who's well earning and doesn't need him than it is to manipulate women who just got out of school and are yet to experience all major life changes that adults do post college and degrees and sort of have a tinier view of the world. Grown women often don't give a rat's ass about these men and the ones who do are either financially dependent or pickmeishas.

Sage_Planter · 2021-12-08T16:59:17+00:00

My last two boyfriends were ten years older than me. After I ended things with the second, I drastically re-evaluated my acceptable age ranges.

The amount of baggage these men bring to relationships is astounding. No benefit they could possibly bring outweighs it.

Needless to say, current boyfriend and I were born in the same year.

alphasquish · 2021-12-08T20:03:13+00:00

I think this also applies to those of us that are 35+. I’m in my early 40s, and the men I’ve dated over the last couple of years have been 50-55, and they have literally all been totally fucked in some capacity. They don’t get wiser, they just get more comfortable in their own shittiness because it’s worked for them for 50+ years. Taking a break now, but will not date over 50 again while I’m in my current age bracket.

preppykat3 · 2021-12-08T20:26:18+00:00

I’ve never seen a point unless he has money and is generous with it. Otherwise I REALLY don’t see the point. Like what do they get out of it??

Title	Older does not mean wiser and they always use the "she's such an old soul" bs
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