Random rendezvous renders real relationship rough, royally relaxing rectitude . Romeo's romance reverts rapport regarding roommate; reassurance required.

Impressive-Cricket-8 · 2022-02-21T02:27:23+00:00

Maybe she'll dump the fiancé. Maybe she'll settle for an affair with the old flame. It doesn't really matter - in the end, somehow it'll be his fault for not doing enough for her. He didn't take her dancing enough times, he didn't really care about her, he wasn't there for her when she chipped her nail, he picked the wrong colour for the $500 scarf he got her for Christmas, he didn't help enough at home - and should've gotten more hours at work to pay for her dream vacation. She deserves more.

Buchwild · 2022-02-21T02:44:19+00:00

I feel bad for the fiancé, he's only engaged and the situation looks grim.

TheUnspecialist · 2022-02-21T05:16:32+00:00

She already referred to her fiancé in the past tense. More detail was given to how good she felt about this guy that was bad for her than her fiancé. She even gave this guy a clearer overall description than her fiancé. That fiancé needs to get outta there ASAP!

Goldmansachs3030 · 2022-02-21T03:09:27+00:00

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Bob_and_Virginia · 2022-02-21T03:43:24+00:00

The fact that she even had to ask these questions say a lot about her.

mustangfrank · 2022-02-21T15:16:27+00:00

I'll give serious advice to this woman.

Yes, this is normal. The way you avoid this is to do the following:

--no more girls nights out. A married woman does not act like this. A married woman does not do "girls nights out".

--no more going to bars without your fiance. A married woman does not act like this. A married woman does not go to places where pickups and casual sex start, without her fiance/husband.

-- you go total no contact with your ex. No contact means NO FUCKING CONTACT AT ALL. It means you get rid of every item you own that reminds you of him, including gifts, clothes, photos, and mementos. It means you don't talk to him. You don't talk about him. You don't talk to anyone about him. You don't go looking for information about him. You don't check out his social media. You don't ask his friends about him.

Delete and block is your new mantra. Delete and block him from all social media. Delete his contact information and block him from contacting you. Block every possible avenue by which he could contact you. And you don't try to contact him in any way, at any time.

--If you ever do run into him, you exchange pleasantries and cordialities and that's it. You do not engage him. You do not converse with him. You do not talk with him, you do not catch up with him, you do not socialize with him in any way, shape, manner or form. You sure as fuck do not drink with him or dance with him. You are not friends, acquaintances, or buddies. You are not even on speaking terms except to be polite. You are exes. You do not talk to him at all, ever, for any reason.

If you run into him at a bar, you leave. If you run into him at a public place, you do not say hi unless he says hi first, and then you say hi and you excuse yourself as quickly as possible. If you can leave the place without causing a stir, you leave. You do not make a scene. If he makes a scene, you leave.

--You sit down with your fiance and you tell him everything in that post. You show him that post up there and let him read it. Hopefully, he breaks up with you and leaves you alone, and finds someone who is sexually attracted to him. In the likely event he does not, then you have a second chance.

--You sex up your fiance whenever he wants. You fuck that guy whenever he wants and you let him do whatever he wants. You give him whatever he wants, when he wants, how he wants.

Since I know you won't do any of this, good luck on your new single life. I hope you enjoy your ex's pump and dumps.

hornetsfalcons12 · 2022-02-21T02:43:46+00:00

Hey, the bad boy can also provide! Have at it, alpha widow

Anonymous_fiend · 2022-02-21T04:18:08+00:00

Those sparks and butterflies are the bodies way of saying red flags...it's adrenaline, danger, and anxiety. It's why romcoms where so much unnecessary drama are viewed as romantic. She has real love right now but it's not enough. She wants the perks/sparks of uncertainty and the comfort of familiarity...fried ice. If she leaves him for this fling bc tingles it'll end up being her biggest regret. He treats her too good and she resents him for that. She's the type to cheat after marriage/kids when she gets too used to her husband and takes him for granted.

Flashy_Glove6208 · 2022-02-21T08:48:35+00:00

This sub preaches the gospel,

Vet her PAST, the PAST matters.

If she was into bad boys, had a hoe phase, she can never be happy with a good man.

They get damaged early on these days, 23+ is a huge red flag. Used to be 27+, not anymore.

18-23 vet her Las thoroughly.

workalt2020 · 2022-02-21T05:08:53+00:00

Whenever people say alpha widows and the tingles aren't a real thing I think of posts like these.

If only the guy getting disrespected and drained of his time and money could see it too..

fantasticfantasy69 · 2022-02-21T05:39:31+00:00

This is SO f’d! No matter what you do (this guy according to her own words is good looking and successful) a lot of women invariably make poor life decisions based on whimsy. SMH. Then cry toxic masculinity (applying it to ALL men when it only applies to the type of men they choose) and WAATGM...it’s no wonder the situation between the average guy and awalt seems (and maybe is) untenable... I’d like to think she’ll do the decent thing but come on. At the very least she’ll try to monkey branch while the fiancé thinks he’s got a waifu...

