Why in bloody heck would a man want to get married in this day and age?

rawne- · 2023-12-16T23:48:49+00:00

Some people like to gamble.

throwRA65345 · 2023-12-17T05:02:55+00:00

My divorce was just finalized last week. We were in court for 26 months, and each had 40k in attorney fees. Plus, I have to pay a 100k buyout. I wish I never married that greedy, spoiled, lazy, disgusting b*tch.

63daddy · 2023-12-17T00:49:15+00:00

I think the big reason for a man to marry is if he really wants to have kids in a family setting. That might justify the risks.

Personally, I find dating provides most of the benefits while avoiding many of the pitfalls of marriage and divorce.

Such-Sport-3920 · 2023-12-17T00:06:43+00:00

Indian men are doing it for sex. Our society is such that most men do not lose their virginity till they get married. Arrange marriage is a scene here so they get suitable wives and experience sex for the first time.

mgtowolf · 2023-12-17T05:02:05+00:00

Yes I have a great wife bot it seems that those are getting rarer by the day.

Wait, there are wifebots now? Who sells those? :P

Everyone has a good wife, until they don't. Only a handful of masochists will marry an obvious mean bitch, so they hide the dark side until they get carried across the threshold, when they now have all the advantages and power. Plenty of women I thought were human beings turned into vindictive monsters when the relationship is over and done. Then all of a sudden they are airing your dirty laundry and making shit up about you on twitter and facebook and the various sexist vindictive groups made for that shit.

RemCogito · 2023-12-17T10:14:27+00:00

I felt that way until I met my wife.

She has never dragged old problems into new ones.

She sided with her Father in their divorce. Her siblings are grown, But she's still angry that her mother took the younger children so far away just to make it harder for him to have a relationship with them.

She has never weaponized shame against me. Every fight we have ends up constructively resolved.

She cooked such amazing food, and even learned recipes from my grandmother.

Then, I saw her around children and realized for the first time in my life, that I actually found a woman who I could trust to raise children with me.

In all my life and all my dating and several multi year relationships, I had never felt that way before. I had always assumed I wouldn't have children.

Every other woman I had gotten to know had always been too manipulative, or too controlling, or too quick to anger, or frustration, or unable to actually talk about things constructively.

Or they couldn't do basic things like cook. or Iron a shirt. Which is fine when its just two people, but with the hours I work, there's no way that I could cook every meal for kids.

I believe in marriage as a concept for child bearing purposes. If I was choosing to have children, Those children deserved a contract that protects parts of their parent's relationship, regardless of what happens. If something terrible changed, and we grew to hate each other, they deserved to have a mother who wasn't completely destitute, regardless of how I might feel about it at the time. That ultimately having a third party mediate that catastrophe would probably be for the best.

There are benefits. She took my last name, so that we have a cohesive image. It brought joy to both our surviving grandmothers. People are more accepting of you speaking on each other's behalf. My parents were so excited that at least one of their children were getting married they paid for the wedding. Some people treat you differently. Especially some older conservative folks, like they now see you as a responsible adult.

My wife is a very reasonable woman, The most reasonable woman I've ever met. But its still a huge gamble.

Anti-Scam-Activist · 2023-12-17T00:51:07+00:00

There are loopholes I found to get everything out of marriage without the risks of divorce.

You could either; a) Never Get Married and Deal with all the Gaslighting or Breakup.

b) Never Legally Get Married, No Marriage Certificate, But have a Wedding to Keep Her Happy.

c) Get a Prenuptial Agreement, which is Contested if not Ironclad and doesn't account for Child Support. Plus get accused of mistrust and banking on a divorce that you don't love her.

d) Get Married where Divorce isn't allowed like Philippines, but all property is under her name if you are a foreigner.

e) Marry only a woman that earns more than you, or wealthy enough to help support a family with you. But whenever you buy property, put your mother's name on it, so in divorce she can't take anything. And you get Alimony if she earns more than you.

Like Achraf Hakimi's divorce.

There are always alternatives if you look for them.

Afraid_Oil_7386 · 2023-12-17T01:07:11+00:00

Bc the man with their current woman with pressure them into it. And the guy isn't man enough to put his foot down.

springy · 2023-12-17T14:52:39+00:00

A man getting married nowadays is the triumph of hope over experience

Rothbardy · 2023-12-17T00:32:09+00:00

To have a family and raise children. Continue the family tree and pass on your DNA and life experiences. Risks are high, payoff is high. Not everyone should get married as the system is unfortunately against men; that’s what happens when the state gets involved where it shouldn’t

skllyskullstyle · 2023-12-17T04:21:38+00:00

Woah! This coming from a married man. That should say a lot. But yes for men, getting married is like taking a 50/50 chance of losing your life.

Vegetable_Ad1732 · 2023-12-17T04:44:24+00:00

Am I the only one who's going to point out he said he has a great wife BOT? I mean the way this typo fits in with his message is too precious to ignore. lol

PsionicShift · 2023-12-17T11:05:00+00:00

I’m gay, and I STILL don’t want to get married!

Vova_Vist · 2023-12-17T17:53:24+00:00

To be betabux

Thebaron7137 · 2023-12-17T22:24:11+00:00

Been there done that,never again. Learned my lesson the first time.

michaelpaoli · 2023-12-17T02:35:51+00:00

Why in bloody heck would a man want to get married in this day and age?

