Unisex Facilities put women and girls at risk of assault. 90% of complaints regarding changing room sexual assaults, voyeurism and harassment are about incidents in unisex facilities.

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Zirniaisuspirgais · 2021-03-05T18:22:43+00:00

I refuse to go into any unisex changing rooms at big stores because of predators and males putting hidden cameras in. You can’t trust ANY of them

MulticoloredCatMug · 2021-03-05T17:46:47+00:00

I used to be a nanny for a 10 year old girl. Her school made all of their bathrooms unisex and she was telling me about it.

At the time I thought it was a good thing to just let people pee where they are most comfortable. But she was obviously distressed and told me that she doesn't want to be alone in the bathroom with her male teachers.

I felt really stupid for not recognizing just how vulnerable she and others are without single sex areas.

jargon_explosion · 2021-03-05T20:15:51+00:00

Nowadays women seem to be leading the charge in fighting to take away what the women before them had to fight and claw for to progress to where we are today, and that includes sex specific bathrooms. Let's stop and think for a moment at the privilege of being able to leave our houses and use a washroom designated for us. It seems ridiculous now but it wasn't not too long ago.

The fight for same sex designed washrooms is important especially because it seems like it shouldn't matter, but data and history shows that it does.

Again, like so many issues regarding women that advocates are fighting against, it's about safety and respect.

Women's safety is more important than men's feelings.

Women's safety is more important than the corporate and government bottom line.

Women's safety is more important than inclusion at all costs.

ferociouslycurious · 2021-03-05T18:08:55+00:00

Is this problem occurring in single room locations or larger rooms with multiple stalls? I have only seen single room unisex ones (such as a gas station bathroom, single room with locking door) but I hear about being alone with males and it makes me think there are spaces I’m unfamiliar with. I feel very privileged WRT assault so I’m naive and I want to be more aware of how best to advocate. Are the single room ones safer?

EveSerpent · 2021-03-05T19:18:41+00:00

Any woman who supports these has never had to use one. The first time I did, there was a line to use the stalls. A gross guy in line behind me was trying to hit on me. I was trapped: if I left , I’d lose my place. There was no other bathroom around. Unisex bathrooms and change rooms are anti -women and unsafe in multiple ways. Their existence is misogyny in the extreme.

LilithWon · 2021-03-05T19:01:25+00:00

Story time [trigger warning]

I once needed to use the washroom at the grocery store. They only had single-room unisex bathrooms, one was unlocked, so I went in. To my surprise, there was a middle aged, hairy, obese man standing in there shirtless with his pants all the way on the ground and his hands on his dick. I immediately was like "holy shit!" and turned on my heel and got out of there. I went to complain to the manager and he was just like "oh, okay?" and didn't seem to have a problem with that. Didn't want to call the police, didn't want to write a report or anything. Just seemed kinda annoyed with me for wasting his time.

Fitncurly · 2021-03-05T18:25:13+00:00

Speak with your dollars—never patronize or spend money at a place that does this. They’ll notice the loss of revenue and either fix it or tank. I’d walk right out and go to the competition that actually has some damn common sense. If it’s a school? Raise hell, get together with other parents (who would likely be on board, especially if they have daughters), go to the school board and PTA. This is another instance where money talks. If you can, relocate to a school that also has common sense. If all the people with money and influence did this it’d put pressure on the schools for their own bottom line.

uptownxthot · 2021-03-05T19:44:39+00:00

unisex bathrooms would honestly be such a great idea if men weren’t socialized to be fucking predators. they literally ruin everything.

Aphor1st · 2021-03-05T21:04:37+00:00

I live in a VERY progressive gay orientated area. I think we have the second highest population of LGBTQIA+ in California after San Francisco. Most restaurants and stores have switched to unisex bathrooms but the difference here is also since it’s a high tourist area as well is that there is usually a unisex bathroom and a female only bathroom. I think this is the best way to keep it inclusive and safe for everyone.

honeybeeroll · 2021-03-05T20:19:51+00:00

I have seen women on here talk about the voyeurism that happens in unisex bathrooms OR one story where this woman worked a graveyard shift w/ one other guy who used the women's restroom and purposefully trashed it. Other employees were getting angry at her when it was him.

So I used to have no problem with single stall unisex bathrooms, and always thought it was kinda funny that my mom is like "no, I don't want to use a bathroom a man has used." But after hearing these stories, I get my mom's perspective. There's psychotic men out there like the one in the story I just mentioned, and men who set cameras in all female changing rooms, bathrooms, and elsewhere for years now. Men actively invade our private spaces, so I don't really fw inviting them into those private spaces. If it's a small restaurant then I'm like alright it is what it is, it's a cost/space thing, but putting in unisex bathrooms as policy, I don't fw.

I'm fine w/ unisex bathrooms as policy if you have room for all 3 - male, female, and all gender. Think I saw that at the San Francisco Airport and appreciated that. My office is part of a 2 floor coworking space, and there's 4 bathrooms - a women's on each floor, a men's on the 2nd floor, and a single stall unisex on the 1st floor. I appreciated that they put a women's bathroom on each floor and recognized that women need more space. You never see a line a mile long outside a men's restroom lol.

Appreciate you making this post btw. I have never seen bathroom bills and such be passed w/ much consideration for women's feelings or how this law will affect the primary user, women.

ThoraFriganza · 2021-03-05T18:04:41+00:00

I have never been to a unisex chancing rooms and I wouldn't want to go in one if there are men. That said I think there should be an option for people who are more comfortable with that. But I'm sure there is a majority who wouldn't (though most men probably don't care) so it sounds more about it beig cheaper rather than the safety for women or that they actually care about gender neutral people.

2021-03-06T00:53:02+00:00

Yep had a guy take unsolicited photos of me at the gym. I told the staff about it and luckily he got banned but still

IndividualRoutine661 · 2021-03-05T22:37:17+00:00

We have a right to penis free spaces, where the hell has safeguarding gone? Not only the violation of privacy and potential for voyeurism, sexual assault and bullying - but men piss on the floor 😫

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