EDIT:

27M, no kids, bought a house in May.

I’ve always been against divorce and told myself when getting married divorce is not an option. People can get through anything together. Turns out you can’t do it alone.

I’m not sure what to do. I wrote a list of red flags I’ve been seeing/experiencing and I’d love some thoughts.

To be clear. I still love my wife deeply and want to make things work. I’m sure she could make a list for all the things I do that bother her too. But it seems that I’m the only one trying and I can’t save our marriage alone.

  • Can’t handle criticism.
  • Becomes too upset/worked up to function.
  • never around/constantly out doing theatre.
  • Not willing to meet halfway.
  • Never their fault/can’t be wrong.
  • Wants you to bend over backwards to anything they say.
  • Picks apart words and meanings to find hidden meanings that only they can see.
  • Only cleans and helps with chores when others are over.
  • Serves others at house but doesn’t offered to serve you when no one is at the house. Only serves and cleans when others are watching.
  • Lack of physical intimacy.
  • Expects you to do to all chores/plan all dates/start all conversations.
  • Left-wing or becoming so/feminist.
  • Always in bed.
  • Doesn’t want to work a job.
  • Doesn’t share the same interests
  • Hides hurt feelings and pretends everything is okay for years.
  • Says “I’m just a girl” as an excuse. Demands the world but offers nothing in return.
  • Will not read scriptures or pray together unless you bring it up.
  • I have to do everything.
  • Constantly on phone/can’t put it down.
  • Posts on social media non stop.