Vetting is NOT exhausting - vetting is merely being honest with yourself.

Vetting is going into a date with a critical mind and clear eyes, and see the man for what he is.

Vetting is knowing explicitly what your standards and boundaries are, and the second you notice he trying to challenge them - you drop him.

Vetting is stopping yourself from rationalizing his behavior and making excuses for him when he upsets or annoy you.

Vetting is listening to your intuition when it signals that something is "off", and immediately start planning your exit.

Vetting is respecting your intuition and believe in its power, instead of frantically tamping it down and pretend you don't hear it because you want this man to be the "one".

Vetting is NOT like redpill manosphere pick up artists thousand of tactics and scripts to get you into bed with them - vetting is merely being disciplined with yourself for your own sake.

The only way you think vetting is "exhausting" is because you just want to "fall" - you just want to believe everything he say, you just want to fog yourself with the bliss of ignorance, you just want to pretend that everything is okay and happy and good and exciting.

Vetting is "exhausting" because you keep hoping this new man will finally be the "one" but vetting shows you that he is not, and you feel disappointed. You silently wish you don't know this vetting concept and just get lost in the intoxication and thrill of "love".

But that state of intoxication and thrill won't last forever - eventually you can't deny the pain of the intuition screaming at you. You aren't "confused why he suddenly change overnight!" - deep down your intuition already know, but you choose to ignore it. So all it can do is screaming and writhing in agony until you can't ignore it anymore.

Vetting is "exhausting" is like driver feeling knowing rules and regulations of the street "exhausting". They wish they can be free from the burden of knowing and drive as recklessly as they want. Sure it seems exhausting and annoying learning and knowing all the rules, but ignorance is bliss until it bites you in the ass, hard.

Vetting is not exhausting - it is a skill that needs learning and feels tiring when you aren't used to it. But once you got it, you will slap yourself silly thinking "why didn't I learn this sooner, would've save me so much pain and wasted years!"

Stay safe ladies.