How many people here ACTUALLY cold approach?

mlgpc · 2018-10-17T20:30:12+00:00

I've been doing daygame for about 3 months now. I try to approach 3 or 4 girls everyday to maintain the habit of cold approach.

I didn't cold approach before because I was scared of getting rejected. It all changed when I saw a really beautiful girl walking past, but I didn't approach and I was full of regret after. I still remember that moment and it made me realize that the statement "Rejection is better than Regret" is so true!

As far as IOI, don't wait for them. Approach and escalate.

duehvdke · 2018-10-17T21:07:44+00:00

Don't think of it as cold approaching. Think of it as talking to new and exciting people. Two of the downsides of living in bumfuck southern united states are as follows: this will get you a reputation, and people are boring. These and my success in classes and on tinder (2 plates and counting) have made me put more sexual cold approaches on hold and focused on being funny and building my social network in person.

Flpgneves · 2018-10-17T20:57:10+00:00

One of the most incredible things I realized when I started was how many girls are fine with it and give you a good response. Not all, cause that's impossible, some won't even look at you, but more than most guys think.

And, obviously, there more you improve the more IOIs you get.

BrutalMan420 · 2018-10-17T20:29:26+00:00

bro work on putting your hand up in class first.

lostbuthopefull · 2018-10-17T21:00:21+00:00

1-2 a week. Don't wanna be the weirdo on campus, and after a couple you should be able to set up at least one date

Auxfite · 2018-10-17T20:39:07+00:00

3-8 girls a day for past 4 months. I didn’t before because I didn’t lift which leads to lack of testosterone which leads to lack of confidence.

I don’t even fear rejection anymore because other than the test boost you realize it’s how your perception of the world is. Women love getting attention and love when guys approach them but when you’re still stuck on the blue pill you don’t realize that and still stuck in fear (women love men who are confident) so if she rejects you she will still have respect for you because a lot of men don’t do that especially if she’s hot. Also out of all the girls I approach majority of them are married, Have bfs, a ex boyfriend they’re stuck on etc. it sucks i live in a city with over a million people and there’s way more men than women but some days you’ll hit the jackpot or only get the low value hoe that’s getting her pussy railed by mulplite men because she’s everybody’s girl. (Low value men get a ego boost from everybody’s girl aka tinder hoes)

I remember yesterday I was grocery shopping at Walmart. First girl I see is overweight but got a nice ass so I approach. She doesn’t even pay attention at all to me but I didn’t let it break my frame I kept it moving. I can tell she was uncomfortable for the next 20 mins every time I saw her but that’s her frame being broke. She probably has a nigga that has her on lock. Or she’s on tinder getting 800 matches so she feels she’s high value but in reality she’s an overweight slob that will most likely die young from heart diease or heart attack. Life goes on hope this helps.

fignootins · 2018-10-17T22:03:10+00:00

I never look for IOIs when cold approaching

UnbreakableFrame · 2018-10-17T23:08:53+00:00

I'm married, so it's slightly different, but I still cold start conversations all the time. I'm actually a beast at it, because I have 0 fear of rejection (because I'm not actually looking, just maintaining an abundance mentality). I get mostly extremely good responses. Women love getting approached by abnormally confident men.

Most men don't cold approach and the few that do usually treat it like the are cliff diving for the first time ever. Even though women appreciate any effort at all, they can tell when you are not confident.

A strong cold approach makes the WOMAN nervous about talking to you, not the other way around. Can you imagine how freaked out a woman would be meeting Johnny Depp? That's how your approach should make her feel. She should be thinking, "I can't believe this is happening... I can't believe this is happening" with a mix of excitement and panic.

I coach salesmen from time to time and a strategy that I'm constantly teaching them is also very useful for cold approach. You need to practice the art of actually having genuine conversations. Your conversations need to feel good enough that they can stand as just being conversations. Yes, you are trying to close a sale. Yes, you are trying to get a number. Yes, you want a number because you want to go out with her or hook up. However, if that is the #1 thing in the forefront of your mind, your conversations will always suck and fall flat. If after having a conversation, you think things like "how did I handle that conversation?", then you are doing it wrong.

No one thinks like that after just talking to someone without a goal, and those conversations are almost always much smoother and stutter free. You will never actually forget why you are talking to a girl, but stop laser focusing on it and just talk. It's okay to pause and not deliver lines that would make Eddie Murphy take out his notebook. If you can carry a conversation that feels natural and you have a baseline of attraction with her (that we all already know is non-negotiable anyways), she will respond.

DadOnDabs · 2018-10-17T22:11:21+00:00

I'm on a college campus and yes I cold approach. Usually just going throughout my day (bus stop, lunch, studying between classes, waiting for coffee, etc.) I'll stop girls here and there but most people are busy so I usually take them as they come.

Also I recently deleted all dating apps so it's my only source right now. Forcing myself to grow my social skills.

