Any tips for first night out alone?

Curtis_Low · 2022-02-15T19:56:18+00:00

Go to your fav spot, or go try a new spot you have always been interested in. Indulge in what you want. If you feel odd eating alone sit at the bar. I do that when I go eat alone and I don't drink. I can mess with my phone, or not, people watching is always on the menu. Eating alone is sometimes nice to just sit back and truly relax with yourself. No conversation to hold, no expectations other than a great tasting meal.

bacon-wrapped-steak · 2022-02-15T20:32:32+00:00

Being alone is perfectly fine and normal. You're a human being. Other people are human beings, too. They have feelings. You have feelings. You have interests. They have interests. Talk to them. If they're unfriendly, ignore them and try talking to someone else. Just be personable. 😉 You've got this, brother!

LonelyNC123 · 2022-02-15T19:58:05+00:00

Just do it. I am still married but this marriage is the loneliest I have ever been. I do things alone all time. Just go do it, you will be fine.

MomentSpecialist2020 · 2022-02-15T20:02:01+00:00

Sitting at the bar is the easiest way. Have fun, enjoy a great meal, then go for a short walk. Enjoy the feeling of freedom.

folie-a-dont · 2022-02-15T20:02:12+00:00

Go for it man. No one at the bar cares. Sit your ass down, order a drink and start chatting with whoever is there. Or, just sit in silence and enjoy your drink. Resist the temptation to stare at Reddit on your phone. Last time I went to a bar by myself, a barfly introduced herself by telling me her back door was open for business. I didn't verify it was unlocked, but you never know where your night might take you.

Sashaband · 2022-02-15T20:25:16+00:00

what about going to see a movie by yourself. Seating is usually capped these days because of covid so you can be by yourself but it will be dark so you won't feel singled out. Everyone will be watching the movie anyways. Grab some nice treats for yourself and forget about the world around you for a couple of hours and enjoy a nice movie.

OO7Shay · 2022-02-15T20:46:09+00:00

There is nothing wrong with eating alone or being alone. Don't get into your head too much. People watching can be fun.

JohnnyMnemo · 2022-02-15T22:52:32+00:00

Have fun. Try not to fuck the first thing that crosses your vision. I think you'll probably be tempted.

hhhhunterrrr · 2022-02-16T03:57:24+00:00

Even dating or married...go out alone. Treat yourself. Taking yourself on dates is daunting but it gets real easy and real fun after the initial hump.

I'm a former industry guy, worked restaurants for years. Some of my best friends (literally) are guys that came in solo.

Date yourself. It's a lot easier than dating someone else and it's good practice for the "real" thing.

Gattsama · 2022-02-16T15:07:07+00:00

Hey man. It's ok. Part of that fear and anxiety you feel is thinking about how others will see you. No joke, they won't and don't care :) Nearly everyone is focused on themselves, their are some judgement people out there, but most people will just see you, acknowledge you are alone and then return to their own lives.

Social anxiety can be really serious. And it sounds like you are limiting parts of your life due to it. No one here is a therapist but try to keep putting yourself out there. Once you do, you'll notice that people just do not care. And many will be actually supportive.

Be safe

wesley3212 · 2022-02-15T19:56:21+00:00

It is scary, but also liberating. Being alone sucks, but that means there is also opportunity. I’ve been alone for a while, but my kids were young so I never pursued anything. Now that they are older I’ve joined some dating apps just to meet new people and potential relationships. I’ve seen movies by myself and had a couple of beers at a watering hole by myself, it does get easier the more times you go out by yourself. You just have to put yourself out there. I recommend, if you are up for it, joining a club or dating app. At least you will meet people and go from there

Best of luck

DarthLaterz · 2022-02-15T21:12:56+00:00

Shower, dress decent, smell nice. You'll go home with numbers.

playerknowmore · 2022-02-15T21:05:32+00:00

The art of enjoying one's self; is the one fundamental things parents don't think to teach. Which is strange because it is the single most important thing one must learn for relationships. In most Reddit relationship communities the most singular commonality is people fear being alone. So much so; they cling to relationships that are bad for them.

For me it is loving yourself so much that you only allow people in who add value. It eliminates the people who are there only because what you bring. It also allows you to cut off people who don't respect your value. You can love a woman as much as you can love another person; but never as much as you love yourself. I know it seems like a selfish way to live life, but it simplifies life in such a way that you remain open, but ready the moment someone is not worthy to cut them out.

The most foolish thing someone can say is; I love my spouse more than anything! The smart answer is "I love my spouse as much as I can love anyone, but me.

Stonks4sport · 2022-02-15T23:22:14+00:00

I used to travel some for work, and with nice meal stipends, so I would end up eating at some pretty good places by myself. At first, it felt weird, and I would spend a good chunk of time looking at my phone to avoid the awkwardness. But, as time progressed, I found myself looking at my phone less and less, and just enjoying the meal.

One trick worth mentioning would be eating at a bar. People notice a solo person much less when they are spending time at a bar, as others are usually nearby. May end up striking up some conversation that way too, if you were interested in doing so.

jalopkoala · 2022-02-15T23:46:10+00:00

As an introvert this post befuddles me. At a restaurant alone! In peace!? Jackpot.

Good luck on your adventure tonight. Update with what you ended up doing.

pegleg_legal · 2022-02-16T03:57:30+00:00

You're not a mom. Your kids need you more as they age. But they're busy growing up and making their way. Just be there and make some time to talk and ask about their lives.

john917474939283 · 2022-02-17T04:27:09+00:00

Yeah man just go and force yourself to go out every night if you have to. You'll get in a few adventures. I knew no one around here. After the wife left and it was not my kid week id just go out, even if it's one drink. Force yourself to do that much. You get use to it

Title	Any tips for first night out alone?
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Date	February 15, 2022 7:47 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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