Should we make erections normal?

YesAmAThrowaway · 2022-07-24T20:06:58+00:00

I think improving sex ed by talking extensively about arousal-nonconcordance would help a lot, yes.

AdamChap · 2022-07-24T22:30:48+00:00

Put it this way, most young people I speak to have no idea men can be raped and 100% think erections mean arousal. I've heard a seventeen year old girl say, "I thought guys had to masturbate every time they had an erection."

Honestly, we are doomed if we believe for a second we are going to scrape a inch from the miles the feminists have placed in front of us. Young people are most of the time, exclusively focusing on women's issues as per the instructions of governments and schools.

RevolutionaryAct6931 · 2022-07-24T17:12:58+00:00

I mean I guess cause erections also happen randomly.

Skirt_Douglas · 2022-07-24T17:56:23+00:00

Before we move on to “should,” let’s start with Can we make them normal, and if so how? Because I’m pretty sure we would need to start by solving generalized androphobia. Yes there is a push for things like normalizing nipples and public breast feeding, but women have that whole “Breasts aren’t obscene, they nurture life” narrative to work with whereas penises don’t have any sort of “miracle of life” narrative. The woman are wonderful effect extends to woman’s bodies too, our culture does not ready associate seeing a woman’s naked body with trauma in the way it assumes seeing a man’s body is obscene and will lead to trauma.

I’m not saying it can’t be done, I’m saying men normalizing erections will be significantly harder for men to accomplish than woman normalizing nipples, because there is pervasive androphobia surrounding penises, and an equivalent phobia with woman’s bodies is not at all pervasive.

1ayaway · 2022-07-24T23:02:36+00:00

My gut reaction is no, we shouldn’t, and we in fact ought to push back against the recent drive to “normalize” everything.

I think it is perfectly reasonable to want to highlight the distinction between an erection and arousal, though.

I don’t think we should normalize pitching a tent when you get up to present to the class as a 7th grader (even though this one hits close to home, lmao)

LockedPages · 2022-07-25T00:44:09+00:00

Erections don't have to be caused by visual/physical stimuli though. Half the time it's just your brain making sure your dick is still attached by sending blood to it just to be safe.

toomanyhumans99 · 2022-07-25T06:46:25+00:00

I had a friend in Mexico who told me that erections in public are considered a non-issue there. He was a a gay man, so whenever he saw another man walking around with one, he was delighted. He had a difficult time understanding my confusion about the entire situation.

So, it is possible for a society to be able to hold this view.

Blauwpetje · 2022-07-25T19:39:07+00:00

Erection shaming is actually the most concrete and visual shaming of male sexuality. They are seen as dirty and even threatening because male sexuality is. So yes, it would be a good thing to open up the conversation about it, if only to force the male-sex-negative mob to show their cards.

DouglasMilnes · 2022-07-24T20:09:14+00:00

With all the things we have to struggle with to get men the human rights they deserve, I think this is such a non-issue it can be shelved for a decade or two. There are so many important matters that are killing men & children, can we concentrate on priorities?

ShelSilverstain · 2022-07-24T19:56:20+00:00

I would like to start with making men wearing shorts that are actually short, normal. Men who wear shorts that are above the knee are often considered creeps, unless we're really hot

gamerlololdude · 2022-07-25T06:07:39+00:00

Oh totally I think there should be a movement to stop erection shaming. Like there is a movement to stop period shaming

novdelta307 · 2022-07-25T02:46:04+00:00

They should be just as accepted as noticeably visible nipples through shirts, imo.

SexEleven · 2022-07-25T12:45:45+00:00

I like your idea overall and have a few additions. You said, “Erections are not sexual”. I wouldn’t go that far. I would say erections are not always sexual. That way we can be taken seriously because there’s a huge correlation, it’s just not 1-to-1 (especially in teens as you say). And I would also specify that erections don’t alway coincide with subjective sexual arousal. This is true of females too, who can experience their body being sexually aroused but their subjective experience is of no arousal or even disgust and terror in the case of rape. The same with men who are raped. The mind dissociates from the body. As you say, people don’t know this as much about men.

I like the idea of normalizing erections in public but I wouldn’t say we should fully desexualize them because I feel that is a bit dishonest and carries with it a latent sex shaming. It doesn’t challenge the notion that sex and sexualizing are always bad, which I think is problematic. If a guy gets a boner in public because he was day dreaming about something sexual and then realizes too late that he has a boner and people see it and he feels embarrassed, the proper response is to see it as both sexual and normal and also not inherently threatening. I think that’s the issue a lot of times. Feminists see the penis and especially the erect penis as inherently threatening.

I also don’t think we should go the route of feminists who claim they can do the most sexually provocative stuff and then if a man experiences it as sexual, he is a piggish demon who sexualized an innocent girl. Think of the Nicki Minaj music video where she basically sexually assaults the guy in the chair and then when he touches her she because he thinks that her twerking her butt all over him means she is being sexual with him, she slaps his hand away and makes him look like a sexualizing predator. That is going too far. Women cannot be as sexual as possible and then demonize men for sexualizing them. The same is true the other way around. I can’t shake my erect penis all around a women while eye fucking her and doing a sexy dance and then say she is an evil sexualizer for experiencing it as sexual.

griii2 · 2022-07-25T15:31:39+00:00

I absolutely agree, but making erections "normal" is the only the second step after "decriminalising" erections. What I mean is that in many settings an erection on its own is seen as an act of sexual harassment and is treated as something criminal.

TheLWMA · 2022-07-24T22:01:39+00:00

I... don't think that's necessary. Besides, it's not exactly easy to walk around with an erection.

eddboat112 · 2022-07-25T02:57:00+00:00

No i don't think anything that may be deemed sexual or a sexual area should be displayed publicly just because its natural. Anything to do with sex should only be experienced in a private setting with a trusted partner(s)

Bojuric · 2022-07-24T17:11:12+00:00

BloomingBrains · 2022-07-25T05:10:37+00:00

I don't think that saying "normal" is the right descriptor for their ideal status in society. I mean, there are some situations where an erection is definitely not appropriate. Same goes for the female anatomy stuff, too. I can see how either an erection or hard nipples would distract/bother people. Do I think that person is a piece of shit because of it? No, shit happens. But it would be shitty if female office workers had to just accept that Dave from IT says hello to them every morning with a raging boner because that was the new normal.

Maybe its just me but I don't even see why its such a problem anyway. The only time I ever had issues with that was in high school. Its pretty easy to not get one in your day to day life as an adult unless you intentionally sit there and fantasize about sex instead of paying attention to your work.

I might very well have androgen insensitivity though so is this really a serious problem most guys face? Like to do you just uncontrollably get a boner every time you see an attractive woman?

Delicious-Tea-6718 · 2022-08-24T18:01:41+00:00

"If he was raped then why did he get hard?"

A woman could get wet. Hell even if she had an orgasm they would still call a rape a rape. But if a boy gets a boner during sexual coercion that negates everything?

Yeah this isn't about if males could be raped it's about that we don't care.

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