Woman just walks into mens changing room? What do I do?

SweatyAdvance · 2023-01-30T17:50:59+00:00

Go over the district managers head.

Njaulv · 2023-01-30T18:22:16+00:00

Find out her name and file a complaint with corporate.

Ceigeee · 2023-01-30T20:20:00+00:00

Absolutely fight this. There would be a huge uproar if this was a male district manager entering the female changing rooms while a woman was getting changed - because it's wrong. It is EQUALLY as wrong for this to happen to a man while he is changing. There is absolutely no excuse for either to occur. I sincerely hope you get justice for this.

aerial_coitus · 2023-01-30T18:24:27+00:00

what is the name of the gym chain?

freedomfighter056 · 2023-01-30T18:11:45+00:00

It sounds like a form of sexual harassment and based on the employees responses it seems she has normalized violating mens' safe space.

The company itself created this space by making gendered changing rooms. Then the company itself (via the district manager) is violating this very space after making men feel they are safe in this space.

Given that the company and actors are directly violating the space I think they should be liable. They literally put a males-only sign on the door. What if they put a "no cameras" sign and then installed hidden cameras? It is the same thing.

If they don't want to respect gendered safe spaces, then they can advertise to their customers that all changing rooms are gender neutral, but that is not what they did. They led you to have a certain expectation and then violated that expectation.

Litmus44 · 2023-01-30T18:19:18+00:00

Make a complaint directly to the CEO. Be persistent until you get a satisfactory outcome eg a written apology and some financial recompense. This is just another example of the malignant matriarchy and the entitlement that this particular femiNazi thinks she has to ignore your privacy.

Far-Reputation7119 · 2023-01-30T20:26:09+00:00

So women think they can just walk in on men like this?

McFeely_Smackup · 2023-01-30T20:47:21+00:00

The obvious action would be to contact LA Fitness corporate and file a sexual misconduct complaint against the District manager. Maybe call your local news as well.

NeonCityNights · 2023-01-30T18:14:33+00:00

(Imagine that woman's hysteria if she was getting changed in some locker room and a man walked in telling her he was the district manager)

But anyways while this is certainly not the most important issue facing men, it's definitely a very real double standard that is almost universal in the West. Basically, just like men's rights to not be groped by women isn't enforced (you're supposed to enjoy it) men also don't have a right to privacy from the opposite sex in changing rooms.

I think they've even officially allowed female reporters to enter the locker rooms of professional male athletes, but not the inverse (again, I'm not saying the inverse should be allowed, I'm just pointing out the asymmetry of the law).

Yes, people will pay lip service to this and that, on paper, women aren't supposed to go into men's changing rooms, but any violation of this is not enforced, since most people have no innate desire to punish women for nearly anything. Especially for things like going into the men's restroom or groping a man she doesn't know. When women are punished, it is done so begrudgingly and reluctantly by authorities who know that they have to yield to concepts of gender equality before the law, and it's usually only for serious crimes.

So yes, it's another double standard.

thealphateam · 2023-01-30T20:55:39+00:00

Next time yell "HEY MISSY, COME CHECK THIS OUT!"

And I'm sure you'd be labeled the bad guy.

LUCKYMAZE · 2023-01-30T22:15:21+00:00

if you don’t want to sue , just keep in mind that if a man would have done that , he would have been sued and shamed until his death. Do the right thing and sue. We will remember.

Bradderz_SG · 2023-01-31T07:21:04+00:00

I have a story similar (sort of) to this. I was going to a theatre in London, UK and during the intermission everyone decides to go to the toilet. The queue for the women’s is packed and barely moving, the men’s queue is also packed but moving at a pace.

As I’m queuing up, two women decide to walk past the entire men’s queue, into the mens toilet and use the cubicles in there. The kicker was that they asked further up the line if they could and about three/four men said “yeah that’s fine! Help yourselves!”, as if they spoke for the entire male queue at the time.

If I, or any male, had done that to the women’s bathroom there would have been murders. It shouldn’t bug me as much as it should, but to this day it still annoys me.

Sketchy_Uncle · 2023-01-30T23:09:17+00:00

Imagine being a man and walking through a woman's changing room unannounced..."Its alright, I'm the district manager..."