Disastrous-Ad1334 · 2022-02-21T08:29:40+00:00

The Alpha widow returns to her original chad . She'll break up with the fiancee then when her original chad is done with her she'll expect the fiancee to take her back. Hopefully he's moved on with his life and rejects her advances.

This is why nowadays you don't get involved with those you work with plus you open yourself up to sexual harassment charges . Whether the relationship is consensual or not because the woman is always to be believed .

New_Wrangler3335 · 2022-02-21T04:15:48+00:00

Honestly just staying clear of women in general is the safest bet…. Majority if not all women are awful people

Marfi09 · 2022-02-21T13:01:12+00:00

Straight up horror story. A nightmare for young guys out there. This type of post kinda makes sense why blue pills ignore and hate us. Ignorance is bliss for some.

Goldmansachs3030 · 2022-02-21T12:49:26+00:00

This is whats happening nowadays in not-so-feminist, sorry, not-so-progressive open-minded countries. Go to Tinder, have that job and money due to quota, blow your mind throughout 20s, and then get a man, live by fleecing him and then finally severance pay for that shit show of marriage that came about because she lied.

PLEASE LEAVE THAT STABLE, SMART, FUNNY, GOOD-LOOKING GUY. LEAVE. FREE-DOM.

YOU GO GIRL, YO GO QUEEN, DUMP THAT NERD AND GET BACK WITH YOUR CHAD(yep, chad is also relative).

Better get hit right now than hearing in his 40s from her this shit.

umockdev · 2022-02-21T12:57:58+00:00

She did nothing wrong in terms of actually physically cheating on her fiancé, but a smart woman wouldn't even put herself in such a situation in the first place. If something were to happen between her and her ex she could always use plausible deniability to say that 'they were just talking'. Teee heee.

That's why you as a man should not tolerate a 'girls night out'.

Boar_excrement · 2022-02-21T09:45:14+00:00

One of the worst lies a woman can tell: "I love you."

SeriousMannequin · 2022-02-21T13:42:18+00:00

Nah, she's done.

The bar is much lower for the ex-boyfriend, she's gonna go back to him as long as he's not a fat slob or in jail. Face it, even if the ex-boyfriend was in jail, that probably adds extra points for him.

Especially now he's a in her words, bit successful businessman, she wants that tingling feelings back and it'll always be on her mind.

See when they asks questions like "how do I realign my feelings" means she is weighing the pros and cons right now and tallying up all the points and features of both of them. She needs convincing to stay with the fiance and she's making the correct choice, but instinctively and mentally she is already gone back to the ex-boyfriend.

2022-02-21T15:07:20+00:00

He asked me to dance and I figured it wouldn’t hurt anything so I did

Now switch places here and imagine if the fiancé met up with an ex girlfriend and started dancing with her. Wonder what this banshee would say about that.

To these women, it’s all about passion. Women have to *feel*. Even if you’re her husband of 20 years, if she’s bored with you then her mind will start wandering. She’ll start thinking about that boyfriend from high school. She’ll start thinking about that athlete she fucked back in college, or that good looking guy at the office that all the other women are crazy about. It’s a simple but brutal fact of life that you have to be on your game all the time with women - and even that’s not a guarantee things won’t go south.

if so how do I realign my feelings…..

Again, all about feelings. She doesn’t think for one second that “hey, I’m headed down the path to cheating on my future husband, I need to focus on him because he’s supposed to be my world now”. There is no logic, there is no reason. Only emotion.

ialwayslurk1362354 · 2022-02-21T06:59:11+00:00

What are some warning signs to know a woman is like this? Just look for the standard alpha-widow ones?

2022-02-21T15:29:34+00:00

I just want to say one more thing.

Example 654,852,591 of how women marry men they're not sexually attracted to, and how they are MORE sexually attracted to the guys they fucked back in school than they are to the men they marry.

To all the people who tell me this never ever ever happens, ever:

FUCK OFF.

I FUCKING TOLD YOU SO.

That is all.

Fancuku · 2022-02-21T10:49:14+00:00

Last night I went out to a girls night

Poor bastard is already doomed. Hope he comes to his senses and cuts off this leech.

Cristoff13 · 2022-02-21T12:28:31+00:00

In songs, "dancing" commonly means "had sex with". Does this apply here too?

Aboredgoat · 2022-02-21T13:31:02+00:00

I don’t get it. Do the women in these posts just not feel horny often enough to recognize it for what it is? Just because your body is saying “we should fuck that guy” doesn’t mean it’s a good idea and doesn’t mean you should read into it. It’s so ridiculous to get one tingle and contemplate throwing away a stable relationship.

Overkillengine · 2022-02-21T15:52:27+00:00

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OddBelt987 · 2022-02-21T16:26:14+00:00

How do I realign my feelings to where I actually start to feel that spark with my fiance?

