People who got genuinely good at daygame, how many approaches did it take?

RoadyCoder · 2022-05-03T11:25:56+00:00

lol who is this ‘coach’ of yours and what is he smoking?! The beauty of game is that there are no levels. No ‘fundamentals’. No hard and fast rules or formulas that have a 100% rate of success. Every woman and every set is different. You can use a so-called ‘strategy’ that earns you a kiss close after just 20 minutes - and then the following night the exact same strategy can simply crash and burn.

Don’t overthink this. Just enjoy the ride. Each set is a small adventure.

saulisdating · 2022-05-03T10:52:22+00:00

Don’t think of it as some number of approaches you have to reach to “become good.”

Simply incorporate approaching women you find attractive into your lifestyle and always approach when you think you see a good opportunity to do so. Eventually you’ll become very good at it.

It’s not like there’s some arbitrary number of approaches when you suddenly become “advanced enough to be good with women.”

It’s a lifestyle.

Source: done thousands upon thousands of approaches.

Thin_Protection5616 · 2022-05-03T14:16:52+00:00

About 1-2 years of semi-inconsistently doing street game, along with watching a dozen other guys try, some who were better than me and many who were worse.

Really, having good mentors and wings was key. Learn from success.

When I'm active, I do about 50-70 approaches per week, usually indirect and will gauge the situation rather than trying to close every set.

excentrik-art · 2022-05-03T11:17:21+00:00

I dont think there is someone who would say - yeah X is not enough but X+200 is enough.

You will not see any difference between 300 and 400 there and then. But in retrospect, there will be a gradual increase of callibration and success.

Also me approaching and you approachin will have different learning curves. Some people has previous experience, and will get good quickly because they analyse their mistakes and work hard to improve themselves. Some will take a decade, because they do cold approaches but they keep doing it the same way every day, not actually improving much

nuthin_to_it · 2022-05-03T11:03:23+00:00

Lol you guys sound fucking crazy.

kiramdahanett · 2022-05-03T14:10:06+00:00

I'm at 350-400 total approaches range , started mid january .

outcome & quality of your approaches have nothing to do with number of your lifetime approaches tho , if you can be bold & confidence doing your first ever approach , you're ahead of the man who does 5000 approaches every year but do them like a chicken .

RonnieLibra · 2022-05-03T16:40:17+00:00

17

Exactly 17 approaches. If anybody says any other number than 17 they're full of shit!

Seriously though, there's no magic number. Everyone is going to be different everyone is going to progress differently, some people will pick this stuff up right away, some guys are good looking and all they need is some confidence, other guys average looking and they're going to have to put in more work into their wheelhouse to get results, some people have natural charisma that they need to unlock, other people are clumsy and awkward and need to build that charisma.

No one is going to have the same results, and asking a question like this isn't going to help you, because if someone were to say well it takes 175 approaches and then you pass that, you're going to start thinking there's something wrong with you when really it's just a different experience for everybody.

Just get out there and have fun with it stop worrying about counting.

2022-05-03T12:19:04+00:00

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MK2718 · 2022-05-03T13:19:40+00:00

I often hear people ask the question: "how many people must I talk to before I start getting results?" Like it’s a video game, and they are asking how many little battles must they go through before their character levels up? You should not look an interaction as simple being a means to an end.

Apathy and lack of genuine engagement will result in most interactions going nowhere. If you are not fully present and authentic in the interactions, you should not expect to form a connection. If you are not enjoying the interactions, most likely neither is the other person.

The reason that this brute force teaching strategy is popular with many social coaches is that it allows them to use the numbers game to their advantage. If they throw you into a 100 interactions, and one ends positively, they can then take credit for it.

This 'brute force' approach of starting as many interactions as possible may help desensitize you from fear of rejection, but it can also cause you to become disengaged and make your interactions less authentic.

More on this topic.

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Woujo · 2022-05-03T12:52:09+00:00

I don't think it is about number of approaches, but what you are doing. My approaching improved once I created a game plan for myself and calibrated my facial expressions, fun, and vibe.

2022-05-03T13:21:43+00:00

Unbelievable how many blondes I ran into today. Only talked to one of them though. It was a nice convo, she smiled a lot and confirmed most of my inquiries. I don't need much, although I am thirsty for a gf rn.

Murrman1978 · 2022-05-03T13:42:32+00:00

Out of all of the dating gurus, I enjoyed watching Tom Terero (RIP).

DortyNiqga · 2022-05-03T13:53:41+00:00

Literally zero, worked on my physique, confidence skyrocketed and could flirt fluently with any girl.

TheWhiteWalkerSpeaks · 2022-05-03T14:58:36+00:00

I'm in 700-800 approaches. Daygame differs alot by location. In my country I would get a mix of blowout and numbers while on vacation in other countries I will get a lot of instant dates and numbers, rarely a rejection.

There's no magical number that if you cross it you become advanced. I only concentrate on doing 20-30 approaches a week consistently. Making notes of what happened and what could have been improved. If you are only repeating the same thing in every approach and don't think of improving anything then it's useless.

Just enjoy and have fun talking to women

LebaneseLion · 2022-05-03T16:49:27+00:00

First of all, drop this “coach” lol. Second of all, stop counting approaches, there’s no magic formula. LAST OF ALL, approach the right woman who seems like your type, not just any woman you find attractive.

