how accurate is the advice to men that they should just be social

ApplesauceThegod · 2022-10-13T23:59:13+00:00

I also had much better success dating at 25 then at 18. Different social setting yielded different results.

-mixedsignals · 2022-10-14T00:40:08+00:00

It's not magical but 2 things are sure:

not having friends is a red flag

you have more chances of liking and being liked by someone if you are surrounded by other people as opposed to sitting alone in your home

jjlew922 · 2022-10-14T00:57:51+00:00

I think maybe you have to think about what type of woman you’re attracting now. Is that what you want? Will this type of woman make you happy long term? Also, how has your social circle changed?

I think as most people navigate life we can mature or slide backwards, we attract what we become. If you’re not in your best place, you’re probably attracting those who aren’t either. Sometimes it’s a lonely road or it takes time to become who you feel your best at even if it’s counter intuitive to the rewards you get from the outside world. Always strive for what brings out the best in you, you’ll feel out of alignment with yourself otherwise and feel stuck as it seems you might be today. Only you can define what success means, and to the outside world it might look great but inside you know you desire and deserve better for yourself. Go make it happen, you deserve it.

supershotmd · 2022-10-14T05:52:36+00:00

I am conventionally attractive

This is a pre-requisite before social things come into play.

fakingandnotmakingit · 2022-10-14T01:54:54+00:00

That advice to be social isn't a magic bullet. It's answer that's given to people on the Internet who complain they don't meet people. So the advice is meant to get them to meet people.

Having social skills increases your chances in anything

It's like saying "wear a seat belt".

Is a seat belt going to prevent a car crash? No

Is a seat belt going to save everyone? Also no

Is it a seat belt 100% way of prevent g serious injury? No

Does wearing a seatbelt improve your chances? Yes.

So wear a seatbelt as opposed to not wearing a seatbelt

pinktuliplover · 2022-10-13T23:57:17+00:00

Can you elaborate on what people say when they tell you to be social? Like is it to have friends or go out more or what?

toasterchild · 2022-10-14T01:08:46+00:00

Sometimes when you feel like you have nothing to lose you will be more genuine. It's probably a vibe thing. Being social isn't the answer to everything but it's a critical component.

No-Improvement-8205 · 2022-10-14T01:10:05+00:00

Red pill is suppsoed to be a phase my dude, ehat TRP is preaching isnt the end goal, they're preachinh A way to reach the end goal, find your own way between blie and red pill you'll find the true balance of life

indigo_pirate · 2022-10-14T10:01:54+00:00

Being social is an opportunity to meet people.

take that as you will

thetruthishere_ · 2022-10-14T12:34:30+00:00

Its how people met before the internet why would it not work still today? Plenty of people are still meeting in social settings.

vogel777 · 2022-10-14T00:10:54+00:00

Lol, you again with your "art career" 😂, hate to break it to you op but picking your nose and wiping it on the wall or arranging your crusty wank socks around the bed doesn't qualify as art.

Stop using this sub as your personal problem page, get some real help and stop being a parasite on your poor grandparents.

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hungrychick404 · 2022-10-14T00:14:11+00:00

I don’t really find people who don’t have friends attractive. Having friends doesn’t automatically make people attractive, though

FutureBannedAccount2 · 2022-10-14T00:36:21+00:00

Is this a question for men or women or both? It’s labeled as question for women but it seems like men would be able to answer more accurately

rosephase · 2022-10-14T01:01:38+00:00

So you are social and you are successful sexually and romantically. It took you a few years longer then you were expecting... but other then that? Aren't you saying that being social works? Living with your grandparents and dinking doesn't mean you aren't being social... so I don't quite get it. You seem to contradict yourself.

Upstairs-Rip-604 · 2022-10-14T01:14:57+00:00

The fuck if I know. I’m a hybrid of social and antisocial. I’m a lone wolf who attracts people of all stripes like some sort of social butterfly.

BlackPorcelainDoll · 2022-10-14T01:16:17+00:00

Do whatever works for you honey. I know a man that met a shut-in girlfriend on Discord without stepping a foot out the house; two peas in a pod. Some gotta go directly to the fish, some of fine dangling bait.

cowfishAreReal · 2022-10-14T02:22:32+00:00

Being social isn't all you need. But it definitely helps a lot can't date people if you don't meet people

neetykeeno · 2022-10-14T07:52:12+00:00

For the guys that advice is most often offered to? It is probably the best advice available. They are too rigid to really do more than one change at once and not being Nigel NoFriends is important for so many reasons.

Title	how accurate is the advice to men that they should just be social
Author	ApplesauceThegod
Upvotes	6
Comments	62
Date	October 13, 2022 11:49 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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