Mother knows best

fuzzy_brb · 2021-09-28T04:21:38+00:00

Her: I was going to ghost these perfectly fine normal men but they ghosted me first. How dare they????? I’m so outraged!!!!

Overkillengine · 2021-09-28T04:28:19+00:00

36F

had a crazy girl phase by her own admission

Makes 6 figures (which means at minimum she is practically married to her job)

Yeah there's like a huge demand from men for borderline infertile psuedomales with a host of implied red flags.

Not.

wanderingNotLost1980 · 2021-09-28T04:17:46+00:00

Sorry, but it's too late. You're in your late 30's, get a cat or 2 (or more). The wall doesn't take prisoners. You already walked past the decent men who would have been ready for the real thing with you and you didn't notice. Have fun with the cats, they won't judge you (well... yes they will, but they won't come out and say it... cats know how to get their way.)

Impressive-Cricket-8 · 2021-09-28T04:02:31+00:00

I remember reading - in this subreddit, if I'm not mistaken - about how setting couples up work in jewish communities: the older women will gladly introduce young men and women to each other when they believe there's a chance to a couple being made. However, when those sweet old(er) ladies are not avocating for a particular girl, there's always a reason. Here, dear mother is quite explicit with her diagnosis, and the question does stand: why is such a catch of a woman unable to keep men interested enough for a serious commitment? Take a guess, ladies and gentlemen.

RabbitNRaccoon · 2021-09-28T05:17:33+00:00

She's lying. Even at 36, if she's a decent person, she wouldn't literally be running men off. She's not just run iof the mill toxic either. She's probably worse than that. One made jokes that he was about to fall in love.

Then he ghosts her.

Makes me wonder what she said or did. More than likely she non chalantly told on herself about doing some sideways shit. And they both bounced. But because she is delusional, and unaware of herself and other people, she cannot remember the specific thing she said that made them run for the hills.

You really have to read between the lines with posts like this. She's lying. And withholding important information.

rickmackdaddy · 2021-09-28T06:10:04+00:00

“I think I’m cute”

10:1 she is morbidly obese.

just_the_nme · 2021-09-28T06:07:39+00:00

I've been in therapy for 3 yrs. I've been single for 3 yrs. BY CHOICE.

Those are connected. Doubtful it's intentional

jdjfjceeeee · 2021-09-28T04:25:03+00:00

I stopped reading at 36. But seriously, a grill gamer who's grown out of her "crazy girl phase" aka sucking off professional e-sports players and Twitch streamers for clout. That's a yikes from me.

AurelianWay · 2021-09-28T06:56:30+00:00

If a woman uses a dating app, generally speaking it means she's either unattractive or lazy. She's not actually serious about finding a man. If she was she would put herself "out there" and make it more of a priority.

She just wants attention and validation. The fact that guys who she perceives to be of lower value ghosted her means that she isn't getting the validation she expected.

It has nothing to do with the outcome of the date because she would just bang the more alpha inclined guys and dump the betas anyways. If she took a long look in the mirror (before it cracks) she would realize that she probably needs more therapy.

OaklandCali · 2021-09-28T05:35:52+00:00

No pics = 100% chance she’s ugly.

InevitableOwl1 · 2021-09-28T05:17:27+00:00

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poloppoyop · 2021-09-28T06:59:46+00:00

I'm a gamer girl

I like to stream my boobs.

I have a career, make 6 figures

My work is my life. I'm a bossy-type who always knows better. And I'm only looking for someone who makes more than me but not with his hands.

live alone

Can't keep a man interested. I radiate bitch vibes.

have an amazingly cool dog

Please don't notice how he likes to put his head near the groin of any people.

Think I'm cute

I'm obese

Been through therapy for the last 3 years

I'm getting desperate for a long-term relationship there. And my career ended up not being as good as I thought working would be. Guess Arbeit macht frei is not right.

So I've grown out of my crazy girl life

I've been the town bicycle in every city I've lived in but can't anymore.

I'm pretty chill and don't have to be around all the time.

When not with you I'll be trying to get dicked by some bad boy. Don't expect me to have any boundaries.

I'm pretty independent.

My money is mine. Your money will be ours.

I'm having the worst luck with dating apps

Only bad looking people are messaging me on dating apps. 500 matches and no-one I can see.