Zangief89 · 2022-05-03T17:06:28+00:00

Thousands

GhoulChaser · 2022-05-03T11:20:36+00:00

One interaction a day should be minimal I also recommend that in order to feel more confident about yourself you have a “resume” (instagram) there for validation so when you do approach you guys can swap ig’s and she can make the final assumptions there. She will definitely be up and down your ig before she even considers anything anyways.

redditor4206903 · 2022-05-03T13:57:09+00:00

10 bruh, ai now get dates with 8 girls out of ten I aproach. 250, lol. You have to work on your looks/status/money/physique.

krishna977 · 2022-05-03T14:10:48+00:00

Bro u will hesitate no matter how many approachs u did Don't overthink and just do it

Thin_Protection5616 · 2022-05-03T14:12:24+00:00

About 2-3 years of semi-inconsistently doing street game, along with watching a dozen other guys try, some who were better than me and many who were worse.

Flashy-Solution-8983 · 2022-05-03T14:42:15+00:00

I’ll go out on a limb and say The external world doesn’t really matter you worry about your skills. And making sure the girl 👧 doesn’t run away

The real victory is when you notice your hesitation, don’t have a plan and you overcome it and fail badly and you laught at your self That is the perfect 👍 approach

Mr-McChick3n · 2022-05-03T15:19:51+00:00

I don’t think there’s a set number. It’s about putting yourself in a position to succeed. Ex- I know a lot about finance (work in finance myself) so when I meet someone else working in finance it makes it really easy to be passionate and talk about it. I don’t know anything about cars so I’d never be able to talk to people at car rally’s

Lucazzz14 · 2022-05-03T16:03:28+00:00

A coach? Levels? What? In that case, I'm an amateur in the eyes of your "coach".

Dude it's about confidence in yourself. It's about having social and conversational skills. It's about having some witty banter. And of course, a lot of it is common sense.

Talk to anyone and everyone you come across that gives you eye contact or greets you when you walk by. Don't bother if they don't look at you or barely speak. Why try and talk to everyone? Because not only it improves your interaction, it will give you a slimmer chance of choking up when you come across a girl you like the look of.

PHVEDO · 2022-05-03T18:08:36+00:00

the only real skill is improving approach anxiety. Everything else is luck. With some u might vibe to the moon and not get a second date and with others might not but will go on a date with you afterwards

burncushlikewood · 2022-05-03T18:56:33+00:00

I've done a lot, mostly night game though, day game I've only done a few, it took me about a year till I got the hang of it, used to have timing problems, too passive, but I got more confident after a hook up in the summer, then I was better at the timing aspects knowing how to connect/build comfort then learning how to close as well. If I were to say I figured things out after like 100 approsches. Reflecting on each approach makes the process faster, I never did but write notes too

mohitrana4399 · 2022-05-03T19:27:38+00:00

Anyone online?

mohitrana4399 · 2022-05-03T19:30:02+00:00

Let's make an Approach Cult. We'll be with each other. That way we will be able to move forward faster and better. Plus the whole process would become more fun

2022-05-03T21:49:56+00:00

I'm no expert at day game by any means, I've had some success like getting laid and now a girlfriend etc. But I'm successful man in military and my current job. And it's thanks to this kinda spiritual but also kinda not advice. Be here now and don't worry about future or past, that way you'll develop faster, just do it now and do it as well as you can. When you are there with the girl, be here now and don't waste time thinking and shit just be here now and talk with her, see if you like her.

I'm saying that because I know that thought of "how many should I to become successful" it in the military only stifled, instead it's better to just do as well as possible right now, create tiny goals and crush them, become better and ask advice, but all while being present in the moment.

I hope you look at the details here and take with what you resonate and will achieve luck.

Bicepsrage · 2022-05-03T22:34:20+00:00

Game is like a muscle. If you do it you will grow. If you dont you regress.

SnooHesitations4922 · 2022-05-03T22:55:22+00:00

For me it started with 1. I was already used to talking like normal with women I crossed paths with, but never really approached with "motive".

My best friend challenged me to walk straight up to the hottest girl I see and introduce myself and ask her what her "situation" is. I was walking past a Cafe and saw a dime chillin outside having a smoke. I said screw it and approached her, said "hey I'm matt", shook her hand, and THIS FELT AWKWARD A.F., but she told me her name and asked if I was from around here because I seem too nice for this town. We talked for a couple minutes, turns out she was married, but the point is this opened the flood gates to the confidence I needed to make approaching a regular part of life. I could write a book on what this simple challenge did, but to summarize it made me realize that approaching a beautiful woman is NO BIG DEAL, and they are human equal to us, not above or below. I'm hundreds of approaches in and have my options, but I'm still awkward a.f. but know how to use a confident frame to take advantage of it because the whole process is awkward, then when the clothes come off, it's REALLY awkward.

betterme2610 · 2022-05-04T00:53:39+00:00

How much are you paying these coaches

FaithInStrangers94 · 2022-05-04T03:03:27+00:00

My dating coach said I’m at level 37 and for just $50 a week compounding monthly or selling him my sister he could get me to level 45 within a year.

DeJuanBallard · 2022-05-04T13:38:06+00:00

I know for a fact that what your saying is not true. But I'm not gonna try to convince you. By all means, go approach another 250 women.

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