Woke_Normie · 2018-10-18T01:24:24+00:00

honestly bro, i hate to be the bearer of bad news, but most people are larping and coping about cold approaching. most guys become "experts" online about cold approaching, but never actually cold approach lol.

unless your good looking (7/10+), cold approaching will only work like sub 1% of the time, and thats to get a obese fatty.

your better off social circle maxing and doing luke warm approaching.

sorryforthelifestory · 2018-10-17T20:34:02+00:00

10 at most

VasiliyZaitzev · 2018-10-17T23:10:08+00:00

Me. All the time. And you never see me here, whining about how I can't get laid.

AWorseManThanYou · 2018-10-18T00:29:58+00:00

Knowing how to cold approach is an absolute. All successful men here do.

It should be the second commandment behind lift.

I didn’t at one point because I was afraid of rejection. Or I had a GF. Dumb reasons.

coconutscentedcat · 2018-10-18T01:54:09+00:00

I've always been getting IOIs; I was just too much of a coward to act on it. First time I cold approached in my life was a few months ago and the girl is now my GF.

RedPillFusion · 2018-10-17T22:27:54+00:00

My entire adult life, including the 8 years I was married. I never fucked around, but skills get rusty and cold approach has many different benefits.

Two_kids_in_a_coat · 2018-10-18T01:05:34+00:00

I talk to people. Some guys some girls. Some hot girls. Every once in a while I have a great conversation with a hot girl, and my go to phrase is “I had a really good time talking to You and you’re really cute, can I get your number?” 90% successful.

But I don’t really “day game”. It’s just conversation that sometimes leads to more.

Corvus_Uraneus · 2018-10-17T21:25:31+00:00

I cold approach every attractive girl who returns my smile. Well, that's not true, I say hello to every pretty girl who returns my smile. Then I scan them for something that stands out that I can ask them about, or give a TARGETED compliment regarding something they have clearly put effort into. I try to keep the conversation witty and watch for IOI's like lingering to keep the conversation going. If I don't catch one, I don't ask for the #.

The only times I didn't approach are:
1. Ring on it.

A group of girls in a setting where I can't isolate.
When she will be around for a while so I can play it cool and use others for status/preselection/laughs.

ReasonablyGoodMexica · 2018-10-17T21:49:53+00:00

I've been cold approaching for about a couple of months already. Overweight and no lifts in forever, so results are poor. Few numbers, only about two dates and no good closes. It might limit me not to have a wingman, but I'm getting the hang of approaching strangers and keeping up a good conversation.

Why I didn't do so before? Because I was a dumb blue idiot.

Terra501 · 2018-10-17T22:47:51+00:00

If youre in a grocery store, the mall, an airport, etc...only works if you are more attractive than the mark. Otherwise you are better advised to just start a friendly conversation and gain experience chatting with a hottie about some shared hobby or interest. This is reality.

PurpleDrank88 · 2018-10-18T00:13:43+00:00

Honestly a part of it is just how confident you are in yourself as a person. The more confident you get in who you are, the more you will notice IOIs. If you're not confident in yourself you will subconsciously not notice IOIs because "who would be interested in me?"

Once I became more confident in myself, I started spotting the subtle IOIs all over.

Ricklogical · 2018-10-17T23:48:30+00:00

I never have. I know enough about it to give good advice about it.

My tinder experience was as close to true Redpill as I have ever gotten as far as picking up women, but for me they are always around and always willing to hook up. I didn't realize just how high my SMV was till I fixed my tinder profile and my matches quadrupled. Great looking big titty women with jobs and good manners suddenly became very normal.

I picked a few and started dating them because I wasn't used to having so many women available, and I've always been an LTR man. Fucking conditioning. I did however, hardly care if any of these women remained my 'girlfriend' and did continue keeping up with a few women on tinder, still hunting for that snow leopard.

Eventually I DID stop dating and started spinning an old, fantastic standby plate of mine I've had for years, but then once again moved her to LTR out of habit. She's a great woman, and since I broke it off with her I have pushed her to embrace her inner whore.

I mostly do this because the men she has typically dated [one at time, worthless losers] weren't really giving her any perspective on what she needs from a man, they are mostly shit partners.

I am still pushing her to get up into the larger cities back home. She's a solid fucking 8 with a good family and average cooking skills.. She's a bit of a shut in coward, really just wants to spoil and fuck one man.... Shit I'm rambling

I never cold approach because I believe it is rude, even though now that I am engaged it IS rude because I wear a ring and the stigma of that ring. Could I still fuck some young college sluts that don't give a fuck? Yes, doesn't interest me.

The current LTR is solid. She's got a very average face but is shockingly beautiful the rest of the way down. She keeps very fit and fucks and sucks like a porn star. I'll fuck her like a bull for a few days, then I'll relax a few days and get hour long blowjobs and have her ride on top.

I believe in cold approaching. I think the world is full of people who suck ass at talking with people they don't know, and that as a society we should all communicate with each other much more, especially near our homes. There should be no strangers on your block, you should know most the employees by name in your stores and local hang out spots.

We are just little fucking social bubbles with our phones and the internet, work and home and family. It's enough for most of us, but it allows the evil unknown to walk around unchecked. It keeps us contained and dull and stops us from banging really really really attractive women.

