The cost of dating is an understated factor on this subreddit.

wtknight · 2022-10-30T03:23:34+00:00

Flaired CMV as this post is making an affirmative claim

makesbakesandsteaks · 2022-10-30T04:09:37+00:00

The truth is that if the man is attractive, the woman won't care about the cost of the date. When I first met my now husband our first date was in his dorm room. He offered me a mini bag of chips clearly taken from the dining hall (which I declined). Our second and third dates were in my apartment. I offered him a spare lemon and some alcohol. Never once did I judge him for being broke or not pulling out all the stops. It's because I found him attractive as a person. He was physically my type, very confident/charming, and even though he wore the same hoodie every day, I liked how it smelled. It's that simple.

NockerJoe · 2022-10-30T01:12:11+00:00

This is why coffee shops have become so popular as a date activity. A coffee and a muffin are probably going to be overcharged for what they are but not bank breaking.

A lot of women complain about coffee or walks in the park but most of those also just want men to spend money on them, which is exactly the type of woman this is meant to filter out.

Theres been a whole lot of talk that basically boils down to women being the way they are to compensate for shit dudes did a generation or two ago but the reality is that cheap dates are exactly the same thing. Its been what, nearly a generation of men being called inherently dangerous and thus its ok to ghost or fade out or just drop somebody. But the way men compensate is to increasingly just not invest a lot into a relationship that could end at any moment, let one one where the other person is probably also making equivalent money.

JumboJetz · 2022-10-30T01:43:10+00:00

People are actually quite rich now, unemployment is at record lows and I think people have more cash in the bank now than certainly in the past few years on average.

The coming recession though I think will further hit men in particular very hard and lead to a reduction in men that can afford to date.

stats135 · 2022-10-30T01:42:03+00:00

Dating costs money (for betas)

FTFY.

Women and Chad can just sends an open invite for Netflix and Chill at their place.

thetruthishere_ · 2022-10-30T01:37:44+00:00

What hobbies do you speak of? Im into one male dominated hobby but the rest are way more female dominated.

Im for getting to the point we have good times and home and cook better food than going out. I was never into fancy dinners and elaborate dates. LOL

priest-killer · 2022-10-30T02:02:45+00:00

Fellow autistic person here.

Normies don't care about those costs. Even for what appear to be transparently parasitic relationships, there are enormous quantities of men who are down to get sucked dry. Probably relates to NTs being far more obsessed with sex.

Best_Illustrator_137 · 2022-10-30T06:05:43+00:00

One of the key reasons why ppl and especially men don’t want to continue the classic “a man pays for the dates” in a world where both parties can make good money, the push for equality is high, and everything but wages has gone significantly up, I don’t know why many women still expect dudes to be out here dropping bank for dates when they also know all of these key factors..it’s one of many reasons why casual hookups have taken the forefront, no one wants to spend money in this type of economy especially, plus other stuff like foodie calls, etc..

2022-10-30T01:41:07+00:00

Any woman that cares about a man dating a much younger woman is insecure.

Any person that doesn't want to have sex with someone that has a much higher risk of STDs is smart.

ChibsFilipTelfordd · 2022-10-30T00:59:24+00:00

No one thinks of opportunity cost lol

I make an equivalent of about 50 dollars an hour if you convert from salaried so I spent the equivalent of 50k+ with my uk girl. And it was worth every second.

Sorry, but this sounds super autistic

ashpr0ulx · 2022-10-30T01:46:34+00:00

… what kind of crazy expensive dates you talking? i’m someone who lives by a pretty strict budget but i still have plenty of money for fun and activities. i don’t think i’ve been on many dates that would break the bank for even kind of low earners

wtknight · 2022-10-30T03:23:09+00:00

It's not that costly if a couple is frugal and agrees to inexpensive dates.

januaryphilosopher · 2022-10-30T07:46:21+00:00

A lot of hobbies that you see as hobbies are male dominated. Volunteer, do anything creative or to do with interacting with people or animals and get back to me. You're welcome. (It is true that women have less free time for hobbies on average, but this is driven by women with partners and/or children.)

AzogTheDefiler · 2022-10-30T01:00:34+00:00

People in our age bracket who go out regularly are not that smart, they usually cannot afford it. They are shortsighted and shallow as a group. Going out is a really lame hobby that is required for dating alot of people. Getting to be of the spending money class.

tradtrad100 · 2022-10-30T15:32:59+00:00

Ofc it's understated because it's mainly a male problem

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fakingandnotmakingit · 2022-10-30T06:15:32+00:00

What dates are you people going on? Ised to stick towards coffee dates or meeting in a pub

Spend on one cup of coffee/ one drink

If it turns out you guys are vibing you can spend a bit more money for a second drink or a hot chocolate.

2022-10-30T11:47:12+00:00

for me its not the money but the amount of time required to expend

anon018274031 · 2022-10-30T16:11:15+00:00

Dating doesn’t have to cost a lot of money at all?

You can literally go for a walk or a picnic for practically free (or however much the food costs). You can hang out and play board games (or more cheeky games). You can cook together. You can go to a bar with live music and do the whole date for about $25. Quite often you can find free things like museums, art exhibitions, live music etc- of which the only cost will probably be a coffee.

I’ve been on plenty of dates where the most expensive thing was just getting the transport there!

Latter_Adagio8945 · 2022-10-30T20:10:44+00:00

This is so true. I’ve been in an LTR I’ve kept open and it Can costs my hundreds of a month. It’s very hard to avoid it without being a dick. Especially because I moved and she’s visiting me now. So I want to be nice when she’s hear.

Title	The cost of dating is an understated factor on this subreddit.
Author	AzogTheDefiler
Upvotes	25
Comments	56
Date	October 30, 2022 12:53 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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