"oh ok, all good"

kittenegg25 · 2023-01-30T19:44:48+00:00

That is absolutely disgusting. You should sue them, these companies ought to be sued for sexual harassment directed at men for a change.

pacsatonifil · 2023-01-30T22:47:50+00:00

Report her ass. Men are allowed privacy too. I would’ve cussed her out. I don’t give a fuck who they are

Dustball414CA · 2023-01-30T23:55:05+00:00

You answered your own question - sue the bastards!

It doesn't matter who they are, there is a thing called proper decorum. And she trampled all over it.

We all know, should it have been you waltzing into the women's locker room, that things would have been very different. So.. SUE!!

HurryLocal982 · 2023-01-31T01:14:48+00:00

Violation of a male space. Could be considered sexual harassment

Acceptable_Visit604 · 2023-01-30T18:42:07+00:00

Sue her If men can get sued, so can women

stent00 · 2023-01-30T23:44:46+00:00

Seeing guys peepees is I guess. Ok??? Imagine if a guy walked into a woman's change room.and .saw all there vajs sticking out...

No-Recognition-4033 · 2023-01-31T05:34:56+00:00

File a formal complaint with the main office.

Sometimes you have to go Karen.

pinkpixiepixel · 2023-01-31T07:23:20+00:00

it's disgusting that she would do that, the shit society gives any man for that is shocking. But women can just do it consiquence free? Honestly, she should be fired.

NullIsUndefined · 2023-01-30T19:29:05+00:00

Are you sure she didn't identify as male? Not a joke... Once this happens companies don't know how to handle it.

furchfur · 2023-01-31T00:17:05+00:00

Sue them I am sure there is money in it.

Could be quite a lot

Cuntplainer · 2023-01-31T01:24:48+00:00

If I tried that, I would get pepper-sprayed.

NickTesla2018 · 2023-01-30T20:25:41+00:00

If the roles were reversed, there would be riots in the streets, looting, pink kitty hats, overturned cars, etc...

suk-my-ballz-0811 · 2023-01-30T18:55:32+00:00

You can actually sue the company for damages bro. Like honestly. Take this shit to an attorney and give them this story and see if they will take the case and do the normal 60-40 split after victory.

I envy your golden ticket. My guess is they will offer a decent amount pretty quickly to settle outside of court to save face in the media.

Edit another thought- this is actionable against LA Fitness don’t worry about naming the woman. She will be in so much shit for causing this she will likely be fired. “LA Fitness created the culture where this supervisor thought it appropriate to violate and impose on my privacy. I feel violated, anxious to return, distressed and completely humiliated. It has directly affected my well being and altered my day to day activities.” Boom damages, measurable damages.

ThrowAway___0000000 · 2023-01-30T18:11:47+00:00

record her & show this video to appropriate authority.

63daddy · 2023-01-30T18:40:22+00:00

First, you need to find out what their policy is. More and more facilities no longer restrict use based on biological sex despite retaining the men’s and women’s labels.

Gabe0697 · 2023-01-30T22:05:56+00:00

If this goes against policy definitely raise hell. That said, where i am in Scandinavia there is literally a sign saying that personnel or any sender are allowed in the locker rooms. Nudity is a lot less taboo here though i suppose

Revolutionary_Major8 · 2023-01-30T22:41:39+00:00

Wow. The audacity. I am so sorry you had to go through that! What a violation of your privacy! Do you know any of the other gentlemen that were also in the changing room? They could back you up if needed.

Suitable-Mind-8559 · 2023-01-30T23:12:55+00:00

File a complaint with corporate. See if you can get others to corroborate your story by having them file their own complaints. Post your story on the gym’s SM pages whether that be on their wall or in the comments. Just keep spreading the word until someone does something about it. This isn’t right.

raybay_666 · 2023-01-30T20:26:33+00:00

Fight that shit to the end tbh Fuck that lady

Why_Do_I_Wake_Up · 2023-01-30T21:13:13+00:00

you could try to do something, but remember, she is a woman, all she has to do is to cry and say she didnt and you will have to pay her millions of $$$.

Women have a way higher juristictional preference

thealphateam · 2023-01-30T20:53:28+00:00

RemindMe! 1 week

LUCKYMAZE · 2023-01-30T22:12:08+00:00

Sue. and share it everywhere.

praductjr · 2023-01-30T23:53:36+00:00

The double standards and hubris hypocrisy of her. Make sure you point out rhetorically that isn’t it wrong for the opposite sex to be in the other sexes bathroom. Aren’t we having this discussion because men in wigs are in female bathrooms?