I'd say I fucked 8 very hot women in my life, stunning unbelievable mostly fucking crazy women. That took the social skills to engage with those women and not be intimidated. I did it the easy way, they came into my space where I was already the fucking man.

I hope to push myself to be the fucking man everywhere I go, but this is sadly one part of TRP that I am highly deficient. I don't go where I am not known much, but when I do, any woman I talk to is highly receptive... I just usually have my fiance right there with me. She's not jealous and she loves women so it's not a huge deal. I just have a hard time imagining most of these women want to fuck me and my future wife, though since I rave, I bet it's more common than I think it is, and that I am fucking myself over by not approaching much more than I do.

TheIslander829 · 2018-10-17T22:29:50+00:00

Every day.

red_matrix · 2018-10-17T23:22:07+00:00

I used to, it was pretty hot or miss. Mainly it’s good for improving your confidence. Over 30 I don’t bother as much anymore, but it works wonders when your in college.

CaptainSupream · 2018-10-18T00:48:08+00:00

I cold approach. Around 5 times a week. Usually girls who are in my classes sometimes in the halls. Im an artist with good observational drawing skills. Im a regular at some cafes and if people catch me drawing them I approach and show them what Iv sketched, provided that the sketch is decent/flattering.

Zanford · 2018-10-18T01:15:33+00:00

When not in a LTR, tons. Probably a few hundred lifetime cold approaches (which is not even that many, if you're never in LTRs you should do a few hundred a year), a school campus daygame (still a cold approach if you don't know each other), other daygame, parties, and a little in clubs/bars.

VoidInvincible · 2018-10-18T03:07:13+00:00

I don't, but plan to approach at least 1 girl a week starting next year. To put that in perspective: That's 52 girls a year.

NotMeUsee · 2018-10-18T06:16:37+00:00

I did today. Been a while. I needed to see how it would go. Walked into the store. Asked the people there where the lived. They said nearbye. I told them I just moved here and wanted to know if they wanted to get a drink over the weekend. I invited everyone but the girl gave me her number.

Shes nothing special but it was nice to do so after being single and drowing in work. She seems nice though. At least I might have made some friends. I say do it. But read the room. She would always light up when I was in the store. I figured why not.

500bands · 2018-10-18T09:30:11+00:00

what is a cold approach?

_Neon_Shadow_ · 2018-10-18T10:44:17+00:00

I've done it a few times. My last approach was last Friday. This plain looking (white or latina?) girl in my Astronomy class. She was unremarkable, but her ass is what men go to war and die for. Ass fat as fuck bruh, ass had it's own gravitational pull. Literally a work of art. Ahem... I'm getting ahead of myself, but you get the idea. Nothing came from it, but at least I tried.

Atheist_Utopia · 2018-10-18T13:17:51+00:00

Hmm interesting, so you are basically using your friends for social proof, generating passive attraction from the girls?

Notsouh78 · 2018-10-18T17:45:35+00:00

Never much thought of it. I talk to people. If a girl happens to show interest, I'll talk to her. I think I was kinda anxious the first time talking to girls, but I was a kid, and that's been awhile. These days? Been told I am intimidating, but laid back.

That and I got deep voice. Women like the baritone. When they ask about me, they always mention it.

[deleted] · 2018-10-19T15:51:11+00:00

Here's how it went for me:

#0 to #10: "I didn't die. The girls appreciate it. I can actually put work into this and get good at it. OEUHOWEGYEEEEEEEEE!!!"
#10 to #40: "I don't wanna go out man, this is fucking scary."
#40 to #50: "I'm getting numbers, better shave my balls"
#50 to #70: "They all fall off the radar before or in the texting, I thought they were ready to jump into my bed... really discouraging. Also my approaches have been all boilerplate lately, hmmm"
#70 to #90: "Getting average response rates, but that's okay, it doesn't faze me anymore"

Currently I'm at around 90 approaches. On good days I pull off push/pull, compliance, rapport-building, teasing in a fairly intermediate, smooth way. Now that I'm good enough to ditch the boilerplate crutches, it becomes a lot more entertaining. I honestly would do daygame even if a evil genius' curse would physically restrain me from getting laid.

No dates or lays from daygame so far. It doesn't bother me. After 3 months in the gym, I wouldn't expect to see much either.

Izakthegreat23 · 2018-10-18T00:44:31+00:00

Been doing daygame for about 2 years and night for about 6 months. Just got my first same day lay last week and have been consistently getting dates and girls on the line for a few weeks now so I’ve finally reached a more intermediate level.

Caspero444 · 2018-10-17T23:34:39+00:00

I do it if I can think of something topical to say. I don't just go up to people and introduce myself. But the internet is becoming more and more useless every day (for dating) so not much alternative.

mysteryspoN · 2018-10-17T20:54:00+00:00

I’m afraid to cos I’m 16, but going to Barcelona in summer with the boys and I’ll be 17 then so I’ll deffo cold approach + got a fake ID. Edit: Why the downvotes? Fake ID is just to get alcohol and into clubs. Not to trick girls into thinking I’m above age of consent ffs. I’m not that evil.

Title	How many people here ACTUALLY cold approach?
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Date	October 17, 2018 8:15 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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