Dating age range question

derelictherds · 2022-03-07T18:41:31+00:00

Mid 40s here... I've dated women in their late 20s to late 40s and everything in between. In general the late 20s - early 30s ladies don't seem as interested in locking down a relationship compared to most of the older women I've dated. I tend to avoid the "never married" mid to late 30s crowd as they seem to be the most desperate to shack up, get married, and/or have children. Hard no to women with more than a couple of young children or when more than one bio dads are involved.

40+ has been a mixed bag of experiences for me. I dated a 43 yo widower for almost a year. She was a wonderful person but at the end of the day was still recovering from loss and desperately trying to fill a void. I've encountered some very independent and successful women in this age group as well which is always awesome IMO.

FWIW I think there are many things to consider other than age.

jkw118 · 2022-03-07T19:07:01+00:00

So I've dated, from 27 to 48, I'm 45.. I may not get married again, not sure. But I probably won't have anymore kids, and regardless I'm not in a rush for any of it. Which I've told everyone I've dated..

The 27 & 32 yo, were like no we don't want to get hitched right away, 6 months later it was why aren't we engaged.. And when can we have kids (I already have 3 that are primarily with me)

Most of those 35+ have been more realistic and more aware that after a divorce, and with kids speeding into another relationship isn't the best idea.

I'm looking for someone to grow old with and that will stick around, and that we both enjoy being around each other.. I can't say even during the marriage if that was true through most of it.

CropCircle77 · 2022-03-07T19:14:01+00:00

I'm (m44) not dating currently but since my early 30s I've found myself rather looking up than down.

Chicks in their 20s may be nice to look at but that's that. If at all.

The really interesting women are my age or even slightly above. And they're rare.

Chicks are a dime a dozen.

OraleEse13 · 2022-03-07T18:47:40+00:00

I don't dont below 25 just because of the maturity gap. Everything is on a spectrum though. I prefer women in their 30s as long as they aren't hoping to get married and have kids.

crypto_keeper88 · 2022-03-07T18:49:29+00:00

25-45 was my dating range until I stopped looking. If you want to have kids 25-35.

2022-03-07T20:53:10+00:00

42y M. 32-46 tends to be a good spot for me. I don’t find people over about 45 attractive, and people that are younger than about 32 I tend to have nothing in common with. For a one night stand I’ll go lower but for an actual relationship 32 is the lowest I could deal with

gizzmotech · 2022-03-07T21:54:57+00:00

I'm 46, I'd have to say it's like 35-55 for me. Any younger than that and they are too much like kids and not in the same place in life I am looking to be.

pegleg_legal · 2022-03-08T01:40:03+00:00

Anyone under 25 is like babysitting.

WartimeDad · 2022-03-07T22:54:52+00:00

5-10 younger seems to work.

CaliDude75 · 2022-03-07T23:50:10+00:00

46M. Don’t want to get actively “back in the game” until I officially have “the paper” but I think my range of consideration will be 30-50 once I am.

Gattsama · 2022-03-08T00:25:33+00:00

Whatever makes you happy, society be damned. This is the same society that would turn us into wage slaves, protect women from all responsibility and divorce rape you if you want to get out. IF they are a consenting adult and you guys both want it, then do it. It's ok.

ncredman69 · 2022-03-08T03:32:43+00:00

I'm 41M seperated for 6mths and wasn't looking for anything, just minding my business. Was approached while dining by a 23yr old woman who thought I was in my early 30's. After ensuring she understood the age difference, she was still set on getting to know me. Yes the age maturity thing can be an issue only of you make it one in the beginning. She keeps me young, we go out often, we laugh and joke, her libido is still very high so no complaints there.

wolpak · 2022-03-07T22:00:09+00:00

Probably not popular but anything more than +-5 years is kinda creepy.

sandman200 · 2022-03-07T20:47:12+00:00

M44 here. After my divorce, I’ve dated women in my age group because it was more comfortable. But I never found much sexual compatibility with them. They were set in their ways as far was what they liked in bed and they didn’t like to talk about it.

My marriage of 20 years was a dead bedroom for the last 10. I swore that I would never find myself in that same situation again. My love language is physical touch. So her ability to express desire for me both emotionally and physically is high on my list. If found this comes easier with 28-33 year women. I find women in that age range are easier to talk to , can easily match my needs and have emotional maturity.

I also like to go out and party more than men my age. It helps that they have that same drive to go out.

ShaolinSoccerStar · 2022-03-07T18:26:56+00:00

Five years younger/one or two older. Mostly because I would like the possibility of having a second birth child.

tiredandwantchange · 2022-03-08T01:38:13+00:00

So, I am going to be 53... Off the top of my head, I would date 38-55 (-15 to +2 years).

RevolutionaryCare736 · 2022-03-08T03:16:01+00:00

This is a funny thing for me. I'm 62 and getting a divorce so I'm wondering the same thing, but In my mind, I don't see dating my age or older,

Imaginary-Till7271 · 2022-03-17T05:09:41+00:00

27M here, don't dip into the 20s. I can barely tolerate them. I only date up

Title	Dating age range question
Author	mentamonsta
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Date	March 7, 2022 6:11 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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