I see girls with several sexual partners as unfit for being gf material

fag432 · 2022-06-22T22:58:21+00:00

This is your life. Don't seek approval here. If you don't like women with high body counts, then don't consider them. Many guys here don't want women with high bodycounts, but at the same time, they have had limited to zero sexual experience, so it's justified.

You mention that you have had many more sex partners, so be aware that there are girls out there who dislike men with high bodycounts.

CloutComputing · 2022-06-22T22:05:16+00:00

Well I'm a virgin at 25 so I get where you're coming from. But I have said fuck it, I no longer care. It's useless.

Koreanboyo · 2022-06-22T22:00:50+00:00

she’s had 5 boyfriends, given the length of those relationship, it’s fair to assume she’s had sex with all 5, add to that 2 flings

Idk what’s more hilarious to me, that you think 7 sexual partners is a lot or that you think a girl who has had 5 boyfriends has only had 2 non-committed sexual relationships.

ArizonaMaybe · 2022-06-22T23:05:34+00:00

I used to think this way when I was in my late teens and early 20’s but that was a long time ago. I recently married the woman of my dreams and I knew from day one, both of us being 100% honest with each other, that she had a high body count. And honestly, I don’t care one bit. We have had crazy good sex for the past 3 years since we met and me being confident in myself and not caring about her past only made me that much more attractive to her. I look at it this way; I wanted a partner that enjoys sex as much as I do and I’m glad she experienced different kinds of men because she knows now exactly what she wants (me) and is not going to be thinking she missed out later. But again, it took me years to mature and change my mind set about this. It would’ve been a shame to let a high body count get in the way of someone that’s my ideal in every way and I’m excited to share the rest of my life with her.

dark_helmt8 · 2022-06-22T23:29:14+00:00

Look man, I would say it isn't important but that would be a lie. Im 39 now, seeing a 29 year old confirmed virgin whos never had a bf bc she was in medical school up until now. Every man I know who ive told this to does the exact same impressed nod and says "jackpot."

And I really feel that way. No baggage, no ex bf trauma, no cheating victim cautions, no date rp issues, no OLD trauma, nothing, nada. It feels like a vacation. Everything we do is a first for her and she's loving every minute like I am.

They're out there brotha. And as long as these girls are treated like the precious gems they are, and we don't use them for sex and toss them like a douche nozel would, then they are potentially perfect long term partners because they get attached like nothing else. An abuse of that trust is totally devastating to the girl, so sex is not on my mind at all with her. Everything up to sex most definitely is fair game, but not the act of penetrating. I want her to feel safe, so I laid down the rule of no sex until at least engagement and I laid it down early.

I am 100% about seducing this girl and falling in love simultaneously. If shes the one, then I want to lock it down ASAP. If not, Im going to let her go, still a virgin.

I say if it's important to you, then be your best self to attract that type if girl, because you'll have intense competition. There are those things who claim to be men actively searching for virgins for their body count. They're slick, smooth talkers, and experts at manipulating. Then theres guys like me, established, experienced, educated, older, with money and a strong desire to settle down. Both types are hard to ignore for inexperienced girls.

Real-Edge-9288 · 2022-06-22T23:20:23+00:00

my man. don't say this so women find out about this. If we say nothing and break up contact with other silly reasons. then just keep silent when they are truthfull on their body count! so we know how much we invest in them

Total_Obligation_371 · 2022-06-22T22:23:33+00:00

You're just insecure.

Do some self reflection. It's because the more sexual partners a girl has, the more you feel that you aren't special. He probably don't think of yourself as that high value to women. If you did, you would think you were special regardless of how many partners she had.

It's insecurity, I promise. I've heard this from literally dozens of guys. With enough questioning, it always comes back to insecurity of their own value.

rotaderpxepa · 2022-06-23T01:11:20+00:00

Different strokes for different folks. My wife of almost 20 years was a self admitted total whore when we met. She’d slept with 30+ guys, one night stands, a couple of MMF threesomes, a long time FWB BBC who she only liked for his giant cock. We had sex on our first date. You name it, she did it.

None of that has mattered. We’re super happily married and 100% open about everything.

Fapandwarmshowers · 2022-06-22T22:00:29+00:00

wife material is when bodycount really matters

mrblack-- · 2022-06-22T23:11:24+00:00

Listen if a woman has had more than… 6 I’m not putting a ring on your finger without you having to really prove you’re worth. AND BEFORE THE SIMP BRIGADE COME CRYING that’s exactly what women do to men, they make guys do back flips to get some pussy when they are unsure, so I’ll do the same.

Just because a woman can play house, doesn’t mean she’s marriage material, because as soon as she’s bored of pretending she’s taking half your shit. Not today Satan… NOT TODAY

OnceTuna · 2022-06-22T23:10:13+00:00

It's not as wrong as many of these people are claiming. It's a well known fact that the more promiscuous a woman's past is, the more likely the divorce. Just look up the statistics. If she has been with 15 guys there is a 20% chance the marriage will last.

