Just venting / sharing. So moved out in Oct, filed Feb 1st. No kids and simple finances. Everything is 50/50, just need to sell house and pick a nunber for spousal support. But she keep delaying and delaying, and no surprised got a lawyer. So she's a stay at home house wife with no kids, I'm a full time physican. I have been giving her money every two weeks but no agreement / temp order. I was cool with that when I thought an amicable uncontested divorce was likely. Since that's less likely just dropped the payment a bunch and per my lawyer will either wait for her side to request temp support, or make it part of our initial offer.
I'm still prepared to move forward with the same generous offer as before. But now will have the lawyer write up, present to her lawyer and then figure out next move. Ultimately just seems like a waste of time and money. But it's within her legal rights. I'm not surprised or upset. Just want to get the home listed by May to take advantage of this housing bubble (best friend just sold his condo for 12% over asking).
The only real point for debate is spousal support. Everything else will be 50/50. So hopefully can resolve things quickly. But far less likely now. If miss the home bubble that's life I suppose 🤷♂️🙄 But then this will just drag on for over a year (court date is 1/3/23 but they are backed up and will likely order mediation first. Which will be the same offer as now). And right now could sell house in 1 week, who knows how long next year 🤔
But actually really glad I got to speak with my lawyer and review the case. Very reassuring. Their are no kids or complex finances. So all the STBX can do it delay the inevitable. And I'll lose money (have to pay for current home, bills and life expenses for her) but will get a partial credit against spousal support. And I am setup at my new place (rental). In fact, I'm doing better now then when together. Going skiing (first time in 17 years), BJJ, biking, running, home weight set, flying (private pilot), gaming and calling up old acquaintances I had lost touch with.
Anyway, nothing major just wanted to vent some. Appreciate the group / forum. Hope everyone is doing well on their journey 🙏
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