Is the amount of girls who "check you out" on the street an accurate measure of your attractiveness?

myson351 · 2014-08-28T17:09:33+00:00

You could just be intimidating. I know I get smiles a lot, but I'm pretty sure that's just friendliness.

itsmevichet · 2014-08-28T18:38:47+00:00

Let's consider for a moment that the world actually DOES revolve around you and that everyone notices you immediately, wherever you go, and makes negative judgments. Yes, in this case, you are screwed.

Look, I get it - guys who are Adonis level of physical attraction get looks. Shit, sometimes even I get looks - I'm not bad looking, I may even be pretty good looking, and I get the up down now and again.

But the bottom line is none of that means shit if you're not actually approaching women.

Eye contact is a tool. It's not a goal. You can't be expecting people to make eye contact from across the street when you aren't actually addressing or approaching anyone.

You don't have to be Adonis to get girls. It helps, but you have to APPROACH them.

joshsway · 2014-08-28T17:46:19+00:00

You look fine. How many times are you going to ask the same question here???

_Brimstone · 2014-08-28T20:24:51+00:00

Girls often like to pretend that they aren't checking you out. They're probably avoiding eye contact until you look away, and then checking you out after you've passed. This happens all the time. Sure it's a confidence boost when you actually catch it, (remember, women are much better at this social interaction stuff that we are) but don't worry about it.

Also, if your eye-contact game is a little unsteady, I would recommend getting better at pre-opening. It makes women much more receptive to approaches.

I would continue working on your eye-contact game, too. Practice it everywhere all the time. I'll throw you some tips if you need them, but eye-contact game is the most valuable tool I can think of, and I'm still not even super good at it.

etcomro · 2014-08-28T17:28:24+00:00

No. You could be Brad Pitt but if you have the voice and personality of Gomer Pyle you're going to get nowhere.

TheLitTleFr3aK · 2014-08-28T21:19:29+00:00

Dude, remember that game, girls and life itself isnt a videogame nor a movie. It does not follow a script. There might be a dozen of posibilities for wich this happens. Without seeing you walking, making eye contact, smiling or not even your face we cannot say what might be The cause, no matter how experienced we are in pua. You might be ugly, you might be intimidating, you might smell or dress badly. Nonetheless, becoming a truly alpha - condifent man consists in stopping from being outcome dependent and improving whatever you can by trial and error. Stop being a little pussy, I assure you there are men getting a hell lot of ladies being uglier, shorter, taller, whiter, blacker that you are.

knewlife · 2014-08-28T23:15:10+00:00

I turned to watch an Indian girl -only to find her looking back at me. We both smiled and that totally made my day. Such a beautiful creature. That doesn't happen to me everyday

Edgar_Allan_Rich · 2014-08-29T03:07:02+00:00

Lots of good advice here already. Instead of eye contact being the goal, go for smiles. Hold a normal face, then as soon as they look at you, give a casually seductive smile. Just a subtle "hey, whats up?" acknowledgement kind of thing. See how many you can get back.

bl1y · 2014-08-28T19:35:12+00:00

Most guys don't get checked out on the street. Maybe the top 1%, but generally no one is that interested in checking out guys.

DaygameCoach · 2014-08-28T18:48:13+00:00

No. You don't know how to read the signals. If you make eye contact and they look down or better yet down and back up at you, that is good. Away sideways isn't good.

2014-08-28T19:22:15+00:00

There's too much sun here, people are always wearing sunglasses, we're all checking everybody out on the street yo.

2014-08-28T20:45:05+00:00

Bro I'm 6'3 and athletic with a fucked up nose and dark eye circles. I noticed the same shit and was curious why they would never make eye contact, but soon you'll notice that most will do a subtle double-check after they notice your attention go somewhere else.

I almost never get blatant IOIs unless I start a conversation, but in a club you will immediately have their attention, even if it's just them subconsciously taking note of a tall, potential dance partner

2014-08-28T21:10:32+00:00

im a bit too conscious around this, im almost never get any looks from any girl, they only look after they caught me looking, at the point wich i break the eye contact.

Im trying to educate myself to smile when this happens,but all it gave me was a lot of heads down and people gazing away aswell

Mr_Zarika · 2014-08-28T23:11:45+00:00

I'm not saying I believe this, but generally black men, especially tall ones, have the stigma of being aggressive and even frightening.

However, you can build extra intrigue if you are the opposite of your stereotype. If your first impression can be one of fun, playfulness and cool, you can work all that in your favour.

Black guys also have the added bonus of seeming extra cool. Good style and a professional demenour can take your further than the same effort would on an Asian or white guy.

2014-08-29T00:58:34+00:00

IMO man you're worrying about an issue that isn't there. You're not a bad looking guy by any stretch, plus you're 6'3.

RandomassDude · 2014-08-29T07:13:45+00:00

Dude, chill. You are being crazy insecure about one aspect of yourself and not focusing on the positives, which probably projects itself in everything you do. Looks are somewhat important, but worry more about the things you actually can improve: physical fitness, outgoingness, flirting, becoming more intelligent, etc. Life isn't like tinder. If you want people to notice you, you have to make your presence known. Put yourself out there, let your personality shine through, and see how things start changing for you.

Edit: grammar

EliahtheMessiah · 2014-08-29T09:59:23+00:00

Hmm, I'm 6'4 and recently started being like really good looking. I do get a lot of looks. Even tot the point where it's kind of awkward. I guess that's how a hot chick feels except she got it times a 100.

Now I try to avoid eye contact with the ones that I'm not super into.

It's a nice form of day to day validation, if you want it, follow the "Always dress like your going to a meeing with ..(incert hero)" rule.

Also, work hardcore on your bodylanuage. Straight back, head high, long purposeful steps, hip movement, did I mention straight back?

Also, wear a good perfume or cologne (or whatever it's called in English).

2014-08-29T12:25:04+00:00

I have girls looking at me all the time. I'm also 6'3" with a nice face. However, looks you're born with are really not that important. Body language and grooming mean so much more for visual impressions.

readonlyuser · 2014-08-29T14:43:25+00:00

Smile and play against any negative stereotypes girls might have of a huge black dude. Dress well, be friendly/nice, not cheesy and not thuggish. Social and friendly will work wonders for black dudes.

Also, for you, I would stop worrying about IOI's when you're walking around. Just chat up girls you want to talk to. However, looking for IOI's in a social environment is a different story. Just don't be too overt or leering.

2014-08-29T16:24:07+00:00

You're a tall black guy? Wear one of those vests with no shirt underneath and have some sort of puka shell necklace. Make sure you look all sinew-y and muscular.

Louis CK will bang you

projectm35 · 2014-08-29T18:48:13+00:00

It's hard to know if you're being checked out accurately. I think an easier way to calibrate is how women respond to opening.

jazzmanlover · 2014-08-28T16:55:11+00:00

yeah i'd love to have some insight from more experienced guys on what this means.

2014-08-28T21:30:54+00:00

As a black guy, how do you dress? I suggest not dressing as a gangster as that may be intimidating to some.

nivar · 2014-08-28T17:12:57+00:00

female attraction toward male is not based on physical appearance.

so answer to your question is NO.

Title	Is the amount of girls who "check you out" on the street an accurate measure of your attractiveness?
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Date	August 28, 2014 4:48 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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