These are really the main three way to meet women, and while I use all of them together, I believe that social circle can be the most overlooked and one of the biggest payoffs in the long run. Here is what each of the 3 entail:

1) Social Circle:

This is the where I have succeeded the most with women. Of the girls I have had sex or done anything with, the majority have come from this category. They have either been friends I have always been flirty with, girls I have been hanging out in a group with for a little, or someone I met through a good friend.

Why is this so powerful?

It automatically gives you an in and social proof. When you go up to a girl at a bar, you have to prove you are worth her time more than one of the other dudes who hit on her tonight. You are working from the ground up.

When her friend likes you or you have been hanging out for a while, she can see your value just from being around you or from her friend telling you. It gives you a leg up on any guy on "the outside."

All you have to do is talk to guys, girls, anyone who you find fun.

Your roommate's girlfriend may have some cute friends. If so, invite them out to the bar with y'all,

Your buddy may have another guy friend who is also into poker. Invite him to a game. Eventually he may introduce you to some of his girl friends.

That "ugly" girl that you were going to write off... don't. She could wind up being a good friend and introduce you to others girls.

Just keep meeting people and hanging out and keeping an active lifestyle. It makes you more interesting and gets you in with a lot of different girls. It is especially beneficial if you find yourself to be an average looking guy.

2) Cold Approach:

This one is a lot of fun, but tough. I have gotten some dates out of it and made out in some bars with cold approaches, but I haven't really succeeded here so far. This could definitely be just because I am not as good in this area, but I find it a hard one.

You have to keep the girl's attention. You have to prove to her in a short time you are worth her time. She has to be in the right mood.

Keep doing cold approaches! They are a lot of fun and good practice. I do them just to enjoy the night and talk to new people and get numbers, but this is an area where I am less successful unless the girl knows someone I do.

3) Dating Apps:

Dating apps are great because they are quick, low commitment, and can be done any waking hour of the day.

However, they can suck because it can be hard to get matches and girls have their pick of the litter.

I find as long as I go into low expectations with dating apps, they are a lot of fun. I finally brought a girl home after meeting her on a dating app a couple weeks ago. Keep your profile up to date and make sure it is A+ material. Don't get dejected from dating apps, as they are notoriously hard.

If you are an average or less than average looking guy, dating apps can be very hard. All a girl has to go off here is your looks and it is very easy to swipe left on anyone without you ever getting the chance to make her laugh or turn her on. Art of manliness has a great podcast on this that goes into a little of the science behind why meeting offline can be better.

https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles/romantic-attraction/

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TL;DR: Building a social circle is an overlooked, but easy way to get girls on dates and in bed (especially if you are an average looking guy). Keep meeting people and going out, and it will pay off like compound interest does.