Can't do more, I'm too lazy.

vegasbadboy702 · 2021-09-28T04:22:00+00:00

Well we don’t know what she looks like and we all know how chad and Tyrone have their pick of women on the apps so that can easily explain why she gets ghosted but I will say this (not to mention she’s 36). She leads her post with the statements that she has a six figure income, has a career and a dog and that she’s independent. All those are traits/things most relationship minded men don’t want or at best are indifferent to. She probably leads with all that on the apps or on actual dates. It’s a turnoff for most men. Imagine hearing “im a phd” all date.

Mister_McDerp · 2021-09-28T08:21:47+00:00

Think I'm cute

You all do. Until your late 50's at least.

AngryCockOfJustice · 2021-09-28T05:06:10+00:00

Joker: "ho ho he he he ha ha ha hahahhohohehehe...and I thought my jokes were bad"

Loud-Bottle-7879 · 2021-09-28T11:23:47+00:00

Happily single by choice, immediately followed by why can’t I find a man.

2021-09-28T07:07:32+00:00

The wall has already beaten you.

There is no hope for you

panzer22222 · 2021-09-28T09:32:21+00:00

Mother told her exactly what was the problem but she didnt repeat it and doesnt want to actually deal with it...better to post on reddit so everyone can tell her to never change

Saianna · 2021-09-28T07:42:52+00:00

~~mother~~, gamer girl, 6 figures, dog, dating time...

When does she find time for all of those activities? Does she have some bonus hours in day? How active can she be.. Does she have sleep time in her schedule?

ugivemewood · 2021-09-28T08:41:34+00:00

Well she was gonna ghost them. Probably has that 18 yr old mindset where she has the options to do so. Strange attitude to carry into your mid thirties.

slipkid223 · 2021-09-28T12:58:22+00:00

How dare these decent men ghost me before I get chance to ghost them first.

Good on her for being in therapy but no one cares that you make 6 figures because it will never, ever benefit us.

GundamZero83 · 2021-09-28T13:19:53+00:00

Chill gamer girl in therapy making 6 figures a year? 🤔 only fans?

eveready_x · 2021-09-28T09:50:45+00:00

"I think I am cute." Stopped right there.

InevitableOwl1 · 2021-09-28T10:21:50+00:00

“Think I’m cute” (Narrator: she isn’t cute)

SnakeEyeskid · 2021-09-28T10:38:27+00:00

If she's happily single at 36 why does this bother her?

Also... She already has her dog and is at that age not fit for children so only men who don't want kids will engage with that...

Maybe I'm wrong here but if the woman is old, has a dog (I love dogs but those you get after the kids cuz they do come with responsibility and a well trained dog takes work...), a list of demands AND isn't attracted to you (two dates and no intimacy? Ye I don't mind traditional women but I couldn't imagine any of my exes, high or low libido even being fine with three dates before taking things to the bedroom...).

Gamer girls are a mess in my experience. It's gotten better and worse but back when good ol Snakeye was young, they were rare and that meant the thirsty young guys would shower them with attention inflating their egos.

I mean shread of 10y and give her a pleasent personality and maybe self awereness (her mother is ruthless for not stroking her ego?) and she should have had great options.

But she seems on the Kevin Samuels path...

plz_say_sike · 2021-09-28T14:03:33+00:00

I absolutely hate modern dating where it’s become the norm to date multiple people simultaneously under the guise of “vetting” your matches. No wonder most of these modern “independent” women can never find a satisfying relationship. How could they when they can’t even focus on a single man

alienmuseum · 2021-09-28T12:15:13+00:00

She admitted to being crazy. Yeah , no! Stay the fuck out away!

king_of_the_potato_p · 2021-09-28T13:05:44+00:00

Odds are shes a chunker and if they couldnt hit it right away they sere moving on.

sharedisaster · 2021-09-28T17:01:59+00:00

Red flags, mostly by omission:

Doesn't mention fitness or health at all. Guaranteed obese.
"I think I'm cute". Coping, hard.

I wonder exactly what her 'savage' (honest) mother said to her.

uberduger · 2021-09-28T20:33:06+00:00

If she's a "girl gamer", my mind immediately went to her having an OnlyFans lol.

I'm sure I'm wrong.

But it's funny how much it clearly bothered her having someone worship her and then suddenly ghost. Probably realised he wasn't getting anywhere. Good for him.

