What is going through your head when you are talking to a girl?

ApathyTX · 2013-04-24T01:49:05+00:00

"Man these are some sweet tits. I better keep lying so she likes me."

What, just me?

centurijon · 2013-04-23T20:50:36+00:00

Nothing, specifically.

Think about the conversation.

That's it. What follows from that is: learning about her, mentioning parts that you relate to, teasing, and flirting.

d_higa · 2013-04-24T00:36:58+00:00

Eat properly. Sleep well. Drink plenty of water.

It reallyreallyreallyreallyreally helps. Taking care of your body gives you more energy, makes you feel more relaxed, and it just makes you feel damn good.

Also, meditate. Seriously. Do that shit. It's like, hyperbolic time chamber-level improvement to your game. Meditation -> relaxed mind. Relaxed mind -> confidence. Confidence -> laid.

lemonbrains · 2013-04-24T03:48:12+00:00

I could totally use a cig right about now

dearlenny · 2013-04-24T02:56:41+00:00

Ok, this kind of question is weird for me because I never really thought about this, but I will try to help you.

I think this is the same of thinking "I'm on state? I'm in a good mood?" when trying to get on state. If you're trying or wondering, is because you're not in state. So, if you are thinking about what you're thinking when you're talking, it's not a good sign, but relax, you can fix it.

First thing, relax! Really, just let go. To be successfull with girls you gotta be outcome independent. Just relax and say whatever you think it will be cool, what you think it will be fun. Not for her, but for you!

So, don't overthink things, just do it. When you're talking to your friends, you problably don't have this problem, because you're relaxed, you're just having a good time.

And don't worry if you still overthink these things for sometime, in the begining this is normal, but after some interactions you get good and natural. So, the best advice is: Talk to a lot of girls! Talk to everyone that you can!

And here is some thing that I've done and helped me a lot: I writed a lot of cool lines, routines, games and all these kind of stuff that I can use in the interaction, I writed some tips too, some things that I've learned infield, everything. So now and then I read this or even add something. It's really helping me to improve my interactions with girls.

Good luck, and, again, relax! :)

the_brick_attack · 2013-04-24T15:57:05+00:00

As I'm sitting with her, I have to remind myself of body language at times. Also, kino. It still isn't natural to me because I have not practiced enough.

I'm always analyzing her body language to see if there is interest. Also, listening intently is important and the way I do that is to repeat things back a bit as a question to make certain I heard things correctly. I get lost in thoughts a lot, so that helps me a ton.

Always bombarding all of us are the thoughts of how beautiful a girl is. We're programmed by genetics that way. Finally, making certain I'm ejecting at the right time based upon how well things are going. Leaving on a high note like an interview is important to me.

spacepack · 2013-04-24T02:55:16+00:00

How often are you going out a week or having high potential interactions with women on a weekly basis? You many not have the macro-momentum to make these interactions seem like second nature.

Usually I'm focused a lot on body language first and then how I can escalate second. I find that if I'm thinking about the conversation directly or what to say then the interaction doesn't have much potential. The conversation should flow naturally so you can concentrate on escalating imo. If I'm 'locked in', and I think most would agree with this, there's literally no thoughts going through my head. Pretty much every action and word is almost exactly what I would want to do or say if I could pause that exact moment, analysis the situation and options before making a decision.

2013-04-24T08:05:16+00:00

I try not to think of anything and just react in the moment. I know an interaction is going to go downhill quickly or isn't working when I'm stuck in my head thinking.

OutlawPUA · 2013-04-24T09:39:18+00:00

My mind is waiting for her to say something I can use, and banking it when she does.

I also try and memorize her face, remember her name, take note of her eye color and remember the way she smiles.

On a meta level, I'm looking around for my wingman, checking out the talent, and calculating my next few moves.

Hope that helps :)

rustoof · 2013-04-24T09:56:50+00:00

I'm ussually listening to what she is saying.

rmbarnes · 2013-04-24T11:55:50+00:00

How many sets have you opened? You get to the point where you don't really think you just talk. Your subconscious knows whether the interaction is going well or not based on previous interactions. Then you just have to think of how to take things forward.

VR53KS · 2013-04-24T13:07:27+00:00

This sums it up well

recyclablebantha · 2013-04-24T13:09:18+00:00

Do I just try to stop having the thoughts or should I think about something else instead?

What EXACTLY is going through your head as you are speaking? It might seem like a stupid question but it would help me greatly.

Not a stupid question. I really like what David Wygant has had to say on this matter.

How to get out of your head
Also helpful, How to Live in the Now. Because Outcome Independence is important. When you are dependent on outcomes, it feeds the negative chatter in your head.
If you're out of your head, you can focus on getting inside of someone else's head. How do you do that? You observe everything going on in that moment and make a comment, any comment on it. When she responds, you LISTEN. Then you use something in her reply to figure out where to go next. And you let the conversation evolve as it will. Oh, and if you feel curious, interested, or excited about something she says, LET IT OUT. If it's interesting, say so.... etc.

Of course, not everyone will respond positively. If they don't, f--k 'em...... they weren't worth your time anyway.

2013-04-24T14:43:10+00:00

I'm completely in tuned to every word that comes from her lips.

MarsayMarsac · 2013-04-24T16:52:03+00:00

How can knowing what others think in their heads help you? I think you should be asking what one should be thinking while talking to a girl or what one should not be thinking while talking to a girl.

Stythe · 2013-04-25T01:20:41+00:00

I usually just go with the flow.

nittutt · 2013-04-25T06:25:38+00:00

Nothing actually. I say whatever enters my mind, that way i don't have to think. Simpler that way. (Requires you to have some natural game though).

RSDkyle · 2013-04-25T06:58:18+00:00

Nothing, whatever comes to mind. I never really think much

1vibe · 2013-04-25T10:02:37+00:00

For me, The key is to turn off my inner chatter, and listen to what she is saying. Be present. Relax. Enjoy.

Act like your talking to your best Freind.... You wouldn't be thinking about anything, your just talking.

When those negative thoughts come up, pretend they are a TV in the room and tune them out.

If your talking, talk about stuff you love. Be passionate.

Touch.

2013-04-26T15:34:07+00:00

Na na na, na na na... Espn sports theme

ManiacApple · 2013-04-24T00:14:25+00:00

can I bump this somehow? It's pretty important to me

kdelamont · 2013-04-24T21:47:59+00:00

Are you drinkning when you go out? Whenever I drink or use any substances, I can't stop thinking about if I sound drastically impaired or not.

Title	What is going through your head when you are talking to a girl?
Author	ManiacApple
Upvotes	17
Comments	35
Date	April 23, 2013 8:42 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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