Hear me out. TLDR at the bottom, I know this is very long so I apologize in advance.

Just to make sure we're on the same page, hypergamy is currently defined as:

The biological, evolutionarily inherited nature for a woman to form a sexual relationship with a person that is of equal or superior sociological status or physical attractiveness.

Disclaimer, I am going to be massively generalizing. I know that not all bluepillers are x, not all redpillers are y, not all incels are z, etc.

Hypergamy as a Moral or Immoral Trait

The blue pill, the red pill, the black pill, and incels all seem to have a preconceived idea of what it will mean for their community if hypergamy is proven to be true or untrue. And they all happen to operate under the assumption that hypergamy is an immoral character trait. For example:

The blue pill believes that claiming hypergamy to be true, is like trying to claim that all women have immoral character traits. Therefore, it is sexist and ignorant to do so, thus all redpillers, blackpillers, and incels are sexist.

The red pill/black pill/incels believe that if hypergamy is proven to be true, it will mean that the crazy frustration towards women can be justified on a factually proven level, because women themselves are now proven to be factually crazy and frustrating.

Here's the thing:

If the theory of hypergamy is that it is inherited, then women have absolutely nothing to do with this equation. It is evolution that is making the decisions.

A great example of this, is sleep.

Sleep, in and of itself, is an incredibly unproductive and underwhelming experience. You spend 7-9 hours doing absolutely nothing except lying down. You cannot think, you cannot feel, you are unable to do anything with your life until your body says it's time to get up. This absolute nothing of an experience is what you will spend 1/3 of your entire life doing. So why do we do it?

Because it's not up to you.

Sleep is not a choice. You cannot choose to be tired, or awake, or asleep, you simply are. Evolution has biologically designed your body through 300,000 years of evolution to facilitate a cycle of restfulness and wakefulness. A higher power has decided, for reasons beyond our comprehension, that this is how it is going to work. It is not you who wants to sleep, it is evolution.

Food is another good example.

It is not you who chooses to enjoy chocolate cake. It is evolution who designed your brain to perceive chocolate cake as delicious, therefor this is what causes you to enjoy it. If it was your decision, you could just choose to find spinach as delicious as cake, but you can't, because evolution has designed your brain in a way that prevents you from doing so.

In other words, it is an evolutionary trait.

What that means is, if the theory of hypergamy being an inherited trait is true, it is not women who decide that Chad is attractive and Billy is ugly, it is evolution. Women are simply the vessel for what evolution wants to happen, which in this case, evolution has decided that women can only find men attractive if they are equal or higher in the socioeconomic marketplace.

If this is true, then:

  • Asking a woman to just lower her standards is like asking someone to just lower the amount of sleep they need.
  • Asking a woman to find an unattractive man attractive is like asking a person to find something that tastes disgusting, to taste delicious.

This would mean that hypergamy is neither moral or immoral, rather it is amoral. It literally exists independent of what we think or want.

Theory as to why evolution has designed women to be this way:

Evolution's goal for the human race, is to survive. In order to survive, the human race must preserve good genetics and forgo poor genetics. Good genetics ensure survivability, progress, and health. Bad genetics invite illness, setbacks, and increase the likelihood of extinction.

Evolution accomplishes this goal in two ways:

  1. Designing men to want to have as much offspring with as many different women as possible.
  2. Designing women to be incapable of accepting anything other than the best possible genetics/environment for their offspring. Aka hypergamy.

Men essentially determine how many of us are out there, and then women essentially determine how healthy those people are. When you start to view human behavior through this lens, a lot of things start to make sense. Examples:

  • Ugly people do not find other ugly people "hot" / poor genetics don't want to procreate with poor genetics.
  • Men are a lot less pickier than women. This increases the likelihood that you will have more children or seek out more sexual partners.
  • We are willing to die for our newborn baby, even though we know nothing about him/her. Love increases the likelihood that we protect our offspring, thus increases our babies' chance of survival.
  • etc

Now bringing it back to why women are the way they are:

It is not evolutionarily beneficial for women to be attracted to anything other than the very best genetics, and the very best environment they can get for their offspring.

  • Being tall - Advantageous for survival.
  • Having muscle - Advantageous for survival.
  • Having wealth/power - Offspring will have the resources to deal with complications, thus a higher chance of survival.
  • etc.

If women lowered their standards, they would be increasing the likelihood that poor genetics are passed on, which literally increases the likelihood the human race does not survive. Hypergamy is part of evolution's plan to prevent this from happening. Neither men or women have a say in this.