AtomicMGTOW · 2021-09-28T13:03:45+00:00

I'm sure she gives off tons of the "I don't NEED you" vibe. She wants to be the judge jury and executioner but she's way past the time when she had the sexual power to do that.

She talks about her crazy face going all the way up until 33 and then has to spend 3 years in therapy. And now she's 36 and figures that she's all fixed up and fit for a long-term relationship or marriage.

She hasn't practiced being in a long-term relationship or marriage. You never had that goal in mind until very recently. It takes a very long time to cultivate the skills to be able to be in a marriage. She doesn't have to be cooperative so she won't be cooperative. She still believes she's the prize. She wants to be the cheesiest chooser that she can be and she wants the men to be obsessed with her giving her complete control.

Those days are gone sweetheart! And even if she could have complete control over the relationship that's not cooperation. She wants the men to need her, work hard for and depend on her validation, and worship the ground she walks on. Why? Because she'll play COD with you?

And of course we have no idea what she looks like. When she says she's a gamer girl she wants us to imagine one of those pretty Kawaii young Japanese girls. In reality I bet everything that she's overweight, loops around in sweatshirts, and has more than one cat.

I don't believe she makes six figures or more not that we care about that. Because they're not sharing it with us anyways. When women are broke their communists, when women make a decent living especially six figures they're capitalists. What's hers is hers.

She's not looking for a man she's looking for a pet. An accessory. We don't know if she is kids or what her body count is either. It's a trap

binkerfluid · 2021-09-28T14:09:28+00:00

Lol mom knows for sure and is trolling

braucifur · 2021-09-28T14:26:46+00:00

She's fretting over a guy that ghosted her who she was ready to ghost herself. This is female logic.

TheUnspecialist · 2021-09-28T17:20:59+00:00

"He was obsessed with me..." & " he ghosted me"

Nah, he was acting obsessed.

Lithiago · 2021-09-28T17:31:28+00:00

I'm not desperate, been happily single for the last 3 years by choice.

Sure you do honey.

Man, these things write for themselves, so many contradictions and insecurities that I will quote only the obvious hamster.

ialwayslurk1362354 · 2021-09-28T18:33:50+00:00

The biggest red flag for me was her saying "I don't know what I could be doing wrong." This shows a complete lack of self-awareness. This will only lead to the man being blamed for anything that goes wrong, since she is perfect and never makes mistakes. It's sad nobody ever told her "No" or called her out on her poor behavior.

incarnate1 · 2021-09-28T19:21:51+00:00

She doesn't realize good men dgaf about her accolades. If she's insufferable and overweight, it doesn't matter that she has a "cool dog" or that SHE thinks she's cute.

It's telling how non-specific she is in what she wants, what the fuck does it mean when one "has their life together"? Does it mean he must have a job and a car? Does it mean he must make 6figs and be 6ft?

She's right about one thing, single by choice.

SpearWeasel · 2021-09-28T15:25:37+00:00

For being “happily single”, she sure stinks of desperation….

peguy2000 · 2021-09-28T17:36:27+00:00

Lets see when she realises all those good men want women in their prime years.

BluepillProfessor · 2021-09-28T18:43:07+00:00

I bet she has ghosted dozens if not hundreds of men.

sleepyweaselisawake · 2021-09-28T21:07:15+00:00

Here's a tip: Build a time machine, go back to your 20s, stop acting like men are an endless commodity that has no value.

soytuamigo · 2021-09-30T04:37:17+00:00

"I'm not desperate"

Neldot · 2021-09-28T10:11:45+00:00

I'm not desperate, been happily single for the last 3 yrs by choice.

Excusatio non petita, accusatio manifesta.

kidruhil · 2021-09-28T14:20:22+00:00

"I'm single by choice but I want to find a man"

God these hoes really are just memes at this point

gfgdhj5784yu8 · 2021-09-28T16:29:56+00:00

I bet a lot of relationships end prematurely because one or both of the people want to keep their self respect intact by being the first to bow out.

timebandit1975 · 2021-09-28T16:48:48+00:00

This chick is making 6 figures and so naturally she is looking for a man that "has their life together" i.e. is making even more than her.

But those guys are dating younger women in their twenties. She's going to be shit out of luck.