There are many reasons, notably legal, taxes, benefits, etc.

have a great wife bot it seems that those are getting rarer by the day

Great women exist ... even might currently be more rare (may also vary by, e.g. location, culture, family, etc.), so ... shouldn't have to give up just 'cause many aren't.

And ... prenups are always a possibility. Can reduce the probability of things going majorly sideways. Ideally should well benefit and protect both parties, be well agreed upon, and ... of course jurisdiction and applicable laws mater ... a lot. Do it "right" and in the "right" jurisdiction and reside there ... may be iron clad solid. Screw it up and it's an unenforceable useless piece of paper with some wishes/intents written on it. That doesn't necessarily mean it will 100% cover everything, even if done "right". E.g. person runs off to and absconds with ... kid(s), pet(s), asset(s) ... whatever to a country with no applicable extradition agreements and disappears from sight there ... yeah, prenup won't really do anything for that ... but in more common circumstances, good/reasonable jurisdiction and persons involved ... prenup can work quite well.

Status-Associate6318 · 2023-12-17T09:19:14+00:00

There's nothing you can do married that you can't do single or dating. The problem is that your girlfriend can still gaslight you, she can turn out to be a shitty person, and you waste your time, only to be badmouthed or destroyed later on.

Might as well hook up with guys. Closing your eyes while getting oral sex, could you really tell whether it's a woman or man going down on you?

I'm sure there are still a lot of people who want to get married and raise a family, and if they are happy with it, that's great and I wish them well; however, it's stressful enough to focus on a relationship with the cost of living, the worsening of divisiveness, and with everything going on these days, I'm not sure I'd feel safe bringing kids into this world. Even a single man struggles to maintain their existence while working, trying to get enough sleep, take care of their health, enjoy things, etc.

Frird2008 · 2023-12-17T00:56:56+00:00

Only 2 continue my bloodline but that's about it.

pargofan · 2023-12-17T04:56:02+00:00

Because men crave companionship with a life partner they have a sexual attraction to.

For substantially all of them, that's women.

adam-l · 2023-12-17T05:09:02+00:00

I have a great wife bot it seems that those are getting rarer by the day.

Wife bots can really be a good alternative to biological wives, and I agree that the good ones will get ever rarer as the wife bot industry adapts to wokism. I fully expect them to integrate feminist nagging in their next versions.

Seems there will be a niche for, let's call them, traditionalism hackers, who will be smuggling custom ROMs for our future wife bots.

KingDorkFTC · 2023-12-17T12:23:11+00:00

Marriage isn’t not a bad arrangement. Is our society bad and not helping people to foster good relationships, yes. For me a monogamous relationship works best as I’ve found a partner that fits me and my life. Arguments happen, but we both love each other and seek to make a situation better together. I don’t see a down side to marriage when with the right person. A person that can support your weaknesses as you support their’s.

Commercial_Mix_320 · 2023-12-17T03:16:53+00:00

There's a divorce lawyer on softwhiteunderbelly on YouTube worth a watch.

Lharts · 2023-12-17T15:10:16+00:00

Don't be entitled, don't marry someone entitled.

Its not as bad or as complicated as people on the internet make it sound.
Males who spew hate towards women online are usually not men with great value, but they believe they deserve a caring and loving wife.
Women who spew hate against men are the same.
No one deserves shit just because. You either earn it or you don't.

Hornydaddy696 · 2023-12-17T02:31:00+00:00

Family, every guy wants that. Even Playboys

Salty-Pomegranate154 · 2023-12-18T00:30:52+00:00

Children, sex, a companion to share and make life easier. It's really not that difficult is it? Man I am quite ashamed to be a man when I read some of these posts. What is wrong with you people?

SafeDenkerTechnology · 2023-12-17T06:22:48+00:00

because he is shit Jehovah's SHITNESS cult member
Because of Allah or Mohammed or terrorism bin laden
Because of all other cults what expect this from you , 7th day idiots or Mormons or Amish or Jews whatever

xiaodaireddit · 2023-12-17T01:20:58+00:00

To get some mad pussies? I think going forward relationship will be contract based. Including if we have children then we share costs as below. When I am pregnant you pay 100% of your earnings to pay for child care and living costs. Etc etc

throwaway082122 · 2023-12-17T08:39:05+00:00

I made the decision to get married a few months ago and I’m a staunch supporter of mens rights. Basically boiled down to pressure and the fact that I want to have children and don’t want to have a child born not into a nuclear/married family. I negotiate that I will only get married if we sign a prenup and she pays 50% of wedding costs. The latter has been great - she was going trigger happy on wedding planning until she saw the costs of everything. 😅

TiddybraXton333 · 2023-12-17T11:29:02+00:00

I’m not married going on 7 years. No point.

Dapper_Target1504 · 2023-12-17T13:36:43+00:00

Tax and financial purposes. Way easier with two workers nowadays

hero_killer · 2023-12-17T17:55:15+00:00

Honestly, there is no incentive.

Unless you want to be a ppb and fall in love.

InternationalSilver1 · 2023-12-18T04:04:01+00:00

honestly marriage is basically a government printed peace of paper its pointless why ask the government for permission to be with someone you love likewise why ask the government for permission to break up if the relationship is not working out

its more important to be a great parent than it is to have some stupid government paper you can just live as partners and it would be totally fine

jarmbur · 2023-12-18T09:15:54+00:00

I would love to have a family. Getting married seems more stable and proper if I'm going to have kids and all that jazz.

Why in bloody heck would a man want to get married in this day and age?

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