Trev6ft5 · 2023-01-31T02:01:57+00:00

You will have to create alot of noise that threatens the company's reputation and profits

Extension_Ad_439 · 2023-01-31T02:20:34+00:00

Did you cover yourself because you don't want to be seen? Or because you felt it was a requirement out of respect for her as a woman?

If it was me, I wouldn't cover up and I'd go about my business, because if she didn't want to see, she should have followed the normal protocol for the situation.

queen-of-carthage · 2023-01-31T02:31:24+00:00

You just won the lottery

EnormousPurpleGarden · 2023-01-31T05:06:31+00:00

If that happened in the women's they'd be getting sued, right? Like what the fuck do I do about this?

You could sue them.

EnflureDeSinge · 2023-01-30T18:38:13+00:00

"GTFO OF HERE FFS"

JosephDavidZ · 2023-01-30T19:58:00+00:00

Hit on them hard while feverishly fapping.

bilgediver · 2023-01-30T21:56:51+00:00

Report EEO violation to HR.

melancoliamea · 2023-01-30T22:34:27+00:00

!remindme 1 week

raytaylor · 2023-01-31T04:15:27+00:00

Your local news media are always looking for stories. You are never wasting a reporters time by giving them a story tip.

alphasupremacy5555 · 2023-01-31T05:49:19+00:00

Make some calls to the gyms higher ups.

sharksville · 2023-01-31T11:38:35+00:00

Do what I do if it helps. In my work place if I’m using the restroom, I don’t care if she doing her job, but I don’t want a woman in there while I’m in there and I happened to be there first. There’s a lady that does the cleaning jobs around the place but I made it clear to her not to come in if I or any other man is in there and always knock and check before entering, even if she is just doing her job and cleaning the restrooms and if she doesn’t do what she’s been told, I will kick her out of the restroom and it will count as a strike. Three strikes and she’s out of a job

GivesStellarAdvice · 2023-01-31T15:56:05+00:00

Just use the women's changing room next time and act like you belong there. If anyone says anything, just tell them you thought it was okay because the District Manager was using the men's changing room last week.

okcannasseur · 2023-01-31T15:57:19+00:00

Sue the fuck out of them. Call her a sexual predator and go after her for sexual harassment. Which is exactly what happened.

Do not let females get away with that shit. You'd be a registered sex offender doing 10 years in prison if you did that in the female locker room. End of story.

roseffin · 2023-01-30T18:36:22+00:00

Drop trou

michaelpaoli · 2023-01-31T06:42:14+00:00

Yeah, it's hypocritical/unfair
Me, personally? ... I'd probably be inclined to let it slide - at least if she wasn't oogling folks or making inappropriate remarks or other such inappropriate actions, and there weren't, e.g. vulnerable persons such as minors there. Not exactly a case like some qualified medical professional, or a credentialed press reporter in locker room of some professional sports team but ... I'd probably cut 'em some slack.
On the other hand, I think it's pretty poor judgement on the part of that chain gym's management and that district manager - and I'd quite question their judgement. I'd say it's over-the-line ... but perhaps not egregiously so.

But hey, you do you - want to complain to 'em about it go over their head or whatever, sure, civilly, but clearly, register your complaints and objections. If nobody complains or objects or let such be known, they're less likely to alter their behavior - conversely let 'em know you don't consider that acceptable, and they may well stop doing stuff like that. So if you're not okay with it - certainly let 'em know.

taiga003 · 2023-01-31T16:25:52+00:00

I was having a conversation about this in a private chat once. Here is what tends to happens with this issue:
Man walks through a women's change room: Women are easily threatened and have a stronger sense of boundaries than what men do and that is why it often quickly escalates into a women reporting the incident. Women have more to fear from a man because men are naturally physically stronger than woman. Women are generally more afraid and easily feel threatened.

Woman walks through a men's change room: Men are more easily manipulated by a woman and also women pose less of threat physically to a man. However that does not make it right. Men are more likely to stare at a woman especially if she is naked because men are more visually aroused and attracted by a woman's appearance. Also women know men are generally more lonely than they are so they are also taking advantage of man's tendency to be more single these days and think to themselves that they will probably get away with it.