When I was dating my ex-wife, we were 22 and she told me I was her 11th. This was a big red flag to me and I was going to break up with her. But we had fun so I decided to stay a little longer. That turned into marriage, which turned into her having multiple affairs.

If only I listened to myself.

GlitteringPause8 · 2022-06-22T23:34:32+00:00

I guess we all have our preferences but my opinion is that this is extremely ignorant. You say a girl that has had 5 bfs and therefore 5 sexual partners is too much and potentially a turn off but you're literally not thinking of any other factors. For example - what if she got with each guy thinking he is 'the one' but they all ended up cheating on her. Was she just supposed to stop dating completely after 3 guys? No, she got in those relationships thinking they would work out but they didn't. How is that her fault or make her any less of a person?

And if a girl does go through a phase of wanting to enjoy being single before settling down, that makes her not valuable in your eyes?

You're allowed to have more sexual partners and want girls to value you, when you think this?

also reading the replies. you can tell you are attracting all the bitter incels who hate women lmao. these are the types of guys who feel the same as you.

Iganno · 2022-06-22T23:53:31+00:00

This is just my opinion so take it as you will, if it isn’t truly just the fact that you prefer women with small BC’s (which is fine, that’s your preference.) It could possibly be the idea that someone with a bigger BC will have more partners to compare you to, and whether it’s sexual or not, that could be something you’d prefer to not test.

Level_Reflection · 2022-06-23T01:53:19+00:00

I agree

flybaby95 · 2022-06-22T22:46:24+00:00

you would be correct in your thinking.

mrblack-- · 2022-06-22T23:05:15+00:00

It’s not insecurity it’s the opposite!

Don’t listen to these fucking Beta, simp, step dads to a kid that isn’t theirs.

You are so secure you believe you are worth being a woman’s first. Finding a virgin these days is almost impossible but you know more than a certain number is enough to know she’s probably had all the experiences you could have and the fact no one’s locked her down, you know you’re not gonna be the sucker to do it

If you want to have a meaningful relationship with a woman you want to be her fucking first and last. You want to be the first person she’s traveled with, tried new foods with, done fun shit with, broken personal barriers with, you want to see the light in her eyes light up because you’re the first person to buy her flowers or some shit.

themostgianthorse · 2022-06-22T23:41:08+00:00

Your standards are your standards. No one can tell you what these are.

You will likely be shamed for your standard and be called insecure. This is false. What would make you insecure is if you changed your standard based on someone else’s criticism.

You are your own judge.

Speaking of judgement, there is nothing wrong with it. Judgement can keep you safe and allow you to make good informed decisions.

Additionally, don’t listen to any moron who tells you “it’s 2022”. What in the fuck does the god damn year have to do with it?

Interact with as many women as possible. Determine what your standards for each level. Example - there is a standard for causal sex. There is a separate standard for FWB. There is a separate standard for exclusivity. Your standard should raise as you move up the ladder.

Evening_Detective651 · 2022-06-23T00:11:14+00:00

You’re perfectly okay. In fact, that’s the way to do things. Disregard anyone who says otherwise. My partner shouldn’t have a body count higher than 3 by age 25. Thanks to all who agree to not disagree with you and I. Others are weirdos for wanting partners with no self worth 😂

2022-06-22T23:00:51+00:00

I have no problem sleeping, conversing, hanging out, being friends with a woman who's had several sexual partners.

You're literally contributing to your own problem.

How are you going to say you won't date a girl who's had more than three partners and yet you'll have casual relations with other women? I understand that you don't care about their partner count if it's casual, but what difference does it make at that point? It doesn't sound like you're trying to keep your number Low by sleeping with other women casually. So you're a hypocrite. You think it's okay for a guy to sleep around but not for a girl. It's ok for you to have a past but not her?

What makes you a better partner if you don't even hold yourself to the same standards that you're going to hold a woman to?

ShiftReasonable4066 · 2022-06-22T21:45:24+00:00

I think you should be open to it and give yourself the chance to date them and see how it goes. If you tried for a good while and cant do it then ok. Its not for you. But you might miss out on a great person because youre limiting yourself

Blanc-X · 2022-06-22T23:45:35+00:00

You’re more than right to not want girls with high body counts, it’s an indicator for multiple factors, one of which is monogamy and their faithfulness / perception of self worth. You’re not really missing out on great potential partners, as the fact they have high body count will always be hindering you and the relationship down the line. And it’s healthy to find someone without much of a past, as it will create a more stable future. Hope this message resonates with the advice you’re looking for :)

ChaotixEDM · 2022-06-22T23:27:16+00:00

This is pretty shallow thinking.

n0tatest · 2022-06-22T21:42:21+00:00

Lol wtf

thomasvector · 2022-06-22T23:53:20+00:00

You don't consider girls that have had more than 7 sexual partners gf material but you've had more partners and consider yourself bf material? It's fine to have that opinion but the older you get, the less likely you'll find someone that has that few partners unless you start dating like 18-year-olds or something.