You don't, because "sparks" are fleeting. If you were to pursue HS boyfriend, those "sparks" would dissipate eventually as well.

What you do is honor the commitment you made to your fiancé. Love is not a feeling, love is an action. You choose to love the person.

If you can't do that, break it off NOW.

I run into my HS GF every so often. We say "hi" and briefly catch up. And yeah, the next few days I feel a little off and am hit with random "what if???" thoughts. But it passes. I choose not to dwell on it, because it won't lead anywhere good.

rickmackdaddy · 2022-02-21T14:29:56+00:00

Banging the ex on the side in 3, 2, …

swaggyquack · 2022-02-21T15:23:07+00:00

What a cunt

Throwaway90618 · 2022-02-21T15:46:23+00:00

Notice how she just has to mention how successful the ex is. Its as if it she uses that to help justify her inevitable desicison

OwenWentFullMGTOW · 2022-02-21T17:05:58+00:00

Last night I went out to a girls night

Mistake #1.

Saianna · 2022-02-21T19:40:17+00:00

i find it kinda funny how she just had to mention ex has good job xD

I can bet a fat dollar, that if he wasn't as successful with his job, the spark wouldn't have lift off. But now that she knows he's a solid branch, it'd be a shame not to grasp it for some monkey boogaloo :D

jasonmonroe · 2022-02-21T13:23:26+00:00

This is called primal attraction. She has more chemistry w/ her ex. That’s who she should be w/.

y2kbadbug · 2022-02-21T17:00:34+00:00

I'm curious if she left out any details after that.

unshak3n · 2022-02-21T17:32:53+00:00

Just think that the fiancé did everything right. He is a top notch. And it worth nothing for woman... if the ex wanted, they would have sex that night. And woman, off course, "never once felt guilty". That's woman nature. Sorry for the guy.

Lameador · 2022-02-21T09:22:32+00:00

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2022-02-21T20:13:20+00:00

How do you prevent this? Think further than one foot in front of your face. A true simpleton.

Also gents, another friendly reminder….NO GIRLS NIGHTS OUT. NONE. All it takes is one and we see what happens.

Wide-Illustrator2906 · 2022-02-22T11:59:58+00:00

Guys really need to understand that offering women stability and commitment is a sexual attraction and desire killer for women. Women crave and desire uncertainty and unpredictability. It's what turns them on the most. This woman is reminiscing and craving that edge of your seat feeling her ex gave her when they smoked weed and partied all night, she could care less about the love and understanding her fiance has given her over the years. It's all about the anxiety, doubt and butterflies she gets when she's with her ex. She more than likely already slept with her ex a d is just looking for affirmation from reddit on leaving him. The moral of the story is.......DON'T BE THE STABLE AND COMMITMENT GUY.

NoonTimeHoopsMVP · 2022-02-22T19:06:55+00:00

These stories display why western society is falling apart. The fiancé followed the societal playbook. He played it the right way and it all means nothing since Slutty Susie ran into Yearbook York.

Her behavior used to be discouraged by society. Now it is applauded. Yet folks wonder why men are opting out of the marriage market. Men marry for love. Women marry for resources.

qtyapa · 2022-02-22T14:09:45+00:00

I hope the girl gets balls to break up with him instead of ruining his life.

vtec__ · 2022-02-25T05:18:08+00:00

this is why you gotta snatch them young. you're never going to be that guy from her youth or whatever. most women have a guy like this in their life

orntuborg · 2022-02-24T02:51:26+00:00

I'm going to go out on a limb here and point out that this kind of physical reaction is really common. Once you smell someone that meant something to you, the smell triggers a lot of physical memories. Hug a hot chick that uses the same perfume as your grandma and tell me I'm wrong. I once hugged an ex-girlfriend 10 years later and once I smelled her I had the same 'travel back in time' feeling. Fucking weird.

But the sad part is, it looks like this woman has no sane friends to talk her down from what looks like the start of a hamster marathon. A simple conversation along the lines of 'your brain is a dick; it just reacts to stuff and tricks your body so don't fuck up the good thing you've got now'.

Instead we get an appeal to the female crowd to explain and justify and validate the feelings. After all, if you feel something it's real, right?

If this story goes in the expected sad direction there'll be another post in 5 years time how she bumped into her former fiance after dumping him for high school boyfriend, and how she hugged him goodbye and was flooded with all of the safe, loved, and other good feelings she had with him, and then 'help me Reddit - what does this mean?'...

itsandrewbuck · 2022-03-02T03:19:09+00:00

Public Service Announcement: If you are the fiancé for this woman, there is only one piece of valid advice:

Dump. Her. Now. You'll thank us later.

moorekom · 2022-02-21T03:06:33+00:00

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Title	Random rendezvous renders real relationship rough, royally relaxing rectitude . Romeo's romance reverts rapport regarding roommate; reassurance required.
Author	Impressive-Cricket-8
Upvotes	221
Comments	117
Date	February 21, 2022 2:26 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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