hi guys, this post is about something that i have been struggling since i was a teenager and i wanted to share it here, first of all i put "be seen as someone who gets laid" because as weird as it sounds, its more of an issue for me instead of my actual inability to get laid, as in, i do want to do it, but i feel that even if i managed to do so, i would still be seen as a "virgin" and as less of a man/less of a person.

so beeing seen as a man who gets it, who doesnt gets insulted by that, is more of a priority for me, and if i could have looked the part when i was younger and those insults where more of a problem, or if i could just avoid having to deal with insecurity about the whole thing, then that would be better than actually fucking somebody, mostly because while i am horny sometimes, i can deal with that on my own, not so much with the shame and judgement (from myself and from others) that comes with not having sex.

so, i could go into more detaill about experiences that have made me think this way, going from my school life to experiences/expectations with my family, because i know that a lot of those are very individual (for instance i look like a minor even now approaching my mid twenties and have a mother who would rather have me having kids rather than a phd) and a lot of them have made this a way bigger deal for me that it should be, but i wanted to know if the guys here deal with that same concerns, and if they do how do they manage it, or how did they stopped feeling this way.

thanks for reading the post.