PopRevolutionary1475 · 2021-09-28T19:27:55+00:00

If your mom's are questioning you about your past and relationship status, you know you have a serious problem.

amongthemaniacs · 2021-09-28T20:20:12+00:00

Did you notice how she casually mentioned she went through a crazy girl phase? I think when most men hear a woman say that they think it means she rebelled a bit against her parents, stayed out past curfew, smoked weed, maybe got a tattoo or piercing she isn't proud of, etc. In reality it means she likely sucked and fucked a lot of random men and did hardcore drugs and booze. She said she's been in therapy for 3 years. Can you imagine the shit her body and mind have been through during her younger days if she needs therapy after all of it? Even if she doesn't tell the men she's meeting all of this stuff they can probably guess how damaged she is after one or two dates and this along with the fact that she's pushing 40 will likely keep her single.

Bing_Bang_Bam · 2021-09-29T00:45:11+00:00

She used to be sort of cute but Then got fat.

Hunk_Maggot · 2021-09-29T00:49:03+00:00

I'm a gamer girl.

i have known a girl like that, never ever again. Truly an awful experience.

I have a career, make 6 figures, live alone and a cool dog.

welp unless you are going to take care of that man, none will fight to get this woman. I would say a man who has all those attributes would more likely have a lot of prospects but why would a man compete for a woman who is probably not good looking, acts like a men and has her womb dried as raisins, NO! No men want to be marry a masculine woman who will treat them like shit.

Also those guys who ghosted this woman, they dodged that nuclear meltdown.

Harry_Teak · 2021-09-29T02:01:17+00:00

If she can't see why she can't get a second date from just the content of her post she never will. My advice to her would be to get a trailer hitch and practice sucking it until she gets a mouthful of chrome. Second dates are almost definitely guaranteed with that kind of skill.

Vikingbeard1 · 2021-09-29T05:01:32+00:00

So while I agree it's good to not spend every second of your single life lamenting your singleness in misery, for many reasons, I don't understand this notion of being totally happy single...but wanting a partner. If a lady tells me she is completely satisfied being single, then I have zero interest in her now, because where else is there to go from there but down? Any attempt at a relationship will inevitably, basically by definition, fuck with her "happy and single" life, so she'll be less happy and it literally will be my fault. So why would I bother? Why should anyone? I see men say this too, like getting a wife is no different than getting a motorcycle; something you do when your financially doing okay and want to spoil yourself a little, but you should already be pretty satisfied with life and not be relying on a new toy to make you happy. I'm okay with my life today, I'm not miserable, but I certainly dream some days of finding a woman who is, you know, decent--I'm at a 7 in life satisfaction and see a good woman as what would make it an 8.

FlegmentineCored · 2021-09-29T10:05:23+00:00

She's 36 and still thinks of herself as a girl. That's her whole problem right there. It sounds like mom told her to stop fucking around with losers and grow the hell up already but the truth hurts so she doesn't want to hear it.

She only wants someone to tell her what she tells herself - that nothing is ever her fault because she's fine the way she is so it's not her that needs to change. It's men. They're to blame for everything. Luckily for her there are countless other delusional girl ladies online that are happy to confirm this and make her feel all better again.

urbanspun1989 · 2021-10-01T01:46:20+00:00

The mom knows what’s up

bartbitsu · 2021-09-28T14:12:25+00:00

middle aged woman mad she has to start working for her relationships and is no longer able to ghost people.

Wildhouse83 · 2021-09-28T18:40:52+00:00

Seems like Chadrones will not commit anymore. Have fun with your remaining 45 years or so.

Any_Professional_664 · 2021-09-29T03:27:47+00:00

Can you send me your picture please? Not a naked picture, just a regular picture. I’m thinking that you might be looking for something that the guys you are picking aren’t.

rising-waters · 2021-09-29T05:32:25+00:00

Sign in required

Mind uploading the image someplace else?

WalnutManTrader · 2021-10-01T23:25:43+00:00

She lost me at 6figures

vanillapopsicle · 2021-10-29T07:59:32+00:00

It’s always the arrogance. Always the arrogance, and then reality.

ess2019 · 2021-09-28T05:16:29+00:00

Women that are looking to get married Need to start to get their act together once they hit 30 ,because that’s their prime time to find the best potential mate.

Title	Mother knows best
Author	Impressive-Cricket-8
Upvotes	476
Comments	242
Date	September 28, 2021 3:57 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen
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