27 y/o Single Mom has been dating for years and is ready to settle down. Where are all the good men hiding?

warlocc_ · 2022-01-19T02:22:31+00:00

"No one around 30 wants to get serious" = "none of the rich, good looking men I think I deserve will commit to a used up single mother"

HedgeRunner · 2022-01-19T02:24:35+00:00

I find it amazing that in every single women subreddit the women constantly complains that men don't want anything serious and never ever disclose how many men they got matched with.

My theory: if a girl is getting 50 matches a week and still gets pumped and dumped, it's because they love it not because they want someone serious.

SirLoose12 · 2022-01-19T02:33:02+00:00

"The men never want anything serious" is an odd way of saying "I don't offer anything they want."

thisisnotyourconcern · 2022-01-19T02:21:59+00:00

There are plenty of ways to meet men, that's not your problem.

The problem is finding one who wants to be serious with a single mother.

WeRAllOnThisBlessedD · 2022-01-19T02:58:19+00:00

Women need to understand something about single men who are in their late 20s or 30s. They’re either:

1) Busy working on their career, which means they don’t have time for a relationship

2) Just got out of an LTR, which means they mainly want to hook up and maybe, possibly get a relationship

3) Just got put through the meat grinder that is divorce court (this especially applies to men in their 30s), and want nothing to do with women except have sex with them

They just don’t get it. The good men they claim they want are either wandering aimlessly in her friendzone or they got married in their 20s to an actual good woman. Unfortunately, too many women don’t have the foresight in their 20s to realize this, which is why they end up in their 30s and 40s single, miserable, surrounded by cats and boxed wine, listening to true crime podcasts, and posting Instagram selfies trying to convince everyone that she’s actually happy.

BeholdTheHair · 2022-01-19T02:40:49+00:00

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1500minus12 · 2022-01-19T03:05:05+00:00

Funny how these posts never start with I’m a young attractive virgin and…

vegasbadboy702 · 2022-01-19T02:09:53+00:00

Lol… so now as a 27 year old single mom she’s wanting a man who is serious. Well isn’t that just fantastic. I mean not like that might not have been something to require before having the kid. Heavens no. By the phrase “I’ve done OLD for years…” you just know she got pregnant from someone off OLD aka Chad.

Sadly the problem for her isn’t going to be meeting men but rather finding a man who wants to marry a single mother.

cautionTomorrow555 · 2022-01-19T03:18:36+00:00

Single mother means you are only going to get people interested in sex because all the serious people or hot and rich guys are not going to date a single mother. The serious guys are not going to raise someone elses kid and only want to raise their own. Maybe if you had given good guys a chance when you were younger and they were not yet successful you might have had a chance, but now? Too late! While you were off getting shot up with some losers baby batter they were off working extra hours at work to advance after being told you were not interested.

TexasMilitia · 2022-01-19T05:33:23+00:00

Many moons ago I was on Match.com. Actually matched up with a real girl who was really cool. After a few weeks we decided to text. She complained about many of the same things, i.e. many men’s lack of interest in assuming responsibility for her children, the expense of babysitting, etc.

In a rare burst of pseudo-beta dumbassery I offered to either include her children on a dinner date OR pay for her babysitter for an evening, her pick.

A week later she “breaks it off” because her friends say I’m too “desperate” and it’s a red flag.

A month after that, she suddenly texts me asking why I didn’t “try harder”. I explained that after her red flag behavior I’d rather kick her in the crotch than put my dick in it.

I finally had to block her cuz the crazy wench would. not. leave. me. alone.

Fuck online dating. I’m currently in a happy relationship with my motorcycle.

Impressive-Cricket-8 · 2022-01-19T03:57:02+00:00

Is this why there are not that many women in STEM fields? A lack of comprehension of Newton's third law? For every bad decision a woman makes, one fewer good man is left standing.

KangarooCrapper · 2022-01-19T03:58:28+00:00

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CarpAndTunnel · 2022-01-19T02:48:46+00:00

Where are all the step daddies?

thatgood23211 · 2022-01-19T06:40:02+00:00

Correction: they don’t want any serious relationship with you.

Imagine applying, for jobs, and you never get any job offers. After seeing lack of success, it would be a good a idea to take a critical look at yourself from the perspective on the hiring manager.

However, that force someone to look at themselves, and be critical. A little effort goes a long way

deckran · 2022-01-19T07:14:32+00:00

Someone has to really drill it in their heads that 1) being a single mom is going to be a burden to any man (RP aware or not) 2) OLD is primarily for hookups as most serious guys there have left after seeing 0 success and 3) men in that age range are either invisible to them due to their unrealistic standards or have too many options and can just pick and choose who they want. We talk about this kind of stuff here and elsewhere but we are shamed and called names. Unless women are willing to listen and understand, situations like the above will continue to become more common.

CoachPRIPecho · 2022-01-19T05:48:32+00:00

Lol i think i see this slut over at fds garbage. I go there time to time for shits and giggles. The wall is real loo

Flashy_Glove6208 · 2022-01-19T06:45:21+00:00

I've done OLD for years

500+ Ds mileage, gross !

ilovewahmen · 2022-01-19T06:02:12+00:00

No jokes answer: join a club for a hobby you like. Supress your resentment at every step by comparing your current partner with 10" chad thundercock who would blow out your back every weekend. If you ever feel like you're "settling down", take a dose of reality and look to your past at all the men who used you and disrespected you. Nothing else to be said.

CuckedIndianAmerican · 2022-01-19T08:38:47+00:00

She offered to many ~~men~~ Chads everything they wanted: easy sex

While she offered the Chads the easy sex, she wouldn’t even offer a cup of coffee to the stable, honest Melvins.

Ironic she’s wondering “where all the gud men at” when there are plenty of nice homebody Melvins. But she doesn’t want any of that.

NoFaithInThisSub · 2022-01-19T10:13:07+00:00

we've never been hiding, we've always been invisible to you.

dividendje · 2022-01-19T14:19:36+00:00

Where da atms at, I mean good men at

Joaquino7997 · 2022-01-19T14:51:12+00:00

Where are all the good men hiding?

They're not hiding - they're in the friend zone

Typo-MAGAshiv · 2022-01-19T11:51:03+00:00

and the men on there never want anything serious with me

FTFY, woman.

2022-01-20T15:20:33+00:00

The real problem with online dating, in my experience, is wasting hours sending messages back and forth with people who just waste your time and never actually meet.

I've also had women get weird because I refuse to put photos of myself online. "But I've been stalked and blah blah blah..."

I guarantee she, like many others only has bad experiences because she's made bad choices. I've got $100 she chased MuhBadBoys and got burned.

Drag_On66 · 2022-01-19T12:30:29+00:00

If you look amazing you can get anyone, so before you go in the dating world work on your mental and physical and you’ll be fine

Title	27 y/o Single Mom has been dating for years and is ready to settle down. Where are all the good men hiding?
Author	sleepyweaselisawake
Upvotes	263
Comments	166
Date	January 19, 2022 1:49 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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