EDIT: This post does NOT say you have to be perfect and have a perfect life in order to date women. Some of y'all misunderstood me and assumed I said to live a perfect life, of course you will never be able to have a 'perfect' life, but you can still do things to improve your inner game by significantly improving your life especially if ur life is lacking like mine currently. (e.g career wise). Of course u will always have issues in ur life that u will want to improve, but the point was if u are having lots of issues in ur life such as a career, then ur energy could be better spent perfecting other big and small aspects such as that and then work on dating, as that will bring out a stronger version of yourself and u will enjoy game more as u will be more sure of your accomplishments (including small ones e.g car). I am not bothered to go into even more detail, I think you guys get the idea.

Here is a good comment which also outlines some more great points which I completely agree on.

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Threads post before edit:

Just for context, I am a young guy who started daygame/cold approach in march this year, so far I have 500+ approaches.

A huge lesson I have learned is, game and trying to date is not worth it if you don't have your life set. What I mean by that is, I started daygame with having very weak friendships, an unstable career and just lack of path of where im headed in life (mainly career wise)

And I use to wonder why my inner game on daygame on some days was incredibly low. It's because I discovered, even tho I was getting better at game, every other aspect of my life was messed up and it made dating miserable.

Truth is, if you don't have your life set, even simple things such as having a car to drive and making travel easier, or your behind on bills, these wills will reflect on you and have an impact subconsciously whether you realise it or not.

And how can you love someone else if you don't even fully love yourself yet as u aren't happy with your life yet? Even if you are just doing cold approach for hookups, all these things that you aren't satisified with your life, will show through your body language (at least they did for me)

Lesson of this thread:

The lesson for this thread is, if you don't have your life set, don't even worry about dating. Girls and people in general like a guy who brings value to their life. If you lack value like I do, then work on building that value first like career, good social circle/friendships, heck even small things handled too like car license etc

That's how value is truly created. Not reading PUA techniques and books all day on how to get good at game, cause game can't entire fix your inner game if all other aspects of your life are lacking. Don't be like me and assume game will get rid of your social anxiety and build social skills with women without a strong foundation first before you even worry about dating(your overall self-esteem).

I promise you guys, if you have your life all set with everything I listed, you will come across far more confident and other people will see this.