CoocooforcocoapuffsX · 2022-06-23T00:19:09+00:00

Women start to lose pair bonding (emotional bond) abilities as their body count increases

Koreanboyo · 2022-06-22T22:28:30+00:00

I think you’re way too judgmental and this attitude going forward is not going to serve you well. You can expect to be very lonely if you have these expectations in a partner.

TheNextBigCrash · 2022-06-22T22:07:30+00:00

This comes from a place of insecurity. You are comparing yourself to her previous partners in a very strange, convoluted way. It’s a very insecure mindset and it will probably leak out in other ways.

Just an FYI, if you judge women for having >certain number of previous sexual partners, they don’t feel ashamed. They just assume you’re insecure/weird and probably feel like they dodged a bullet.

It’s 2022, everyone sleeps around. If you want a virgin start going to church, and even then you’ll have trouble finding one.

Lastly, and I’m sure you know this, but having multiple sexual partners has absolutely zero biological ramifications. Every “negative” that you perceive to be attached to these women is entirely in your head.

Boredsillyinmich · 2022-06-22T23:07:49+00:00

You think a girl wants to sit on your skanky dick that's been in how many holes... give me a break. Sexism at its best.

ThatGuy_Nick9 · 2022-06-22T22:01:14+00:00

Mog_Melm · 2022-06-22T23:02:07+00:00

That's just more sluts for me...

Koreanboyo · 2022-06-23T00:00:01+00:00

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missargentina29 · 2022-06-23T00:07:56+00:00

Why is it ok for you to have more sexual partners and consider yourself boyfriend material? As. If.

mrblack-- · 2022-06-22T22:00:49+00:00

Prepare to spend a lot of years with no girlfriend and long dry spells. Especially holding them standards as you get older.

It's none of your business and doesn't concern you. Those girls will dump you quick you start putting that rule out there and questioning them.

Besides if they admit 3 double it. Lol

Flat_Morning9246 · 2022-06-22T22:25:38+00:00

I really do see where you're coming from. I am in the same position I dont mind fucking girls who have a high body count but I can't manage to be around them for more than 1-2 weeks. I think we as men should look for girls with low body counts for girlfriend material just raise our standards and know we deserve a queen

missargentina29 · 2022-06-23T00:02:14+00:00

Hilarious

Chelseus · 2022-06-23T01:22:57+00:00

But you can fuck as many girls as you want and it’s not a problem? You’re being judgemental and hypocritical and most people don’t find those traits attractive so 🤷🏻‍♀️

Koreanboyo · 2022-06-22T22:55:02+00:00

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UnnamedBN · 2022-06-23T01:13:28+00:00

7 partners are rookie numbers 👀

But then what really matters is if you find someone that you really vibe with. And the effort put in to make things work for you both. What happens in the past should stay in the past.

Individual-Gur-4455 · 2022-06-23T02:10:58+00:00

You say you’re well versed sexually but your post history says otherwise. Asking if women use condoms to finger themselves seems like a very juvenile and inexperienced thing to ask. If body counts are that important to you, I highly recommend hanging around churches, primarily pentacostal ones. You should take the advice of other commenters and really do some soul searching in the process though.

sirbassist83 · 2022-06-23T02:35:51+00:00

i dont give a flying fuck how many men a woman has slept with. i dont make it a point to ask. if it comes up it comes up, but its not something im concerned about. if i find out its over 100+ that might raise an orange flag and 300 would be a red flag, but id probably still do it. just wouldnt consider her for a long term partner.

ive been with around 50 people, and i dont even consider myself much of a player. just put myself out there and there was a period in my life my standards were pretty low. youre worried about MORE THAN 3?! my dude, that would be as much of a red flag for me as an ultra high body count. whats wrong with this girl that shes not having sex? is she a prude? is there something wrong with her once the clothes come off? was she raped and cant be intimate? has she just had the same boyfriend since she was 13?

"I don't know but when I think about a girl having had, say, 6 sexual partners, and realize that those 6 guys entered her vagina, it just makes me feel like I don't want to get emotionally involved with her, however, I don't consider girls with several partners to be "whores"."

i think you need to start being honest with yourself. you DO see them as whores, youre just ok with it when youre being a whore yourself. why is it ok for you to be a slut and get in a serious relationship down the line, but not women?

youre absolutely allowed to have preferences. if this is a dealbreaker item for you, thats ok. but it sounds like youve got some digging to do, and some rearranging of your fundamental beliefs, either about yourself or women.

Title	I see girls with several sexual partners as unfit for being gf material
Author	Koreanboyo
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Comments	100
Date	June 22, 2022 9:40 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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