A man's boundaries should be respected just as much as a woman's however women will sadly exploit this by sexually arousing a man just to get favorable outcomes for some themselves.

Once again it does not make it right for a woman do this. However women are more aware of this dynamic and sadly will take advantage of it. And yes I would report it because I bet if you did the same and walked in on them, they would report it to management. The same rules should apply regardless.

LUCKYMAZE · 2023-01-30T22:13:33+00:00

What’s they gym??? We will all leave reviews

RickWest495 · 2023-01-31T14:39:37+00:00

She basically pulled a Trump. “I am the boss and I can do anything”

BillBull7890 · 2023-01-31T01:11:23+00:00

Be a fucking man and pull out your dick

almostadaddy · 2023-01-31T05:08:44+00:00

Go find another gym.

DivideDangerous6713 · 2023-01-31T08:55:55+00:00

Happens all the time, usually in the terms and conditions of your membership and signed throughout the gym, and it does happen the other way around

jack40714 · 2023-01-31T02:59:16+00:00

You shout “begone wench!”

depaul9 · 2023-01-31T08:31:56+00:00

Beware they can charge you for rape anytime = 20+ years prison

GrantNexus · 2023-01-31T03:00:07+00:00

Was her last name Trump

WeEatBabies · 2023-01-30T19:01:55+00:00

If you say anything, she might accuse you a kidnapping and grape, merely to get out of trouble.

And it's your word against her word, and you know how that goes(See the Brian Banks documentary).

Better keep your head down and stay clear of feminists.

XaviRequiem · 2023-01-31T01:00:48+00:00

Just keep on going, flap your cock around with no shame brother, if they are there that's their business, mind your on

TacocaT_PooP · 2023-01-30T19:44:59+00:00

Yes significant shrinkage. ... Like a frightened turtle!

toolsavvy · 2023-01-30T23:34:58+00:00

Find an ambulance chaser type of lawyer and you will get a settlement without having to sue them.

miltownrox · 2023-01-31T02:08:37+00:00

!remind me 1week

fractionpizza · 2023-01-31T05:11:55+00:00

RemindMe! 3 days

cy_narrator · 2023-01-31T10:57:45+00:00

Yo myan just reveal your dong

Slap-A-Chav · 2023-01-31T12:30:22+00:00

!remind me 1week

pasta4u · 2023-01-31T15:29:06+00:00

You should file a police report and press charges and then sue the store and retire

okcannasseur · 2023-01-31T15:57:57+00:00

What gym was it and what town? I'll post some scathing reviews

SappySoulTaker · 2023-01-31T17:35:24+00:00

You definitely didn't have to cover yourself up.

Sensitive-Ad6609 · 2023-01-31T17:46:24+00:00

Since nobody alerted you, I do not trust what they say.

evilnaughtydang · 2023-01-31T19:44:02+00:00

!RemindeMe 1 week

highlander1990 · 2023-01-31T20:12:15+00:00

!remind me 1 week

DivideDangerous6713 · 2023-02-06T15:20:25+00:00

Personal experience, viewed in Puregym, Longbenton, Newcastle UK...

andrewscool101 · 2023-02-06T19:52:26+00:00

I'm here, it's been a week. Can we please have an update, OP?

Anonymoushero111 · 2023-01-30T18:47:47+00:00

Like what the fuck do I do about this?

it depends. is your goal to personally feel safe next time you continue going to this gym?

or is your goal to fight righteously in some perceived cultural battle against double standards?

critical-thoughts · 2023-01-30T21:26:58+00:00

It's only a big deal in USA, in Europe and Asia its not a big deal.

ElCoyoteBlanco · 2023-01-30T23:14:01+00:00

What a fucking weirdo, why do you care? I doubt anyone cares about your precious genitals.

SHOwSHOrTAge · 2023-01-31T14:28:48+00:00

Maybe don't be a pussy and realize that as a district manager, she has better things to do than going into locker rooms for the express purpose of perving on people 💀

Title	Woman just walks into mens changing room? What do I do?
Author	BigSlappySandwitch
Upvotes	1234
Comments	222
Date	January 30, 2023 5:48 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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