How could this realization help men and women?

If all this/hypergamy ends up being scientifically true, and everyone understood it for what it is, it could potentially be the start of giving everyone what they want:

If you are a feminist blue piller: Science literally says to society it's not women's fault. A woman is not biologically capable of just lowering her standards to find a man attractive, therefore, it is scientifically foolish for men to hold women responsible for their rejection or separation.

If you are a redpilled guy whose wife divorced you for a wealthier man: Science literally says to society that it is indeed possible that you were a great father and husband but your wife still divorced you for some wealthier guy in finance. Now that we know it's possible, it gives way for society to empathize with you.

If you are a blackpiller/incel who is a 30-year-old kissless virgin and suspects that you may actually die alone because women don't date guys who are uglier or poorer: Congrats, because you were quite literally proven to be correct. "There is a relationship out there for everyone" is no longer a factually correct statement. Science will literally tell others to stop gaslighting you.

What could this kind of society look like vs the one we live in now?

Once we all come to the conclusion that it's nobody's fault, but people are still suffering, we can then work together to look for a solution.

For example, I know this sounds crazy, but if hypergamy ends up being real, one of the things we can do to move forward is we can classify romantic unsuccessfulness due to hypergamy as a medical condition. Something like,

A condition in which an individual does not meet the sociological or physical prerequisites necessary to be found sexually and romantically viable by hypergamous nature.

And then "treatment" would be run by professionals who can give objective advice based on the best research and data. So now instead of lonely men running towards the redpill/blackpill/incel communities for advice, they can go seek a professional who literally specializes in diagnosing the traits that are causing you to be deemed undesirable by hypergamy.

Violence and hatred towards women within the incel/blackpill/redpill communities would also decline. If incels looked at their involuntary celibacy as a condition due to evolution, rather than an experience voluntarily inflicted by women, they no longer have a reason to exact justice or revenge. The only option left is to take responsibility for their celibacy. More men who take responsibility means more men trying to improve their looks. More men improving their looks, means more attractive men.

Woman, now that they are no longer being accused of being inherently evil, are now more likely to acknowledge that hypergamy exists (also because they know that they are not hypergamy itself, they are simply the vessel). This leads them to be more empathetic towards the struggles that men face in the dating pool. More empathy, means more women trying to help men. More women trying to help men, means lower standards.

See where this goes? You are now left with more attractive men, in a dating pool with lower standards.

My final thoughts/personal opinions:

To the bitter, radical members of redpill, blackpill, or incel:

You cannot say women are awful, whilst simultaneously making the claim that their actions are due to female nature. These statements in themselves are oxymorons and contradict each other. Either women are in control of their actions, or they are not. Claiming that they are both is wrong, unproductive, and only serves to seek inappropriate retribution. You are the ones making a claim, it is your responsibility to back it up. The truth always lies where it is difficult. In this case, you must first absolve the women you hold responsible for your pain, before they can acknowledge that your pain exists. In other words, women will be more inclined to help you if you stop blaming them for your problems.

To the anti-redpill, disney-fied bluepillers:

If hypergamy is proven right, then you will also be proven right. It is not a woman's fault that a man is single. It is not your responsibility to find unattractive people attractive. The loneliness of men is not, and was never your burden to carry. However, if hypergamy is proven right, it also means you have convinced an entire generation of men to shelter in a glass house in the midst of an incoming tornado. Telling a 30-year-old virgin that he will find love when you have no idea if he will or not, is wrong. Telling your boyfriend who lost his job, now sitting on the couch all day, slowly gaining 5lbs/week, "you are no less attractive" is wrong. Men who are given false promises will turn bitter and resentful, and will look to hold someone responsible. Do not be part of the problem.

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TLDR

If hypergamy is scientifically proven as an inherited trait, that means women are not choosing what's attractive, evolution is.

If evolution is calling the shots, then neither men nor women have any say/control in the matter.

If neither sex has any control, then men can no longer blame women, and women can no longer invalidate men.

Women who do not feel blamed are more likely to be empathetic.

Men who do not feel invalidated are more likely to take responsibility.

Empathetic women = More leniency towards men.

Responsible men = More effort to become attractive.

More leniency = Lower standards = More men in relationships.

More effort = More attractive men = More women in relationships.

Conclusion: Men and women must work together in order to give each other what they want.

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I'd love to know what people think. Agree, disagree, was this complete garbage? Do I sound like a nutjob? Would love to know.

But of course, if hypergamy doesn't end up being real then this all pretty much goes up in flames.