(37) At the point of hiring a sex worker.

Duchesst · 2022-06-12T06:25:55+00:00

You aren't paying them to have sex with you. You pay them to leave after you had sex

sicrm · 2022-06-12T05:58:22+00:00

some people can mess around with their ex and not catch feelings.

in the state you’re in right now though, that wouldn’t be a good idea.

lordgoofus1 · 2022-06-12T12:15:51+00:00

If you're halfway attractive have you thought about stuff like tinder? Horrendous for meaningful relationships, but I've heard it's great for meaningless ones. Swipe the right person and you might even get to skip the expensive dinner part.

currentlystupid · 2022-06-12T13:53:53+00:00

Ditch that shame brother, its just going to hold you back. Some dates are going to cost you more anyways. You're human, have fun now, you're free!

Funny_Wolverine_9 · 2022-06-12T16:15:53+00:00

Well, at least a sex worker is less likely to file a false rape allegation like my ex did when we got into a custody dispute. Yup. My own wife. She had no proof but I still got charged and had to go to trial.

willyty66 · 2022-06-13T04:43:57+00:00

I feel you brother but I don’t recommend hookers 1. Possible diseases 2. Possible arrest (if it’s illegal where you are) 3. Loss of your job and child should arrest come. It may seem hard but hold out and try new ways of booking up that don’t involve possible arrest. Disease is always possible with random and frequent hook ups but don’t take the chance on arrest.

S4z3r4c · 2022-06-12T11:17:49+00:00

You'd be surprised how many non sex workers would agree to hooking up if you just happened to pay for their cab home and pizza delivery the next day. Dating is more expensive

lostcanuck007 · 2022-06-12T17:29:22+00:00

PLEASE HIRE THE WORKER, DONT GO BACK TO THE EX. prostitutes are not the easy way out, they are there to give you neutral feedback and for you to buy yourself some comfort with a professional. get one that does massages. i recommend escorts for trips, conversations, sex and a basic line of communication that you activate as soon as you show $. good way to rebuild your confidence with the opposite gender.

Gattsama · 2022-06-12T09:28:41+00:00

You have to stay true to you. What most of us miss can be split between: sex, physical intimacy and/or GFE (the girl friend experience). The thing about paying for it is that the sex is there, but the other two are fake. Now some people can accept that it's fake, have a session and walk away. BUT others either can not get the need meant if fake OR WORST catch feelings for the female.

If you just want sex or you can do the role play, you can consider proceeding. If that's not you, stay away.

With that said two other issues. First, it's illegal. So really a minor point but the police do rarely cause trouble, so take simple precautions. Easiest and safest bet is asian tub & tug in the area. Physically touch and relief (normally not sex). Second issue is STDs. So condom (of course) for any penetration, but also HSV and HPV from oral or secretions. People can shed virus without any visual signs. Basic advise is wear a condom and don't kiss :)

Now money wise if you can afford it, Thailand or the Philippines are a better way to go. That's also a whole different topic but in brief can get a female for the GFE or rental wife (or just pay as you go). You don't even necessarily need a pro, can meet 'normal women' that are down for the experience hoping that you will make something long term. Again thou, import to know yourself because you do NOT want to catch feelings while doing this if you are just about having fun.

Anyway, stay safe out there...

cleats4u · 2022-06-12T17:02:10+00:00

Even with a legit escort be careful. You can get drugged and robbed. They can show up, demand the money and leave without providing a service. Who you gonna call? If you ever find a good service or escort, stick with them. Never go to meet them, have them come to you or meet at a hotel of your choosing.

sheruncle · 2022-06-12T22:15:28+00:00

Don't do it.

BonafideZulu · 2022-06-12T23:59:03+00:00

Who cares? Men of power, wealth, and status throughout all of human history have done it and continue to do so... no strings attached, no baby mommas, no drama.... no support. Go for it. Hire a high-end one and have some fun... get it off your chest. Go to Costa Rica, Thailand, wherever and have fun. You don't answer to anyone. Don't go crawling back to the ex, for Gawd's sake.

CRobinsFly · 2022-06-12T05:22:37+00:00

I have no experience with hiring sex workers. Years ago, I considered utilizing "seekingarrangement" at the advice of a friend but never actually paid nor met anyone in person. Unless you can get a grade A like 10/10 sex worker, I dont see the appeal, I'd rather just masturbate, personally

I'm replying because I guess I dont see the harm in letting the ex fill the need assuming she will and you're on good terms. I mean, if you trust her to tell you if she's been sleeping around before she exposes you to something, let her take care of you. Mind you, my ex and I consider sex to be the best part of our former relationship and she's willing so why not let her catch the D and pickup the CS? I've made it very clear that the moment it's no longer about just sex then I want nothing to do with her anymore - so far that moment hasnt come, because surprise surprise, it's not as easy for her to find someone else, as a single mother, as she thought it'd be.

JohnnyMnemo · 2022-06-12T07:31:38+00:00

https://www.google.com/travel/flights/search?tfs=CBwQAhoqag4IAxIKL20vMDMwcWIzdBIKMjAyMi0wNy0xN3IMCAMSCC9tLzBmbjJnGipqDAgDEggvbS8wZm4yZxIKMjAyMi0wNy0yNHIOCAMSCi9tLzAzMHFiM3RwAYIBCwj___________8BQAFIAZgBAQ

R/T to bangkok is literally less than the price of 1.5 hrs with a domestic SW.

And once you're there top quality is like $150 for two hours. And there is other things to do during the day as well, like eat amazing food and see amazing things.

I will say that I had the spectrum of experience there. A lovely delightful evening with a date that had a guaranteed ending; I ordered champagne and flowers to the room, smelled nice, and we had a great time.

It can also be dire in the worst kind of Tijuana way. Those episodes I still regret. Moral of the story: go mindfully, and don't forget the person.

Jonger1150 · 2022-06-12T16:47:57+00:00

Tinder.

Thefactorypilot · 2022-06-13T15:10:30+00:00

Wanted to share a friends situation... We are both airline pilots, which makes relationships difficult at times. Around age 40,he said fuck it, and started traveling to Eastern Europe every 3 months... He has an escort agency that he's registered with and gets top of the line treatment from... He will go for a week at a time. He's single and celibate while home in the states. The escorst in Czech where he goes are literally top quality women... Medical doctorate students, law students, etc. All model quality hot, very intelligent and interesting, and most importantly, they know what the deal is. He spends a week going to fine dining, theater, etc, and gets treated like a king. Its actually cheaper than having a full time gf here, and he's treated a lot better. At first I assumed he was only doing it because of a dry spell at home, but he is planning to have this situation continue til retirement.

Sofloguy72 · 2022-06-14T13:38:36+00:00

I don't think a hooker is the way. Go to a swingers club or something like that. At least you could meet someone that showed genuine interest in you with no strings attached. Just make sure to always wear a condim.

Title	(37) At the point of hiring a sex worker.
Author	CantCopeAnymore24
Upvotes	24
Comments	25
Date	June 12, 2022 5:09 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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